THE
DAILY
UTAH
"TUESDAY, FEBRUARY 7, 1978 THE UNIVERSITY OF UTAHAs I sit down to write this letter, Iam filled with mixed
emotions. The front page article of the Chronicle dated
January 51, 1978, affected me so personally that I feel I must
write this letter.
It will do little good unless published and yet even if
published anonymous letters are not usually treated as
seriously, or given the same respect, consideration or
authority as those bearing the author's name. But is it worth
the risk of probable negative effect on family, friends or career
to sign my name to what I am about to write?
In response to editorial comments preceding the letter
written by the man signing himself L.M.L. and published
under the banner “Mormon and Gay..." Ican only say Ihave
no question as to the authenticity of events related in that
letter. Sufficient information is presented in that letter to
leave little doubt that I was one of those whose lives were
affected by L.M.L.’s actions.
A decade ago, during the school year 1967-1968, I was a
senior at Brigham Young University (BYU). After
successfully completing a Mormon mission, [had returned to
BYU and had completed my sophomore and junior years.
My Mormon upbringing had filled me with aversion,
remorse and guilt when it became impossible to avoid
recognizing my homosexuality. I had continued at BYU to
live with the knowledge that I would not be desirable or
acceptable if the truth were known. And yet wouldn't
repentance and a solution tomy problem be more difficulton
other campuses of the latter ‘60s with agnostic and atheistic
professors and students, student riots, hippies, free love and
drugs? Under such conditions would I be able to find a
solution or the incentive to overcome my problem?
L.MLL. writes of “. . . the paranoia homosexuals at that
institution were by necessity forced to live with.”
BYU students were instructed that it was their duty and
obligation to inform on any fellow student known or even
suspected of not conforming to university standards.
Then there were those students assigned by Standards or
Housing to inspect the living quarters of other students, even
those who lived off-campus unless they lived with their
families, and report any evidence of non-conformity to
standards. Whether or not a spy ring actually existed on
‘campus, there was little reason to be convinced that it didn't.
Being gay at BYU was like being in the CIA or the
‘Communist Party (depending on your point of view). Even
before one gay student would introduce two gay friends (as
gay), without revealing names, he had to give each friend
sufficient information about the other to enable the friend to
sate himself thatthe other could be trusted and that he
‘could give his permission to be introduced as being gay. In
the case of parties or get-togethers, the precautions were even
more complex, One had to be certain that a new friend was
not an informer or a plant.
‘During the school year of 1967-1968, given the proper
clearance, I was eventually invited to a few parties.
‘Sometimes we played party games, Battleship or the like, but
mostly we talked. We discussed our school activities and
aspirations. And of course there was the ever present, ever
oppressive question, “What do we do about our
homosexuality?” If we can’t change, individually or
collectively, how do we live with our homosexuality in the
church most of us loved?
‘Those who had sought professional or ecclesiastical
counseling reported that no matter how well intentioned,
those consulted were so unknowledgable, and so
unappreciative of the real feelings and problems of the
homosexual that little was accomplished and it had been a
waste of time,
‘Then came the night of that infamous party. I was casually
introduced to someone I did not remember having ever met
before. We seemed to have little in common and, as 1
remember, talked little. Some days later the host asked if I
remembered this individual from the party. I was told that
someone had turned him in and thathe, in turn, had provided
a list of names, naming everyone he knew or had met.
‘What happened in the weeks that followed came to be
called by those involved the Witch Hunts of 1968, One by one
students were called into Standards. One by one students
reported their experiences. (One thing the efforts of BYU
accomplished was a breakdown of the previous reticence on
the part of gay students to be known by other gays. Wehad to
hang together or hang separately.)
It was always the same. The initial approach was the
expression of a desire to help. Conditions for remaining at
BYU were the supplying of additional names and the
approval of President Kimball (then Elder Kimball), The
request for names was so that all of those with the same
problem could be helped.
If the student cooperated and supplied a list of names his
trip to Standards was relatively painless; if not, interrogation
procedures were put into effect, threats of immediate
‘expulsion or worse, being confined in a room alone (solitary)
to think about it, a barrage of insistent questions, sometimes
from more than one source, and the like.
‘Some reported that even after being detained for hours they
had still refused to supply additional names only to later seem
to disappear from campus, apparently forced to leave so
suddenly that friends did not know when they had left or
where they had gone.
‘Others reported that to make their visits as brief as possible
they had supplied fictitious names or the names of only those
they knew had already been reported. Apparently, however,
some supplied additional names as the number of those
called into Standards steadily grew.
L.MLL. writes of “. .. the hell that broke loose in the lives of
those Thad revealed. Hell such as excommunications, degrees
lene, cateer fnserpeed of c¥en ruined, and, perhaps, lives
ended.”
‘This I can verify. Those I knew who were involved were not
hippies or the less desirables (except for their homosexuality).
‘These were for the most part Mormon elders very active in
their wards. Some had received recognition for the
participation in student affairs.
A significant number maintained B averages or better
through three years of college, even, perhaps, while working
their way through college. There was the ROTC officer who
faced not only expulsion but the loss of his commission and
career as well as the scholarship which enabled him to go to
school at all.
“There were college seniors who had been promised good
positions as management trainees or junior executives upon.
graduation but who would now have to give up such dreams.
Even if one were allowed to graduate what hope did one have
when his official school records, open to prospective
employers, labeled him as a homosexual?
In addition to the personal lives of the students there were
also the families to consider. Some were the sons of
prominent civic or church leaders in their respective
communities and some were even related to a Gencral
‘Authority as I was.
Feelings and emotions were especially high since it was
reported that our friend had confided in another that he had
been promised that if he would supply a list of names he
would be allowed to remain in school at least until theend of
the term with no difficulties presented if he then wished to
transfer to another university or college. Ifhe failed to supply
the names he would be expelled immediately with a good
chance that this would be the end of his college career. Who
could feel good about a traitor who would sell out his friends
just to save his own skin?
There is more I could write, much more, of difficulties
encountered in obtaining employment, of the fact that
although I was not expelled but chose to leave school at the
end of the term without seeing Elder Kimball or attempting
to obtain his approval for further studies, BYU still coded my