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My mum was a secretary for the colleges, my dad was a painter and decorator.
Did any member of your family have any health issues or disabilities?
Yes, my mum and dad met in Papworth Hospital where my mum had all of her lung
removed and my dad had half of one of his lungs removed.
Yes.
Oh, we started off very basic but then, with the alteration my dad did, it had an inside loo
where at one stage we just had an outside loo.
There- it was easier for your parents to be closer to the Papworth Hospital?
Um...uh, possibly when I was about three. And I was, no it was before then, it was when I
was at nursery school. I used to go to school, a nursery school called Whittes Hoddes at
the bottom of De Freville Avenue and we used to do things like um, dancing around the
Maypole which you don't see nowadays, mm!
Did you um, did you have any hobbies as a child or any particular interests?
Apart from skiving off school, no. I hated school, I loved work. And now at, sod's law has it,
I end up here. I have to, I have to um, yes, give up work and end up back at a place like
school, mm!
Uh, it was in Cambridge. And the mopeds were round the sorting office down Maeve Road,
uh but the main office was in town down St. Tibb's Row.
Yes.
'75.
Uh, so I remember the hot summer in '76 and we weren't allowed to go out without our
jackets on.
What um, what did you do after, how long were you a telegraph boy for, telegram boy
sorry?
18 months.
Mmhmm.
Yes.
I wasn't a postman for very long. About six months and then I left them and went on
working for Bevis.
Yes, it was a variety of work I had to do like holding stops for engineers and steel fixing
and crawling through steel when they did the bridges for the measuring. And was quite
funny as well, especially when one of the engineers gave the tape um, he gave the end of
one of a tape measure to one of the Irish men and it was a 30 meter tape and he was
looking and going back and back, back and all of a sudden it started to unreel, and he
looked up and the Irish man had gone back off the edge! And he was falling to the ground.
Was he alright?
Yes.
Uh, labouring. And that's all I did there. Worked and make, get the bricks for the um,
yardsman, and things like that. And threw scaff-, uh scaffolding on the foreman's head!
Haha ah brilliant! Hehe. Uh, so how long were at Barratt's for? Or where did you go after
that?
I was at Barratt's for about two years and then I went to Marshall and Bartlett's down
Cromwell Road as a labourer there. Uh, but being Glass Merchants, it wasn't long before I
became a, an edge polisher of glass and a glass cutter.
Wow, what um. That must be very delicate work I would have thought?
They say there's nothing more dangerous than glass. And I suppose they would be right,
because allthough sheets of steel are sharp, they don't break, not like glass does. And we
had some glass, and, patterned glass, and if you didn't carry it right it broke just through
you gripping it.
Did you enjoy that job what, did you like working with glass?
Yes.
I did do but I found my forte was glazing, because I had four jobs before going into hospital.
Oh, all my life off and on. Well, after, after working at Barratts. When I started at Mastilles I
left there and went to GT Glass and then I got laid off there and I went to Go Glass and left
there and went back to um, Solar glass, which was Mastille and was its, it was taken over
by Solar Glass.
It strikes me that, working with glass like that must be a similar sort of art to working with,
well other substances like you have carpenters and um, stonemasons and stuff like that,
and it must be as intricate with the same sort of rules?
Yes. Um, mind you as my dad always said, its preparation preparation preparation.
Yes.
I did.
Would you mind telling me a little bit about that, how you met your wife and stuff? That
would be interesting, please?
Mm! Well it's a bit embarrassing really because she was married at the time. And she left
her husband to be with me. And then she left me after six years of marriage and five years
of living together. We lived together for five years then got married, and then after six
years of marriage she left me and she said there's no-one else as I was paying
maintenance for the kids. And also we had Relate, where we went to Relate uh, for advice
and she wasn't interested really. All she really wanted was sex. And even after the divorce
she said, stay round here. So I did for a few nights and then she got married again.
My oldest will be 35 um, next month. No, two months' time. Um, my middle one will be 34
in September and my youngest will be 31 in December.
I'm not sure about the eldest but the middle one, middle girl and my son, make jewellery
and sell it. My son made a ring and he took it to a woman in The Shard in London to sell it
to her, so I don't think he's, he's short of a few bob.
So, could you tell me how you, why you started coming to Headway please?
Well I, I first of all went into hospital on the 20 th of March 2000 and I went in because they
thought it was calcium on the nerve of the eye but when they were operating they found it
to be a tumour and whilst taking the tumour off I had a stroke. And when I was in A5 Ward,
a nurse said to me, do you feel alright? I said, I feel rotten really. I said, why do you ask?
She said, uh she asked because your eyes have gone red. That's because I was having a
haemorrhage. I presume when they took uh, some of the tumour off the nerve of the eye it
started to bleed and fill my head up with blood. And that is what I gather although I'm not
sure. I do know one thing though, it has buggered me up.
Eight, eight and a half months. Just a routine op. And that's just it, I walked in and eight
and a half months later I got to go then, and 16 years later I'm still in this bloody thing. Big
wheelchair.
Were you still working with glass when you went into Hospital?
Eh no, I had left Go Glass and became a delivery driver for Pinder Freight.
Oh definitely.
So when you came out of hospital, um how much kind of help did you get? It must have
been an incredible change in your life?
Oh it was considering I used to do everything myself and I ended up not being able to do
anything. Um, how I found out about Headway was through Addenbrookes Hospital and I
would use Gill, who, who started Headway up. She was coming to the hospital every so
often and that's how I found out about it.
No, we only moved to Melbourne after I had a stroke. I was living with my parents in Little
Eversden.
No. No. It was just an ordinary bungalow, but they did provide us with lots of help like
taking out the bath and making it a wet room and putting up rails outside so I could walk.
But then we had the offer eh, to move bungalows eh, to a new place which would have
been built and was purpose built for disabled people. So we moved there instead and they
won't put up bigger rails and it's all this bloody health and safety and they say it's too
dangerous and Denise isn't qualified and she said, Ive only been getting him in and out of
bed and on and off the toilet for fifteen years and I'm not qualified?! So I think it's a load of
bollocks. Excuse my French. Mm!
So who were you living with at that time? When, who did you live with in Melbourn?
Yes.
Eh, she was a cook down at my local pub, The Wheatsheaf, and I used to go in there to
play darts and that's how we met. I got to know the landlord and landlady and they
introduced me to her that way and plus I became a barman as well.
Harlton Road, on the A603. It's opposite Harlton Road. It's called The Pagoda now,
Pergola.
Haha! What was your sorry, what was your favourite thing to drink?
Lager.
Lager, mmm.
Strong lager.
No, not very much because I'm always dizzy and when I have drink at Christmas if it
makes me too dizzy then I feel rotten.
Denise.
Denise. And, she um, how, how do you feel that your um, that the after effects of the
operation affected her?
I wish she was happy-go-lucky but she's had to move away from that to look after me, give
up her job and to look after me and I am her priority now whereas before I think it was her
children.
Yes, her husband died funnily enough. It's not funny, but when I went into hospital
because I was, I had cancer of my left kidney and they operated on the 22 nd May 2015,
she said her husband died on the 22 nd of May but she wasn't going to tell me that. She
said, I didn't want to frighten you.
I will tell you next month when I've had the results back from my scan, but originally on the
CT scan when they looked at it they said, all clear. But it was only today that I've been in
the gym and was saying to Veer that I've been having stabbing and pins on my left hand
side where my kidney was, and he said, let me know. So after half an hour I said, I can't
stand it anymore. So I went to the bars and I was yelling in pain and he said, I've never
seen you look like that before. He said, shall I call somebody? And I said no, it will pass
and it has passed. And sometimes I get cramp in that side and today I think today it just
came to a head.
Mainly staff and, and, as one of the members said, we're not called members any more,
we're called clients. I said, I signed on as a member and I'm staying a bloody member.
Sod them. They can please themselves but as far as I'm concerned, I've got it in writing
that I'm a member and I'll given Claire a photocopy of them. So she's got them locked
away in her drawer somewhere. And that Austin said, when I had a barney with them,
because they charged me for a day off sick because I'm self-funded. And he said, we've
got to charge you for the day off because of the staffing. I said, get rid of some of the staff
then and he said, we can't do that. And instead of talking to me he was talking at me and
telling me what I wanted to hear, so I just turned off. And I thought, well is that your attitude?
Then fine. I know they've got to pay the staff, but if I'm not here there's other people here
so they're not losing money really. Cos the way I look at it is, this is swings and
roundabouts. If they can do charge for being off sick, then I will come in when I'm sick and
give my germs to everybody else and that way at least I am paying for a service. I'm not
paying for something I'm not getting.
Just one now. I used to come on the Monday as well but they decided to shut it down
because they said, money again. I thought, well there's always a way around it. It's money.
It's always money. Everything's about money.
And um, um, it's Puzzle Park, which is a load of different things and some of them unlock
them. To unlock them you've got to make three in a row. And some might have locked, so
you've got to do it again before you break through it.
How do you think over the course of your life, not in relation to you but just generally,
things have changed for people with disabilities. For instance, when you were a child, did
you know anybody with a disability? Obviously your parents had a health, health issues,
um, but did you have any friends or school friends who had disabilities?
Well, I had a school friend who had half a leg but that didn't really seem to affect him in
any way. He had grown up with it. He got run over by a milk float when he was three.
How d- do you think things have changed? Do you think attitudes have changed over ,
over the years towards people with disabilities?
I will say in general that, um, things couldn't be any more helpful at the moment. But I will
say, off the record of, that things at Headway have gone downhill.
I can cut this bit out. Um, what makes you say that?
Yes, but is there anything in particular that you, that you um, that you've, you notice that
you think's changed?
Yes, I still stay in touch with the people who set Headway up. Pam Davent and Tina
Davies and when I spoke to them about payment, um, they both said it didn't matter about
payment, how much money you had. In their day you came to Headway because you're
disabled and it wasn't to do with money. But nowadays it's all to do with money. Mind you,
uh, I'm a right one to talk. I keep looking for the best interest rates, which are non-existent
nowadays.
Do you feel that, through um, do you feel that through the course of um, your life since you
had the oper- the operation. Do you think that you've, that like, things like the NHS and, I
don't know, Social Services and stuff like that. Do you feel that they've helped you, looked
after you? You, I mean obviously you worked all your life up until um, you had that
operation, and you paid your National Insurance and you paid your taxes.
Yes.
And you were paying for people in a situation then to be looked after and now you get,
you get, you- you deserve the same level of assistance. How do you feel that has panned
out?
Uh well, I can't really fault it. I, I've got nothing bad to say about it in general. They've all
been good to me though I will say I would like to have it explained a bit better, what
happens to me.
Yes. I know its a broad spectrum but I've learnt all of it after sixteen years. I was never told
it to start with. Perhaps they thought, he won't remember uh, but I will say I've got a better
memory now than I've ever had, probably because I don't have to remember so much. Mm!
That was what I put it down to anyway.
Do you think that the changes that are happening in terms of benefits and stuff like that
and the cuts that are happening generally, has that affected you or have you seen an
effect elsewhere, um?
Um, it probably has affected me but I don't know what's going on for a lot of the time as I
don't read things 'cos I can't seem to read. And when I came out of hospital I was nearly
paralysed from the neck down. So when I, I've got a rail across the sink in the bathroom,
when I actually lifted my hand off it I cried with joy. But it's just getting the left one working
now.
Uh slowly, yes.
I remember coming to Headway when we were at Mill Road site and Kate giving me a ball
and she said, pass the ball around and when she passed it to me I couldn't take it. There
was no way I could stretch out my left arm. I didn't even try and take it.
What changes could happen in, like, the level of care and the things that are out there that
would improve things for you? I mean obviously, there are things within yourself physically
that you would like to improve or change, but what changes outside of yourself could you
I think we're coming to the end now, um, of the interview. What do you think the future
holds for you? What are your hopes, or?
At the moment, when a volunteer, Kieran said about something and I said about chopping
someone's head off, he said, I will chop your head off. I said, you'll be doing me a favour.
So I think I would be better off dead. Rather than live this life being a burden on people
and being dizzy all the time, not being able to... as Veer said when I was in the gym, he
said he's going on holiday to Yorkshire. And I said, lovely part of the country. He said,
staying in a log cabin. He said, it's nice, just to be able to look at the scenery. He said, you
ought to try it. I said, I would but I can't even see the scenery properly. I can't get up and
walk anywhere. I can't talk properly. I can't move about like I want to. I can't see properly,
so what is the point? That's the way I look at things anyway.
Food. Food. Ha! No, but seriously I think it's just my partner. She does a lot for me. More
than I could ever say to her because, well I don't know really. I try and say things but it
keeps coming out wrong.
Yes.