Professional Documents
Culture Documents
Volume 13 Issue 3
To the Woods!
Did you know that there are several
shortcuts to the bike path from our
property? The one most known and
widely used is at the end of the side-
walk and steps to the right side of our
building. This entrance puts you onto
the boardwalk part of the bike path
right behind Marina Towers. The
other shortcut is located at the far right
end of Casper’s Friendly Dog Park.
This entrance takes you on a short
jaunt through newly cleared out woods
to the intersection of bike paths lead-
ing north to Daingerfield Island (the
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Apologies Unnecessary
—Dianne Eppler Adams
“It is a good rule in life never to For example,
apologize. The right sort of people when my daughter calls
do not want apologies, and the with a concern, rather than apologiz-
wrong sort take a mean advantage of ing that she has to deal with this
them.” —P.G. Wodehouse, The problem and suggesting solutions, I
Man Upstairs could listen to her story first. After
Have you ever noticed how an initial emotional release, a more
many times you apologize in the empowering approach would be for
course of a day? Lately, I have ob- me to ask questions. Asking her what
served how frequently I apologize she plans to do encourages her prob-
for anything and to anyone. One lem-solving capability and places me
day, I apologized almost a dozen in the position of an advisor - rather
times . It started me wondering. than a rescuer - as she manages her
According to the dictionary, the own life. I think I will try it next
word apologize means “to express time.
regret for an offense or fault.” Was One last thought about apologies:
I really at fault or to blame every we also never need to apologize for
time I apologized? No. Sometimes, who we are. It is unnecessary to ex-
however, my insensitive words may press an apology for our human na-
have caused hurt feelings. Or what if ture, our bodies, our mental capa-
I tripped and jabbed someone in the bilities (or lack of), or anything else
side with my elbow? In each case, about ourselves.
expressing regret is the right thing We are all so wonderfully differ-
to do if I caused hurt or injury. ent. As for me, I will always have a
Other times I was not the cause. My changeable nature. That is who I
apology was simply offered in re- am. You are surely different. I do not
sponse to feeling empathy with an- need to apologize for my change-
other person’s situation. My heart ability, nor do you need to apologize
responded to their pain, but it was for your unique nature.
not my fault. Perhaps like me, you have apolo-
Why do I apologize when I am gized when your apology was unnec-
not at fault? Here is my point: we essary? Notice next time and con-
do not need to make another feel sider a different approach.
better by apologizing for the suffer- _____
ing we never caused. It is not our Dianne Adams is a Marina
responsibility to make them happy. Towers resident and author of the
Doing that is a pretty tall order! In- forthcoming book, “Conscious
stead, you can empathize with oth- Footsteps: Finding Spirit in Every-
ers’ troubles without taking them day Matters.” She and a certified
upon yourself. You can convey astrological consultant providing
your awareness of their struggle life-affirming relationship, career,
without either making yourself re- and spiritual guidance with a keen
sponsible or trying to make it go
intuition and a loving spirit. You
There’s still time to away. Doing so, I believe, is an act
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