Alice Aird

Life Energy Coaching

airda@bigpond.com

Loving the Gap Process

We tend to compare what is happening now (as we perceive it) with what ought to
be and experience emotion around that gap between the two.
Usually we have negative emotions about the gap we feel disappointed,
resentful, used, hurt, inadequate etc.
Effects of this:
We try to cross the gap and make it as small as possible. Trying to eliminiate the gap
can cause us to burn out.
We often avoid looking at our vision, because it makes the gap seem larger and
more painful.
We may give up, become resigned. Resignation is not true acceptance.
Commonly we simply complain, criticise or blame others for the gap, to relieve our
feelings. Almost universally we numb our feelings with sense pleasures.
What is the Loving the Gap process?
We release the negative feelings about the gap. Transform them into
courageousness acceptance and peace by letting go of the underlying wants.
We are then able to come to understand and experience the gap as the creative
tension of our lives accept it and welcome it and know that it is the elastic that
pulls us forward, energising us to take action effortlessly. When we understand how
the creative process works, the gap is our friend. We then deliberately activate a gap
because we know that without the gap there can be no forward movement.
Stage One:
1. Bring the gap clearly into consciousness by fully allowing these two pictures to
co-exist:
a. the current reality as we see it and feel it
b. our picture of the way it should be, the way we hold that in
consciousness at the moment
2. Shift between the two pictures, sensing and feeling the gap between them.
3. What feelings are triggered by focussing on the gap? Allow those feelings,
welcome them, just as they are in this moment, along with any sensations in
the body or sounds or pictures in the mind. Just observe what comes up.
4. Ask yourself: Is this coming from wanting approval, control or security?
Whichever one it is, could you just let it go?
5. Repeat this until you feel more neutral or accepting about the gap.

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Alice Aird
Life Energy Coaching
airda@bigpond.com

Stage 2:
By releasing, transform the how it should be picture into a vision of what is
being created a vision that you love and serve with your whole heart.
By bring the picture you got in touch with in stage one of how this ought to be
into awareness, and releasing on it as described below, you allow the vision to
expand and energise inspired action to move across the gap, while being
contented that the gap exists, understanding it is a friend, not an enemy. .
The Releasing on Your Vision Process
1. Focus on what your ideal XXXXXXX looks like. Use all your senses to
visualise. Crate rich imagery, using all senses
2. How would this look like right now if it were perfect?
3. Now, is there anything inside that says: No you cant or shouldnt have it or
you dont have it.
4. Welcome the feeling of that
5. Does that come from wanting approval control or security?
6. Whichever, could you let it go?
7. Again picture the ideal XXXX - what does it look, feel and sound like?
8. Does that come from a sense of wanting approval, control or security?
9. Could you set it free?
10. Picture the ideal XXXXXXX again. Could you just allow it to be?
11. Know that its OK to have the ideal XXXXXX at the same time. Embrace
however it is in this moment.
12. If you feel holdbacks to having the ideal XXXXXXXX could you just set them
free and know that you are OK just now?
13. Repeat the series of questions a few more times allowing whatever wants and
resistances are stirred up to be let go. When youre ready, move on.
14. Now picture your XXXXXX being exactly the way you want it to be. Give
yourself fully to the picture. Engage yourself in it as fully as you can.
15. Ask: Could you welcome the picture fully into your awareness and embrace it
completely.
16. And even more, Could you just let it be? Could you truly accept the ideal
image as it is?
17. Now, as you allow the image to come into your full awareness, understand
that its OK to have your ideal XXXXXX. Also know that at the same time its
OK for your XXXXXX to be the way it is. Theres really no conflict between the
two. Just allow yourself to sense how all is well with your XXXXXXX, as best
you can.
18. Rest in acceptance of the moment.

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