BIRDS

+
BEES
+
KIDS
Parent Education +
Professional Training

The 21st Century Birds + Bees Talks

3 Tips to Make the Talk Easy + Effective
Amy Lang, MA
Tip #1
Stop thinking they are too young to learn about sex.
Children who learn about sex from their parents at an early age are more
protected from child sexual abuse; see their parents as the sex expert in
their lives; and know sex and sexuality are open topics in their families.
These kids tend to wait longer before they have sex, have fewer partners,
and use protection more frequently.
Starting earlier gives you and your kids many, many opportunities to have
short and sweet conversations over the years. Gone are the days of one
awkward and traumatic sex talk.
Tip #2
Whatever was or wasnt good enough for you wont work
today.
Your parents probably didnt do a fabulous job of having effective sex talks
with you. This can influence how you handle these conversations with
your own kids. Maybe you were lucky and had a lot of information,
regardless, the sex education of your youth will not serve your kids in
todays world. Things have changed and we need to as well.

Im on a mission to
help 1 million kids
grow up to be whole
and healthy adults by
making sure the
people who love and
care for them talk
about sexuality. A lot.

If you dont talk to your kids from an early age and regularly through out
childhood and adolescence, they will learn from the TV, their peers,
media, video games, music and Internet pornography. Frankly, they will
learn about sex from these sources anyway, but you have the choice to be
an active and involved guide for them or to cross your fingers and hope
they turn out okay.

And I need your help to

make this happen.

Dont ask dont tell doesnt work for kids (and it isnt fair)!
Just because your kid hasnt asked it doesnt mean they dont need to
know. All it means is that they havent asked. When you learn what is age
appropriate for kids to know, and then initiate the conversations with them,
your kids are safer and ultimately, healthier. If you show them you are
open to these talks, they will be more likely to confide in you.

Share me, would ya?

FB: BirdsBeesKids

Tip #3

TW: BirdsAndBees
And talk to your kids!

PO Box 75602
Seattle, WA 98175
206-661-2245
Amy@BirdsAndBeesAndKids.com

BirdsAndBeesAndKids.com

When you wait for them to ask, you are making their sexual health their
responsibility its really yours. You decide. Who is the best sex educator
for you children? You or their world? My moneys on you.

BirdsAndBeesAndKids.com
Amy Lang is a parent's best friend-with-benefits
when it comes to talking to kids about sex! -- Dan Savage

Birds + Bees + Kids Books + Videos

RESOURCE LIST

Birds + Bees + Kids The Basics, This hour long video is packed with information for parents of all beliefs. Bonus Keeping Kids
Safe video included. FREE! Find it here: BBKVideo.com
Birds + Bees + YOUR Kids A guide to sharing your beliefs about sexuality, love and relationships, The how to guide to
having great, easy, values-based conversations with your children of any age.
Dating Smarts What every teen needs to know to date, relate or wait! My book for teens! And parents!

Ages 3 to 6
Its MY Body A book to teach young children how to resist uncomfortable touch Lory Freeman and Carol Deach
Dont Be Scared To Tell Kathy Delgado Chatteron and Sam Lotfi
Its NOT the Stork! A book about girls, boys, babies, bodies, families and friends Robie Harris and
Michael Emberley
What's the Big Secret? Laurie Krasny Brown, Ed.D. and Marc Brown

Ages 7 to 9+
It's So Amazing! A book about eggs, sperm, birth, babies and families Robie Harris and Michael Emberley
Will Puberty Last My Whole Life? REAL Answers to REAL Questions from Preteens About Body Changes, Sex, and Other
GrowingUp Stuff Julie Metzger, RN MN and Robert Lehman, MD
The Girls Body Book: Everything You Need To Know For Growing Up YOU! Kelly Dunham and Laura Tallardy
The Boys Body Book: Everything You Need To Know For Growing Up YOU! Kelly Dunham and Steven Bjorkman

Ages 10 + older
It's Perfectly Normal! Changing bodies, growing up, sex and sexual health Robie Harris and Michael Emberley
The "What's Happening to My Body?" Book for Girls Lynda Madaras with Area Madaras
What's Going on Down There? Answers to Questions Boys Find Hard to Ask Karen Gravelle with
Nick and Chava Castro
Spare Me The Talk A Guys Guide to Sex, Relationships and Growing Up (13+)
Jo Langford, MA
Body Drama Real Girls, Real Bodies, Real Issues, Real Answers, (14+) Nancy Redd
GLBTQ: The Survival Guide for Queer and Questioning Teens Kelly Huegel and Steven Cozza

Other Resources
StopItNow.org - Child sexual abuse support and information
SavvyParentsSafeKids.com - Tween safety, sexual abuse and abduction prevention tips and classes
ThePornTalk.com - Tips for talking to kids about porn
BeHeroes.net - Family contracts for safe Internet use, cell phones, and tons of other stuff
BirdsAndBeesAndKids.com - My site with video tips, book suggestions and online learning

Notes!

Amy Lang is a parent's best friend-with-benefits

when it comes to talking to kids about sex! -- Dan Savage