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Human!Relations!
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Teacher'!Sarah!Hodgson!
E'Mail:!sarah.rodgers@greece.k12.ny.us!
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Human1Relations'!A!sociology!course!designed!to!help!you!know!and!understand!yourself!better.!!!
We!will!explore!our!understandings!of!ourselves!and!our!relationships!as!individuals!within!American!Culture.!
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Things1to1know1about1the1course:1
1. Seminar!Course!
2. Confidential!Class!
3. JournalI!You!need!one!
4. Some!of!the!material!is!controversial!!
5. Students!have!a!tendency!to!become!emotional!!
6. Students!have!a!tendency!to!grow!from!the!experience.!
7. This!is!an!awareness!course,!and!is!designed!to!get!students!ready!for!life!after!High!School.!
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Curriculum:1
I. Know!Thy!Self!
II. Relationships!
III. Sexuality!
IV. Marriage!&!Divorce!!
V. Drugs!&!Alcohol!
VI. SpiritualityI!The!inner!life!
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First Impressions
What have you heard about this course from other students? ________________________________
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What do you think you will like about the course? Why? ____________________________________
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What do you think you will not like?/ What are you nervous about? Why?________________________
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What unit are you most excited for? Why? _____________________________________________
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Class1Expectations:1Be1Present1
Be1present!!!You!are!an!escape!artist.!!You!can!escape!any!moment!of!any!day.!!You!are!a!magician!who!leaves!the!
room!without!getting!up.!!Have!you!ever!thought!about!the!consequence!of!this!magic?!!How!long!can!you!sit!still?!!
How!good!are!your!faceItoIface!conversations?!!How!connected!to!the!world!around!you!do!you!feel?!!Are!you!
addicted!to!the!escape?!!Do!you!experience!the!joy!of!being?!
This1will1help1you1be1more1present1in1your1life!1!The!purpose!of!this!class!is!to!engage!on!the!journey!of!knowing!
yourself.!!An!important!part!of!knowing!yourself!is!discovering!what!it!means!to!be!human!through!genuine!
connections!with!others.!!If1you1are1not1present1in1the1moment!you!are!in!you!cannot1make!those!genuine!
connections.!!For!this!reason!cell!phones!are!not!permitted!in!this!class.!
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Engage!in!the!whole!class!discussion!
Be!respectful!of!others!ideas!even!when!you!are!offering!an!opposing!view!
SPEAK,!find!your!voice!!!
Do!not!play!with!your!phone,!tablet,!Gameboy,!or!other!electronic!device!
Do!not!have!side!conversations!with!your!neighbor!
Do!not!interrupt!others!mid!thought!
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Self'Assessment:1
Please1rate1yourself:!!!5:Superior!!!!4:Excellent!!!!!3:Good!!!!!!2:Fair!!!!!1:Unsatisfactory!
How!did!you!do!sharing!your!ideas!with!the!whole!class!through!participating!in!discussion?!!
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How!did!you!do!in!asking!a!clarifying!question!or!moving!the!discussion!along?!
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Did!you!draw!another!person!into!the!discussion?!
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Did!you!ignore!your!phone!and!participate!in!the!discussion?!
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Did!you!support!the!whole!class!discussion!by!not!having!side!conversations!with!your!neighbor?!
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Reflections:11Use!the!space!below!to!reflect!on!the!your!ability1to1chose!to!be!present!in!this!class.!
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Purpose:1Your!interactions!with!each!other!are!what!can!make!this!class!great.!!It!is!important!that!we!
begin!by!getting!to!know!each!other!and!see!past!our!preconceived!notions!of!each!other.!
Directions:1Travel!around!the!room!and!have!your!classmates!and!Ms.!Hodgson!complete!the!sentences!
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5. The!nicest!thing!I!ever!did!for!anyone!was!
6. One!question!I!have!about!life!is!
7. One!thing!most!people!dont!know!about!me!is!
8. When!I!am!25!I!will!
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9. A!famous!person!I!admire!is!______________________!because!
10. The!bravest!thing!I!ever!did!was!
11. If!I!had!a!$1,000!I!would!
12. If!I!had!a!$1,000,000!I!would!
13. I!am!proud!of!
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15. A!friend!once!showed!me!how!to!
16. If!I!were!free!to!do!anything!I!wanted!I!would!
17. My!favorite!teacher!at!Arcadia!is_________________!because!
18. One!thing!Ive!always!wondered!about!is!
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20. The!bravest!thing!I!ever!did!was!
21. The!best!mistake!I!ever!made!was!
22. My!favorite!place!is__________________!because!
23. My!drivers!license!gave!me!the!freedom!to!
24. My!friends!make!me!laugh!when!they!
25. I!like!_______________!because!
26. I!dislike!_____________!because!
27. The!most!stressful!thing!in!my!life!is!
28. The!best!thing!in!my!life!is!
29. !One!thing!I!know/have!heard!about!Ms.!Hodgson!(Rodgers)!is!
30. I!am!excited!for!this!class!because!
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Stereotypes1
Objective:1!To!discuss!stereotypes!with!the!goal!of!seeing!beyond!them.!
Essential1Questions:!What!are!the!purposes!of!stereotypes?!!How!do!you!use!stereotypes!in!your!
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Human1Relations'1Know1Thy1Self1
Directions:1Your!journal!is!a!place!to!formulate!ides!and!express!your!opinions!on!topics!we!discuss!in!class.!!Please!
write!a!well!thoughtIout!response!to!todays!discussion.!!The!questions!below!can!help!you!if!you!get!stuck.!
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1. Where!do!you!think!stereotypes!come!from?!
2. What!negative!views!of!others!do!you!have!a!result!of!stereotypes?!
3. Would!you!like!to!work!to!change!these!negative!views!and!look!at!others!more!openly?!
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Identity1Collage11
Objective:!To!create!a!collage!representing!your!identity,!prompting!you!to!think!about!your!identity!traits.!!
To!think!about!who!you!are!and!how!others!perceive!you.!
Are!you!a!book!judged!by!its!cover?!
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1. Gather!5!images!and!5!terms!that!represent!how!you!think!others!see!you.!!This!is!your!cover!!
2. Gather!10!images!and!10!terms!that!really!represent!who!you!think!you!are.!These'parts'of'your'
identity'may'be'less'well'known'and'less'visible'to'others.'
3. Fold!a!large!piece!of!construction!paper!in!half!
4. Use!the!cover!collage!materials!to!design!the!outside!of!the!paper.!
5. Use!the!10!images!and!terms!that!you!believe!represent!you!to!design!the!inside!of!the!collage.!1
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Directions:!After!each!person!presents!their!college!take!a!moment!to!think!about!what!they!said!and!
reflect!on!it!by!making!connections!to!your!own!life!using!the!graphic!organizer!below.!!When!you!have!
finished,!cut!it!out!and!put!it!in!your!journal.!
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Our1Material1Culture!
Objective:!To!examine!the!technology!and!materialism!in!our!culture!and!discuss!their!impact!
on!us!as!individuals.!
Essential1Questions:!1
1. Is!your!happiness!defined!by!material!possessions?!
2. How!do!your!desires!for!material!goods!impact!your!life?!
Video1Reflection:Teenage1Affluenza1http://www.godtube.com/watch/?v=JF92JMNU!1
1. While!this!clip!may!seem!exaggerated!and!the!contrast!is!admittedly!a!bit!
extreme,!it!does!speak!some!truths!about!how!Americans!can!suffer!because!of!their!desires.!!The!
American!teenager!in!the!film!looks!ridiculous!as!she!suffers!because!of!her!material!desires;!think!
about!your!own!life!and!desires!are!there!moments!when!your!material!sufferings!could!be!
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2. Do!you!desire!brand!name!goods?!
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3. Why!do!American!teens!and!Americans!in!general!covet!brand!named!goods?!
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1. Interview!three!classmates!you!dont!really!know!using!the!questions!bellow.!
2. Feel!free!to!adapt/!modify!the!questions!as!you!go!through!each!individual!interview!
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Do!you!remember!a!toy!you!had!to!have!as!a!kid?!!What!was!it?!
2. Did!you!get!it?!(circle!one!!YES!!NO)!
3. How!did!getting!it/not!getting!it!make!you!feel?!
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5. What!are!three!fond!memories!you!have!of!childhood?!
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6. What!are!three!objects!that!make!you!happy?!
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10. Have!you!ever!gone!shopping!because!you!had!a!bad!day!or!gone!because!you!thought!it!would!make!you!feel!
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3. How!did!getting!it/not!getting!it!make!you!feel?!
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10. Have!you!ever!gone!shopping!because!you!had!a!bad!day!or!gone!because!you!thought!it!would!make!you!feel!
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11. Are!there!material!goods!you!own!that!you!feel!you!could!not!live!without?!!If!yes!what!are!they!and!why!cant!
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Do!you!remember!a!toy!you!had!to!have!as!a!kid?!!What!was!it?!
2. Did!you!get!it?!(circle!one!!YES!!NO)!
3. How!did!getting!it/not!getting!it!make!you!feel?!
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10. Have!you!ever!gone!shopping!because!you!had!a!bad!day!or!gone!because!you!thought!it!would!make!you!feel!
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Class1Discussion:1Take!notes!in!your!journal!as!we!discuss!the!questions!below!
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3. Does!materialism!create!our!pieces!of!our!identity?!!How?!
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Video!Reflection:!The!High!Price!of!American!Materialsim!http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oGab38pKscw!!
1. Do!you!agree!that!we!are!constantly!bombarded!with!messages!of!consumerism?!
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7. Would!you!take!a!job!that!offered!less!money,!but!was!rewarding!because!you!serve!the!greater!
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Tracy!ChapmanI!Mountains!O!Things!
The life I've always wanted
I guess I'll never have
I'll be working for somebody else
Until I'm in my grave
I'll be dreaming of a live of ease
And mountains
Oh mountains o' things
To have a big expensive car
Drag my furs on the ground
And have a maid that I can tell
To bring me anything
Everyone will look at me with envy and with greed
I'll revel in their attention
And mountains
Oh mountains o' things
Sweet lazy life
Champagne and caviar
I hope you'll come and find me
Cause you know who we are
Those who deserve the best in life
And know what the money's worth
And those whose sole misfortune
Was having mountains o' nothing at birth
Oh they tell me
There's still time to save my soul
They tell me
Renounce all
Renounce all those material things you gained by
Exploiting other human beings
Consume more than you need
This is the dream
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shape!who!we!are?!Do!material/technological!goods!shape!who!we!are!by!altering!our!interactions?!Do!you!want!to!
change!the!role!of!materialism!in!your!life?!Why/why!not?!How?!
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Your Values
Objective: To examine where our morals and values come from and how they shape who we are.
Directions: Thoughtfully answer the questions below on your own to prepare for class discussion.
1. What values do we share as Americans?
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Unit12:1Relationships1
Relationship1Unit1Purpose:1
One!of!the!goals!of!this!course!is!to!examine!and!seek!a!greater!understanding!of!ourselves.!!We!have!begun!
this!journey!through!asking!questions!about!how!society!defines!us!and!helps!us!to!create!definitions!of!ourselves.!!
The!next!layer!of!ourselves!we!are!going!to!examine!is!our!relationships.!!Our!relationships!with!others!as!we!grow!
dramatically!impacts!who!we!are!and!who!we!become.!!We!will!be!discussing!early!adolescent!friendships,!
boyfriend/girlfriend,!and!parentIchild!relationships.!!Each!of!these!relationships!will!help!you!to!see!another!layer!of!
who!you!are!and!why.!!Remember!though!in!self!exploration!you!get!only!as!much!as!you!are!willing!to!see.!
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does!not!answer!another!heart.!His!mind!shrinks!away!if!he!hears!only!the!echoes!of!his!own!
thoughts!and!finds!no!other!inspiration.!
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1. To!see!who!we!are,!as!individuals,!in!relationships!and!to!ask!what!type!of!friends!we!are.!
2. To!become!better!friends!and!have!healthier!relationships.!
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How!does!being!a!better!friend!make!me!a!better!person?!
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3. How!have!your!friendships!both!progressed!and!changed?!
4. How!have!your!friends!impacted!who!you!are?!
5. What!friendships!have!had!the!most!influence!on!you?!
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to!others?!
3. How!does!friendship!both!teach!us!about!compassion!and!sometimes!make!it!hard!to!be!
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Purpose:11We!are!going!to!be!viewing!two!films!on!adolescence!and!friendships.!!The!two!films!represent!different!
gender!perspectives!on!friendship!and!adolescence.!!We!will!be!discussing!both!the!influence!of!adolescence!and!
the!differing!gender!perspectives.!
Objective:1To!examine!the!ways!in!which!adolescent!friendships!shape!who!we!are.!
Essential1Question:1How!did!your!adolescent!friendships!influence!who!you!are?!
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3. Was!there!anything!the!boys!liked!to!do!
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4. Was!there!anything!they!didnt!do!together!
that!you!liked!to!do!with!your!friends?!
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Not!everyone!has!the!opportunity!form!the!bonds!of!friendship!in!adolescence!that!we!have!been!discussing.!!Some!
people!move!at!the!wrong!time!or!have!family!issues!that!alienate!them!from!others.!!Some!people!struggle!with!
issues!like!depression!or!simply!just!dont!connect!well.!!The!lack!of!these!adolescent!bonds!can!have!as!much!of!an!
impact!as!the!friendships!we!have!been!discussing.!!Not!forming!these!bonds!can!lead!to!bullying!unhealthy!
relationships!later!in!life,!addiction,!low!selfIesteem!or!simply!withdrawal!form!a!social!life.!
Video1Game1Addiction:1http://www.npr.org/2013/10/20/238095806/when8playing8video8games8means8sitting8on8lifes8
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2. Reflect!on!the!impacts!we!discussed!today!of!not!forging!those!bonds!in!adolescence.!
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Objective:!!
1. Examine!different!types!of!bullying!and!their!effects!on!all!involved.!
2. To!look!beyond!our!initial!perspective!and!find!compassionate!solutions.!
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Essential1Questions11
1. What!is!bullying?!
2. What!are!the!effects!of!bullying?!!Who!is!affected?!
3. Why!does!bullying!exist?!
4. How!can!I!help!those!impacted!by!bullying?!
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1. How!do!the!stories!make!you!feel?!
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work!with!the!class.!
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Objective: To explore the importance of friendship in the development of the self.
Essential Question: How do friends help us to see ourselves more clearly?
Directions:
1. Work independently or with a partner to adding to the poster questions.
2. During group discussion answer the questions bellow based on your thoughts on the thoughts of
others.
Questions:
1. My friends and I like to
2. My best friend( not their name, but the qualities that describe them)
5. Something my friends and I have done that we should not have was
Parenting
Objective:
1. To examine the roles and responsibly of parenthood.
2. To examine different perspectives on how to parent.
3. To explore the challenges of parent hood.
Essential Question?
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3. As we reach adolescence we as people tend to become a bit more mischievous. Think about your
mischief.
a. When you got caught, how were you punished or disciplined?
b. When you are a parent what will your philosophy on drugs and alcohol be?
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10. Do you know what it means to live vicariously through your children?
12. What are the little things that really matter in a family?
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Objective:!To!explore!the!impact!early!relationships!can!have!on!our!relationships!later!in!life.!
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1. Do!those!who!first!taught!you!to!love!define!the!characteristics!you!look!for!in!a!boyfriend/girlfriend?!
2. Do!your!early!interactions!with!loved!ones!shape!the!way!you!interact!with!your!partner!as!an!adult?!
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Directions:11Today!we!are!going!to!discuss!how!and!why!our!experiences!in!childhood!impact!who!we!are,!how!we!
see!ourselves,!what!we!expect!from!our!relationships!and!how!we!act!in!those!relationships!because!of!those!
expectations.!!!Use!the!questions!and!graphic!organizers!below!to!help!you!process!this!discussion.!
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Key1Understanding:1When!parents!or!caretakers!invalidate!our!feelings!it!leaves!scars!and!creates!patterns!of!
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2. We!repress!feelings,!needs!or!wants!based!on!these!scaring!experiences.!
3. We!create!walls!within!ourselves!to!protect!us!from!the!hurt!of!our!repressed!emotions!we!cannot!
allow!ourselves!to!feel.!
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Examine!the!event!or!pattern!from!childhood!that!led!to!that!hurt!and!repressed!
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in!your!own!words.!!!
If!we!are!angry!or!hurt!by!our!caregivers!are!we!allowed!to!express!it!as!children?!!
Do!we!understand!that!hurt!enough!as!children!to!know!how!to!express!it?!
What!do!we!do!when!our!needs!are!not!met!as!children?!!!
What!happens!when!our!fears!and!feelings!are!invalidated!by!our!caregivers?!
The!feelings!created!in!the!home!must!be!expressed.!!When!we!do!not!learn!how!to!express!our!
feelings!in!a!healthy!way!in!the!home,!what!happens!outside!the!home?!
Do!you!have!any!examples!from!your!life!that!might!help!you!explain?!
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What makes you feel vulnerable? Do you agree that this is weakness?
Directions: Use the information you gathered last class to complete the following:
1. Examine the traits you identified and ask do these traits lead you to create shameful negative
feelings about yourself or negative expectations of others? If so describe them below.
2. Examine the frustrating experiences you identified and ask do these frustrating experiences lead
you to create shameful negative feelings about yourself or negative expectations of others? If
so describe them below.
3. List your negative feelings about yourself and your negative expectations of others in the
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these feelings keep you from feel worthy of love? If they do, think back on your
relationships (friends, BF or GF, relatives, teachers) and ask how has this shame
impacted your relationships?
5. Create a positive affirmation to replace each of the negative feelings and expectations you listed.
shameful negative feeling about yourself or
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As you participate in the group discussion write down comments you find particularly irksome, offensive,
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Reflection: What were the most inspirational statements made during this seminar? Hopefully you
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following the quizzes to score yourself. Remember these quizzes are not perfect, but they are a good
springboard for discussion. Many of the questions will not have the perfect answer, just pick the best
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Objective:!To!understand!the!impact!of!an!intimate!relationship!in!ones!teen!years.!
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2. What!are!the!characteristics!of!a!healthy!relationship!in!ones!teen!years?!
3. How!does!dating!someone!impact!other!relationships!and!aspects!of!your!life?!
4. What!is!being!in!love?!
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this!worksheet!and!then!use!your!answers!to!help!you!participate!in!the!class!discussion.!!You!do!not!have!to!share!
your!personal!stories!unless!you!want!to.!!You!can!use!your!answers!to!help!you!talk!about!key!ideas.!This!worksheet!
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Level!1I!Attraction:!Physical!!
Level!2I!Dating:!!Get!to!their!personality,!compatibility,!conversation!(tell!your!story),!spending!time!together!
Level!3I!Intimacy:!Love!or!Lust,!impact!on!your!life,!the!future??!
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2. How!do!you!get!to!know!your!boyfriend/girlfriend?!
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Objective:!!To!analyze!the!different!ways!men!and!women!communicate!and!how!these!differences!lead!to!
confrontation.!
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1. How!can!you!tell!someone!is!listening!to!you?!
2. How!do!you!react!when!you!feel!someone!is!not!listening!to!you?!
3. Do!we!argue!with!members!of!the!opposite!sex!because!of!the!ways!we!communicate?!
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Pre'Reading:!Create!a!TIchart!in!your!journal!and!compare!the!ways!men!and!women!communicate!based!on!your!
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and!hear!the!total!communication!(both!verbal!and!nonverbal).!
2. Listen1with1your1mouth1shut.11In!other!words,!dont!interrupt!the!other!person!until!you!have!heard!all!the!
story.!!Give!the!other!person!time!to!make!themselves!clearly!understood.!
3. Before1responding,1check1out1with1the1other1person1what1you1heard1them1say.!This!will!help!you!clarify!
whether!you!really!head!and!understood!what!they!said,!and!how!they!feel!about!what!they!said.!!Dont!
assume!you!receive1their!message.!!Check!it!out!before!jumping!to!any!conclusions.!
4. Remain1open1to1further1dialogue1as!you!both!seek!to!arrive!at!a!clear!understanding!and!appreciation!of!
what!of!what!it!is!you!both!want,!need!or!agree!to!do.!!You!may!even!profit!from!asking!the!other!person!
something!like,!what!do!you!want/need!from!me?!
5. Recognized1and1celebrate1you1differences.11Dont!let!them!be!a!barrier!to!your!understanding!each!other!
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Interrupt. Or So It May Seem.
July 23, 1990|By DEBORAH TANNEN, The Washington Post
I was addressing a small gathering in a suburban Virginia living room -- a women`s group that had
invited men to join them. Throughout the evening, one man had been particularly talkative, frequently
offering ideas and anecdotes, while his wife sat silently beside him on the couch. Toward the end of the
evening, I commented that women frequently complain that their husbands don`t talk to them. This man
quickly concurred. He gestured toward his wife and said, ``She`s the talker in our family.`` The room
burst into laughter; the man looked puzzled and hurt. ``It`s true,`` he explained. ``When I come home
from work I have nothing to say. If she didn`t keep the conversation going, we`d spend the whole
evening in silence.``
This episode crystallizes the irony that although American men tend to talk more than women in public
situations, they often talk less at home. And this pattern is wreaking havoc with marriage.
The pattern may have been first observed by political scientist Andrew Hacker in the late `70s.
Sociologist Catherine Kohler Riessman reports in her new book, Divorce Talk, that most of the women
she interviewed -- but only a few of the men -- gave lack of communication as the reason for their
divorces. Given the current divorce rate of nearly 50 percent, that amounts to millions of cases in the
United States every year -- a virtual epidemic of failed conversation.
In my own research, complaints from women about their husbands most often focused not on
tangible inequities, such as having given up the chance for a career to accompany a husband for his, or
doing far more than their share of daily life-support work like cleaning, cooking, social arrangements and
errands. Instead, they focused on communication: ``He doesn`t listen to me,`` ``He doesn`t talk to
me.`` I found, as Hacker observed years before, that most wives want their husbands to be, first and
foremost, conversational partners, but few husbands share this expectation of their wives.
In short, the image that best represents the current crisis is the stereotypical cartoon scene of
a man sitting at the breakfast table with a newspaper held up in front of his face, while a woman glares
at the back of it, wanting to talk.
WHY CAN`T WE TALK?
How can women and men have such different impressions of communication in marriage? Why the
widespread imbalance in their interests and expectations?
In the April issue of American Psychologist, Stanford Universitys Eleanor Maccoby reports the results
of her own and others` research showing that children`s development is most influenced by the social
structure of peer interactions. Boys and girls tend to play with children of their own gender, and their
sex-separate groups have different organizational structures and interactive norms.
I think these systematic differences in childhood socialization make talk between women and men
like cross-cultural communication, heir to all the attraction and pitfalls of that enticing but difficult
enterprise. My research on men`s and women`s conversations uncovered patterns similar to those
described for children`s groups. For women, as for girls, intimacy is the fabric of relationships, and talk
is the thread from which it is woven. Little girls create and maintain friendships by exchanging secrets;
similarly, women regard conversation as the cornerstone of friendship. So a woman expects her husband
to be a new and improved version of a best friend. What is important is not the individual subjects that
are discussed but the sense of closeness, of a life shared, that emerges when people tell their thoughts,
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In his book Fighting for Life, Walter Ong points out that men use ``agonistic`` or warlike,
oppositional formats to do almost anything; thus discussion becomes debate and conversation a
competitive sport. In contrast, women see conversation as a ritual means of establishing rapport.
FREEDOM TO TALK
These differences begin to clarify why women and men have such different expectations about
communication in marriage. For women, talk creates intimacy. Marriage is an orgy of closeness: You can
tell your feelings and thoughts, and still be loved. Their greatest fear is being pushed away. But men live
in a hierarchical world, where talk maintains independence and status. They are on guard to protect
themselves from being put down and pushed around.
This explains the paradox of the talkative man who said of his silent wife, ``She`s the talker.`` In the
public setting of a guest lecture, he felt challenged to show his intelligence and display his understanding
of the lecture. But at home, where he has nothing to prove and no one to defend against, he is free to
remain silent. For his wife, being home means she is free from the worry that something she says might
offend someone, or spark disagreement, or appear to be showing off; at home she is free to talk.
The communication problems that endanger marriage can`t be fixed by mechanical engineering.
They require a new conceptual framework about the role of talk in human relationships. Many of the
psychological explanations that have become second nature may not be helpful because they tend to
blame either women (for not being assertive enough) or men (for not being in touch with their feelings).
A sociolinguistic approach by which male-female conversation is seen as cross-cultural communication
allows us to understand the problem and forge solutions without blaming either party.
Once the problem is understood, improvement comes naturally, as it did to the young woman and
her boyfriend who seemed to go to sleep when she wanted to talk. Previously, she had accused him of not
listening, and he had refused to change his behavior, since that would be admitting fault. But then she
learned about and explained to him the differences in womens and men`s habitual ways of aligning
themselves in conversation. The next time she told him she wanted to talk, he began, as usual, by lying
down and covering his eyes. When the familiar negative reaction bubbled up, she reassured herself that
he really was listening. But then he sat up and looked at her. Thrilled, she asked why. He said, ``You like
me to look at you when we talk, so I`ll try to do it.`` Once he saw their differences as cross-cultural
rather than right and wrong, he independently decided to alter his behavior.
Women who feel abandoned and deprived when their husbands won`t listen to or report daily
news, may be happy to discover their husbands trying to adapt once they understand the place of small
talk in women`s relationships. But if their husbands don`t adapt, the women may still be comforted that
for men, this is not a failure of intimacy. Accepting the difference, the wives may look to their friends
or family for that kind of talk. And husbands who can`t provide it shouldn`t feel their wives have made
unreasonable demands. Some couples still will decide to divorce, but at least their decisions will be based
on realistic expectations.
In these times of resurgent ethnic conflicts, the world desperately needs cross-cultural
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Objective: To discuss the impact hero and heroine archetypes have on our identities?
Essential Questions:
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The CHIEF: a dynamic leader, he has time for nothing but work. He might have been born to lead, or perhaps he
conquered his way to the top, but either way, hes tough, decisive, goal-oriented. That means he is also a bit overbearing
and inflexible. Think William Shatner in Star Trek; Harrison Ford in Sabrina, or Marlon Brando in The Godfather.
The BAD BOY: dangerous to know, he walks on the wild side. This is the rebel, or the boy from the wrong side of the
tracks. Hes bitter and volatile, a crushed idealist, but he's also charismatic and street smart. Think James Dean in Rebel
Without a Cause, Matt Damon in Good Will Hunting, Patrick Swayze in Dirty Dancing.
The BEST FRIEND: sweet and safe, he never lets anyone down. He's kind, responsible, decent, a regular Mr. Nice Guy.
This man doesn't enjoy confrontation and can sometimes be unassertive because he doesn't want to hurt anyone's
feelings. But he'll always be there. Think Jimmy Stewart in Its a Wonderful Life, Adam Sandler in The Wedding Singer,
Hugh Grant in Four Weddings & a Funeral, Kevin Spacey in American Beauty.
The CHARMER: more than a gigolo, he creates fantasies. Hes fun, irresistible, a smooth operator, yet not too
responsible or dependable. He might be a playboy or a rogue, but he's doesnt commit to a woman easily. Think Leonardo
DiCaprio in Titanic, James Garner/Mel Gibson in Maverick, Don Johnson in Nash Bridges, Dustin Hoffman in Midnight
Cowboy.
The LOST SOUL: a sensitive being, he understands. Tortured, secretive, brooding, and unforgiving. Thats this man. But
he's also vulnerable. He might be a wanderer or an outcast. In work he's creative, but probably also a loner. Think Mel
Gibson in Lethal Weapon, David Duchovny in The X-Files, Beast in Beauty and the Beast, Shrek.
The PROFESSOR: coolly analytical, he knows every answer. Hes logical, introverted, and inflexible, but genuine about
his feelings. At work, he likes cold, hard facts, thank you very much, but he's also honest and faithful, and wont let you
down. Think Leonard Nimoy in Star Trek, Robin Williams in Flubber, Kelsey Gramner in Frasier, Russell Crowe in A
Beautiful Mind.
The SWASHBUCKLER: Mr. Excitement, hes an adventure. This guy is action, action, and more action. He's physical
and daring. Fearless, hes a daredevil, or an explorer. He needs thrills and chills to keep him happy. Think Antonio
Banderas in The Mask of Zorro, Michael Douglas in Romancing the Stone, Harrison Ford in Raiders of the Lost Ark.
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The WARRIOR: a noble champion, he acts with honor. This man is the reluctant rescuer or the knight in shining armor.
He's noble, tenacious, relentless, and he always sticks up for the underdog. If you need a protector, hes your guy. He
doesnt buckle under to rules, or and he doesnt go along just to get along. Think Clint Eastwood in Dirty Harry, Russell
Crowe in Gladiator, Mel Gibson in Braveheart.
The BOSS: a real go-getter, she climbs the ladder of success. This is a take charge female, who accepts nothing but
respect. Reaching her goal post the most important thing in life to her, and she isnt bothered by a few ruffled feathers
along the way. Think Annette Bening in American Beauty, Candice Bergen in Murphy Brown, Cate Blanchett in Elizabeth.
The Seductress: an enchantress, she gets her way. This is a lady who is long accustomed to sizing up everyone in a
room the minute she enters. Mysterious and manipulative, she hides a streak of distrust a mile wide and ten miles deep.
Cynicism guides her every action, and her tough sense of survival gives her the means to do whatever is necessary to
come out ahead. Think Liz Taylor in Cleopatra, Sharon Stone in Basic Instinct, Vivian Leigh in Gone With the Wind,
Madonna in Evita.
The SPUNKY KID: gutsy and true, she is loyal to the end. She is a favorite of many writers, and for good reason. You
cant help but root for her. Shes the girl with moxie. Shes not looking to be at the top of the heap; she just wants to be in
her own little niche. Shes the team player, the one who is always ready to lend a hand. Think Meg Ryan in Sleepless in
Seattle, Melanie Griffith in Working Girl, Mary Tyler Moore in The Mary Tyler Moore Show, Whoopi Goldberg in Sister Act,
Fiona in Shrek.
The FREE SPIRIT: eternal optimist, she dances to unheard tunes. Playful and fun-loving, she travels through life with a
hop, skip and a jump, always stopping to smell the flowers and admire the pretty colors. She acts on a whim and follows
her heart, not her head. Think Jenna Elfman in Dharma & Greg, Lucille Ball in I Love Lucy, Alicia Silverstone in Clueless.
The WAIF: a distressed damsel, she bends with the wind. Shes the original damsel in distress. Her child-like innocence
evokes a protective urge in the beastliest of heroes. But dont be fooled, because the WAIF has tremendous strength of
will. She wont fight back; shell endure. Think Judy Garland in the Wizard of Oz, Marilyn Monroe in The Misfits, Peta
Wilson in La Femme Nikita, Demi Moore in Ghost, Halle Barry in Monsters Ball.
The LIBRARIAN: controlled and clever, she holds back. Shes prim and proper, but underneath that tight bun lurks a
passionate woman. Dressed to repress, she might be the know-it-all whose hand is always up in class, or maybe she is
the shy mouse hiding in the library. Think Kathleen Turner in Romancing the Stone, Ellen Barkin in The Big Easy, Shelley
Long in Cheers, Gillian Anderson in The X-Files.
The CRUSADER: a dedicated fighter, she meets her commitments. No shrinking violet, no distressed damsel, here. This
lady is on a mission, and she marches right over anyone in her way. Tenacious and headstrong, she brushes off any
opposition to her goal. Think Diana Rigg in The Avengers, Sigourney Weaver in Alien, Sarah Michelle Gellar in Buffy, the
Vampire Slayer, Lucy Lawless in Xena, Warrior Princess.
The NURTURER: serene and capable, she nourishes the spirit. Not always Suzy Homemaker, this lady takes care of
everyone. She is a wonderful listener, and a joy to have around, this heroine takes care of everyone. Shes serene,
capable and optimistic. Think Michelle Pfeiffer in Ladyhawke, Alicia Nash in A Beautiful Mind, Julie Andrews in Mary
Poppins.
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Do these archetypes represent another layer of self or of the masks we use to define the self?
Write a journal entry in which you discuss the impact of hero and heroine archetypes on self-identity.
Helpful questions to consider: Do you identify with any of the archetypes? Do you aspire to any of the
qualities contained within an archetype? Do you think these archetypes create gender boundaries?
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Objective:1To!discuss!the!problem!of!sexual!harassment,!understand!its!impacts,!examine!its!causes!and!
evaluate!ways!to!stop!it.!
Essential1Questions:!!
1. What!is!sexual!harassment?!
2. What!is!the!impact!of!sexual!harassment?!
3. How!do!we!stop!sexual!harassment?!
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Sexual!harassment!occurs!whenever!unwelcome!conduct,!on!the!basis!of!gender,!affects!a!person!
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40%I60%!of!all!working!women!have!been!affected!by!sexual!harassment.!!Men!are!also!harassed,!
but!rarely!report!it.!!Sexual!harassment!is!a!huge!problem!in!both!middle!school!and!high!school,!but!it!
does!not!get!the!attention!it!needs.!
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work!because!the!harassment!has!interfered!with!his/her!ability!to!focus.!
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1. Physical!ActsI!unnecessary!touching,!bra!snapping,!butt!grabbing,!unwanted!kissing,!unwanted!
hugging,!or!blocking!a!persons!path!
2. Verbal!BehaviorI!foul!or!obscene!language,!sexual!propositions,!crude!jokes!about!gender!specific!
traits,!commenting!on!someones!physical!attributes,!or!spreading!rumors!about!a!persons!sex!life.!!
This!category!includes!social!media!
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2. Tell!a!teacher!or!administrator!!!!!
3. Dont!just!live!in!fear!get!help.!
4. Stand!up!when!you!see!it!going!on.!
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Relationship!Violence!
Objective:!!
1. To!examine!the!types!of!abuse!that!exist!in!both!teen!and!adult!relationships.!
2. To!discuss!the!patterns!of!violence!and!how!those!patterns!keep!individuals!trapped!in!abusive!relationships.!
3. To!discuss!the!impact!of!an!abusive!relationship.!
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Essential1Questions:!
1. What!is!abuse?!
2. Why!do!people!stay!in!abusive!relationships?!
3. What!kind!of!work!do!individuals!need!to!do!in!order!to!heal!after!and!abusive!relationship?!
4. What!resources!are!available!to!help?!
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Types1of1Abuse:1Abusers!use!fear,!oppression,!and!violence!to!control!their!partners.!
Emotional1Abuse!!isolating,!ignoring,!terrorizing,!exploiting,!or!verbally!attacking!the!victim,!ridiculing,!
blaming!and!neglecting!physical!and/or!emotional!needs,!spreading!rumors!or!lies,!and!threatening!to!out!
the!victim!(e.g.,!as!gay),!teaching!children!to!yell!at,!disrespect,!or!demean!the!victim,!destroying!victims!
property/items!that!are!meaningful!to!the!victim!
Verbal1Abuse!!using!harsh!words!to!put!the!victim!down!and!make!them!feel!bad!about!themselves,!yelling,!
name!calling,!threatening!to!hurt!or!kill,!belittling,!and!degrading!the!victim!
Sexual1Abuse!!forcing!victims!to!engage!in!sexual!acts!against!their!will,!making!constant!sexual!demands,!
sabotaging!the!use!of!birth!control,!wanting!sex!after!abuse,!forcing!to!have!sex!with!others,!forcing!
pregnancy!or!abortion!
Spiritual1Abuse!!not!allowing!the!victim!to!practice!her/his!faith,!forcing!them!to!take!on!another!faith,!
using!sacred!books!or!God!to!justify!abuse,!threatening!to!expose!private!or!damaging!information!to!faith!
community!
Financial/Resource1Abuse!!controlling!financial!matters,!controlling!how!money!is!distributed,!limiting!or!
denying!access!to!bank!
accounts,!withholding!child!
support,!taking!or!disabling!
the!car,!demanding!an!
explanation!of!how!money!
is!spent,!harassing!at!work,!
prohibiting!partner!from!
getting!a!job!or!pursuing!
education,!hiding!or!
destroying!visas!or!
immigration!papers!
Physical1Abuse!!hitting,!
slapping,!punching,!
pushing,!and!pinching,!
strangling,!kicking,!refusing!
to!help!when!sick,!burning,!
pulling!hair,!holding!down,!
and!sabotaging!access!to!
medications!or!medical!
appointments,!injuring!pets!
as!a!threat!to!the!victim!
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My!family!and!friends!didnt!know!how!to!help!me;!they!just!wanted!me!to!leave.!
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Is!my!partner!unable!to!express!anger!without!becoming!verbally!or!physically!abusive?!
Do!I!need!to!ask!permission!to!go!out,!get!a!job,!go!to!school,!or!spend!money?!
Do!I!have!to!cover!or!make!excuses!for!my!partners!behavior?!
Am!I!put!down!or!called!names!when!we!are!alone!or!with!others?!
Am!I!blamed!whenever!things!go!wrong?!
Is!my!partner!a!nasty!drunk!or!drug!user?!
Does!my!partner!control!the!time!I!spend!with!family!or!friends?!
Am!I!forced!to!have!unwanted!sex,!even!after!Ive!said!no?!
Am!I!afraid!when!I!am!with!my!partner?!Why?!
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Definition1of1Teen1Dating1Violence:1
Teen!dating!violence!is!a!pattern!of!physically,!sexually,!verbally,!and/or!emotionally!abusive!behaviors!that!
one!person!uses!to!exercise!power!and!control!over!another!person!in!a!dating!relationship.!!!
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57%!of!teens!know!someone!who!
has!been!physically,!sexually,!or!
verbally!abusive!!
Only!33%!of!teens!who!were!in!an!
abusive!relationship!ever!told!
anyone!about!the!abuse.!
38%!of!date!rape!survivors!are!
between!14I17!years!old.!
Nearly!oneIhalf!of!adult!sex!
offenders!report!committing!their!
first!sexual!offense!prior!to!the!
age!of!18.!
The1Cycle1of1Violence!
Sometimes!I!could!predict!when!he!was!
going!to!hit!me.!!Relationships!with!
abusers!can!be!unpredictable,!but!some!
relationships!follow!patterns!that!may!
resemble!cycles!or!waves.!!Below!is!a!
diagram!of!the!Cycle!of!Violence;!the!3!
phases!are:!
The'seduction/honeymoon'phase,!in!which!the!abuser!acts!affectionately!and!apologizes!for!his/her!violent!
behavior,!!
The'tensionAbuilding'phase,!in!which!the!victim!feels!anxious!as!she/he!awaits!a!violent!eruption,!
The'violence/eruption'phase,!in!which!the!actual!violence!takes!place.!!
The!cycles!that!take!place!in!relationships!can!happen!in!this!order,!but!dont!necessarily!have!to.!!Over!time,!the!
cycles!tend!to!be!shorter!and!the!eruptions!become!more!extreme!or!violent.!
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Domestic!violence!has!wide!ranging!and!sometimes!longIterm!effects!on!victims.!The!effects!can!be!both!physical!and!
psychological!and!can!impact!the!direct!victim!as!well!as!any!children!who!witness!parental!violence.!
Physical1Effects1
The!physical!health!effects!of!domestic!violence!are!varied,!but!victims!are!known!to!suffer!physical!and!mental!
problems!as!a!result!of!domestic!violence.!Battering!is!the!single!major!cause!of!injury!to!women,!more!significant!that!
auto!accidents,!rapes,!or!muggings.!!
Many!of!the!physical!injuries!sustained!by!women!seem!to!cause!medical!difficulties!as!women!grow!older.!
Arthritis,!hypertension!and!heart!disease!have!been!identified!by!battered!women!as!directly!caused!by!aggravated!by!
domestic!violence!early!in!their!adult!lives.!Medical!disorders!such!as!diabetes!or!hypertension!may!be!aggravated!in!
victims!of!domestic!violence!because!the!abuser!may!not!allow!them!access!to!medications!or!adequate!medical!care.!!
Psychological1Effects1
While!the!primary!and!immediate!focus!for!many!people!is!the!physical!injury!suffered!by!victims,!the!emotional!
and!psychological!abuse!inflicted!by!batterers!likely!has!longer!term!impacts!and!may!be!more!costly!to!treat!in!the!
shortIrun!than!physical!injury.!Depression!remains!the!most!common!long!term!effect.!!!In!addition,!battered!women!are!
at!greater!risk!for!suicide!attempts.!!Along!with!depression,!domestic!violence!victims!may!also!experience!
Posttraumatic!Stress!Disorder!(PTSD),!which!is!characterized!by!symptoms!such!as!flashbacks,!intrusive!imagery,!
nightmares,!anxiety,!emotional!numbing,!insomnia,!hyperIvigilance,!and!avoidance!of!traumatic!triggers.!!
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Economic1Effects1
Victims!often!lose!their!jobs!because!of!absenteeism!due!to!illness!as!a!result!of!the!violence.!Absences!
occasioned!by!court!appearances!can!also!jeopardize!their!livelihood.!Victims!may!have!to!move!many!times!to!avoid!
violence.!Moving!is!costly!and!can!interfere!with!continuity!of!employment.!Many!victims!have!had!to!forgo!financial!
security!during!divorce!proceedings!to!avoid!further!abuse.!As!a!result!they!are!impoverished!as!they!grow!older.!!
Victims!are!not!the!only!ones!who!pay!the!price.!Women!who!were!victims!of!intimate!partner!violence!costs!health!
plans!approximately!92%!more!than!a!random!sample!of!general!female!enrollees.!Findings!of!significantly!higher!mental!
health!service!use!are!supported!by!other!studies.!
Impacts1on1Children1
OneIthird!of!the!children!who!witness!the!battering!of!their!mother!demonstrate!significant!behavioral!and/or!
emotional!problems,!including!psychosomatic!disorders,!stuttering,!anxiety!and!fears,!sleep!disruption,!excessive!crying!
and!school!problems.!Those!boys!who!witness!abuse!of!their!mother!by!their!father!are!more!likely!to!inflict!severe!
violence!as!adults.!Data!suggest!that!girls!who!witness!maternal!abuse!may!tolerate!abuse!as!adults!more!than!girls!who!
do!not.!!These!negative!effects!may!be!diminished!if!the!child!benefits!from!intervention!by!the!law!and!domestic!
violence!programs.!!
The!longIterm!effects!of!child!sexual!abuse!include!depression!and!selfIdestructive!behavior,!anger!and!hostility,!
poor!selfIesteem,!feelings!of!isolation!and!stigma,!difficulty!in!trusting!others!(especially!men),!and!martial!and!
relationship!problems,!and!a!tendency!toward!revictimization.!!Other!effects!identified!include!runaway!behavior,!
hysterical!seizures,!compulsive!rituals,!drug!and!school!problems.!!
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Everyone!deserves!to!be!in!a!relationship!where!they!feel!safe!and!are!treated!with!respect.!!The!Equality!
Wheel!is!an!example!of!behaviors!that!happen!in!a!healthy!relationship!'!one!that!is!based!on!equality!and!mutual!
respect.!!Relationships!are!not!perfect,!but!in!healthy!relationships,!both!partners!are!striving!to!have!a!relationship!
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Rape
Objective:
To discuss different types of rape.
To discuss the emotional. psychological, and physical effects of rape.
A message to rape victims from House Republicans: http://www.thedailyshow.com/watch/wedfebruary-2-2011/rape-victim-abortion-funding
Date Rape:
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Objective:1To!discuss!our!cultural!view!of!women!and!their!sexuality!and!how!that!impacts!womens!perspectives!of!
themselves.!
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Essential1Questions:!!
1. What!is!a!woman?!
2. How!are!women!judged!in!our!culture?!
3. Why!are!women!judged!the!way!they!are!in!our!culture?!
4. In!what!ways!is!our!culture!defeminizing?!
5. How!has!this!cultural!view!of!women!impacted!who!you!are?!
"Grand Canyon"
I love my country
By which I mean
I am indebted joyfully
To all the people throughout its history
Who have fought the government to make right
Where so many cunning sons and daughters
Our foremothers and forefathers
Came singing through slaughter
Came through hell and high water
So that we could stand here
And behold breathlessly the sight
How a raging river of tears
Cut a grand canyon of light
Yes, I've been so many places
Flown through vast empty spaces
With stewardesses whose hands
Look much older than their faces
I've tossed so many napkins
Into that big hole in the sky
Been at the bottom of the Atlantic
Seething in a two-ply
Looking up through all that water
And the fishes swimming by
And I don't always feel lucky
But I'm smart enough to try
Cause humility has buoyancy
And above us only sky
So I lean in
Breathe deeper that brutal burning smell
That surrounds the smoldering wreckage
That I've come to love so well
Yes, color me stunned and dazzled
By all the red white and blue flashing lights
In the American intersection
Where black crashed head on with white
Comes a melody
Comes a rhythm
A particular resonance
That is us and only us
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Out of respect
For those who fought for this
I mean, look around
We have this
Yes
I love my country
By which I mean
I am indebted joyfully
To all the people throughout its history
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1. Is!there!are!difference!in!how!our!culture!perceives!male!and!female!sexuality?!!If!so,!why?!
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How!is!sexuality!presented!in!our!culture!today?!
What!is!feminism?!
Does!feminism!connect!to!sexuality?!!Why!or!why!not?!
Is!domestic!violence!a!problem!in!our!culture?!!Why?!Who!does!it!effect?!
Is!violence!against!women!connected!to!sexuality?!
How!are!the!perpetrators!of!violence!effect!by!their!acts?!
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love
building toys
touching everything
attention
video games
funny faces
acceptance
sports
running
tackling
Now consider the expectations of young children in school: sit still, dont disrupt others, focus on one
boring task where you sit read and write, learn to behave and cooperate with the group
So then is learning to behave and act in a way that is the opposite of who you are part of what it means
to be a little boy?
If this is how a mans life starts out, how does he learn to be a man who is his authentic self?
So far in class we have learned that men are doers. They show their love rather than speak it. They
enjoy doing things with friends rather than sitting around and talking. But what else is a man? Consider
the following poem.
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Teenage Sexuality
Objective: To examine the impact of a sexual relationship on teens.
Essential Question: What are the physical and emotional effects of sex on teens?
Sexually Active: Terms
How do you know when you are ready for a sexual relationship?
Is there minimum age? (How old should you be before you have sex?)
What do you think the average age is for the first time? Is this too young? Are there gender
differences?
What are the possible negative results of a sexual relationship? Positive results?
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The Triangular Theory of Love: Intimacy refers to the feeling part of loveas when we feel close to
another. Passion is loves motivating aspectfeeling physically aroused and attracted to someone.
Commitment is the thinking componentwhen we realize that a relationship is love.
Liking8!true!friendships!without!passion!
or!long8term!commitment!
Romantic!Love8!attracted!to!each!other!
but!without!commitment!(summer!
romance)!
Compassionate!Love8!long!term!
committed!friendship!such!as!marriage!
where!passion!has!faded.!
Infatuation8!obsessive!love!at!first!sight!
without!intimacy!or!commitment!!
Does this theory help to answer questions about when it is appropriate to make a relationship physically
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Your decisions with your body are not just about your feelings, they are about your health too.
How many people at Arcadia do you think have STDs? What STDs are commonly spread through
oral sex? Gonorrhea of the throat anyone?? 570,000 15-24 year olds were diagnosed with it in
2012. How about chlamydia, it often has no symptoms!
What are some of the facts/statements about STDs surprised you?
Do you feel like you have heard this information over and over? Do you/will you listen?
Will you get tested with your partner? Why or why not?
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Marriage
Objectives:
1. To understand the reasons why people get married.
2. To understand the culture of a married relationship.
Essential Question: Why do people get married?
What is marriage?
Marriage
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6. The divorce rate in America for first marriage is 50% percent, according to Jennifer Baker
of the Forest Institute of Professional Psychology in Springfield, Missouri. What can we do in
our relationships to help put a halt to the rising trend?
7. What questions would you like to ask Ms. Hodgson about marriage?
Divorce
Objectives:
1. To examine the reasons why people get divorce.
2. To discuss the impact of divorce.
Thought: In a society so adapted to dysfunction, divorce is a common characteristic of this great
American culture; so engrained we often time take its impact for granted!- Ruggs
Terms:
Divorce
Story Time- Can you relate??? Anything surprising??? Take some notes??
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Questions to help you share:
1. How old were you when your parents separated?
2. Can you tell us how it felt when it initially occurred?
3. How was custody established? Did this cause any problems between our parents?
4. Do you know why your parents got divorced?
5. Do your parents have a civil relationship today?
6. Do you resent any of your parents?
7. What responsibilities did you adopt as a result of the divorce?
8. What role have steps played in your life?
9. Are there any traits or characteristics that you fell you possess as a result of your families
dysfunction? (lasting impact)
Generalizations:
What do these stories have in common? Similarities/ differences? What does age have to do with
divorces impact? Traits/characteristics?
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Alcohol
Objectives:
1. To understand the impact both drugs and alcohol can have on the family.
2. To understand alcoholism.
3. To understand teen drinking.
Brainstorm:
Alcohol
b. Would you call your parents if you were ever put in a bad situation?
Based on your own experiences what is the impact of alcohol on our society?
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Drug Use
Objectives:
1. To discuss the impact both drugs and alcohol can have on the family.
2. To discuss addiction.
3. To discuss teen drug use.
Brainstorm:
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3. Do you think there are many parents of Arcadia students who do drugs?
5. What lies do you think you have been told about drugs and their effects?
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Part 2- Make deeper connections to the class over the course of this semester
Some questions to consider include:
1. What did you learn?
2. What new perspective did you gain?
3. What surprised you?
4. How did class discussion help shape your view?
5. Did any of the stories shared affect you? How?
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Spirituality
Objective: To think critically about the purpose and meaning of life.
Essential Questions:
Why are we here?
Death:
Traditional dualism:
What do we need?
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Final Assessment
Directions: Answer in complete sentences, thoroughly and thoughtfully reflecting on our work in Human
Relations.
1. What was the purpose of this course?
2. What did you get out of each unit? Write a short reflection:
a. Know thy Self
b. Relationships
c. Sexuality
f. Spirituality
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Did any of your classmates have an impact on you? If so WHO and WHY?
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8. So much of this course is based on student participation and for that reason some Human
Relations classes have been more dynamic and rewarding then others. Were their any classes
that stood out for you? Why?
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a. Examine your collage and think about how you have changed over this semester (related or
unrelated to the class). Would you add anything different to it now? If so, what would
you add?
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