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Why We
Sometimes
Walk Lifes
Trails
Alone
Jenny Stutsman
I Can Do ALL
things through
Christ which
strengtheneth
me. Philippians
4:13
Walking the Trail:
I am a junior high
teacher and
keeping kiddos of
this age motivated
and interested is
always a
challenge. We
have an awesome
principal-she
decided that a
group hike down
the side of a bluff
would be a
fantastic bonding
opportunity for
students and
teachers alike.
Although the hike
was difficult,
steep, and
lengthy, the day
was successful
and filled with fun.
Thankfully she
chose a trail near
our school that I
have hiked many,
many times- not
only as an act of
exercise, but as a
time to enjoy the
beauty of Fathers
creations and a
time to connect
with Him-I knew
the trail and
understood that it
would be
challenging for
some of our
students and
teachers.
I was recuperating
from an ankle
injury and knew
that I would be
bringing up the
rear in our group
of over one
hundred; I was not
concerned about
lagging behind
was going to be
able to accomplish
this featespecially when
she stepped onto
the trail in the
dark woods and
peered down the
first steep grade.
Then she began
talking about me.
How I had gotten
her from the top
of the bluff to the
bottom-that she is
pretty sure she
could not have
done it if I had not
been there as her
trail guide. She
went on about
how I had warned
her of upcoming
trail dangers,
stopped to help
her, shown her
some amazing
sites along the
way, and just
made her feel like
she actually would
be able to make it.
I later let her
know that I
non-membership
of my loved ones.
I worked super
hard at being the
perfect Mormon
for many of my
thirty years of
membership in
the church (I now
know after much
self-reflection,
prayer, and study,
this is a myth!). I
fulfilled callings to
near perfection, I
served as a
temple worker, I
attended every
single activity,
and I was a
fiendish student of
scripture study as
I sought to find
answers, but
many times as
answers to some
questions were
uncovered, other
questions would
surface. Others
saw me as a rock
and a sister who
had a strong
testimony in spite
immature and
limited thinking, I
would just use the
gospel knowledge
I knew and live a
good life-we would
spend our eternal
lifetime together. I
could not see how
my living the
gospel to its
fullest or by
fulfilling my
covenants
completely helped
them- I could only
see how it helped
me. During the
years and years of
my perfect
Mormon
membership,
nothing really
changed for my
loved ones. They
still made their
choices, lived
their lives, and did
not miraculously
have a change of
heart; in my mind
this sent the
message that
what I did
changed nothing
for them and only
made me more
miserable. At this
time I decided to
step back and
take a wider look
at my church
activity-in reality I
did not decide
but rather a series
of events both in
our family life and
in my church
experiences
decided for me
and knocked me
flat out on my
fanny. It is funny
how Heavenly
Father knows
exactly what we
NEED to know to
grow and
progress; how the
deepest pain,
fear, and lack of
faith is exactly
what we need to
become more like
Him. For a long
time I was just
numb, unfeeling,
and paralyzed; I
assisted my
friends and loved
ones. I still had
not gotten an
answer that filled
my heart with
peace. As I
studied in a
beautiful book
titled The
continuous
Atonement by
Brad Wilcox, a
particular section
stopped me and
the trail
experience of a
few months earlier
began to take on
new meaning. I
began to see bits
of light that
illuminated my
understanding as
to the WHY I
must continue to
grow and
perfect (used as
an action verb
here) my journey
or calling in
mortality. I needed
to know exactly
where the trail
backward and
forward (as much
as possible at
least) I cannot
help them. My
journey on the
trail even when
traveled alone
still holds new
adventures,
learning
experiences,
dangers, and trip
hazards, but the
more I acquaint
myself with the
trail, the better
prepared I will be
not just for me,
but for my loved
ones. In dealing
with my issues of
perfectionism in
my journey, it
helps me to
remember the
words of Brad
Wilcox: ...the
greatest comfort I
have found is in
knowing any effort
is pleasing to God
even if He and I
both know its not
my all or my best.
It may be far from
an acceptable
offering, but God
accepts it
nonetheless
because
ultimately He is
more concerned
with the offerer
than the
offering (108).
As far as walking
my trail of
mortality alone
really, I have
never traveled the
trail alone-my
Savior has been
there with me.
Most of the time- I
believe- he was
the one carrying
me like an overly
stuffed backpack.
Often we recite
the poem
Footprints in the
Sand when
referring to our
journey through
mortality. Readers
of this poem
reflect upon either
two sets of
footprints or one. I
sometimes
wonder if really
there is only one
set of prints-His.
Through the
atonement, He
has always carried
the load and bears
our burdens. We
like to think we
are shouldering
our trials along
with Him, when in
reality He already
has walked the
trail many, many
times. For me,
there were never
two sets of
footprints in my
(trail) sand-only
one, and it was
always His. (The
Continuous
Atonement, 110)
A renewed sense
of my earthly
mission was
exposed; I must
do my best to
understand gospel
principles,
scripture,
doctrine, and
attend the temple
so that my
learning is
increased so that I
could serve those
in my care. Serve
them as Christ
does-not to flaunt
superior scriptural
knowledge or
spirituality, but to
be there and to
hold their hand
along the journeyto make it easier
and less scary
when they choose
on their own to
step into the
woods. When they
look at the steep
slope and think I
cant, I can be
there to reassure
them and to say
Yes you can!