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Type 2 - The
Helper
Helpers who need to be needed
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In the average state, when Twos' are not helping others and are not
loved, the need to be loved increases, which helps Twos to again
reach out and help others. Thus the balancing loop can help Twos to
recover.
Unhealthy loop controlled by Basic Fear:
Fear of being unloved -> resent and manipulate others -> loved ->
Fear of being unloved
In the unhealthy state, the basic fear of being unloved can cause
Type Twos to feel resentful and try to manipulate others into loving
them. This can cause people to love them even less, which further
increases Twos' basic fear. The cycle continues to build up.
Insight:
We can see from the diagram that a way to help break the control of
the basic fear is to weaken the unhealthy loop. Twos can refrain
from manipulating others but start to genuinely help others. This will
cause Twos to be loved, and thus reduce the fear of being unloved.
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Paradox: Giving more to others does not bring freedom and fulfillment for
yourself, and being cut off from an awareness of your own needs prevents
you from obtaining the freedom and fulfillment you desire.
Path of development:
Pay attention to personal needs and wants
Learn to receive
Nurture a separate self
Develop independence and autonomy
Ultimate task: Realizing that love is not dependent on being needed, and
developing a sense of humility that goes with not knowing what to give and
being in need yourself.
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Basis: Twos often neglect their own needs and have difficulty receiving, since
value or worth comes from meeting the needs of others, not from being needy.
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Notice signs of your own repressed needs, paying special attention to any
rising emotions as indicators than your needs arent being met
Balance the active force that goes out to others needs with the receptive
force that allows your needs to be met
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Spend time alone to develop your own interests and a sense of separate
self
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