A very good morning to all,

Let me start of by asking a question.

What is a mistake?
Is it something as big as a person committing a murder?
Or is it something as small as a person neglecting traffic lights?
Is it something as dense as a blunder to regret?
Or is it something as permeable as a fault to forget?

According to Oxford Dictionary, A mistake is defined as misjudged act which was

committed unintentionally.

Everytime people use this phrase, We are good lawyers for our mistakes but very
good judges for the mistakes of others, I think about all the mistakes Ive done in
my life and how I defended those mistakes. But when it comes to mistakes
committed by others, I suddenly become the epitome of values and lecture people
on how perfect I am. Is it just with me or is it human nature? Or is it because I
expect others to think that I am infallible?
Assuming, it is not human nature but confined to some, Id like to express my views
on the pros and cons of being a lawyer for my mistakes.
First, lets discuss the Pros:

By acting as lawyer for mistakes I believe that my self-esteem is not lowered.

By defending my mistakes, I admit to myself that it is a mistake even though
I do not express it but hoping not to commit it henceforth.
I assume to that my image as positive role model to others remains intact.
Despite all the argument, a voice from my conscience tells us to be the
person I claim to be.

Cons:

I lack of courage to accept my mistakes.

The first step to correct a mistake is to accept it. But as I do not accept but
defend my act I deny the opportunity to correct myself.
Quite often, defending my action results in avoidable frictions with others.
Justifying our mistakes increases unwanted traits like ego, pride etc. Due to
such unwanted traits we experience a cognitive dissonance.

When we make mistakes and when it is pointed out, we tend to argue and defend
our actions and if the defense is not accepted we start to argue. Often the argument
becomes far worse than a quarrel between 12 Angry Men. But when we apprehend
someones mistake, its no longer is an argument but a judgment.
But what can we do about it? Cant we admit our mistakes and go on with our lives?
Cant we ignore others mistakes? We all know how it feels when we commit a
mistake and when it is pointed out. It feels like taking a bullet. Its painful. A
moment which cannot be easily erased from our memory. Wish we could go back in
time to correct the mistake and move on with our lives.
And when its a mistake committed by others, remember this, we are the ones that
pull the trigger to the bullet to his/her heart. Humiliation is what arises when a
mistake is committed. And the pain due to humiliation is far worse than the pain of
being shot at. But we still do that. We become judges for their mistakes and not
their lawyers.

Now, let us have an insight into the pros and cons of being a judge for others
mistakes.
Lets begin with the cons first
Cons:

By being judgmental, I deny others the opportunity to explain the stand.

Im deprived of the chance to look at things from others perspective.
By not accepting their stand, we humiliate them and strain our relationship.
There exists a tendency to start or escalate a conflict.
And many more.

Now moving on to the pros

It funny when people think about the positive aspect of being judgmental about
others action because there exists no pros for such acts and yet we practice it.
----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------A lawyer defends ones mistake and gives one the salvation they deserve and a
judge gives one the consequences for his/her sins. Well, atleast, I believe that one
must be given a second chance for their mistakes.
Here on Earth, we have a saying, Im only human. And why do we say that? Is I
because we know that we learn from our mistakes? Or is it because we tend to
make mistakes everytime? I think its because We are humans. No matter how
reckless we are, we always find a way to rise from the crisis.
Lets be lawyers for everyones mistakes. They deserve a second chance just as
much as we do.

And I would like to conclude by saying: Mistakes make us Stronger. It makes one
understand the actual meaning of life.
Thank You.