Emotions

When do we know when were emotionally ready to fall in love? Or be in a relationship?

BESC101 Sir Ricky Clores
Group 2
Facilitator:
Isaac Noah M. Enriquez
Members:
Aldrin Agullana
Meg Gabrielle Almonte
Ollene R. Miranda
Tim Karlo Ronquillo
Julie Trinidad
Justine Briann Solis
Bon Privado

OCTOBER 2015

INTRODUCTION
Framework of the Statement of the Problem
(Meg Gabrielle Almonte)
1) Define love
Attraction vs Attachment
o Ricky and Morty quote
o Ask the different members of the group to answer this
2) Process of falling in love
3) How can anyone say that they are emotionally ready for anything?
4) Things to consider when finding a partner
Ovulation
Fundamental Attribution Error
o In one study, 7 out of 10 women at a party reported that men had misread
their polite friendliness (appropriate to the situation) as a sexual come-on
5) Is it important to be able to distinguish why you love a person?
6) Responsibility and constant vigilance
How to tell if you are in an abusive relationship
Consent in relationships
Handling disputes
Petty and Cacioppos dual processing theory:
o Central route persuasion
o Peripheral route persuation
Foot-in-the-door phenomenon
Our attitudes can be affected by our behavior (i.e. Fake it til you make it)
7) Best age to get into a relationship
Puberty
o Stability of identity of self
Working
o Moral actions strengthens moral convictions/attitudes (vice versa with
amoral actions)
The power of a given situation can easily override the individual
differences in personality
Stanford Prison Experiment
o you are defined by your work
o Self-esteem and balance of power in relationships
Social factors like who earns more to determine the dominant
figure in the relationship

Attraction vs Attachment
Attraction
In fact, the psychology of attraction is based on one simple rule. We are attracted
to people who turn us on. I don't just mean physically, I mean emotionally turn us on.
Leading psychologist John Dewey discovered one of the most fundamental aspects of
people. He found that there is one thing that every person on this earth wants: To feel
important. Deep down, everyone on this earth just wants to feel appreciated. Once
someone has the basics of food and shelter, all they want is to feel cherished, valued
and worthy. And this helps us know what people find attractive. We turn people on when
we fulfill their desire to be important. Here's the psychology behind it: If you can make
someone feel important by valuing their opinions, time or feelings, YOU will be attractive
to them.
Attachment
is a deep and enduring emotional bond that connects one person to another
across time and space (Ainsworth, 1973; Bowlby, 1969). Attachment does not have to
be reciprocal.

One person may have an attachment to an individual which is not

shared. Attachment is characterized by specific behaviors in children, such as seeking

proximity with the attachment figure when upset or threatened (Bowlby, 1969).
Attachment behavior in adults towards the child includes responding sensitively and
appropriately to the childs needs. Such behavior appears universal across cultures.

Attachment theory provides an explanation of how the parent-child relationship emerges

and influences subsequent development.
Stages of Falling In Love
Stage 1: Butterflies
Is anything better than that fluttery feeling you get when you're first falling for
someone new? This kind of obsessive thinking about someone and the state of your
relationship is "happy anxiety," according to eHarmony. You can't get the person out of
your head, but even more than that, you're thinking about the image you're projecting as
well because you want to win them over. Thank a surge of the hormones testosterone
and estrogen for the lust overload that's signature to this phase.
Stage 2: Building
Neurochemicals including dopamine and adrenaline can physically make your
heart pound faster and create serotonin, also known as "the happiness chemical." You
two feel like you're in your own little world and try to learn as much as you can about
each other. This is the stage of filling in someone's "life CV," or resume, as we would
say stateside. You're gathering the facts about this person to back up the feelings you
have, and this is where meeting the important people in your new S.O.'s life comes in.
Stage 3: Assimilation
Now you figure out if this person is a puzzle piece that can fit into your life. You're
applying all the facts you've learned about them so far not just to your personality but to
your entire way of living. Do you have clashing ideologies that will make it hard to last,

or are your most important beliefs compatible? Do you have the same boundaries? Is
this really the right relationship for you? This stage is crucial for evaluating if you two
can make it past infatuation and really go the distance.
Stage 4: Honesty
Ready to be vulnerable? Stage 4 can't happen any other way. When the initial
worries about impressing someone have faded a bit, you can both get rid of all
pretenses and show each other your true selves. This is very much a make-it or break-it
part of the relationship. If this person truly accepts you for you and you can do the same
for them, you're golden.
Stage 5: Stability
After some time being together, you'll move away from the intense infatuation
and become more comfortable with each other. One key hormone in this time of a
relationship is oxytocin, which fosters attachment between moms and babies and is also
a key player in the bonding both men and women feel after orgasm. Another is
vasopressin, which triggers the brain's bonding regions as well. Bring on the Netflix
nights and knowing each other inside and out.
STATEMENT OF THE PROBLEM:
1. What is the best age to start welcoming the idea of, being in love or being in a
relationship?
2. What are the factors that should be considered in the start of, being in love or
being in a relationship?