Clarity Of Intent + Freedom From Outcome

-You always want to be developing both your COI and FFO

-Clarity of intent means you have an alignment in your thoughts words and
actions
-You've taken the foot off the break and are just on the gas pedal
-To develop intent you use a combination of taking action, challenging
yourself, meditation, food, and good sleep
-In the field you can practice by constantly monitoring what you KNOW you
should be doing. Getting a clearer and clearer idea of what to do.
-Challenges could include approaching every girl in the bar, approaching the
hottest girls in the bar, mixed groups, etc.
-From there you want to be clear on how you follow up. Girls will try to run
away and you have to follow them, or re-approach multiple times.
-In late game you may have to text multiple times, try hitting them from
different angles, and try many things to get a day 2. You may have to try
many things to get her into the bedroom and then later to get her turned on
enough to have sex.
-I'll often endure MARATHONS in bed to get her turned on enough for sex.
-Guys who have a very powerful drive to get laid and who will do ANYTHING
to get laid, most often do. They are closers to the bone.
-Ultimately they find SOLUTIONS to challenges, instead of looking for
excuses. For every 1 solution finder there are 100 excuse makers. Be a
solution finder. Think outside the box.
-You would be SHOCKED at how far you can push. ABSOLUTELY SHOCKED.
You really have no idea until you go out for many years and find out.
-On the flipside you also have to be free from outcome.
-You cultivate freedom from outcome by massive experience teaching you
nothing really matters, getting other hobbies, other girlfriends, the ability to
get laid, and general abundance with women. Also from a positive
perspective of life, bigger passions and goals, and anythin that cultivates a
more positive state of mind independent of any external validation, such as
meditation.

-In the same way you want to be developing better and better COI, you want
to keep developing your FFO.
-You should learn to hit mental states of deep presence and internally
generated enjoyment, enthusiasm, and positivity.
-You want to learn to create a "natural high" from the enjoyment of the
process itself. You can also enhance this with exercise, and most importantly
foods like heavy greens, green tea, dark chocolate, reishi mushroom, and
anything healthy that amps up your brains 4 main neurotransmitters -seratonin, dopamine, acytylcholine, and gaba. Research them.
-Other important keys are dance and self amusement in general.
-The main reasons girls are so free of outcome is they have massive
abundance with men, but also what we often forget is they massively self
amuse at the club with joking and hugging and dance.
-You can steal this frame from girls by joking a lot with friends and dancing
and screwing around. You should always be having as much fun as possible
at the club.
-You want to get your game to a point where you are a MASTER of self
generating positive emotions, to the point it's a bit freakish. Imagine
someone who is depressed and at the mercy of their environment and
emotions -- you want to become the exact OPPOSITE of that: a total master
of making yourself a happy dude.
-In a pickup, realize that any time you appear to just be enhancing your own
emotions the girls will go for it. So if you dance dirty or want to make out, or
later sex, and it's NOT FOR VALIDATION AT ALL but rather to simply self state
pump through the enjoyment of the process of doing it, the girl will almost
always go for it instinctively so that she isn't the "fun ruiner". But if she
senses you're doing it to gain EXTERNAL STIMULUS and EXTERNAL
VALIDATION she will instinctively cut it off.
-If you escalate, for example, simply to enhance your own state through the
process of it, it's sexy and fun and she allows it instinctively. If you do it to
gain emotions from the RESULT, she instinctively cuts it off.
-That being the case, you want to eventually master both being extremely
good at taking massive action and being super pushy, while at the same
time LOVING THE PROCESS OF DOING SO. Example: You can be hitting open
after open, and escalating fast, but singing and laughing and dancing while
doing so, and it's amazing. But if you're annoyed until you get a result, it's a
terrible result.

-Master being very focused and getting things done from open to close, but
being in a massively positive state from the open right to the close. Once in
a state of momentum, you should ideally be BORDERLINE EUPHORIC just
from the massive flow state of engaging with the process itself, amping up
your brains neurotransmitters and whatnot, while pushing EXTREMELY HARD
for the close all the way!
Tyler

Acting through your own intentions: a

new way of viewing things

Often on this forum I see questions like:

-Should I chase or play hard to get?
-Should I escalate fast or take it slow?
-Should I use drama?
Ironically, theres never a straight yes or no answer to these questions.
The correct answer is:
Do whatever you want.
Now, a newbie may read this and think that doesnt make sense. It doesnt
even give me an answer. And while he may have a point, there is a bigger
issue that he fails to grasp. This issue is: acting through your own
intentions.
The reason a newbie would ask this question is because hes reacting to a
girls frame. Hes letting her beliefs and her attitudes towards sex dictate
how the pickup will go. But because she is imposing her frame and its
usually a logical-girls-shouldnt-be-slutty frame- it will go nowhere. Sure, the
girl may tease you to get validation, but it usually wont seriously cross her
mind to fuck you.
Instead, if the newbie were acting through his own intentions, not only
would he know what to do, but he would also not have to ask the questions
listed above. If you truly are acting through your own intentions, leading
and setting the frame, it doesnt matter how you go about it. Your girl will
follow you no matter what style of game you use. This is just biology at
play: girls, even uptight high-class buisiness girls, want to submit, please
and surrender to a high-value guy in their private lives.
This posts discusses this concept of acting through your own intentions.
This post also includes field reports where I demonstrate how this concept
applies infield.
What acting through your own intentions is not

Before talking about what this concept means, it is worth talking about its
opposite: being reactive.
Being reactive means that you let the girl dictate the frame more than you
dictate it. This usally means that the girls beliefs that she is the prize, she
wont fuck strangers and guys love entertaining girls dominate the
conversation, and the guy buys it. When a guy falls into this reactive
mindset, his shoulder droop, he gets higher emotional highs and lulls that
she does, hes the one qualifying himself and so on. This fits into her
behaviour pattern of chodes hitting on her, which has been engrained
hundreds of times by...well, chodes hitting on her. So, the trick is not to fall
into the trap. You truly have to believe that you are enough to impose a
frame over girls. Easier said than done. Especially given how many more
reference experiences a girl over a typical guy; a chodes only had a handful
of validating experiences whereas a hot girl has had hundreds. Thankfully, a
mans frame by default is stronger than a woman, whos usually insecure
about herself. So, at least we have that advantage.
Example of a chode reacting a girls frame:
You bring a girl to her apartment. Shes been playing hard-to-get the whole
time. You know shes a tease and that shed resist your advances, so you
wait and build value and comfort until you see a window of oppurtunity. At
some point, she randomly lays back onto your bed. You detect that this is
the most compliance that she ever gave you, and you know you better not
blow it. What would a chode typically do?
He would notice her being the prize the whole interaction, so he would be
in a reactive mindset where he believes that he shouldnt make a bold
move. Instead of kissing her then, he tip-toes around esacalation. He might
lean into her, touch her more often, share more about his life and talk a little
more seductively. But in no way, would he dare making a bold move. The
girl realises that he likes her, but wont make a move. This reinforces her
belief that hes a chode and she loses interest.
What acting through your own intentions is
Remember those nights when you are in state? Where you truly feel that
everyone else is rooting for you, bad reactions are just a joke and hooking
becomes easy? You have no worries on those nights because you do what
you want, when you want it. A very alpha attitude.
Acting through your own intentions is acquiring those same thoughts,
feelings and actions and applying it at all times. You are self-amused. If
youre a nerd and want to talk of Game of Thrones, do it! If you want to
bring her out fishing because its fun for you, do it! If you want to slap her
ass cause youre into BDSM, do it! If you want to play hard to get because
you want to get back at the girls that rejected you in high school, do it!

Some PUAs love showing photos of themselves to immerse girls into their
world, and its a useful tool. Tyler used to bring girls out to his bootcamp
because they would be immersed in his world, see him acting through his
own intentions and they would love him for it.
After all, girls love submitting to guys, sucking their cock and pleasing
them. It sounds sexist, but its pure biology. So give her what she wants. A
girl thinking of a hookup is terrible non-sexy. So dictate the frame, lead her
sexuality, show her how she can please you and she will be happy.
Example of a player acting through his own intentions:
Lets look at the previous example and see what a player would do:
As the girl lies on his bed, hed detect the window of oppurtunity. Hes not
reactive, so he still doesnt have that fear of rejection. He leans into her to
build tension, but instead of tip-toeing around the issue, he closes and
kisses her. This turns her on and they fuck.
The feeling of acting through your own intentions
When you act this way, you can feel a certain vibe, a certain swagger to it.
You are in full control of your thoughts, words and actions. Whenever a girl
gives you a test, you think yep, thats a test, now I act accordingly without
sensing a drop in your emotions.
I remember feeling this way one night and a female friend came up to me
and said wow, I really respect you right now. You know what you want and
you just do it. I dont know why I get this vibe from you right now. Must be
your new jacket.
She was right, I did have a new jacket. But, I read RSDnation, and I know
that the clothes you wear is bullshit. What she didnt know is that I was so
in state and so in my own intention, that it came off that way.
Its all subconscious. Thats why people like Manwhore can escalate so
invisibly. The girls sense his intentions and submit instantly. Its all instinct.
Some more notes:
-It should be noted that sometimes you wont feel like escalating, and thats
ok. Ive fingered a girl before in isolation. She expected sex, but I didnt
feel it at the time. At some point, I stop fingering her and go back to
socialise because my intention was to socialise at that time.
-Even playing hard to get and self-amusing can be acting through your own
intentions. But they usually only work when your intention is to self-amuse
or play hard to get. (See examples below).

Field report examples of acting through my own intentions:

1.
Scientific conference:
I was at a poster session at a biology conference and I saw a poster I liked
so I went there. The girl whose poster it was super cute. Most people at
these things tip-toe around things. Instead, I was curious about her, so I
straight-up ask her whats your field of study? It doesnt seem like much,
but compared to everyone asking whats your poster about, I ask a
question about her because Im genuinely curious about her. She blushes
and replies wow, I love how direct you are while giving me anime eyes. I
knew she was mine. I didnt pull her, but she was super into me from that
point on.
2.
Kiss close:
This happened when I was in a phase of practicing very fast escalation. I
was new to the concept. I had recently gotten success on this trick: tell a
girl to close her eyes, clasp her hands and kiss her. One night, I ran into a
girl that I wanted to hook up with a year before but didnt have the right
logistics at the time. When I saw her, she was all into me and being super
friendly. I guess she was having a good night; her buying temperature was
up. I knew that I could use my trick with her a minute into the conversation.
The problem was she kept talking. She wouldnt leave a pause for me to tell
her to close her eyes. I was feeling so good inside and I had the internal
monologue that is always there when Im in state. This monologue told me
very slowly and calmly fuck this, I dont have patience for this. Fuck it, fuck
all this build up toward it. Im going to kiss her now and shut her up. And I
kissed her mid-sentence. She was into it. After, she said she doesnt kiss
unless we have a date. I said well, Ill think about taking you out then. Is
that cool? She said yes and so I kissed her again. She complied.
3.
Hardcore escalation:
I was really high one night. So high that I had a bad start. I had such
approach anxiety (I couldnt say Hi loud enough for the life of me). So I
went to the bathroom and told affirmations in the mirror for ten minutes.
Pathetic. Anyway, I kept telling myself that I do what I want.
I walk back to the bar and hook a girl right away (a bit of a fluke). This gave
me some confidence, which I quickly capitalised. We are holding hands and
doing some normal escalation, but there was nothing special about me at
that point. But as the night went on, and my intention grew, I started
gaining that feeling again. I went to the table where that girl was.
Fortuntely her friends left us there, just the two of us. We chat, but I only
half-pay attention (she has to earn my desire; thats my frame). After a
while, I get bored and feel horny. I look down the girls shirt while she talks.
I respond uh-huh and non-chalantly reach down her shirt and pinch her
nipple. I fondle her breast. This surprises her. She looks up at me in alarm. I

keep the neutral look on my face and look into her eyes and I keep playing
with her tit. She looks down, blushes and lets me play with her. This caused
her to become even more compliant and I closed her.
Touching her nipple while feeling my intention and desire take over me was
really sexy to her. Something most guys woulndt do. Makes her want to
sleep with me specifically.
4.
Playing hard-to-get:
One time, at another conference, a girl was being a tease playing hard to
get. I remember thinking fine, if she wants to play this game, were going
to play it. I start flirting with every single hot girl at the conference,
making them jealous one after another. I didnt want the first girl at that
point. I was just inspired by her playing hard to get and I wanted to have
fun doing the same. It was a challenge and I was amusing myself with it.
Meanwhile, shes watching me flirt with other girls. Along the way, she tries
to draw my attention by flirting with me but still being hard-to-get. I dont
fall for it. Instead, I stay on my path of flirting with other women because Id
rather to that than fuck her. By the end, I had so much fun that I didnt care
what happened to the first girl. But, by the end of the night, she finds me
and says Im going to my hotel now! She walked across the room to tell
me this, so I knew she was giving me a window of oppurtunity. I said okay,
let me walk you. We walked to her hotel and fucked.
As you can see, acting through your own intentions doesnt mean to always
escalate. It just means knowing what you want and going for it. And if you
do this well enough, girls will notice.

Stop Bitching: Build Resilience through Intention

A lot of the junk posts on the forum recently have centered around fractured
confidence in ones abilities/the "game."
Having been around long enough on the forums, this tends to happen in
cycles where the quality turns to shit, things calm down and get productive,
repeat the cycle. One consistent line that has been repeated over and over
since I joined has been "you need to do more approaches." Usually this is
most annoying when said by sycophants with no greater value added other
than just saying "go out more."
Then we grandize 30-day challenges or videos of guys doing extreme things
to see what they can get away with, going full beast mode, etc., further
reinforcing this "you just need to go out more" mentality.
They're correct, you do need to talk to people more, go out more, and
otherwise take action. Many things do start to come together when you go
out more, but only when you're doing so with proper intention and
build resilience.
The reason why I'm a big fan of Alex's "you are enough" mentality is
because positive psychology breeds your own luck and success. The caveat
to it is that you need to:

a) Continue to take action in all areas of your life, realizing that "enough"
is just a floor
b) Root this "enough" sensation in things that are actually true and not
delusions, which is just an issue of framing.
If you're only focused on game, you are not enough and you're putting too
much pressure on this one area of your life. That's unsustainable because
you still need to be a functional member of society. When guys are coming
to the forum to ask whether they should leave school to game or that the
game is ridiculous and isn't working for them, they're both really suffering
from the same problem: an inability to think for themselves, define
their own metrics, and take steps to improve with proper intent.
Guess what? It's also a common problem of most of the guys on the forum
who just submit the one-liner "you need to get more girls" response. We're
not here to psychoanalyze people, but we also need to encourage the
average forum member to figure out why they're here, what their core
intent is, how this is supplementing their life, and define their own success
by setting their own goals and taking action to achieve them without
needing us to validate that.
Why is the forum toxic at times? Because it becomes this "me, me me" land
where people are so consumed with the stupidest or mundane personal
perspective that we lose sight that this is a community that prides itself on
providing value to each other and the people we contact in the world.
Threads go to shit, responses go to shit, the forum goes to shit.
Alright, how do we balance this personal intention with the need to stay
independent of the outcome when approaching? Change the frame of
what the outcome is. The dudes that are complaining about still being a
virgin need to focus on the game as a skillset to build a social circle and
meet anyone you want. The dudes complaining about not having a social
circle need to focus on chatting with people and developing rapport and
empathy. Then, you approach with intention to just have a good time and
meet some new people. Some of them girls? Cool. Some of them become
friends? Cool. Some of them lead to numbers or lays? Cool. This is the
rooting yourself in reality point from above, don't be delusional and then
have the delusion come crashing down.
You will still have "failures" or low points, that's just life. Motivation will ebb
and flow, that's just fine. That's where resilience comes in, and why the
momentum you build up through approaching more is actually important.
You can't be on fire all the time, but you can't take away the
challenges that you've overcome either.
The hedonistic treadmill is real; the way the world works is that we're always
looking to progress and, when we get to the next level, start comparing
ourselves to the next tier and don't feel as content as we expected. So

when you're rolling through rough patches of anything in life, but especially
social dynamics, you need to also remember the bullshit you've already
gotten through and that this too shall pass if you are resilient. This may
mean just pushing through until it happens, this may mean cycling off to
focus on something else in your life. Change the game, flip the script,
redefine, be intentional, and celebrate the resilience you build over time.
But it does start by taking action-- approach everything in life. Stop bitching
and start moving.
To recap: Get out there and be a participant in the world, analyze your
goals and metrics and make them true for where you're at, make sure they
span other things besides the game, be intentional about improving all
areas of your life, reframe points of difficulty to see the positives you have
achieved or are achieving that may be slightly below your current goals, and
maintain your resilience by reflecting on how far you've come from where
you started.
In case you didn't gather, I see the skill set of cold approach as applicable to
other areas of life, and self-actualization as being about a lot more than just
getting women and being present. You may not agree, and that's cool, it's
just the perspective that I'm coming at this post from.

A revelation from Owens 10/6 Talk: Intent and

Passion

If you have heard Owen talk you know he usually talks about intent. It goes
without saying that intent is one of the core principles of game to Owen, I
would even argue it is the core of the core.
How does he define intent?
Clarity in your thoughts, words and actions. Congruence.

I thought about that definition a lot and I realized that Owen is talking about
the EFFECT of intent, not the CAUSE of intent. The external not the
internal.
So what, IMHO, would be a deeper definition of intent?
Singularity of purpose, commitment to a outcome, having a chief
definite aim.
OK, so what creates and fuels this?
I got the answer form Owens Free Tour talk in LA on 10/6. It is so simple
(invariably it always is). What creates and fuels intent is
PASSION.
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Passion creates and fuels intent. Passion is first internally manifested as
singuarity of purpose and then externally manifested as clarity in your
thoughts words and actions. In other words,
THE POWER IS IN THE PASSION.
In fact, Tony Robbins would often quote his mentor Jim Rohn (slightly
paraphrased): The power is in the why (the reason). If you have a strong
enough reason you can do anything. Said another way, Were there is a will
there is a way.
So what does this mean? If you arent getting the results you want maybe
you have temporarily lost your passion. Your passion for pick up, your
passion for women, your passion for sex, your passion for life.
So what to do?
Reconnect with your passion. As Tim would say Remember what you are
here for.
Tony also mentioned on one of his tapes that he would do incantations /
emotionally charged affirmations before going on stage to reconnect him
with his passions so that he could be in an intense state that he could then
transfer to his audience. Indeed, his whole time management system (OPA/
RPM) is based on you talking the time to remember your purpose for
whatever outcome you are pursuing so that you will not only do the actions
you have commited to but you will do them in a high quality/ highly
effective way.
Lastly, to quote Tonys catch phrase (the final thing he said on all of his
Power Talks):

LIFE WITH PASSION.