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JUNE 2010

ME
:IN FOCUS

BRIDAL
BLITZ
DESIGNER
P. 14 VERA WANG
GET MARRIED,
P. 46 STAY MARRIED
TO DO’S BEFORE
P. 54 SAYING I DO
WHERE
RUNWAY MEETS REALITY,
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Dear Readers,

Wedding season is upon us, and this issue whiteCHICAGO’s dedication to passing hectic wedding planning process, always
is an out of the box mix of tradition and on the love (and savings) through stylish remember who you are and what matters
trends, focused on the modern woman consignment to the life changing wedding to you.
who knows that at the end of the day, wishes come true through the work of With the Sex and the City 2 movie re-
getting married is only the first step to- national non-profit Wish Upon a Wedding. cently out, I’m reminded of the TV series
ward being married. We are thrilled to showcase Vera Wang’s finale, when Carrie Bradshaw ends with a
From the proposal to the exotic honey- couture designs in a gorgeous feature poignant thought: “…the most exciting,
moon and everything in between, this spread shot at Chicago’s Ritz Carlton, and challenging and significant relationship of
issue is full of helpful tips and heartfelt the ethereal quality of Vera’s gowns on all is the one you have with yourself. And
advice from industry professionals who the hotel rooftop at sunrise and in the if you can find someone to love the you
have dedicated their careers to helping grand ballroom are truly breathtaking. YOU love, well, that's just fabulous.”
couples and their families make the whole In addition, look and feel your best for
experience one to remember. wedding photos with our bridal beauty Be Good.
Weddings are a celebration of love, and inspirations for gowns, hair and makeup. Bee
this issue celebrates that love through And finally, whether you’re just in the
insightful and inspiring stories, from early stages of falling in love or in the
OUR FAVORITE WEDDING MOVIES BUZZ
FILM

aaaa aaaa
Diana’s Valencia’s
Pick Pick

ENTERTAIN
ME PRIDE & PREJUDICE
KIERA KNIGHTLEY + MATTHEW MacFAYDEN
MY BIG FAT GREEK WEDDING
NIA VARDALOS + JON CORBETT

Based on the Jane Austen novel, Pride Toula, a Greek woman (Nia Vardalos)
and Prejudice is a humorous love story who is in distress about her age and marital
about five sisters and their pressures to status, has a change of luck when a non-
marry to insure financial security upon Greek man (Jon Corbett) graces her life while
the anticipated death of their present care- she is working at her family business. Her
taker. With emphasis on social class, self-perceptions change, as does her life,
scandal and gossip, it is an excellent love when she falls into a secret relationship with
story about life, love and marriage in the this charming character. Love and compro-
Georgian era. mise overrule all in this heartwarming
romantic comedy.

aaaa aaaa aaaa


Iya’s Ashley’s Bee’s
Pick Pick Pick

THE BEST MAN MY BEST FRIEND’S WEDDING MONSOON WEDDING


NIA LONG + TAYE DIGGS JULIA ROBERTS + DERMOT MULRONEY LILETE DUBEY + NASEERUDDIN SHAH

Harper Stewart (Taye Diggs), a young Julia Roberts plays 27 year old Julianne, Directed by the acclaimed Mira Nair, this
author on the verge of success and a woman who pursues the heart of her movie is a sensory overload of color, music
marriage, grows weary of the combination long-time college friend Michael (Dermot and celebration. The story follows a wealthy
of the two. Contemplating freedom from Mulroney), but only after he becomes Indian family and the hectic wedding planning
such an engagement in his prime, this semi- engaged. This romantic comedy is sure to for their only daughter. This film is ultimately
auto-biographical book makes its way into keep you laughing and entertained, with a about a family’s strengths and bonds as rela-
the wrong hands, further complicating his lesson of honesty and selflessness taste- tionships are tested, wounds reopened and
internal predicament. Variables of trust and fully intertwined. drama unfolds. Mira takes us into the vibrant
life-altering decision-making weave their world of Indian wedding traditions and culture,
way through this Spike Lee production. while telling a story we all can relate to in
some aspect. The soundtrack will make you
want to get up and dance.

BY VALENCIA DAVIS

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CONSIGNMENT WEDDING fashion was more important to her, like flowers. The boutique is decorated in pure white
never looked so good until whiteCHI- Stacy met Ursula because her husband with lit candles and decorative, fresh
CAGO hit the market. The brainchild of (then-boyfriend) worked with Ursula’s flowers. Upon arrival, white ankle socks
owners Ursula Guyer and Stacy Sene- husband. The two lacked retail experience, are available for guests to wear while
challe, whiteCHICAGO is an innovative but with Stacy’s communications back- walking on the white marble floors. When
option for recessionista brides who want ground and with Ursula’s advertising and whiteCHICAGO opened in 2006, the
the dress of their dreams but don’t want design experience, the two formed a per- store featured 90 dresses and Stacy and
to spend thousands of dollars for it. fect combination to create whiteCHI- Ursula as the only staff. The first dress
Ursula says the idea originated with her CAGO, a name which came to Ursula one sold at whiteCHICAGO was Ursula’s
personal experience as she searched for day while jogging along Lake Michigan. personal wedding gown. Stacy says the
her wedding dress and wanted to plan a “I knew I wanted a spa feeling to it— business grew through word-of-mouth
wedding on a budget. She traveled to something clean and crisp and a location and other grassroots marketing initiatives.
various consignment shops in major cities in the River North area—because it’s an Recently, whiteCHICAGO launched
all over the country for the perfect dress, art district,” recalls Ursula. “We wanted to whiteXchange.com, their premier online
but admits she didn’t find anything spec- create a shop with great dresses and a wedding gown listing service. The website
tacular. Although she could afford an great experience. I wanted it to resemble is the store’s online boutique with a listing
expensive dress, she preferred to splurge an art gallery and the dresses serve as the of dresses that can be sorted by size and
on something else for the wedding that pieces of art.” designer, and customers can create ‘wish
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lists’ for gowns they want to purchase. It
will also offer dresses for the mothers of
brides and bridesmaids. Currently, whiteX-
change.com has clientele in 32 states.
Four years and a staff of eight later, Stacy
shares that it’s easier now to manage the
daily operations of whiteCHICAGO, all
while maintaining the brand of the company.
Giving back and remaining eco-conscious
are also important to whiteCHICAGO, as
the boutique recently started a recycling

PHOTO JEREMY LAWSON PHOTOGRAPHY


program. In April, whiteCHICAGO planted a
tree for each dress sold in honor of Earth
Day, which totaled 30 trees. Ursula says
women are recycling, passing on the love
and are being eco-friendly when they par-
ticipate in the boutique’s experience.

LEFT/ Ursula Guyer RIGHT/ Stacy Senechalle

p WHITECHICAGO/
WHITEXCHANGE
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Owners Ursula Guyer and


Stacy Senechalle share their
innovative twists in wedding
gown shopping and their
dedication to staying green.
www.whitechicago.com
www.whitexchange.com
In addition, brides-to-be are saving CHICAGO can alter and restyle dresses
money, which is an added bonus. to the bride’s taste.
BY IYA BAKARE Ursula and Stacy credit Chicago designers Ursula says Caroline Herrera is one of her
Caroline Devillo and Alice Padrul as favorite designers, while Stacy says she
women in the wedding retail industry who admires the work of designers Amy Michel-
have inspired them. son, Melissa Sweet and Oscar de la Renta.
Ursula says the overall goal is to have “What’s great about fashion now is you
whiteXchange as the brand for the com- can do whatever you want,” comments
pany, and store expansion such as Ursula. “Get back to your comfort level
whiteL.A., etc. to support the website. and you can pull anything off. Make sure
“The challenge is keeping up with tech- you get a dress that’s you and fits your
nology and its trends,” admits Ursula. personality. Don’t be afraid to restyle.”
Today’s bride has a few trends for her Stacy adds, “The number on the dress
wedding gown, which are not the size label doesn’t matter, and you should
‘traditional’ looks from brides in the past. buy what fits you.”
The one-strap look, sashes and fitted
gowns are among some of the current
trends, says Stacy.
With a seamstress at the boutique, white-

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5 REGISTRY RAVES
MODERN + CREATIVE GIFTS!
Looking to jazz up your registry?
Looking for a gift for that special couple?
Here are some unique and thoughtful ideas.

BY VALENCIA DAVIS

ART-CONSCIOUS COUPLE

OH SO ANDY MIRRORED MOSAIC COLOR YOUR PALETTE

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another, these custom-made doubles as a gorgeous wall gurus, these Pantone ® mugs are
Warhol-inspired canvases turn mirror. An eclectic addition for a must-have splash of color for
any wedding photo into an the couple who loves to spread any newlywed couple with a
instant classic portrait. their taste for quality throughout sense of design.
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PERFECT
PROPOSALS
MELISSA PHILLIPS
EVENT PLANNER +
ENTREPRENEUR

A former high school biology teacher,


Melissa Phillips of Simply Perfect by
Melissa is finding success in her second
career as an entrepreneur and event
planner. She shares some of her ideas
for great wedding proposals in addition
to tips on how to create the scene for
that special moment.

www.simplyperfectbymelissa.com

IMAGE
PHOTOS STEPHEN GARRETT

ENVY
@ LOFT ON LAKE
On May 6, guests gathered for a
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of Chicago’s best in wedding fashion,
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IDEAS TIPS
Ideas for a Simply Perfect proposal: Tips for a Simply Perfect proposal:
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Choose a setting that reflects you as a couple, Have a plan.
plan Strategy is key! Just as any sports
through your hobbies, interests or personality team has a game plan, you also need a strategic
traits (ex: biking, walking with the dogs, travel- plan to make your proposal happen just right.
ing, wine tasting, sporting event or music). Create a list of ideas, make necessary appoint-
This will make for a very special and touching ments and/or reservations and walk through
proposal memory. the steps ahead of time. Obstacles may arise
on the day of the proposal, but you will be
2
much more at ease with the plan if you have a
Catch her off guard and blow her away. If firm grasp on the procedure.
you’re usually the subdued, mellow type or
2
maybe you’ve been known to forget a holiday
or two, go above and beyond to completely Be one step ahead of her.
her Really wow her and
WOW her. If you are going to do this one have the ring already sized to her finger. Bor-
time, you might as well go all out and pop the row another ring she may own, talk to her
question in an over-the-top kind of way. For parents about an old class ring and casually
example, airplane message, big announcement have her ring sized if you are already looking at
at a public event, surprise visit to her job in rings. Once the ring is placed on her finger,
front of her co-workers or whisk her away to a she will want to keep it there. If the ring is too
private island. big or too small, the excitement of showing it
to all of her friends and family may be lost.
3
3
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scavenger hunt that no girl will want to turn Make it memorable.
memorable You will hopefully only
away. It won’t take much arm-twisting to send do this once. It will be a moment that is re-
her on a marathon of spa events – a massage, flected back on for years to come and a story
facial, manicure and pedicure. Have a nice note that is shared with many generations, so you
waiting for her at home telling her the next want it to be newsworthy! Allow her to look
steps she will take to find you, and end the her best (so no early morning, just rolled out
evening with the big question. of bed surprises); go out of your way to make
the event special. If possible, try to have it
documented on video or film. It’s easy to miss
things when emotions tend to run high as the
question gets closer to being asked and the
world feels like it’s spinning once she says yes.
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BEE: What are your tips for brides to ANGIE: Unlike portrait or studio work, BEE: What’s the most interesting wedding
look their best in wedding images? in wedding photography you only get one you’ve ever photographed?
chance to ‘get it’. In some ways it’s like ANGIE: I think when couples of differ-
ANGIE: Although my style is more cas-
sports photography—you have to learn to ent faiths come together and decide to
ual than posed, there are definitely things
anticipate the big events and also linger to incorporate parts of each in their celebra-
I ask a bride to do to get those beautiful
capture those wonderful, unscripted mo- tion, it makes for a unique and interesting
portraits. First and foremost is to relax!
ments that happen all day long. The best day. I’ve shot several Hindu/Christian
People forget this is supposed to be a fun
wedding photographers I know get very ceremonies, some with two full ceremo-
and happy time, and often that stress
caught up in the emotions of the day, nies and the bride changes from a bright,
shows in the body language. It’s a good
falling in love with the couple and their colorful sari into a Western, traditional,
idea to think about relaxing your muscles,
families and learning to be in the mo- white gown. In one instance, the bride
the joints, like the wrists and elbows. The
ment, thriving on the emotional roller- wore a classic ivory dress with a burgundy
most common ‘mistake’ brides make is to
coaster. It’s intense work and not every- and gold wrap for the combined cere-
use what I call the ‘death grip on their
one enjoys it. Those who do it love it. mony. The traditions carry into the recep-
flowers’—holding the bouquet with a
tight fist about chin high. This gives the tion, where ethnic food and special
photo a tense look. Ease up on the grip, BEE: How do you maintain a sense of dances are often part of the celebration.
relax the fingers and lower the flowers to calm during the hectic wedding process?
the belly button. Not only will this look ANGIE: I get asked this question a lot! BEE: What should couples look for when
more natural, it will also let the top of the they seek a wedding photographer?
The best answer I can give is I go into the
beautiful dress shine through and accen- day well-prepared from a logistical stand- ANGIE: One thing to remember is your
tuate the neckline. After all the time point and confident from a photography wedding photographer is one vendor that
choosing the dress, that’s really impor- standpoint. These are important because is with you from the moment the dress
tant! It’s also important the dress is fitted it’s what I can control. As for the rest of goes on until the lights go out on the
well—you don’t want to fiddle with your the day, it’s out of my hands! I keep my dance floor. Having a connection with
gown in every other picture. Also, wear a focus on the couple and let the day un- your photographer is as important as the
little more make-up than you’re used to fold, rolling with the ups and downs and work itself, because if you don’t get along
so that it photographs well. not getting caught up in it. I feel it’s my or there’s any kind of stress there, it will
BEE: What are some things people can do job to make sure everyone around me is show in the images. In terms of ques-
the night before the wedding to photograph relaxed and I’m making it fun for them, tions, ask about their professional devel-
well the next day? which makes it fun for me! Do things opment. What’s their background in pho-
happen to throw things off? Of course! tography? How do they stay current in
ANGIE: Get a good night’s sleep! Trite,
But I choose to focus on solving any today’s digital wave? It’s important if
maybe, but oh so important! You don’t
issues that may arise, rather than get up- you’re dealing with an avid amateur or a
want bags under your eyes! Drink plenty
set. Often, this means doing something working professional. Ask if they have
of water to help keep your skin hydrated.
not strictly photography-related, like business insurance (several venues are
Don’t try a new skin regimen the night or
tracking down the right flowers for the now asking outside vendors for this) and
week before the wedding—you don’t
groom, making sure the limo driver if they can provide references. What kind
want an unexpected result causing stress
knows where he’s going, finding the cake of back-up equipment do they bring with
on the big day!
knife and a plate for the cutting or help- them? How will the images be available
BEE: How do wedding photographers ing to bustle the bride’s gown. It’s all in a after the wedding? Is there an online gal-
differ from other photographers? good day’s work and I really do enjoy it! lery with viewing, sharing and printing

PHOTOS BY GARBOT
ANGIE GARBOT,
WEDDING PHOTOGRAPHER
Chicago wedding photographer Angie Garbot provides
helpful hints for aspiring wedding photographers and tips
for brides to assure ‘picture perfect’ wedding images.

INTERVIEWED BY BEE LI

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age and you owe it to your potential cli-
ents to be able to adapt quickly to differ-
ent lighting situations, know how to use
your equipment, etc. so you don’t miss
those important moments! Classes at the
Chicago Photography Center are a great
place to start, including the Weddings-in-
PHO

a-Day Bootcamp, where I cover the busi-


TO E

ness aspects of wedding photography, as


DYT

well as spending time working with bride


SZYA

and groom models.


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Organizations like the Professional Pho-


tographers Association (PPA) can provide
endless resources for training, legal tips,
sample contracts and other information.
Get a good website! It doesn’t have to
cost a lot of money. Good, affordable
options such as SmugMug or ShowIt are
easy to customize and are scalable as your
business grows.

BEE: Describe your work with the Chi-


cago Photography Center (CPC).
ANGIE: I’ve been involved with CPC
since 2003. I took a portrait class with
local theatre photographer Johnny Knight
and was hooked. At the time, building out
the new space and growing the non-profit
was very volunteer-intensive, and I dove
in, eager to meet like-minded photogra-
phers. From hauling construction debris
out to the garbage, moving furniture,
painting or hanging cabinets, there wasn’t
much that volunteers didn’t do to get the
space ready for September ’03 classes. I
began assisting in the classes and teaching
as a darkroom instructor, joined the
board of directors in 2004 and have con-
tinued in that capacity ever since. With a
background in technology, many of my
efforts have been focused on things like
the website (including its redesign last
year), email and e-newsletter communica-
tions, etc. I also sit on the curriculum
committee, teach a class and am part of a
capabilities? What are the wedding book ANGIE: Seek out work as a second pho- board sub-committee providing oversight
options? I feel strongly about not simply tographer. This is the only way to truly to CPC staff, as we are currently without
shooting and providing a DVD of images. experience what it’s like to shoot a wed- an executive director. My involvement at
At the end of the day, the dress goes into ding and decide if it’s really for you and if CPC provides me an opportunity to bring
the closet, the tux gets returned, the cake you are prepared in your technical skills photography to the community and to
gets eaten and the flowers fade, but the to do it. There are ways to find work connect with others in the photography
wedding book is the one lasting remem- through Digital Wedding Forum (DWF), world. I have been fortunate to have had
brance of one of the most special celebra- Fast Track Photographer Group in Chi- good teachers and mentors willing to help
tions in your life—don’t miss out on it. cago, etc. where both established and me, and I enjoy giving that back through
aspiring photographers come together, my teaching and networking with people
BEE: What are some tips for aspiring and it’s a great way to get connected. new to the industry.
wedding photographers who want to Hone your photographic skills. There is
launch their own business? no substitute for a technically, sound im-

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SOFT, SIMPLE + STYLISH
Chicago experts provide beautiful
inspirations for your special day

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ALICE PADRUL
BRIDAL COUTURE
1360 W. Randolph St., Chicago
312 455 8094
www.alicepadrul.com

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PHOTO STEVEN A. RICHARDS

BRYAN K. OSBURN
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IF YOU’RE GETTING MARRIED in
2010, you might be pleased to know that
brides are no longer feeling pressured to
grow their tresses long just for the wed- SHORT HAIR
ding day. Gone are the terribly elaborate
styles of the 80s & 90s, where hair was Brides, rejoice! Short hair is in and easy to style! Create a
miraculously curled, permed or teased and young and chic look with the hairstyle above. Great for a
tons of hair gel was slapped on to create casual wedding and it even goes well with the qun kwa
hair that felt like a helmet! Instead, as the for Asian brides!
world struggles to recover from an eco-
nomic recession, 2010 wedding hairdos
are all about achieving a natural, simple
and fun style that doesn’t have to be ex-
pensive. The following trends can comple-
ment every type of wedding theme, includ-
ing beach, country, glitzy or traditional.

The style experts at Compagnia della


Bellezza salon will tell you that a great hair-
style does not have to be expensive. In-
stead, work with what you have and find a
style that will bring out your best features.

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DELLA BELLEZZA
CHICAGO

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LONG HAIR

Long hair, as always, holds the most versatile possibili-


ties. It can be flipped, pinned-up, braided or twisted in
many different ways. Wear it long with just a little gel
and heat-activated product to add volume. Softly curl at
the ends for an elegant and simple look.

LONG HAIRSTYLE 1 LONG HAIRSTYLE 2

Make heads turn with this classic updo. Add a simple ribbon or Create a cute little bun by braiding your hair and pin it at
crystal headband for a graceful style that is perfect for your wed- the nape. The look can be accomplished even with
ding celebration! shoulder length hair. Add a sparkling tiara or some fresh
flowers for a sophisticated style that goes well with any
wedding theme.

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EVERY BRIDE is an INDIVIDUAL
and should be treated that way. Custom-
ized looks are important for the bride’s
personality to shine through on her spe-
cial day. Makeup artist Bobbie Babetch
shares her suggestions on choosing the
best look for your wedding.

For a beach wedding, soft pinks, laven-


ders and pastels work perfectly. For the
eyes, first line with black, taupe or grey.
Apply shades of bronze-gold to accentu-
ate. Soft pink or apricot should be applied
to the cheeks.

For a black tie or country-club wedding,


go with a beautiful smoky eye with a hint
of color along with a deeper shade such
as bronze on the cheeks. A little airbrush-
ing (with bronzer in it) can help achieve a
flawless look.

For you perfect day, assemble a team of


professional stylists who can ensure you

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LOOK
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CURLY

If you have curly or wavy hair, don’t run out and


straighten it for your wedding! Instead work with what
you have and create this gorgeous style by sweeping up
your curls. It’s a look that will take you from ceremony
to reception effortlessly!

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MAKING DREAMS COME TRUE
ONE WEDDING AT A TIME
WISH UPON A WEDDING
You don’t need a fairy godmother to make your wishes come true. Founder
of Wish Upon a Wedding, Liz Guthrie, discusses the motivation behind her
national organization. Read about Beth and Nick Cortina, the recipients of
the first wish granted by Wish Upon a Wedding’s Chicago chapter.
PHOTOGRAPHY ROD GERBER & SCARPELLI WEDDING PHOTOGRAPHY www.gerberscarpelliweddings.com
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CALIFORNIA WEDDING PLANNER Beth and Nick, this year’s Chicagoland
Liz Guthrie says she created a San Fran- recipients, married in April. The couple
cisco Dream Giveaway wedding for cou- met 10 years ago and became close.
ples who have experienced hardships or Through the course of their friendship,
losses in their lives. Inspired by the out- the two fell in love and discussed mar-
pour of vendors interested in donating riage in their future. FOR MORE INFORMATION
VISIT
for the giveaway and interested appli- In January, Beth was diagnosed with
6

WWW.WISHUPONAWEDDING.ORG
cants, Liz created Wish Upon a Wedding. urachal adenocarcinoma, a rare form of
JOIN THE FACEBOOK
Officially launched in January, the non- bladder cancer. The night she underwent PAGE
profit is the world’s first wedding wish surgery, Nick proposed to her. With che- WWW.FACEBOOK.COM/WISHUPONAWEDDING
granting organization. motherapy, Beth’s prognosis is 20 to 24 TO SEE BETH + NICK’S VIDEO
Liz comments that she would like to take months. DETAILING THEIR STORY,
the organization nationwide to help hun- It was Beth’s aunt who learned about PLEASE VISIT THE GALLERY
dreds of people. Wish Upon a Wedding and encouraged PAGE OF OUR WEBSITE
WWW.ME-INFOCUS.COM
“It takes a lot of time, energy and re- Beth to apply. The rest is history.
sources to plan a wedding,” admits Liz. Liz says she plans to spread the love in
“We’re happy to provide this service to November during the organization’s
take the pressure off of the couples so ‘Month of Giving’ with fundraising galas
they can relax and celebrate this special all over the country.
time in their lives.”

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ALL PHOTOS THIS PAGE E3 PHOTOGRAPHY


ME

CHICKEN BREAST
VESUVIO
WILD BERRY NAPOLEON
WITH CHANTILLY CREAM +
STRAWBERRY COULIS

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WOW YOUR WEDDING
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312 226 7611 Add some zest to your celebration with some trendy catering ideas
from Jennifer Monti, Director of Catering Sales, at Phil Stefani’s Signature
Restaurants in Chicago.

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[ SHORT RIBS
One of my favorite current trends is
braised short ribs. In this budget conscious
climate, it is the best way to get a beef
option for your wedding dinner without
paying filet prices. Braised short ribs are
around the same price as a chicken entrée!

BRAISED
SHORT RIBS

W ASIAN (INFUSION)

PHOTO NICK ULIVIERI


We are also seeing many ethic inspired
cuisines, particularly Asian. Catering
trends are usually right behind restaurant
trends and in Chicago, high-end Asian
restaurants are hot! One popular dish is
an Asian fried vegetable wonton with bok
choy. By infusion, it may not be an en-
tirely Asian entrée, but perhaps incorpo-
rates an Asian element, like a filet with a
wonton wrapped tiger shrimp. FRIED VEGETABLE WONTON
WITH BOK CHOY

PHOTO NICK ULIVIERI


R VEGETARIAN
Vegetarian entrées are very popular right
now as well. Gone is the ‘just give them
some pasta’ idea. Many guests are opting
for vegetarian entrées as a healthy lifestyle
choice. You want to make sure that it is a
high presentation, fun option like rata-
touille socca crepes with a goat cheese RATATOUILLE SOCCA CREPES
fondue sauce! WITH GOAT CHEESE FONDUE SAUCE

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PHOTO OF KIMBERLY A. SHARKY BY KRISTI SANFORD WWW.LIGHTONLIFEIMAGES.COM/ALL OTHER PHOTOS COURTESY OF EACH PANEL MEMBER

MARIE FAHNERT, J.D. LEIGH NEIMAN WEISZ PSY.D.


DIVORCE ATTORNEY AT STAFF THERAPIST, THE FAMILY INSTITUTE
FAHNERT LAW LLC AT NORTHWESTERN UNIVERSITY

MARIE’S LEIGH’S
ADVICE ADVICE
“I think most major issues facing “Strong marriages have solid
married people ultimately boil bank accounts. You have to
down to trust. I believe if people make five positive deposits for
were able to maintain trust, there every one negative withdrawal.
would be fewer people who seek Deposits are words of admira-
or need my help. They would be tion and appreciation. Just like
able to resolve their issues much managing your finances, you
more efficiently. When trust have to be aware of your rela-
breaks down, it affects every tionships and constantly be
aspect of your relationship. You checking your ‘emotional bank
no longer know if you’re ‘in this accounts’ to see how you’re do-
together’.” ing. You want to make constant
deposits so you have a cushion
and the occasional withdrawal
won’t put you in the red.”

e GET MARRIED,
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KIMBERLY A. SHARKY LMFT, CST REVEREND BILL YACCINO
RELATIONSHIP & SEX THERAPIST
RABBI MISHA TILLMAN PRESIDENT & FOUNDER OF
MISSIONAL ALLIES

KIMBERLY’S MISHA’S BILL’S


ADVICE ADVICE ADVICE
“My advice for any couple em- “[Psychologist and philosopher] “Know where you are and invest
barking upon marriage is to be Eric Fromm says ‘love is work’ from there! Healthy marriages
very intentional about establish- and I say that to all of my cou- have a clear understanding where
ing an open and honest environ- ples. Love is not a negotiation or they are in terms of strength and
ment around all issues, especially a contract, and you must commit growth areas.”
the difficult or uncomfortable yourself to making it work. Relig-
ones, like sex. Ask questions, ion is never the cause for marital
explore possibilities and remem- problems. In interfaith marriages,
ber that your relationship, if it is couples have to make more of a
to thrive, should be allowed to commitment to learn about each
continuously grow and evolve. other’s traditions. It’s a conquest.”
Consider the idea that discover-
ing new and interesting aspects
of yourself and your partner
will create a more dynamic and
passionate relationship than
holding on to the false, yet com-
forting notion that we already
know all there is to know about
the other person.”

STAY MARRIEDqq PEARLS OF WISDOM

Our diverse panel of experts shares their advice on making


marriage work, in their own words.

COMPILED BY IYA BAKARE

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HISTORICAL BEACH BUMS
CLIFFS OVERLOOKING A BEACH ON MAYAN TEMPLE GROUNDS IN TULUM

RIVIERA MAYA,
MEXICO


Summer is the perfect time to save on your honeymoon with low season deals
in Central America, starting with the Mexico’s Yucatan Peninsula. You’ll fly into
Cancun but bypass it in favor of Playa del Carmen, the heart of the Riviera
Maya about one hour south. Enjoy the turquoise waters and white sands by
day and fine dining and entertainment by night. If you’re feeling adventurous,
explore the nearby cenotes, giant limestone sinkholes once thought to be
sacred by the Maya – or better yet – dive them. If you don’t know how, it’s
easy to get certified with the many dive shops in the area. Take a short ferry
ride to Cozumel, a treasure trove of pristine reefs and a mecca for underwater
enthusiasts. Further south, relax the day away with your honey in a hammock
on the stunning secluded beaches of Tulum, and spend some time exploring
the area’s ancient Mayan ruins.

www.rivieramaya.com
WHAT COLOR IS YOUR COUPLE?

JET SET HONEYMOON


HOT SPOTS

Sticking to your budget

L
in this economy doesn’t mean
sacrificing a fabulous honey-
moon. For the couple whose
looking to save on travel time
and costs, each of these four
destinations offers a distinct
getaway experience.

PHOTOS BY BIAN LI

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SUNRISE OVER LAGO DE ATITLAN

BOHEMIAN ADVENTURERS

ANTIGUA + LAGO DE ATITLÁN,


GUATEMALA

 For the adventurous couple who’s more hippie than high maintenance,
Guatemala is an off the beaten path alternative to the more touristy Central
American countries, and jam packed with activities to indulge your inner
Bohemian, from volcano trekking to bass fishing. Visit the old Spanish city of
Antigua, whose cobblestone streets, artisanal shops and colonial charm
make it the perfect base to visit the surrounding Mayan ruins, indigenous
community markets and the beautiful Lago de Atitlan, a picturesque locale
described by English author Aldous Huxley as “...really too much of a good
thing.” An early morning trek up to one of the peaks surrounding the lake to
catch the sunrise will reveal why ‘Atitlan’ means ‘the place where the rainbow
gets its colors.’

www.atitlan.com
DIVE BOATS AT THE PIER AT SUNRISE, CAYE CAULKER

REEF SEEKERS

AMBERGIS CAYE + CAYE CAULKER,


BELIZE

 Get ready to kick back with your honey. You’ll hear people tell you this a lot
when you’re in Belize, a beautiful country famous for its laid back, ‘shoes
optional’ attitude, tropical rainforests and gorgeous reefs. While a bit pricier
than the rest of Central America, Belize still offers plenty of low season
summer deals. And unlike the rest of Central America, Belize is primarily an
English-speaking country. As part of one of the largest coral reef systems in
the world, Belize is a diver’s paradise and the two islands of Ambergis Caye
and Caye Caulker are great places to start out on your diving adventure,
which must include diving the famous Great Blue Hole. Besides diving, Belize
has a growing ecotourism industry. Trek through the jungle, kayak from caye
to caye or just do what the locals do and slow down and relax...

www.travelbelize.org

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LEFT/HUBBARD GLACIER RIGHT/SHIPS DOCKED IN JUNEAU

YUKON EXPLORERS

ALASKAN CRUISE


Go north! Summer is the best time to explore the wondrous natural
landscape that is Alaska. From glacier-trekking to whale-watching to roaming
the Yukon trail, Alaska offers limitless adventure. One of the best ways to see
a lot in a little amount of time is via cruise, and there are numerous options to
choose from. If you have more time, take a road trip and discover the beauty
of the Alaskan wilderness. Head out to Denali National Park, home of grizzly
bears, caribou and an amazing assortment of other wildlife. Denali is also
home to North America’s highest peak, Mt. McKinley.

www.alaskacruises.com

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BRENDA
DELLA CASA

is an internationally
published author who
specializes in romance,
lifestyle and wellness
features. Brenda has
written for and been
featured in dozens of
major publications.
BRENDA DELLA CASA

ASK
YOURSELF
“If there were no rock and “Can you communicate “Does he make you laugh?
I had to go to City Hall, openly and honestly with Does he make you feel
would I still want to marry your partner?” beautiful? Does he share
this man?” your values and support
“Are you with someone your goals and dreams?
“Am I going into this with who allows you to be your- Does he want the same
my eyes wide open?” self and accepts you for things you do?”
who you are?”
“Are both of you emotion-
ally mature enough to take “Would you love him if he
this step?” lost his hair, grew a gut or www.cindarellawasaliar.com
fell ill?” www.iamstaggered.com

qTO DO’S BEFORE


WE LIVE IN A SOCIETY that not only means it won’t always be easy, which “Can you communicate openly and hon-
vilifies single women but worships wed- brings me to my next question: estly with your partner?” There’s a big
dings – not marriage, but the actual event. difference between privacy and secrecy,
Unfortunately, this has caused a lot of “Are both of you emotionally mature and going into a marriage where you
bright, beautiful and accomplished wo- enough to take this step?” Life isn’t easy don’t feel free to express yourself is a
men to feel they are not complete without and while marriage is about merging both recipe for disaster. Not only will you feel
a ring and a night that wows their 150 lives together, you’re still two growing, suffocated and frustrated, but when the
closest friends. With this in mind, the first unique individuals with your own opin- real you shows up, your partner will likely
question I would encourage women to ions, wants, needs, desires and hang-ups. feel betrayed. You need to be with some-
ask themselves is, “If there were no rock Those things don’t go away just because one who allows you to be yourself and
and I had to go to City Hall, would I still you love one another. Unless you are accepts you for who you are. You need to
want to marry this man?” both mature enough to accept and respect feel respected, loved, protected and
one another’s individuality and are willing trusted by your partner and be with some-
If the answer is ‘yes’, proceed to the next to let go of your need to be right all the one you respect, love, cherish and trust.
question, which is, “Am I going into this time or have everything your way, you’ll
with my eyes wide open?” Many women likely not make it to your golden anniver- No one should enter into a marriage
have an idea that marriage will change a sary. If you do, it won’t be a happy jour- unless she wants to enter into it, and she
relationship or the man they are with, ney. Couples who stay married are the needs to do it on her own timeline. It is
when in fact, marriage does little more ones who want to stay married. They are far better to wait and marry the right guy
than legally bind you to someone else. the ones who understand that sometimes at 45 than it is to rush down the aisle with
What does this mean? If you marry some- their mate will want to go in a direction the wrong one at 30.
one who doesn’t share your values, treat they don’t, and sometimes they’ll miss
you well, support you, respect you or treat being able to live independently and not “Would you love him if he lost his hair,
you the way you deserve to be treated, the having to compromise. They understand grew a gut or fell ill?” Love isn’t about
only thing that will change is that you’ll that there are going to be disagreements having a sexy someone on your arm.
wake up legally tied to this person. It’s and moments when they want to walk Looks fade over time, so it’s important
essential for you to get to know someone away and that’s all part of the package. that you’re attracted to his soul. Does he
as well as you can before you take this With that said, they choose to work make you laugh? Does he make you feel
important step. Too many women get so through their issues with their partner and beautiful? Does he share your values and
caught up in the idea of being married know that it’s worth the compromise and support your goals and dreams? Does he
they forget marriage is a union between frustration because being married to their want the same things you do?
two imperfect human beings, and this mate is a privilege.

SAYING ‘II DO’


DO WITH BRENDA DELLA CASA

Our relationship guru Brenda Della Casa, author of Cinderella Was a Liar and
relationship expert for IamStaggered, the UK’s top ten men’s wedding website,
offers her advice to women with questions they should ask themselves before
taking the plunge.

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