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Whats Inside?

INTRODUCTION
RULE 1: BUILD A POWERFUL IDENTITY
RULE 2: BREAK THE BOUNDARIES OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE
RULE 3: DONT JUST BE RESILIENT. BE ANTIFRAGILE
RULE 4: BECOME A GREAT SPEAKER
RULE 5: MASTER YOUR BODY LANGUAGE
RULE 6: HARNESS THE POWER OF NETWORKING
RULE 7: HAVE A GREAT SENSE OF STYLE
RULE 8: TAKE CARE OF YOUR FITNESS AND NUTRITION
RULE 9: LEARN HOW TO UNDERSTAND WOMEN AND BUILD
PURPOSEFUL RELATIONSHIPS WITH THEM
RULE 10: ACHIEVE MASTERY
CONCLUSION

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INTRODUCTION
Throughout our lives weve been told of people who have managed to
challenge the limits of human nature and achieved excellence in their lives.
They have carved their place in immortal history, and will be remembered
for their brilliance, their intelligence and their genius. I like to call them
Quintessential Men.
During my journeys, I have studied and met many Quintessential Men.
What I realized is that the common attribute between most of them is that
they were great Seducers. Seducers who managed to disengage themselves
from the norm and pave their own path. Men who were capable of seducing
any crowd and live their lives on their own terms.
A Quintessential Man is hidden inside every single one of us. He is
desperately trying to emerge, but we dont really know how to help him.
This is the reason I decided to start www.thequintessentialman.com. A
seduction-oriented online hub, where people who share this idea will meet
and try and evolve it together.
ABOUT THE EBOOK
This ebook is a set of rules which I strongly believe every man needs to live
by in order to become Quintessential.
But lets get one thing straight. This isnt a manual or set of instructions.
Dont expect to find a list of how-tos, to follow slavishly and mindlessly.
Becoming Quintessential isnt about following a formula or abiding by a
strict rule-book. Its not about following the crowd or trying to fit yourself
into a one size fits all mould. In fact, the Quintessential Man rejects all of
the above and forges his own path in life.

So what is this ebook about? Think of it as an opening revealing the

qualities every man has the potential to develop in order to become a great
seducer. Youll discover new ways to think, questions to challenge the way
you live your life, and qualities to aspire to. From mastering the art of style,
to channelling some of the greatest leaders in human history the
Quintessential Man defines the best of mankind, by pushing beyond his
boundaries to re-discover himself.
This is a process of evolution and this book will be your guide to inspire
and motivate you along the way. Come back to its pages as you progress
youll discover new ways to refine yourself, and transform yourself into the
Quintessential Man you know you can be.
Enjoy the journey!

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RULE 1: BUILD A POWERFUL IDENTITY

Identity. Its a massive word. But

do you know what to do with it?
Everyone likes to believe theyve
got the identity bit sorted. We like
to tell ourselves were unique,
confident and cool. The problem
seems to be that we dont always
project this to the world outside,
creating a disparity between what
we imagine ourselves to be, and
how the world actually sees us.
Result?
When the world outside us doesnt
understand our identity, it reflects
this confusion back to us. Were left
in a situation where we start to
question who we really are and
this fundamental question can
really dig deep down inside you.
When you don't know who you are,
how can you tell what your purpose
in life is?
Your passions? Your identity and
confidence?

So lets take control. Our identity

comes from more than just the
stories we tell ourselves about who
we are its something far deeper.
The answer lies in our belief
systems and how we manage
these systems.
Your belief system isnt static, even
though you may think it is. Our
beliefs change dynamically every
day our environment, the people
we encounter and the things we see
and do will all influence us.
With so much information
bombarding you on all sides about
what to think and do, were
overflowing with information, and
risk falling into a bottomless vortex
of chaos and confusion.
It sounds grim, but this is where
the Quintessential Man steps up to
the plate. The Quintessential Man
lives in the same chaotic and
confused world, but steps outside
this vortex by creating a belief
system with a rock-solid
foundation.
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Hell go with the flow and hear

everything the world has to throw
at him, but at the end of it all? He
knows exactly who he is and what
he believes in, and theres no
confusion in the world that can
unsettle him. And when hes clear
about who is the world knows it
too. Its a combination thats
irresistibly attractive.
Knowing what you believe in is just
the start. Its the key to building an
unshakeable foundation one that
you start building on in your path
to becoming truly Quintessential.
As your beliefs solidify, you can
establish the key pillars of a strong
identity on top:
Confidence Purpose
Passion
Each of these are integral to the
development of the Quintessential
man think of them as the
cornerstones of your identity. As
your life develops with experience,
these are the pillars that ensure
your identity stays strong and
clear, while evolving naturally with
progress.

A man with a rock solid identity is

someone who knows who he is,
exudes confidence at every turn,
and shuns self-doubt. Theres no
question of uncertainty in his life
he knows what he wants to achieve,
and how hell get there. When
everyone else around him is falling
into that murky vortex of chaos
he is in the clear. And that has a
powerfully magnetic effect
casting a spell of influence and
attraction over others.
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And instead of being at the mercy
of the fates, the Quintessential man
takes control of his life, shaping it
to become what he wants it to be.
Think of it this way: if life was a
movie, the Quintessential Man
doesnt stick with a minor side role.
Hell be the central protagonist
the one that stays behind in
everyones mind, long after the
credits roll.
Take center stage and become the
star of your own movie. Discover
how you can develop and establish
your character and unearth your
own irresistible, confident identity,
that others will long to be around.
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RULE 2: BREAK THE BOUNDARIES OF YOUR

COMFORT ZONE

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Lets be straight. The comfort

zone is not where the
Quintessential Man wants to be.
Why not? The comfort zone is
pretty cosy its where everything
is just ok. Everyone knows their
own comfort zones and the
boundaries that define them. So
why bother stepping beyond them?
Being a Quintessential Man is not
about staying behind the
boundaries but about breaking
out, developing your confidence,
and pushing yourself towards the
limits of your creativity. While
there is little chance of anything
going wrong when youre in your
comfort zone, its when you step
out that things begin to get real.
But what is really our comfort
zone? If you look deep inside you,
you will realize that our comfort
zone is the combination of two of
the most distractive forces in a
mans life: fear and sloth.

Why fear? Because fear is what

drives our most thoughtless
actions. Its what prevents us from
reaching our true potential. Its the
fear to face the unknown and the
fear to risk what you already have.
Why sloth? Because laziness has
become such an integral part of
your reality without you even
realising it. It consumes any
creative energy that is left inside of
you.
Stepping outside your comfort
zone is the first step towards
eliminating those two elements
from your life for good.

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Its where you can grow, learn, and

develop in a way that expands your
horizons beyond what you thought
was possible.

Leaving you comfort zone doesnt

mean you have to ditch all your
creature comforts, pack your
backpack and move to a shack in
the middle of nowhere.

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Instead its about discovering the
confident, self-assured man you
are and breaking down the
boundaries that currently get in
your way.
This isnt something that you might
do in a day it happens by making
gradual adjustments to your life,
style and the choices you make.
From rocking a sharp styled suit
thats totally different to your usual
casual look, to taking a hot date to
a fabulous club you might never
have considered before the
benefits of stepping outside the
zone are limitless.

Its a meaningful process. And like

every meaningful process, it
requires effort, dedication and
discipline. But youll discover with
time - the results youll enjoy will
be extraordinary. You will discover
the Quintessential Man you are
supposed to be.

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Youll discover that you become

more productive and are more
willing to push yourself to achieve
new things. Youll find dealing with
changes much simpler and adapt
to new situations with ease. And
youll exude a natural aura of
confidence attracting new people
to you, without even making an
effort.

Breaking out of the comfort zone is

not a difficult process.

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RULE 3: DONT JUST BE RESILIENT. BE ANTIFRAGILE

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Life is anything but predictable.

There are a million and one
different scenarios that can play
out everyday, all across the world.
The things you thought you could
depend upon could easily fall away
beneath your feet tomorrow,
making the world seem like an
uncertain, fragile place.

The answer is developing a

completely different stance: antifragility. This might not mean quite
what you think it does. Fragility
suggests breaking under the
slightest pressure; anti-fragility
isnt just about the ability not to
break but actually bouncing
back, with new strength.

So whats the usual response?

Were told that we have to be
resilient. We have to be robust,
take whatever punches the world
throws at you, and stay standing,
without a hair out of place.
Without changing strategy or
position, youre expected to take it
all, without responding.

While resilience is about trying to

stay the same in the face of
pressures anti-fragility is about
change. For the Quintessential
man change is essential to
staying ahead of the game,
adapting to new situations, and
evolving your identity. Hes ready
to step outside his comfort zone
and take himself somewhere
completely new.

Resilience implies just about being

able to cope with life, but there
comes a time when anything
resilient will falter and fall.
Foundations will shake; walls will
crumble and even the most
powerful, fool-proof systems in the
world will hit a snag and fail.
So what do you do when resilience
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Resilience requires knowledge of

what stresses youre going to
encounter. When you dont know
whats coming then simple
resilience can let you down.
But an anti-fragile strategy
responds differently.

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Instead of breaking under the
pressure you face, you turn around
look it in the eye, smile and fight
back. And you come back stronger
and better than ever. This creates a
powerful sense of self-reliance no
matter what comes in your path,
you are able to reinvent yourself
and bounce back.

And having the quality of antifragility inspires confidence in

those around him people are
naturally drawn to the leader who
can take control of a situation, and
transform even the bleakest of
prospects into a brilliant
opportunity. Who wouldnt want to
be in his team?

This is in fact a tantalising prospect

for the Quintessential man. Never
one to settle in one place or to
resist change, an anti-fragile stance
actually enables him to take the
volatility, stresses and
uncertainties around him to
become stronger instead.

You can discover this ability in

yourself to become anti-fragile. By
developing this part of you, not
only will you conquer any
obstacles, youll positively thrive on
them.

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Think of the difference between the

mythical phoenix and the multiheaded hydra while the phoenix
can only resist destructive forces
for so long, before eventually
collapsing, the hydra will always
bounce back. No matter how you
attack it its virtually
indestructible.

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The Quintessential man is not a

mythical creature, however. Hes a
real man, of flesh and blood like
you.

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RULE 4: BECOME A GREAT SPEAKER

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How well do you come across when
you speak to others?
Confident? Authoritative?
Courteous and knowledgeable?
Public speaking is an essential tool
in the armory of the Quintessential
Man and one thats often
overlooked.
But communication is an essential
part of how others see us. Our
power of speech is what
distinguishes from other species.
Its what gives our superiority, and
in many ways, our strength. And
yet, we often take it for granted.
Because its more than just a
simple act speaking well is truly
an art.
The medias not often helpful
while were surrounded by
speakers virtually every second of
our lives, the art of speaking well
has been dumbed down, dulled and
blunted. On the other hand, when a
powerful speaker does come along
we sit up. We shut up. We listen.
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That's the skill the Quintessential

Man wants to harness. Because
being well spoken is not simply the
icing on the cake for a better man,
but its a vital strength and
advantage. Its a tool that when
you wield it well, can inspire,
motivate and seduce.
But what is it really that makes a
speech so powerful?
A great speech is defined by three
important elements:
Confidence story telling
humor
Like so much of being
Quintessential, confidence is the
foundation of being a powerful
speaker. Confidence can imbue the
gentlest whisper with the same
strength as a battle cry the man
who knows how to work both just
as well really does have the world
in his hands. It conveys authority
and knowledge even when youre
discussing an area outside your
comfort zone.
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Next, story telling. This is more
than just the ability to spin a good
yarn its actually the skill of
capturing someones attention,
drawing them into your world and
leaving them hanging off every
word you say. Think of a great
story as an irresistible journey into
the unknown. With a powerful
blend of anticipation and suspense,
nobody wants the journey to end
too soon.
Last humor. Imagine this as the
seasoning to your speech. Too little
and it becomes bland,
forgettable. Too much, and its
distasteful. Use it in perfect,
balanced measures, understated
more serious points, adding levity
when needed. Done right, humor
not only adds excitement and
interest it gives you greater
authenticity, inspiring confidence
and trust in you.

From your colleagues to the girl in

the groceries store - everyone will
want to stop and hear what you
have to say. Stand out from the
crowd and garner the admiration,
respect and desire of those around
you.
Speaking well isnt a skill that can
be won overnight. Instead, with
regular practice, it evolves and
develops, until it becomes second
nature for the Quintessential Man
you want to become.

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Once these three ingredients

become an essential part of your
communication youll see the
dramatic change it has on your
relationship with others.

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RULE 5: MASTER YOUR BODY LANGUAGE

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You know that moment when

someone walks in the room and
instantly silences the crowd with a
single glance?
Thats the power of body language,
right there.
Your body is just as powerful a tool
for communication, as your
tongue. Probably even more so, in
fact. The human brain is hardwired to visual cues in the body,
making decisions even before the
conscious mind catches up. So
harnessing this primeval part of
you gives you immense control and
power.
Weve all experienced the receiving
end of it. How someone looks at
you, sits down, leans in or leans
away it can create an array of
physical reactions. From anxiety to
anticipation, dismay to desire.
Wouldnt you want to master this
vital tool?
For the Quintessential Man, the art
of body language is second nature.
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He uses it naturally, to convey

dominance and authority,
command respect, and inspire
trust. Others are drawn to his
natural ease and charm, and are
immediately drawn to his persona.
It creates an indescribable air of
charisma - something goes beyond
mere looks.
So how do you harness this ability?
For starters, self-awareness is
key. The Quintessential man is
aware and secure with his body.
We may all have hang ups about
our body our height, build, hair
but being Quintessential means
understanding how to get the best
out of it.
Once you are confident in your
own body, you naturally start to
express this to others. You appear
instantly relaxed, self-assured and
unfazed. Those around you sense
your air of ease and relaxation
and crave to be near it.

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Eye contact is another important
part. As humans, our eyes were
made to connect with each other.
But for many men, maintaining eye
contact is a much needed social
skill one thats often neglected.
Poor eye contact immediately
reveals itself, making the person
appear nervous, lacking
confidence, or distrustful.
By contrast, when someone looks
you right in the eye you know
they mean business. And you want
to hear what they have to say.
Developing eye contact doesnt
simply mean staring the other
person down. Like other aspects of
being Quintessential, it comes
down to knowing how to fine tune
this skill and use it well in the
right situation.

Throughout history, powerful

speakers have more than just great
words behind them. Listen to some
of the most powerful speeches in
history and youll hear something
they all have in common. They use
their voices like a musical
instrument, and they can inspire a
range of emotions through them.
Take daily steps to develop your
Quintessential self. Over time,
these conscious efforts will become
part of your natural sub-conscious
mind. And before you realize it,
others will have started changing
their behaviour towards you as
they become naturally drawn to
your growing presence.

Greater eye contact can make you

more attractive, likeable and
trustworthy to others. Its a
powerful part of seduction.
Finally tonality. This is more
than just how you speak. Its about
the quality and tone of your voice,
the pitch, the rhythm and timbre.
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RULE 6: HARNESS THE POWER OF NETWORKING

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I am 27 years old, and throughout

my life I have never naturally felt
the need to be acquainted with a
vast number of people, to be the
popular guy, or have a Facebook
Friend list of thousands.
It might have been my
unconventional nature that
regarded popularity as a rather
mainstream concept. If you wanted
to stand out from the crowd, then a
certain degree of selectiveness with
your social relationships had to be
key.
But while the Quintessential man
might stand out in a crowd he
also knows the difference between
being isolated and aloof and
staying connected with others. In
short if you want a successful life,
being that unconventional loner
will not get you where you want to
go. To become Quintessential, you
need to start paying attention and
building connections with those
around you.

Without connections, youll always

be limited. Even the most powerful
idea in the world wont get heard if
you don't let people know about it.

Thats why networking is one of the

most important skills for a
Quintessential man to cultivate.
Not only can it lead to new and
exciting relationships, but it can
also act as a major strength and
resource for you.

Why do people make connections?

Throughout human history
theres one urge that pulls us
together mutual benefit. Effective
networking succeeds when you
nurture this concept of reciprocity,
and master the balance of give and
take. By being a useful and
valuable connection to others
you get to reap the benefits
yourself. It also highlights you
amongst and beyond your social
circle as a valuable guy to know.
The guy with the connections. Who
can make things happen. Theres
an irresistible allure in that.

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From new friends and romantic
encounters, to business leads and
career opportunities, networking is
the chance for the Quintessential
man to put all his skills into
practice. Stepping outside your
comfort zone, becoming a great
speaker and nurturing confidence
these three skills can transform
you from the pursuer, to the
pursued, from the seeker to the
sought-after, from being a loner
lost in the crowd, to a powerful
authority, and the man everyone
wants to know.

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RULE 7: HAVE A GREAT SENSE OF STYLE

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When it comes to what you wear

do you jump to the latest trends?
Or stick to a classic style?
The Quintessential Man does
neither. Hes not a slave to fashion
but hes not afraid to make an
effort to look good, either. He
knows how to strike the perfect
balance to dress to impress,
emphasise his best features and
create a powerful, attractive effect
that makes sure he stands out from
the crowd, in the best possible way.
Hes the guy who can work any
scenario from boardroom to bar,
completely elegant, stylish and
sophisticated, without looking like
hes made an effort, or dripping
with ostentatious designer labels.
Not overly polished, but certainly
not scruffy, and without any selfconsciousness at all.
In short he knows how to look
good.

So how do you master the art of

great style? First of all, stay in the
know. Get your bearings on the
contemporary style scene, and
dont be afraid to check out whats
hot. While the Quintessential Man
might not follow the whims of
runway trends, hell always stay up
to date, and hes not afraid to seek
out new inspiration. But instead of
copying a runway or celebrity look
from head to toe hell take
individual elements and blend
them seamlessly into his own look.
The result? Effortless, great and
timeless style but with just a hint
of freshness to make sure your look
is ahead of the rest of the pack.
Knowing what suits your body is
another essential part of style.
Whether youre tall or stocky, short
or slender, wearing the right outfit
on the right body makes all the
difference.

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Being Quintessential means having
an intuitive understanding of how
to make your assets work best for
you everything from how
different fits, cuts and lengths can
enhance your proportions, disguise
weak spots, and create a polished,
impressive appearance.
This also means knowing when to
keep away from the trends that
dont look good on you. Skinny
suits might be fantastic on the thin,
willowy runway model but if your
body isnt right for it, it just wont
work. Instead, its far more
attractive to work a style that
flatters your body, than goes
against it.

More than any expensive suit

conveying yourself well to others is
essential if you want to be seen as
attractive and stylish. From wellkept grooming to impeccable
manners, body language and
charisma, being Quintessential is
about more than just whats on the
surface.
Invest the effort in developing your
style, and youll soon see the
difference as you transform into
the man you want to be.

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But the last part of great style is

also the most important and
thats confidence. Style and
confidence go hand in hand for the
Quintessential man looking great
is a fantastic confidence booster,
but confidence is also key to
looking good too.

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RULE 8: TAKE CARE OF YOUR FITNESS AND NUTRITION

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We are surrounded by an epidemic
that afflicts much of the modern
world. While we might appear
healthy and affluent on the surface,
the cracks reveal a different
picture. Constant anxiety,
dwindling mental function,
inability to focus and depression
are commonplace symptoms of the
modern malaise. But rather than
simply scapegoating modern
living, a closer look at our lifestyles
suggests what may be behind it.
And the answer is often on our
dinner plates and in our overstocked refrigerators.
Your mind and body are the key to
enjoying a happy, healthy and
successful life but how often are
you really paying attention to
them? Or more importantly what
youre putting inside them?
Its easy to dismiss healthy eating
as just another fad, in the everchanging cycle of trendy diets and
food myths.
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When youre constantly

bombarded with information about
the so-called wonder-foods to eat,
and what to avoid, it can seem
tempting to throw caution to the
wind, and ignore the advice
entirely.
But the Quintessential Man
understands that optimum fitness
and excellent nutrition are
essential cornerstones of a happy
and successful life. More than just
having a healthy physical body,
paying attention to what you eat
can have massive rewards for how
you think and feel.
Because being Quintessential
means you simply cannot
compromise how you think or feel.
If your mind is not in fit condition,
then everything else will
deteriorate too.
That doesnt mean you need to sign
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Instead, it means paying closer
attention to your nutritional needs,
and listening to what your body is
saying. Optimum nutrition with a
broad balance of nutrients and
minerals, preferably from natural
sources rather than a pill is
necessary to feed your brain. By
doing this, you can start to enjoy
the energy, confidence and natural
ease of the Quintessential man.
Dont dismiss the value of a fit and
healthy body. You dont need to
spend every spare minute bulking
up in the gym but focus on
developing strength, endurance
and fitness. A balanced program
tackling these core areas will not
only give your physical ability to
succeed but enhance your mental
abilities too, by pushing you
beyond the limits of your comfort
zone, and becoming more antifragile. Mix it up with new
challenges try a Crossfit class in a
fully equipped gym one week
then push your abilities to the max
by hiking out in the wilderness.

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Every time you beat your goals,

youll discover something more
about your true abilities.
You also need to pay attention to
the issues your body might be
flagging up. Illnesses, aches and
pains and other complaints might
be a red flag for hormonal
imbalances, inflammation, a poor
digestion system or a build up of
toxins. Avoid a diet packed with
processed foods, filled with
preservatives and additives that
offer little in the way of nutrition.
Instead, opt for wholesome,
natural foods that will enrich
your body and your mind.
Put it simply, by improving your
diet, you can eat your way to
happiness. Enjoy a varied diet,
practice moderation and avoid
eating like a teenager. Youll soon
reap the benefits, as your energy
levels rise, fitness improves, and
your innate sense of confidence
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RULE 9: LEARN HOW TO UNDERSTAND WOMEN AND

BUILD PURPOSEFUL RELATIONSHIPS WITH THEM

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Becoming a Quintessential Man is

a journey. Like every great journey,
it will lead you to discover new
places, meet new people and
encounter new situations that will
change and shape the man you are.
Becoming Quintessential is never
straightforward - but a process of
gradual evolution, as you learn,
develop and grow.
But theres one part along this
journey that will play a massively
influential role in your evolution Women. Words cannot describe
just how important their role in
your journey really is theyll
perplex you, baffle you, frustrate
you and thrill you. Theyll turn
your world upside down, have you
flying to the stars or make you wish
you were six feet under. All that,
and much more. Ultimately, the
women in our lives will shape the
way we behave and every single
decision we make and that is no
small role.
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Of course, women arent some
homogenous, generic group. On
your journey, youll meet countless
women and theyll all leave their
mark, in their own way. But as you
become truly Quintessential, youll
want to regain control in your
relationships with women
discover the art of attracting the
right ones into your life, and sidestepping those you really dont
need hanging around.
This is a skill youll develop as you
refine your character and
personality. Youll be changing as
you go and the people around
you will see this too. Youll learn to
become more selective and
fastidious, and youll also develop
your ability to understand and
communicate in another level with
others around you. Youll naturally
start to attract others, drawn to
your confidence and innate power.
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Apply this skill to your
relationships with women and
youll see the dynamics change.
Women will no longer be such a
puzzling mystery youll be able to
interpret how they think, what they
desire, and what will make them
want you.
But as a Quintessential man, you
are still in charge of your own
destiny. With the advantage of
choice you can decide on the
women you let into your life.

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Be conscious of your decisions.

Welcoming women in your life for
sexual pleasure is great - but as you
evolve, you will realize that you
want something more out of your
relationships. Something powerful,
profound and unique something
truly Quintessential.

I am not saying that every

Quintessential relationship can last
forever. I dont even like the use of
this word - forever.

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The point is that the moment you

consciously welcome a woman in
your life - no matter how long you
think this will last- make sure you
are ready to create a purposeful
relationship that you both can
relate to.
This is essential to nurturing your
own growth as a powerful,
confident and attractive man, to
broaden the boundaries of your
existence in every sphere of your
life, and discover what becoming
Quintessential really means.
And trust me women will be a huge
part of this Quintessential reality.
Maybe the most important part.

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RULE 10: ACHIEVE MASTERY

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When we were at school, happiness
was defined by a simple formula.
All you had to do to be happy was
follow the simple rules of life. Go to
school, go to university, graduate,
find a job, find a wife, have kids,
die peacefully.
Back then, we would look for idols
to guide us, someone to look up to,
someone to show us the path to
success and happiness. Most of the
time, these people were our
parents and if your parents werent
the unconventional type, they
would tell you to stick to the simple
rules of life.
It is part of human nature, to seek
a guide to find someone to look
up to. Our brains are designed to
ask questions, and to find the
people who might have the answers
were looking for. Some of us are
lucky enough to meet the right
people at the right time, while
some of us might never find
anyone to give us the right advice.
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But it's not enough to simply hope

that the right guide will turn up.
For those who truly want to
succeed, there comes a time when
we decided that we are ready to
start looking for these answers, and
find these people ourselves. This is
a quality that is essential to the
Quintessential Man.

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Taking this step forwards is a

significant form of Mastery. It is
the Mastery of oneself. It defines a
critical point in a mans life, where
he realizes that it is time to detach
from convention, and instead start
taking steps to design a life that he
truly desires.

Masters have been present

throughout the history of mankind.
These are the people that have
managed to challenge the limits of
human nature and achieved
excellence in their lives.

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They have carved their place in
immortal history, and will be
remembered for their brilliance,
their intelligence, their genius and
above all, their Mastery. People like
Leonardo Da Vinci, Johann
Wolfgang von Goethe, Albert
Einstein, Steve Jobs and many
others.
The common myth around figures
like these is that they were
somehow already born with this
innate Mastery. That they came
into the world with inherited
charisma or some ready-made
skill, or otherwise, were just
extremely lucky. Achieving Mastery
on a level akin to them is
consequently seen as extremely
difficult and near enough
impossible.
Thankfully not everyone has
been duped by this myth.
Therefore we are fortunate to enjoy
some modern day Masters of our
very own.

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People who have challenged the

assumptions about Mastery, and
revealed an important truth Mastery is achievable by anyone, as
soon as he truly believes in it.
Modern day masters - or
Quintessential Men as I like to call
them -, like Robert Greene for
instance, who in his homonymous
book (Mastery) has demystified the
notion of Mastery and revealed
that it is in fact possible for anyone
to achieve Mastery in any field, if
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they truly desire it.
Another modern Master, Tim
Ferriss, who constantly challenges
the limits of the human brain, in
search for ways to speed up
learning processes. Or Owen Cook
(aka Tyler Durden - RSD) one of
my mentors - and a Master who
changed my life for good - who
revealed the connection between
success with women and success in
life and showed me the way to start
my own initiative The
Quintessential Man.

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These are just some of the many
Masters available to us today. With
the development of the Internet
and technology, human knowledge
is incredibly accessible and
attainable.
Now the ball is back in our court.
We live in an era where our choices
and opportunities are limitless. We
can become Quintessential Men
faster and easier than we can even
imagine. By simply harnessing the
power of the most powerful
weapon we possess - the human
mind.

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This incredibly strong instrument

that can help us achieve anything
we want and expand the limits of
our imagination. From our deepest
desires, to things we have not even
begun to comprehend yet. Only our
minds can help us escape our
fragile human nature, to start
moving towards the path of the
Quintessential Man.

A Man who has mastered his own

life, and has truly achieved
happiness and fulfillment.

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CONCLUSION
By now, youve had a taster of what becoming Quintessential really means.
You may not realise it yet but others around you have probably begun to
notice the change in you.
Theyve spotted that youve upped your style game. Your confidence is high
without being cocky. Theyre drawn to what youll have to say. They cant
quite place what it is thats changed about you but theres something
definitely in the air.
The path to becoming Quintessential is a journey to follow for life and will
continually evolve as you grow. Itll change depending on the opportunities
you encounter, and the challenges you take up. Youll absorb the skills
youve already unearthed, and refine new attributes as you go forward.
Its an exciting time, to say the least.
Now that youve made your first steps, and begun to enjoy the rewards the
process brings you can really start to develop yourself. This guide is both a
beginning, and a foundation for the fundamental quality of becoming the
man you want to be, so return and refresh these pages in your mind
throughout your journey through life.
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