: 20 ARABI The Total Woman 1978 MORGAN, In response tothe sexual and feminist revolutions, conservative Christian woman strug to define Deir maria rales inthe 1970s. This et seling advice book by ewanglcat Marabel Morgan (which she dedicated fn port to Anita Bryant) prescribed lar ways in which a wife com si naancousy confor to bbial norms ond engage ino ing 9 fe {think in superlatives, so naturally T expected that my marriage to Char Te Morgan Would be the worlds greats. Both of us were determined to give cur best to each othe, but my knowledge of what that enaled was ol T believed in the allAmerican Cinderella story, mariage was Tully curtains at dhe kitchen window, stavbertes for breakfast, and lovin’ he ine. oma Tp NI: Ree 179, 8, 1, 1 ig ‘ste months passed, however, our ves became more complicated, and we gredlly changed “Ashe years Wore on, things got Worse. Tein ke one bit Something dretichad io be done! collision course Tas on “The chance begsn with ry pursit of knowledge. I bought all the ‘marriage books L could find read unl fet cross eyed a night [took ‘selinprovement courses. stud hooks on psychology. I tue the Bible. Over and over cortsin principles emerged and I began to apply ‘hem to my marviage “The reals of applying cortain principles to my marviage were $0 evolatonary tht Jado pass them oa i the fourlesson Total Woman ‘nurse, and now in this book "This book isnot intended to be the ulmateauthoriy on marrage. Far from i [don't pretend to have an automatic, endptoear answer for every marrage problem. I do beliew i is posable, however, for lost say wile to bave her husband abscutly soe her in just a fw ‘weeks ime. She can revive romance, reestablish communication, break down berrers, and pat lake back ino her marrage. ealy up 0 hier She has the power. I. throuh reading and applying these procpls, you became a Tota ‘Wonnan, with your husband more ia love with you than ever before, forts in wring tis book wll have een rewarded made decision o change the Prychiatrsts tll us that a man's most asie needs, outside of warm semua oe, are approval and admiration, Women need to he loved; men feed tobe admired, We women would do well to remember this one important difference between us and the other hal, Have you over wondered why your husband docst just melt when sou tell him how mich youlove hin? Bet try saying, “Tadmire you” and ee what happens. you want to free him to express bis Hogs ad ‘motions, begin by filing up his empty exp with admiration lemnst be filled rt for he has nothing to gireunt tis ned ismet. And when his ‘ip rans over, guess who lives inthe overflow? Why, the wery ane who Jha been ing up the eup—you! Love your fsband nol hin in reverene, isa bo the Bib ht meas admire hi, Revrence, according tthe dctonas, means respect, honor, este, adore, praise, enjoy an admire.” What causes most ofthe problems in your marrige? [fin that ‘he confit between two separate eos is usually the culpit—your‘icwpint versus his viewpoint If they happen tobe the same, fine If ot av 2 often the case conf ess ‘The bblial remedy for maria conflict is state “You wives must submit to your hushands’ leadership inthe same way you sub othe Tord”. God planned for woman to be under her husband’ le, ‘Now before you seream and throw this book away, hear me out First ofall ome says you ave to get married, Myo donot wish a apt 0 ‘aman, the negative plication to stay single Ifyou are maried but ‘ot apf, you peobably already koow thal marrige the lorous ‘experience you ncipated. Secondly you may think, “That's not fit. T have my rights. Why’ shouldnt he ape to my way fis, ad then mage TH consider doing something to please hi?" Ihave seen many couples try this new frrangement, unsiceessfuly. Unles te wie apts to hi way of le, ‘there's mo way to ave the conf that seer to oceur "Thirdly, please ate tat [didnot say a woman is inferior to man, or even that a wornan show be subservient fo all en, bu tha a wie Should be under her own fusban’s leadership. Fourthly, another ie piase may calse some consternation +. inthe sime way you submit to the Lod Perhaps you are thinking, “Toa submit tothe Lor. [dnt even ow Him How archaic ean you ct? Bvenif you believe in Hi, who submits to Hi?” ‘The fic is that God originally ordained marrage. He gave certain sround rales an if they ae apled, a marriage wil wrk. Otherwise, the marriage cannot be closely kak because of the Inherent confi betwen your sband’s wll and yours. The evidence i al to ceary vise In some eles there ae now more people geting divorced ech day than geting matied, ‘Man and woman, although equal in status, are diferent in function, God ordsined man tobe the head ofthe fay, ts president, and is vile tobe the executive vice president Every organization has leader tnd the family nit no exepson. There is no way you ean alter oF improve tis arangerment. On occasion families have tied to reverse this and have elected a womaa as president. When this order is turned around, the family is upside down, The sysern usally breaks down ‘within short period of time. Aowing Your husband to be your family president is just good business. Let's bogin by going back to that moment when you fst saw the rman who i now your husband. Specialy let's consider the rst time he saw you. Remember how immaculate You were each time he came tocall? Remember tose long baths and then the powder, perfume, nd en a3 pizav? You felt so confident, and you were so excited you could hardy ‘vat to see him. Dazzling, you floated out to mest hie, knowing he ‘would be pleased just seeing you and being seen with you, ‘Well, what did yu Took ike lastnight when he came home? What Aid you have on this morning when he let for work? Girls, i it any ‘wonder the honeymoon is oer and Instead offecing sought, you bath Feeleaught? TEdaesn'- have tobe that way. One of your husband's most basic need efor you tobe physically attractive to him. He loves your body ia fe, be Iteraly craves it The ther shell of yours is what the real estate people eal “cur appa how the house lols from the outside, Is your cur appeal this weal ‘wht ita five years ago? ‘Many «hushend rushes off to work leaving his wife slumped over a cup of coffe in her grubby undies. His once sexy bride snow wrapped in roles and smells ike bacon andes. Al day lng he's surrounded al he office by dazlng secretaries who emit clouds ofperfome. ‘This is all your husband asks fom you, He wants the a of his reams tobe feminine, sot, and touchabe when he comes home. That's his need. I'you are dum, stringy, or exhausted, he's sorry he came, “That first look tells him your nerves ae shot, his dinner is probably shot, and you'd both like to shoot the kids. I's a bad seoe. Is any ‘wonder so many men come home lat fatal? Tale a few extra maments for that bubble bath tonight your hus ‘band comes ome a 6:00, bathe at 50... I preparing for your six ‘tock date, le ack an let goof the tensions a the day. Think about {hat special man who's on his way home to yu, "Remove al rely bars and be squeaky clean from head foe Be tocable and kissable. For a realy sparking mouth, use dental oss fer breshing your teeth, then brush again, and close with a good ‘mouthwash. You could gret anyone ater tat Have you ever met your husband a the font door in some outa seeously sexy out? T can ear you how, “She's got tobe kidding. My Thusband’s not the type, and besides, we've been married twenty-one years ‘Nope, Im not kidding, especialy if you've been married twenty-one years. Most women dress o please other women rater than their own Ihasbands. Your husband needs you to fail his daydreams "Yu cat be Los of diferent women to him. Costumes provide variety without hnn ever leaving Home, I bev that every man neods excite Tent and high adventure at home. Never lt hin know what lo expectwhen he opens the front doar; make ike opeaing a surprise package ‘You may bea soldering expo, or an all American fresh beauty. Bet Pini oraprale—a congo a show gil Keep him of guard itis impossible oexplaia Toll Woman in ten minte conversation, rina fourreek couse, rina hox-o-doit book Total Woman isa wy off, a new stud about yoursl, your husband, and your chile, ‘Total Woman starts with te premise that every woman can be rade whole. Even with the complex facets to her personality and the tay oles to play. no woman aeed go Uhoueh life fragmented. ATofl Woman i not just a good housekcoper se fs warm, foving homemaker. She isnot merely a submissive sex partner ste i a sir an lover She isnot just a nanay to her cilden; she fs awoman who inspires them to reach ut sti ip 'A Total Woman i person in her ow right She has sense of pee= sonal security and sefespoct. She isnot afraid tobe hersell. Others may challenge her standards, bu ae knaws who she is and where she isgoing ‘She las the git of discovering whats worth in another person ‘Se dares her husband tise higher than he ever dreamed, She makes ‘marrage eajoyableiastead of endurance contest. She has tural love afar with fe and brings ie to others "You canbe that Tots! Womsn, wth Your priorities in onder and your responsibil in perspective. irs ll, member that you area per son responsible to God, our power Source. Ul you become the kind ‘of woman He wants you tobe, you wil not be able ofl give yourslt to others, for you have ite to ite Fill your eup vertically bere you sitenp to give to others horizontally ‘Yur second priory sto your husband, your arine. Too many bus bands et ost in the shuffle ate Junio atts, or are replaced by ther wives ater activities. Your husband needs to low he's tops on your Tt Your nex priority sas a paren to your ehldven, Good mothers are rot bors; dhey are made by women who wat to be good mothers, ln ‘hose arly years, your children need thei mom at home. Their future development ar more portant than your serory bal Only afer you have met your spiritual needs, the needs of your hus: ‘band and your cikren, should you think of your Profssion o he pub fic: Chie cubs, parties, and social projects, es, but only after orer restored st home. 1 wish you wel Marabel