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A HISTORY OF THE
WIFE
By Marilyn Yalom.
Illustrated. 441 pp. New
York:
HarperCollins Publishers.
$30.
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''A History of the Wife'' is packed with rich material, but often it
comes across as history lite. The insights tend to be conventional,
and there's a lot of awkward dumbing-down (''most of us know the
name of Elizabeth Cady Stanton, but how many know that this
radical founder of the women's rights movement was married for
almost 50 years and had seven children?''). Commenting on one of
the most startling scenes in the book -- a 12th-century French
wedding that took place in the couple's bed, attended only by the
groom's father and four priests -- Yalom offers an analysis that's so
timid she might have been better off leaving it to our imagination.
''The bride . . . may have felt frightened in a strange bed,'' she
ventures. ''She would certainly have felt the solemnity of the
occasion.''
Perhaps the most productive way to read ''A History of the Wife'' is
to keep in mind an excellent question Yalom raises in the
introduction. Anticipating the time when same-sex partnerships will
have the legal status of heterosexual marriage, she wonders: ''Who
will be the 'wife' in a gay or lesbian marriage? Can the term 'wife'
have meaning in a union where there is no sexual difference
between the partners?'' Maybe it can't. Or maybe homosexual
marriage will help give the word ''wife'' a meaning we can all live
with, for the first time. After all, the God-given differences
between male and female are pretty paltry compared with the manmade differences between husbands and wives.
Laura Shapiro is at work on a book about women and cooking in
the 1950's.
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