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Israel has the largest
number of vegans per
capita in the world, and
the trend is growing
fast as food and tech
companies get in on
the action. Activists
hope to keep up the
momentum with
educational campaigns,
new products, festivals,
accommodations and
a planned record-
breaking march.

In a land where the

pace of life is fast and
often stressful, Israelis
have embraced yoga as
a way to relax and find
peace. Whether its
yoga for preschoolers,
mothers-to-be,
employees, or even
soldiers, youll find
every imaginable type
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BRAIN POWER:

Einstein episode
to launch series
Genius is a home runs, but by Carew and the Reuland
National Geograph- getting a lot of hits, year family have been drawn
ic Channel series after year. As he posted together by this remark-
that will present the lives one great season after able event. Since the
of brilliant people. The another, everybody woke transplant, Carew has
first Genius 10-episode up and realized he was a redoubled his efforts to
series began on April true great. He was born urge the public to sign
25 and the subject is in the Panama Canal organ donation cards
ALBERT EINSTEIN Zone, then a U.S. territory and become bone mar-
(1879-1955). The consen- in 1945. Canal Zone trains row donors.
sus of advance reviews is still were segregated by The Tribeca Film
that the series depicts race then, and Rods Festival, founded by
Einsteins colorful life and mother was black, so she Robert DeNiro, has
multifaceted personality had to sit in a rear car. Albert Einstein Walter Isaacson Dr. Rodney Cline become a major cultural
pretty accurately. It relied She went into labor on a event.Its an honor for a
on the release, in the last rear train car and rushing film to be selected to be
30 years, of Einsteins to her aid from the shown at the festival. A
huge correspondence by front was Dr. RODNEY film called Keep the
the Einstein Papers CLINE, a Jewish physi- Change is playing there
Project in Israel. It also cian. In gratitude, Rods this year. It tells the story
used WALTER ISAAC- parents named him of the challenges that
SONs very good 2007 Rodney Cline Carew. face two people with
biography, Einstein, His Rod and his parents Aspergers Syndrome as
Life and Universe, as a moved to Manhat- they try to maintain a
major source. tan when he was 12. relationship. It co-stars
I liked Isaacsons book Two Jewish scouts for lifelong Bergen Coun-
because it explained Ein- the Minnesota Twins ty resident BRANDON
steins science in a way I signed him right out POLANSKY, 39. The last
could mostly understand. of high school. In 1967, Rod and Marilynn Carew Brandon Polansky showing is on April 30.
It also was very good he was the American A panel discussion of
on how much his Jewish League rookie of the was the only effective Rod played his last six ulands parents told CBS the The Godfather and
background influenced year, and he won many treatment, but finding a seasons for the Califor- News that their son was The Godfather: Part
him. Sadly, the series re- other honors before he donor who had matched nia Angels and he made so excited to meet Carew II will air, live online,
views say that Genius is retired in 1985. In 1970, Michelles rather rare ge- his retirement home in that he talked about it on Saturday, April 29,
not the place to get a lay Carew wed MARILYNN netic background proved Southern California. After all day. at 8:10 p.m. Log on to
understanding of the sci- LEVY, a Jewish woman impossible. Rod and retiring, he frequently In 2015, Carew suffered the Tribeca Film Festival
entific breakthroughs that he met in Minnesota. The Marilynn went public and did goodwill appear- a massive heart attack Facebook page, atface-
made Einstein a genius. couples three daugh- appealed for donors, but ances at local schools, and needed a trans- book.com/tribeca.
Its odd how so ters were raised in their no match ever was found. including Jewish day plant. On Dec. 12, 2016, The panel includes all
many lives have mothers faith. Michelle died in 1996 at schools, where he an- Reuland, 29, a six-year the major surviving ac-
recurrent themes. I Marilynn and Rods 18. The New York Daily swered questions, signed NFL football player, died tors from the two Godfa-
think youll see them mixed ethnic and racial News reported that Rod autographs, and so on. of a brain aneurysm. By ther films DeNiro, Rob-
when I tell you some- heritage didnt help when and Marilynn were devas- Of course, he visited his sheer chance, Rod Carew ert Duvall, Diane Keaton,
thing about Rod Carew, their daughter MICHELLE tated as they sat shiva for own childrens middle received Reulands heart Talia Shire, and JAMES
now 71. Carew earned his was diagnosed with their daughter. Sadly, the school, and thats where and one of his kidneys. CAAN, 77 as well as
place in the baseball Hall leukemia in 1995. A Carews split up shortly his kids classmate Kon- You can find many online Francis Ford Coppola,
of Fame not by hitting bone marrow transplant after this tragedy. rad Reuland met him. Re- stories, now, about how who directed them. N.B.

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Left vs. Right
Jewish journalists bring
their debate to Paramus JCC
J
LARRY YUDELSON
onathan Tobin and J.J. Goldberg have been sparring in
print and in person for years.
Mr. Tobin is a man of the right: After editing Jewish
newspapers in Connecticut and Philadelphia, he did
similar work for Commentary for several years, and he now
is the opinion editor for JNS.org. Mr. Goldberg is a man of the
left: He was editor of the Forward, where he now is a regular
columnist.
The past few months, the two editors have been traveling
together, taking their debate to synagogues, and they say to
an audience eager to see that arguments can be civil. Their
presentation, Left vs. Right: The Battle for Israels Soul, is
coming to Paramus next Sunday night. (See box.)
Its been a fascinating experience traveling the country,
Mr. Tobin said. Its given us both a lot of insight into what
people are thinking about the dysfunction in American poli-
tics and Jewish discourse.
Were living in a sort of bifurcated society right now. Peo-
ple read and listen and watch different media. They have dif-
ferent sets of facts as well as different sets of opinions, and
never the twain shall meet. Within the Jewish world we tend
to do the same to each other, especially with regard to debates
about Israel. Most of the debate isnt generally for the sake of
heaven, between two people who want something good but
disagree on how to get there. Its a debate between one side
calling the other fascists and oppressors and the other side
calling the other self-hating Jews.
His debate with Mr. Goldberg, by contrast, is a chance to
hear two people disagree passionately about a great deal, but
theres no name calling, Mr. Tobin said. Its argument, not to find it. Were not persuading each other, but holding each
merely assertion. Its done in an affectionate way.
Audiences seem to appreciate their tone.
When you model civil behavior, you get civil behavior
back, he said. People want to be told to behave, to be civil.
When you show them how its possible to have a civil debate
even when talking about difficult issues, they respond in
kind. It might seem an unremarkable thing to have a civil
debate, but its not unremarkable in 2017. The manner in
which our program is done is something the community
needs to focus on.
As for the actual content of the debate, We are given
four basic questions about Trump, about the peace process,
about Israel and the world, and about BDS, Mr. Tobin said.
We go back and forth on these different questions, and
then we have questions from the audience.
Weve both been happily surprised by how warmly the
program is received, he said. Its something theyre not
getting elsewhere. Its not what theyre seeing on TV, or in
their own lives, where people on social media are defriend-
ing each other and flaming each other out.
Even as they are divided, they want to be reassured that
Who: J.J. Goldberg and Jonathan Tobin
What: Debate, Left vs. Right: The Battle for Israels Soul
When: 6:15 p.m., Sunday, May 7
Where: Jewish Community Center of Paramus /
Congregation Beth Tikvah, E. 304 Midland Avenue,
Paramus
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J.J. Goldberg (left) and Jonathan Tobin (right) debate Israels future in Cincinnati earlier this year. Shari Goren
Sloven, a professional divorce mediator, moderated.
the things that unite us are greater than what divides us,
he said.
With the duo expecting to log 40 debates by the end of May,
and future dates being scheduled for the fall, has the argu-
ment had an impact on the disputants?
No, we havent changed each others minds, Mr. Tobin
said. Weve sharpened each others arguments. We take
each other seriously. Weve been listening to each other and
debating each for many years. That doesnt mean well fall
to our knees and say weve seen the light and changed our
minds. Thats not going to happen for either of us. But if
theres a weakness in each others arguments, were going
other accountable.
Were not two ideologues, were two journalists. Were
tethered to reality, we live in the real world, we write about
it, we report about it, were grounded in whats going on and
what actually happens.
There are subtle changes to our positions, Mr. Goldberg
said, that result from listening to each others arguments. But
part of our job is to contrast our views. We have to stick to our
guns regardless. What happens more is we learn how each
other thinks and we start stealing each others lines.
The tour has taken Mr. Goldberg to places in America
he has never been before, including Birmingham, Louis-
ville, and Omaha. Its not all homogenous, he said. The
towns are more different from each other than you might
think. We did four different gigs in Los Angeles and they
were each very different.
So what do American Jews think about Donald Trump?
On the whole, they dont like him, Mr. Goldberg said. To
the point where weve been in congregations where the rabbi
says that they have problems. In the fall, people found they
were being ostracized if their neighbors found they were vot-
ing for Trump. Parents of preschoolers were telling their kids
not to tell their friends how their parents voted. A rabbi told us
he was counseling several married couples who were on the
verge of breaking up because they voted differently.
You say something about Trump one way or the other,
most of the people start clapping. It really gets a rise out
of them. The rest of them, a minority, scowl and get mad
again, he said.
Have American Jews ever been this divided before?
When I was living in Los Angeles, working for Workmens
Circle, people would tell stories about the 1920s, when com-
munists and socialists in the Jewish community broke over
the Russian revolution, Mr. Goldberg said. They had gang
fights over who would control a building in Detroit. They
would fight with lead pipes and chains. I dont think any-
bodys fighting with lead pipes and chains this year.
Mr. Goldberg said he offers a message that most people
dont hear all the time: Peace is possible, and Israel would
be safer with a Palestinian state than without one.
The general image of the Israeli peace movement is that
they favor the Palestinians over the Israelis, that its primar-
ily driven by Palestinian rights, he said. I make the case
that the main issue is what will keep Israelis safer. I dont try
to convince them that Palestinians are suffering. The case I
make is that separation is necessary because the Palestin-
ians dont like Israel. There are 6.5 million Israeli Jews, 2
million Israeli Arabs, and 4.5 or 5 million Palestinians in the
territories. Theyre pretty much equal numbers. Youve got
more than 4 million people under Israeli control who dont
want to be.
Mr. Tobin, however, argued that if it were a matter of
making peace with the Saudis, Israel is open to it. The rela-
tions with the Saudis are oddly cordial these days. The prob-
lem is the Palestinians and Palestinian political culture,
which is still rooted in the century-old war against Zionism.
Its very clear Palestinian President Mahmoud Abbas
has neither the will nor the ability to make peace, Mr.
Tobin said. Thats why theres no confidence in the peace
process. Even the leaders of the two opposition parties to
Netanyahu say their idea is to basically wait 10 or 20 years,
and then the Palestinians will be ready.
But Mr. Goldberg argues that Israels leading security
experts disagree with those politicians, and that an agree-
ment with the Palestinians is possible.
The Israelis refusal to believe what the security estab-
lishment tells them is very similar to some Americans
refusal to believe what the scientists tell them about global
warming, Mr. Goldberg said. In both cases theyre matters
of life and death, and in both cases the respective experts
are pulling their hair out right now.
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Celebrating Yom Yerushalayim with music
Synagogue to feature acclaimed pianist Drew Petersen
LOIS GOLDRICH
D
rew Petersen recently
awarded the 2017 American
Pianists Award is coming
back to Temple Avodat Shalom.
The last time he visited, in 2014,
the now 23-year-old highlighted the
River Edge synagogues Selichot pro-
gram. This time, hell be there for Yom
Yerushalayim.
So how does the acclaimed performer
who has performed solo, concerto, and
chamber music recitals in the United States,
Europe, Asia, and the Middle East and was a
top prizewinner in the Leeds International
Piano Competition, Hilton Head Interna-
tional Piano Competition, Kosciuszko Foun-
dation Chopin Competition, and the New
York Fryderyk Chopin Piano Competition
come to be participating in a program com-
memorating the reunification of Jerusalem
and the establishment of Israeli control over
the Old City in June 1967?
No, Im not Jewish, but I have visited
Israel, Mr. Petersen said. Ive been lucky
to have had a lot of Jewish friends. Some of
them brought me to Israel, where I played
a recital in Tel Aviv and then went to Jeru-
salem. It really was a moving experience as
a Christian.
Im Armenian, and Ive found over the
years that a lot of our Armenian and Jewish
histories are very similar, he continued.
I can certainly sympathize and under-
stand many aspects of the Jewish culture
and faith. Basically, he said, It feels like
such a small world, especially in the Mid-
dle East. Everything is very connected.
For example, he explained, it was fasci-
nating to him to learn about Jerusalems
Armenian quarter.
That connection, he finds, is enhanced
by music. Music in general is a tool,
whether Jewish, or Israeli, or Western
European, the bulk of my repertoire. Great
art has a way of expressing universal truths
and connecting all of us to each other.
Still, to paraphrase a well-worn phrase
about politics, in the end, all connections
are local.
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Drew Petersen
Mr. Petersen, who grew up in Oradell
and continues to live there, began piano
lessons when he was 5. Now a masters
student at Julliard, he will graduate next
month. Its a crazy life, he said, noting
that after winning the American Pianists
Award he had to go on a media tour. His
parents are the most supportive peo-
ple, he said, and its nice to be home.
According to Mr. Petersen, he got to be
the River Edge synagogues pianist on
call because his neighbor and longtime
family friend Connie Schnoll founder
of the synagogues Schnoll Music Fund
heard me playing when I was growing
up and admired my playing. She wanted
me to play more in New Jersey, closer to
home, and share my artistry locally. She
was very well connected to the temple
and was able to convince them to bring
me here twice to share some of my music
with them. I feel really privileged to share
my passion with others.
The May 23 program will contain
works by both Israeli composers and
American composers of Jewish heritage.
Naomi Lewin, a former WQXR commen-
tator, will provide narration between the
pieces.
Israel is one of the younger nations
on the planet, Mr. Petersen said, and
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works by Israeli composers tend to be
more contemporary. In addition,
he said, many of the really quite well
known composers of the early and mid-
1920s were Jews, such as Gershwin and
Copeland. He is not sure yet whose
work he will include in his program,
but there will be an eclectic grouping
of them, featuring both the musical
works and commentary on the compos-
ers themselves and the historical back-
ground of their pieces.
In order to have listeners enjoy his
work, I have to enjoy it and be inspired,
Mr. Petersen said. Thats what motivates
me. Ive been working with the rabbi
the synagogues Paul Jacobson over
the past few months to come up with a
concept for the program. We regularly
discuss what our thoughts are and what
were going to do. Its a partnership, a
real collaboration.
I am fortunate to have these opportu-
nities to explore Judaism and Israel. Its
as much a learning experience as a per-
formance. It makes me really happy to be
constantly learning.
For his part, Rabbi Jacobson is very
excited about the program and the
opportunity to work with Mr. Petersen
again. While the program is still in for-
mation, the evening may include selec-
tions by Paul ben Haim, Alexander Bos-
kovich, Yehezkel Braun, Marc Lavery,
George Gershwin, Leonard Bernstein,
and Aaron Copeland. The rabbi said
that his young guest brings to the eve-
ning a warmth, genuineness, passion,
and willingness to lend that presence in
a positive way.
Rabbi Jacobson has been doing some
research on the composers. I found out
that Copeland was raised in a Conserva-
tive Jewish family, he said. I didnt know
he had that background. He pointed out
as well that the piano that will be used
at the program is being donated by Forte
Piano in Paramus, and the entire evening
is being subsidized by the Schnoll Music
Fund, which was set up so that the con-
gregation can have events such as this.
Rabbi Jacobson has worked with the
Princeton-born Ms. Lewin before. Ms.
Lewin, a former host of weekday after-
noon music on WQXR and of the pod-
cast Conducting Business, has produced
intermission features for Metropolitan
Opera broadcasts and music programs
and feature stories for NPR. She also has
been an emcee, host, and moderator for
concerts, galas, and other events. And
as a singer and actress, she continues
to appear onstage and to give talks on
operas.
Asked whether the Yom Yerushalayim
program might be seen as a political
statement about a unified Jersalem, given
the political climate today, Rabbi Jacob-
son said, We cant celebrate or com-
memorate Jerusalem without it being a
political statement. But playing music
creates space for people to appreciate
that in their own right. It allows them to
acknowledge different views.
Music can allow people to celebrate
Israel and Jerusalem and acknowledge
the significance of the day while lead-
ing them to have their own opinions,
he said; indeed, Its more effective for
being a musical program than strictly a
verbalized one.
The program is important, Rabbi
Jacobson added. If our Jewish commu-
nity is not standing with Israel with
what we see in the world then people
wont stand with us. Weve seen this from
the beginning of time.
Who: Pianist Drew Petersen
What: Will perform a program to com-
memorate the 50th anniversary of Yom
Yerushalayim
When: On Tuesday, May 23, at
7:30 p.m.
Where: At Temple Avodat Shalom, 385
Howland Avenue, River Edge
Cost: $10 per person
Doors open at 7 p.m. Refreshments
to follow
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Beefing up security
Congressman Pascrell wants to more than double security grants
LARRY YUDELSON Grant Program.) These threats are coming into the program. Lets bring the number to

T
he federal grant program that
has enabled synagogues and
other Jewish institutions in
northern New Jersey to upgrade
their security would more than double
under a proposal advocated by Congress-
man Bill Pascrell (D. NJ-9).
Mr. Pascrell has sent a letter asking that the
allocation for the grant program be raised to
$50 million annually. The letter was signed
by 112 congressman, including all but one of
New Jerseys congressional representatives,
and addressed to the co-chairs of the House
Appropriations Committee Subcommittee
on Homeland Security. Rodney Frelinghuy-
sen (R. NJ-11), who heads the Appropriations
Committee itself, is the only member of the
state congressional delegation not to sign the
bipartisan letter.
With the rise of hate groups in our
nation, now more than ever Congress
needs to strengthen the NPSGG, the letter
declared. (Thats the Non Profit Security
The funding allows nonprofit through not only in calls but in
organizations to apply for grants verbal threats in meetings, he
for specific forms of security said, noting an upsurge of white
improvements. Synagogues and supremacist hate groups. As the
other Jewish institutions have letter detailed: According to a
received a large portion of the report released by the Southern
grants since the program began a Poverty Law Center, the num-
decade ago. ber of hate groups in the United
Mr. Pascrell drafted the let- William Pascrell States rose in 2016, and at least
ter in the wake of the series of 550 of the 917 groups are anti-
bomb threats made to Jewish community Semitic in nature. The report details groups
centers and other Jewish institutions in active in 2016, which include 99 categorized
January and February. This week, Israel as neo-Nazi, 100 as white nationalist, 130 as
indicted an 18-year-old Jewish man with Ku Klux Klan and 21 as Christian Identity,
dual Israeli American citizenship for the a religious movement that says whites are
bomb threats as well as many other cyber- the true Israelites and Jews are descended
threats stretching back several years. The from Satan.
mans name cannot be disclosed under The point of the request for funding: No
Israeli law because he was a minor at the one should feel unsafe in a place of worship
time of the offenses. or in a community center, Mr. Pascrell said.
Mr. Pascrell said that the discovery that I had talks with some of the folks who
the threats were coming from a Jewish signed on last time we did this, he contin-
teen does not lessen the need for more ued, explaining why he wrote the letter. I
funding for Jewish institutions. said were going to have to put more money
$50 million.
Thats the sum of all the grant propos-
als the Department of Homeland Security
received last year for the $20 million in
available allocations, he said.
Will the funding increase materialize?
Im very optimistic, the congressman
said. It has to go to the Appropriations
Committee. Ive already talked to my good
friend Rodney Frelinghuysen about that.
Were going to do everything we can to
make sure it gets a fair hearing.
The program is targeted for urban and
suburban areas, and that, along with the
large Jewish community, has meant that
New Jersey has been second only to New
York in receiving grants under the program.
Last year, New Jersey received more
than $4 million, Mr. Pascrell said. The feds
know this is a multifaceted state. They know
where the threats are coming from. Theres
a great need here.
Im happy Ive been able to assist those
communities in the district who applied.

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Deconstructing media bias

Honest Reportings CEO to speak for JNF in Rockleigh
Joanne Palmer

T
he news media should be accu-
rate and unbiased; opinion
should not masquerade as fact,
and gut instinct should not
replace clear-eyed reporting.
Seems obvious, doesnt it?
But in our brave new world, where fab-
ricated reporting on the one hand, and
unsubstantiated often unsubstantiable
because untrue charges of fake news on
the other have made many people wary
about believing anything particularly if
it challenges their long-held beliefs it
often is hard to get accurate and unbi-
ased reporting.
Now combine that with the virus of
anti-Semitism, which nothing yet devised
by humankind has eradicated, although
at some times and in some places it hides
deep underground.
Honest Reporting was created in early
2001, in response to a photograph of
a young man, face and body streaked
thickly with dark red blood, and an Israeli
soldier standing over him brandishing a
baton. The photograph, which was sent
out by the AP and was printed in the New
York Times, among many other outlets, Joe Hyams talks about media bias.
was captioned as showing a Palestinian
who had been beaten by the Israeli sol- in London, two in Jerusalem, and two in
dier on the Temple Mount; in fact, it was Boston. Go figure! he said.)
the picture of a young American Jewish Israelis in general, and the Israelis who
student, Tuvia Grossman, who had been started Honest Reporting in particular,
beaten by Arabs who pulled him and two were all so smart, but sort of geeky and
friends from a taxi in Jerusalem. The cap- helpless, Mr. Hyams said. I want to
tion eventually was corrected, but the bring my communications know-how to
correction was grudging and of course a product that was already genius. They
far less widely seen than the original should know how it would look from the
photo, which genuinely was shocking. outside, how it could be played by our
That caused a few students to engi- enemies. Israel was giving comments
neer an email chain, Joe Hyams said. Mr. like, Theres an internal investigation
Hyams is Honest Reportings CEO; hell going on and we cant comment on it.
be speaking for the Jewish National Fund Understanding the role of the media
on May 7. (See box for details.) and war and conflict isnt a luxury. Its
That was before broadband, he con- central to having the world understand
tinued; it was all the technology allowed our motivations and our aspirations.
at the time. But it was a way of going pub- If only it were that simple, of course.
lic. The whole concept was that one per- Part of Honest Reportings job is coun-
son might not make a difference but a tering false reports. It does that, at least
thousand people might. in part, by teaching people including
Honest Reporting chugged along, high school students how to discover
doing what it could, until about 2005, media bias. It does not do so by pretend-
when Mr. Hyams joined it. Hes a Lon- The Hyams family made aliyah in 2005. ing that there are no fissures in the Jewish
don-born Jew, who strongly identified as community, that all Jews see Israel in one
a Jew he went to a Jewish day school, to return. When I got to Israel profes- worlds side. way, or that Israel is perfect. But Honest
belonged to a traditional Orthodox shul, sionally, I saw that Israel had a bit of a Mr. Hyams went back to London and Reporting has built a high school curricu-
and taught Sunday school there but communications problem, he said with continued his work in advertising, but in lum that teaches about media bias, which
still he had nothing to do with the Jew- British understatement. For all the bril- 2005, he was invited to run Honest Report- it defines as, among other things, failing
ish professional world at all, he said. He liance that it had, there was no idea of ing, and so he and his wife, Sharon, made to provide appropriate context, quoting
was an advertising executive at Saatchi how to express or articulate it to the aliyah, and he began his work, interrupt- sources on one side but not on the other
and Saatchi; in 2000, he was posted to world, which was full of people looking ing it for a few-year stint in Boston as he (usually, of course, on the anti-Israel
Tel Aviv for two years. for evidence that Jews are bad. earned an MBA in Jewish nonprofit work side), and subjecting Israel to scrutiny
That had not been Mr. Hyams first trip I saw the disdain with which other peo- at Brandeis. ( Joe and Sharon Hyams, a that is far harsher and less forgiving than
to Israel, but it strengthened his resolve ple looked at Israel. It was a thorn in the piano teacher, have six children; two born it uses toward any other country.

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When they apply analytic standards to news bring reporters to a clinic that JNF has, on the border with Anthony Lowenstein, who verbally attacked Yair Lapid,
reports, sometimes we can take the passion and the Syria, that treats wounded Syrian children, Mr. Hyams the leader of Israels Yesh Atid party, using the trope,
heat out of the Jewish community, Mr. Hyams said. said. They see a Syrian mother kissing an IDF soldier. You popular among BDSers, that compares Israels policy to
We ask how we can stay so broken and divided if we dont need spin. These are good stories, that sell them- South African apartheid. Honest Reporting did some
understand information and misinformation. Thats selves. We think that all we have to do is get the media in background investigation, and we found that the Guard-
where his advertising background comes in. When front of the true story. ian, which he claimed to be working for, said that hes not
people understand how the media can be used to sell And on the flip side, a few of our successes have been its correspondent of record, and now theres a big ques-
stuff, to pitch stuff, it can help the community feel in exposing BDS activists thats the Boycott, Divestment tion mark over his ability to report from the area.
more empowered as consumers. Selling a car is not so and Sanction movement who use press credentials to It seems clear that despite Honest Reportings hard
different from selling an idea, he suggested. Its fairly get into Israel and write anti-Israel stories. He pointed to See Media page 13
easy to help people see something a place, an object,
an idea through a reporters lens, particularly if its
something theyve never seen, a place theyd never
been, an idea theyd never considered themselves.
Take, for example, Brazil. The countrys a dump,
Mr. Hyams said; its dirty, dangerous, and a politi-
cal minefield. But we see it through someone elses
lens. We see it as colorful, exotic, exciting, full of great
music and wonderful vivid colors. Its an advertisers
job to sell a potential consumer on a trip, but the
medias job is to bring me what I cant see firsthand,
with as little tint as possible, he said. Our job, and
Honest Reporting, is to notice the tint, and to tag it.

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To point out that there is a human being behind that
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We try to tell our own story.
There are a few reasons why there are so many

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Remembering with an ambulance
Park Ridge woman donates another emergency vehicle to Israel,
this one in memory of Holocaust survivor
ABIGAIL KLEIN LEICHMAN
T
hey lived on the same street
but Ernie Haas and Donna
Fried Calcaterra never crossed
paths until a couple of years
before Mr. Haas died at 91 in August 2016.
Still, that was long enough for Ms. Calca-
terra to learn that they had something else
in common. That was their desire to assist
the people of Israel.
Last Sunday, on the eve of Holocaust
Memorial Day, Ms. Calcaterra dedicated
a Magen David Adom ambulance in Mr.
Haas memory at a ceremony at the Park
Ridge Marriott.
It was the 15th ambulance she has
donated to MDA through her 613 Founda-
tion or at least MDA thinks is the 15th.
Shes lost count. MDA is Israels national
emergency medical response organization
and official Red Cross agency since 2009.
(At least MDA thinks its the 15th. Shes lost
count, she said.)
Every ambulance has a story, Ms. Cal-
caterra said. This one feels particularly
special because its honoring Ernies last
wishes. And his story had to be told.
She met Mr. Haas through her cousin,
Jacob Solomon ( Jack) Berger of Mahwah,
who translates yizkor books Holocaust
memorial books into English from Yid-
dish and Hebrew.
Ernie happened to attend a talk Jack
was giving, and he told Jack how he sur-
vived the Riga ghetto and six camps, Ms.
Calcaterra recalled.
Mr. Haas also mentioned that he was one
of four people left in a local group of Riga
survivors who wanted to donate funds
theyd collected over the years to an Israeli
cause, possibly to Magen David Adom. Mr.
Berger suggested that Mr. Haas call his
cousin, who oddly enough happened to
live on the same block in Park Ridge.
The newfound neighbors talked for
two hours, exploring the amazing coin-
cidence of their geographic and ideologi-
cal proximity.
When we found out Donna was our
neighbor, we joined her for lunch, and she
brought us a miniature ambulance char-
ity box from American Friends of Magen
David Adom and gave us literature and
told us what her foundation was doing,
and we thought it was a wonderful idea,
said Myrna Haas, Ernies widow.
Ms. Calcaterra runs the 613 Founda-
tion with her daughter, Jenna, in tribute
to her late husband, Salvatore Calcaterra,
whose Wall Street brokerage number was
613 the number of commandments
in the Torah. In addition to donating
12 JEWISH STANDARD APRIL 28, 2017
Donna Calcaterra, left, and Myrna Haas.
ambulances, Medicycles, mobile intensive
care units and bloodmobiles, the fund also
helps Israeli soldiers in various other ways.
Ms. Calcaterra, originally a commodi-
ties broker, learned how to trade stock
options, so she could contribute to the
coffers of the 613 Foundation, when she
was 60.
Everything the foundation does helps
Israel, particularly the soldiers, said Ms.
Calcaterra, who also has facilitated the
donation of ambulances from churches
in her voluntary capacity as head of the
AFMDAs interfaith outreach program. The
foundation now is raising money toward
construction of an underground, sheltered
MDA blood center in Ramleh.
Over the course of a few meetings, Ms.
Calcaterra learned that Mr. Haas shared
her passion for Israel, though in many
ways his feelings were the product of his
tragic personal story.
In the face of growing anti-Jewish vio-
lence in 1938, he, his parents, and his two
siblings escaped to Furth from Neumarkt,
a Bavarian town in Germany. In November
1941 the family was deported from Furth
to a labor camp, Jungfernhof, and then to
the Riga ghetto. Thus began nearly four
hellish years of slave labor, beatings, cold,
and starvation.
His younger brother had been sent
out of Germany to the United States on
a Kindertransport. In 1943, Mr. Haas
mother and his older sister, Ilse, were
interned in Strasdenhof, a labor camp
near Riga. He saw his sister only once after
that, in April 1944, through a barbed-wire
fence as he passed by on a transport. He
HOWARD WECHSLER
received word that August that his mother
had been murdered, but he didnt know
what happened to Ilse.
He told me that what kept him going
was the thought that if his sister survived
there would be nobody left for her, so
he had to stay alive, Ms. Calcaterra said.
In fact, his sister had been killed, but he
didnt find out till after the war.
At his liberation on March 11, 1945, Mr.
Haas was 20 years old, and he weighed 80
pounds. In July 1946 he sailed to America
with $10 from a charitable organization
in his pocket. He married Myrna in 1959,
and they had three sons. In his forties, Mr.
Haas started a highly successful commer-
cial real-estate company.
My husband was a phenomenal per-
son, coming here penniless, the only sur-
vivor of his town, becoming not only a
successful businessman but a successful
mensch and a parent par excellence, Ms.
Haas said.
She added that she and her husband
felt fortunate to meet Ms. Calcaterra and
learn about the possibility of donating
an ambulance.
We were very impressed with her phil-
anthropic generosity and her kindness,
especially since Israel meant so much to
my husband, Ms. Haas said. It was a
refuge that wasnt available to him and
his family in the 1930s. Weve always sup-
ported Israel but this was something very
concrete to help the people of Israel.
Mr. Haas was battling health problems
then, though, and the ambulance pur-
chase was put on hold. When Ms. Cal-
caterra learned of Mr. Haas death from
stomach cancer in August 2016, she was
recovering from a broken hip.
Myrna called to tell me he had passed
away and I felt horrible, Ms. Calcaterra,
who also has donated two bloodmobiles
and a Medicycle, said. But I knew there
was some reason for our meeting one
another. I called AFMDA and asked the
regional director to pay a shiva call on my
behalf and let Myrna know I was donating
an ambulance in Ernies memory.
Gary Perl, AFMDAs director of major
projects, said the new ambulance shown
Every ambulance
has a story. This
one feels
particularly
special because
its honoring
Ernies last
wishes. And his
story had to
be told.
off to family and friends of the Haas fam-
ily last Sunday will be shipped to Israel by
freighter. In approximately two months
from now it will arrive at the port of Ash-
dod and will be incorporated into the
Magen David Adom fleet, he said.
That fleet, which carried approxi-
mately 637,000 patients to Israeli hos-
pitals last year, includes 700 white
life-support ambulances (which cost
$100,000) and 374 yellow mobile inten-
sive care units ($125,000), as well as
more than 300 three-wheeled Medicycles
($36,000). Some 100 new ambulances
are needed every year as older ones
get decommissioned.
MDA does not receive Israeli govern-
ment funding, so it relies heavily on the
generosity of donors like Donna Calca-
terra, Erik Levis, the director of commu-
nications for AFMDA, said.
Ms. Haas said she was extremely
touched by the donation.
As Donna always says, the spirit of the
person whose name is on the ambulance
lives on, Ms. Haas said. When it makes
a run to pick up a victim or a sick person
or a mother in labor, Ernies spirit will be
there comforting them, and thats a com-
fort in a small way to me.
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Media
FROM PAGE 11
Interior Designer
work, its not changed the world. The worlds bil- (former interior designer of model
ious view of Israel is not going away, Mr. Hyams
rooms for NYs #1 Dept. Store)
said. People ask me why I do this they say that
its not working, and that I must be so depressed,
because its like Whack-a-Mole. You bat one down,
and another one pops up. For a totally new look using
But I say that our motivation stays high.
He compares Honest Reportings work to being your furniture or starting anew.
the head of a police force. You know that your goal
isnt to eradicate crime, but to keep people safe. In
the media context, we see that people are checking
Staging also available
in with us, that they are being more careful, that
they are trying hard to research complex stories.
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People come to Israel expecting to find a certain
story, he said. But now, its much harder to find
media bias. The media wont fall any more for stories
like the murders in Jenin. That was the 2002 story
that alleged that the Israel Defense Forces had com-

This Yom HaAtzmaut,

We see that people
celebrate red, white, and blue.
are checking in with
us, that they are
being more careful,
that they are trying
hard to research
complex stories.
mitted a massacre in Jenin. The story was untrue and
it was debunked it was clearly false, as anyone who
looked closely at it was able to see but it did a great
deal of harm.
The media has learned that we are not monsters
with horns, Mr. Hyams said. Our doctors treat the
kids of our enemies. And we find that even when the
New York Times gives Marwan Barghouti an op ed,
right away the public editor apologizes.
(On April 16, the Times published Mr. Barghoutis
piece, wherein he accused Israel of torturing him
and other prisoners. He was identified as a Pales-
tinian leader and parliamentarian. Israeli leaders
on all sides of the political divide said that the accu-
sations were untrue; moreover, Mr. Barghouti was
misidentified, as the papers public editor, Liz Spayd,
agreed. In fact, he has been, as the Times amended
the column to say, convicted of five counts of mur-
der and membership in a terrorist organization. Mr.
Barghouti declined to offer a defense at his trial and
refused to recognize the Israeli courts jurisdiction Magen David Adom, Israels largest and premier emergency medical response agency,
and legitimacy. has been saving lives since before 1948. And supporters like you provide MDAs 27,000
The problem isnt going to go away, but the world
paramedics, EMTs, and civilian Life Guardians more than 90% of them volunteers
would be a worse place if we werent here, Mr.
Hyams said. with the training, equipment, and rescue vehicles they need. So as we celebrate Israels
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Marching for science

A look at why science matters to us, as Americans and as Jews
MIRYAM Z. WAHRMAN, PH.D.

Last weekend American scientists left their

labs and went out to protest.
They were demonstrating in support of
science and all that it does to improve our
modern lives, and lamenting that science
has been devalued and is under attack.
Scientists are protesting a proposed 30
percent budget cut to the Environmental
Protection Agency, which conducts cru-
cial research on climate. They are protest-
ing steep cuts to the National Institutes
of Health and other government agen-
cies, which for decades have propelled
the United States forward to be the world
leader in science. They also are protesting
the loss of access to government data on
the environment and other targeted areas.
The free exchange of data is critical to the
success of the scientific process. Hundreds
of thousands of scientists, students and
other supporters turned out to March for
Science in Washington, D.C., New York,
Chicago, and hundreds of other cities and
towns across America.
What has science done for us lately?
Thanks to science we are living longer,
healthier lives, breathing cleaner air, and
drinking cleaner water. We can thank sci-
ence for miracle babies born through repro- Dr. Miryam Z. Wahrman
ductive technology, for extended human
lives, cured diseases and mended hearts. influenced by politics, profit, prejudice, of the beach experience. Nowadays, I am
or preconceived notions. We can have happy to report, beaches have improved
What is science? confidence that scientific theories model thanks to environmental awareness, and
The term science refers to a methodi- systems in an objective way. For instance, Thanks to the thanks to new technologies, such as dou-
cal approach to learning about the world. the cell theory explains how the lowliest ble-hull regulations that help control the
The scientific method involves a series bacterial cells and the loftiest human cells men and women worst offenders, the oil tankers. My child-
of steps, which include recognizing and function in similar ways. The theory of who diligently hood memories of shore birds on Long
defining a problem, offering an hypothesis evolution, based on a vast body of research Island beaches include only seagulls and
or explanation, and systematically testing on genes, cells, and ancient and modern study the world the occasional pigeon. Thanks to improve-
the hypothesis by observation and experi- organisms can explain how diverse life on using a scientific ments in the environment, more bird spe-
mentation. Data is collected, analyzed, our planet came to be and how it will con- cies have returned; today we hear the
and the original hypothesis is examined to tinue to evolve. And the research of thou- approach, we shrill call of oyster-catchers, we watch pip-
see if it is supported, or must be rejected in sands of scientists collecting evidence on can enjoy a ing plovers dash back and forth dodging
favor of a new hypothesis. This empirical a warming planet objectively supports waves, and we gaze at the graceful diving
approach can lead to better understand- global climate change. Out of 16,208 peer higher quality terns and cormorants. There also has been
ing of the problem, to useful conclusions, reviewed journal articles on global warm- of life. an increase in sightings of seals and whales
and to solutions to the problem. Tested ing and climate change published between in Long Island waters.
and verified scientific conclusions can be 1991 and 2013, more than 99.8 percent of Scientific knowledge about how to pre-
formulated into scientific theories. Scien- the experts agreed that human activity pharmaceuticals, surgical techniques, serve the environment has resulted in
tific theories (which should not be con- was responsible. and neonatal medicine have contributed much improved natural areas for wild-
fused with colloquial theories gener- greatly to the dramatic increase in aver- life and people, a win-win situation. Ive
ated from half-baked or trivial ideas) are What science can do for us? age life expectancy. Some examples of shared stories about the good old days
based on knowledge accumulated through According to the Centers for Disease Con- life-extending developments include vac- of tar heels on the beach with my chil-
scientific research. They are grounded in trol and Prevention, a baby born at the cines, antibiotics, clean air and water, and dren and grandchildren, and I hope that
a process that is self-correcting, typically turn of the 20th century had a life expec- anesthesia. Thanks to the men and women these stories remain distant memories,
open to challenge by other scientists, and tancy of 47.3 years. In the early 1900s, who diligently study the world using a sci- so future generations can enjoy the new
in the end, a process that inspires confi- infant mortality was high, women rou- entific approach, we can enjoy a higher improved seashore.
dence in the value of the outcomes. The tinely died in childbirth, and tuberculosis quality of life.
scientific method is a means to lift the veil and other infectious diseases were com- Thanks to science, our world is cleaner The danger of
of mystery, revealing facts and truth about mon and typically fatal. A baby born in and healthier than it was when I was a rejecting science
the world. 2015 has an average life expectancy of 79.3 child. Years ago, I would end up with gobs What happens when science is marginal-
Science is an objective approach years if born in the United States and 82.5 of tar on my feet after a visit to the beach. I ized and ignored? Science deniers wreaked
designed to ask questions about our if Israeli born. Scientific advances in micro- became adept at scraping the tar off with a havoc in the Soviet Union for decades,
universe. It is not, and should not be, biology, nutrition, hygiene, immunology, broken shell, and I took it in stride as part SEE SCIENCE PAGE 16

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Science
FROM PAGE 14
from the late 1920s to the 1960s, when
Trofim Lysenko and his followers pro-
moted an approach to agriculture that
was not science-based. Lysenkos pseu-
doscience, which denied genetics and
Darwinian evolution, fed into communist
ideology and attracted support of Soviet
leaders, particularly the ruthless dicta-
tor Joseph Stalin. Under the influence of
this anti-science campaign, thousands
of scientists were imprisoned in labor
camps, many were executed, and genet-
ics research was halted. Scientific knowl-
edge was severely impeded, and as crop
yields worsened, the people suffered.
A more recent example of what
can happen when science is ignored
involves the disastrous movement that
promotes an anti-vaccine policy. The
anti-vax movement was based on a fal-
sified research study suggesting a link
between vaccines and autism, a link that
was debunked rapidly and repeatedly by
reputable scientists. The alarming anti-
vaccine crusade has resulted in dramatic
upticks in cases of the life-threatening
diseases measles, mumps, and rubella.
Another example of anti-science bul-
lies are the climate change deniers who
reject solid scientific evidence to pro-
mote the interests of fossil fuel indus-
tries. This denial of science may lead us
down an irreversible path to major cli-
mate disasters.
The Jewish view of science
What is the Jewish view of science?
Besides the stereotypical Jewish parents
goal of raising my son or my daughter
the doctor, Jewish communities have
a history of strongly supporting scien-
tific inquiry. When you raise the flag
of science, a Jew salutes, Rabbi Moshe
Tendler, professor of biology at Yeshiva
University, is quoted as saying.
Biblical and rabbinic sources support
the notion that Jews should pursue tik-
kun olam, improving the world, a princi-
ple that includes using scientific progress
to improve the quality of life. Another
prime directive, the first mitzvah (com-
mandment), in the book of Genesis, is
be fruitful and multiply, fill the earth
and conquer it. The passage is explained
by commentators as God directing
humans to use science and technology,
albeit in a responsible way.
The stewardship of our world includes
the biblical admonition of baal tash-
khit, do not destroy, vandalize, or waste
resources, as well as commandments
about alleviating the suffering of ani-
mals. In addition, the directive vrappo
yirappe permits Jews to pursue medicine
and become healers. As Jews, we are obli-
gated in all of those areas. While using
our world, we must be good stewards of
our planets resources, minimize the suf-
fering of animals, heal the sick, and leave
16 JEWISH STANDARD APRIL 28, 2017
Maimonides
the world a better place than it was when
we came into it.
In that proud tradition, over thou-
sands of years, we have many examples
of Jewish scientists, physicians, explor-
ers, and seekers of truth. The 12-cen-
tury physician, astronomer, and philos-
opher Maimonides perhaps is the best
known medieval Jewish scientist. In
modern times, Albert Einstein, Salman
Waksman, Rosalyn Yalow, and Israels
Ada Yonath are just a few examples of
the many Jewish scientists who were
awarded Nobel prizes.
There is yet another crucial need to
support the quest for truth and facts.
Holocaust deniers seek to erase historic
facts and cast doubt on the evidence
and testimony of the darkest chapter in
human history. Modern historic research
uses scientific approaches and technol-
ogy to confirm the events of the Holo-
caust. One example is the use of radar
and radio waves to locate the escape
tunnel Jews in Vilna dug during the Holo-
caust. We must support the empirical
collection of facts and preserve docu-
ments, witness testimonies, and artifacts,
to refute deniers and safeguard the his-
toric record of those atrocities for future
generations.
Science and health,
food, conservation,
and our pocketbooks
Science supports the search for objec-
tive knowledge and facts, and challenges
those who seek to wipe out the truth.
Science helps humanity move forward to
improve the human condition by healing
the sick, feeding the hungry, conserving
our natural world, and preserving the
unvarnished facts of history.
At least as far back as Franklin Roo-
sevelts administration, America has
led the world in research productivity
and technological innovation. This is
Dr. Rosalyn Yalow
due in large part to federal support for
research. In the 1970s, federal sup-
port for cancer research and for basic
research led to discoveries that initi-
ated the genetic revolution, which
in turn launched the more than
100 billion dollar U.S. biotechnol-
ogy industry. Scientists studying
cancer viruses discovered enzymes
used to clone or make copies of
genes. Basic research on hot spring
bacteria led to the discovery of a
heat-resistant enzyme now used in
PCR technology. PCR has changed the
face of forensic science (and many other
fields) as it enables the detection and
amplification of small traces of DNA left
behind in drops of blood, semen, saliva,
Dr. Ada Yonath
or a single hair. Those bits of DNA can be
matched to their sources, whether they
be suspects, victims, or uninvolved in planet, and the last few decades have
the crime. demonstrated that we can clean up some
Major cuts in support of scientific of our own environmental messes. Let
research will endanger the American us hope that the noble quest for truth
lead; we will fall behind other countries through scientific inquiry will continue
that support research. The loss of sup- well into the future for the betterment of
port will result in the loss of jobs, not humankind.
only in research, but in the private sec- Let science and scientists continue to
tor, in industries that grow out of new march forward, with our support and
discoveries, and we will lose out on new encouragement.
industries and technology that stimulate
the economy. Younger scientists are most
at risk and are likely to leave the field or Dr. Miryam Z. Wahrman of Teaneck, the
seek employment in other parts of the Jewish Standard science correspondent,
world, resulting in a brain drain. Ameri- is professor of biology at William Paterson
can innovation will stagnate. University and author of The Hand
We all drink the same water and Book: Surviving in a Germ-Filled World,
breathe the same air. We live on one and Brave New Judaism: When Science
planet, rife with bloody history and rev- and Scripture Collide. She does research
eling in glorious accomplishments. Sci- in microbiology and bioethics and is a
ence has permitted us to improve our champion of hand washing.
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Briefly Local
Chametz burning in Teaneck
Many people attended this years annual Pesach Big Bread Burn at the Jewish
Center of Teaneck. Chametz was burned in two large containers in the shuls
parking lot. Children received kosher for Passover lollipops and the Teaneck Fire
Department was on hand to supervise.
Hadassah to celebrate
at May 25th ceremony
Hadassah will celebrate the 1967 return
of its Mount Scopus hospital and the 50th
anniversary of the reunification of Jeru-
salem at a May 25 ceremony with Jeru-
salem Mayor Nir Barkat. It will recreate
the memorable key return ceremony,
when then Hadassah national president
Charlotte Jacobson received a commemo-
rative key to Hadassah Mount Scopus from
Jerusalem Mayor Teddy Kollek, reuniting
Hadassahs two hospitals in Jerusalem.
The Mount Scopus hospital, which was
Jewish Historical Society
to honor Marty Feitlowitz
The Jewish Historical Soci-
ety of North Jersey will honor
Marty Feitlowitz of West
Orange at its annual fund-
raising dinner on May 17 at
Barnert Temple in Franklin
Lakes at 6:30 p.m.
Mr. Feitlowitz, the organi-
zations vice president, is an
architect, historian, and pres-
ervationist; he is being hon- Marty Feitlowitz
ored for his contribution to
the society in the establishment of its new
home in Fair Lawn. The Jewish Federation
of Greater Clifton and Passaic also will be
honored for its generous support of the
organization.
In 2012, Marty joined the Historical
Societys board. He was actively involved
in locating, renovating, and furnishing the
societys new home. Recently he compiled
18 JEWISH STANDARD APRIL 28, 2017
MICHAEL LAVES
attend Atlanta convention
closed after the 1948 attack on a convoy
of hospital personnel, had become a
U.N.-protected Israeli exclave guarded by
Israeli security forces.
The ceremony will honor the memory
of the people who died in Jerusalems
reunification and pay tribute to those
people whose efforts have made Hadassah
Hospital a modern complex that rivals the
best hospitals and research facilities any-
where in the world. For more informa-
tion, go to www.hadassah.org.
a timeline of the Jewish com-
munity in North Jersey, illus-
trating the people, places, and
events in its nearly 180-year
history.
Proceeds from the evening
will benefit the society. The
mission of the Jewish Histori-
cal Society of North Jersey
is to collect, preserve, and
make available the documen-
tary heritage of Jewish life and
culture in Passaic, Bergen, and Hudson
counties.
The society is open to visitors, scholars,
researchers, and students on Mondays and
Wednesdays from 11 a.m. to 3 p.m., and on
Fridays by appointment. It is at 17-10 River
Road, Suite 3A, in Fair Lawn.
For information, call (201) 300-6590 or
go to jhsnj.wordpress.com.
NCJW Bergen County section delegates, from left, Elaine Pollack, Eliza-
beth Halverstam, Sue Kanrich, Ruth Seitelman, Jane Abraham, Bari-Lynne
Schwartz, and Carole Benson
Bergen NCJW delegates
Seven members of the Bergen County
section of the National Council of Jew-
ish Women were among 300 attendees
at the NCJWs 47th national convention
in Atlanta last month. They represent 42
NCJW sections from across the country.
The convention included profession-
ally conducted skill-building workshops,
speakers, and networking opportuni-
ties. The Bergen County representatives
were presidium member Elaine Pol-
lack; co-presidents-elect Jane Abraham,
Elizabeth Halverstam, and Ruth Seitel-
man; past president Carole Benson, and
Teaneck natives are to be
inducted into towns Hall of Fame
Two former Teaneck residents and mem-
bers of the Jewish Center of Teaneck are
among 15 one-time Teaneck High School
athletes who will be inducted into the
Teaneck Athletic Hall of Fame on May 11.
Elyssa Deutsch Goldenfarb, class of
1992, and Steven Siegel, class of 1967,
won important awards and set unbeaten
records while playing for Teaneck High
School. Elyssa of North Brunswick,
whose parents, Barbara and Dr. Paul
Deutsch, still live in Teaneck, is being
honored for tennis, fencing, and golf;
Steven of Texas, will be honored for
tennis and soccer. These accomplish-
ments qualified them for recognition as
Register this week for Norpac mission
The registration deadline for this years
annual Norpac mission, set for Wednes-
day, May 17, is Tuesday, May 2.
For information, including about
NCJW
vice presidents-elect Sue Kanrich and
Bari-Lynne Schwartz. Among the speak-
ers were Hillary Rodham Clinton, who
responded by video to receiving the
Woman Who Dared award and said that
she had been involved with NCJW since
her time as First Lady of Arkansas, and
Congressman John Lewis, the Democrat
who represents Georgias Fifth District,
who received NCJWs Faith and Human-
ity award. For information on Bergen
Countys NCJW and its upcoming pro-
grams and advocacy initiatives, go to
www.ncjwbcs.org.
outstanding athletes of their decade.
The ceremony will be at the Teaneck
Marriott at Glenpointe, beginning with
cocktails at 6 p.m., followed by a dinner
with vegetarian options.
Tickets are available at TAHOF.com.
The Teaneck Athletic Hall of Fame was
the vision of James Vuono, a former foot-
ball and tennis coach at Teaneck High
School. A newly constructed entrance to
the high schools memorial gym serves
as the Hall of Fames exhibit hall, which
houses the records, accomplishments,
and memorabilia of Teanecks finest
athletes.
special rates for college students, clergy
members, and people who live outside
the tri-state area, call (201) 788-5133 or
email avi@norpac.net

Federation plans May calendar
The Jewish Federation of Northern New
Jersey will hold its annual Womens Phi-
lanthropy Spring Luncheon at the Rock-
leigh on Wednesday, May 17. The day
begins with registration and raffle at
10:15 a.m.; the program is at 11 and lunch
and the raffle drawing are at noon.
Honorees include Womens Philan-
thropy past presidents Lauri Bader
and Jodi Epstein; Merle Fish, who is
being given the Kipnis Wilson Fried-
land award, and Donna Weintraub, the
groups Shining Star.
Jill Kargman, author and star of Bra-
vos Odd Mom Out, is the speaker. For
Marking Yom
Haatzmaut with Bar Ilan
American Friends of Bar Ilan University
will mark Yom Haatzmaut on Thursday,
May 4, at 8:30 p.m. Hosts Shelly and
Noam Sokolow will sponsor a cocktail
and dessert reception at the program,
Israels Brain Power: Breaking the
Codes of Childhood Diseases, featur-
ing Dr. Ayal Hendel, principal investiga-
tor and a senior lecturer in the Mina and
Everard Goodman Faculty of Life Sci-
ences at Bar-Ilan University in Israel. Dr.
Hendels research focuses on developing
Chai4ever provides Passover support
Chai4ever began helping families with
Pesach preparations two months before
the holiday. The organization pro-
vides emotional and practical support
for families dealing with the acute or
chronic illness of a parent. Chai4ever
staff and volunteers spent hours help-
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babysitting, and arranging for families to
be hosted for the entire holiday. In addi-
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and children to a chol hamoed extrava-
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is helping more than 500 patients, fami-
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Cancer patient Rachel P. highlighted
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Rockland
Meet the Challah Fairy
Chanalee Fischer Schlisser tells her story
Joanne Palmer
S
o what exactly is a challah fairy? It sounds
wonderful but what is it?
Actually, the better question is, Who is
the challah fairy? That ones easy. Its Cha-
nalee Fischer Schlisser of Pomona Heights, who
went from being a stay-at-home mother, full of more
energy than even toddlers could exhaust, to a baker,
creating more at a time than her family could eat
and therefore depositing the extra ones in friends
mailboxes.
Of course, Chanalees story started before that,
and continues beyond it. So lets start at the begin-
ning. (And lets call her Chanalee, not Ms. Schlisser.
Shes a first-name sort of person.)
Chanalee was born in Boro Park, Brooklyn, the
daughter of a Holocaust survivor and a Holocaust
refugee. Her mothers parents, Morris and Rachel
Rokowsky, lived in Switzerland. Morris saved hun-
dreds of people by helping to get them into Switzer-
land from Germany, Chanalee said. He set up bank
accounts for them; as soon as they got into Switzer-
land, he closed the accounts and set them up again
for the next people. Switzerland stayed neutral dur-
ing the war, so while the Jews there were not com- Chanalee Fischer Schlisser, the Challah Fairy, also runs a caf
fortable during those years, they stayed alive. My in New City.
grandmother was 10th-generation Swiss.
In 1939, the police told my grandparents that the Ger-
mans were close to getting them. Get out of here, they
said. So her grandparents and their four children got on
the last boat out; a fifth child was born in Brooklyn, where
they settled. Mr. Rokowsky started in the raincoat business
and then moved on to more profitable ventures in real
estate, where he flourished.
My father was not happy about the schools in Brook-
lyn, so he and another man started the Beis Yakov school
in Boro Park, Chanalee said. My mother, Ruth, was the
seventh student there. Hundreds of thousands of girls
have gone through it. Its still a fantastic school. It also
was her own school.
Chanalees father, Oscar Lehmann, came from Hol-
land. Her great grandfather, Marcus Lehmann, was a
famous writer in the early 19th century, she said. He
wrote stories for Jewish people that they could read in
their homes. Even very Orthodox children were allowed
to read these books.
Her fathers parents did not leave Europe. People
tried to persuade them, but they said no, this is where
we live. This is where we are staying, Chanalee said. So
her grandparents died in the camps. My father was lib-
erated from Bergen-Belsen with his two sisters when he
was 11, she added. They went to England, and then to
Brooklyn, where eventually he became a civil engineer. He
never showed any anger, his daughter said, but still, and
of course, his experiences in the childrens barracks in the
death camp marked him.
Her parents met at a shtiebel, a small shul in Brooklyn,
and they had five children. My parents raised us with
good values, Chanalee said. They didnt have everything
that everyone else had, but they gave us the best life they
could. They gave us fantastic life experiences, and they
taught us to be good people by their example.
20 Jewish Standard APRIL 28, 2017
In 2003, Chanalee was divorced, and because
she had to do all the deliveries herself, she had to
cut back radically. But she didnt want to stop she
had far too much energy and ambition to stop so
she looked for a place where she could bake. Soon,
she found a tiny storefront that had been outfitted by
another baker, and she was back in business.
She got herself rabbinic supervision, and she went
entirely nut-free, which allowed her to sell challot to
schools. She developed a relationship with the Reu-
ben Gittelman School in New City (which since has
closed) and supplied it with challah. And then, when
I had been there for nine months, the Rockland Jour-
nal News called. The paper did a story on her, shot a
video and ran it, and put it in the local Gannett paper
as well.
That did it. Business exploded. It was almost Rosh
HaShanah, and there was a line around the block,
Chanalee said. And the phone was ringing off the
hook. People wanted challah. Everyone wanted chal-
lah. What do you mean, you cant deliver to my gar-
den apartment in Westchester?
That was a Wednesday. On Sunday I stopped tak-
ing orders, I hired people, and we worked around the
clock for five days. In that tiny little kitchen, with that
tiny little oven, we baked 3,500 challah that year. It
was crazy.
During that time, Chanalee remarried. Four years
Chanalee married an Australian, the child of survivors after she opened the little bakery, My husband said, I will
whose parents wanted to get as far away from Europe build you a bakery wherever you want, but with challah
as they could, and the couple moved to Wesley Hills and alone you wont make it. You have to open a caf.
had four children. Eventually they divorced; Chanalee So we took one of four vacancies in a strip mall in
now is married to Mickey Schlisser, an eighth-generation New City, and we opened a caf.
Israeli on his mothers side. His father survived Auschwitz She also teaches baking classes in synagogues, schools,
and moved to Israel; the family left for the United States and anyplace else where she is invited, she said.
during the Eichmann trial, because he just couldnt Chanalee loves her caf. Talking to her is to be
stay there then. It made him crazy. The family moved interrupted frequently as she talks to her custom-
to Monsey. ers; it is impossible to miss the zest in her voice in
After her husbands death, Chanalees mother-in-law, those conversations.
Esther Schlisser, moved back to Israel, where, Chanalee Her challah, she says, is dense yet fluffy. It is light, it is
said, she became an extremely well-known tour guide in sweet, and it consistently has the same delicious taste. Its
Jerusalem. She was a superwoman, Chanalee said. Every- consistent, too. Its not delicious one week, not so good
one knew her. the next week. And it stays fresh for a week.
But lets get back to Chanalee, a stay-at-home mother, Be sure to tell your readers that you should never
who is starting to bake. It was all very sorcerers appren- refrigerate challah, she added parenthetically. If you
tice. She baked more, and then more, and then more need to refrigerate a challah, just put it in the freezer. In
still. I started using one food processor, and then two, the refrigerator, they just turn hard and lose their taste.
and then four, and then I moved on to a commercial Back to her challah its from Switzerland, she said.
machine, she said. She started baking for friends in 1989, Its so good! I like to tell people that its from love, but
but in 1992, she realized that she could sell challot, and actually its from Switzerland. One of my sisters married a
she did. Her business grew entirely by word of mouth, and Swiss guy and the recipe comes from her. We just tweaked
she was its main employee. She did most of the deliver- it a bit.
ies herself at first; eventually her husband helped. First Although she does not do her own baking anymore,
I delivered to Monsey, then to Teaneck and Englewood, Chanalee still loves to bake. She also loves to feed people
then to the Upper West Side and the Upper East side and to make them happy. After I was in the little place for
only to buildings with doormen and then to Scarsdale a short time, a lady comes in and buys challah and a cake,
and New Rochelle. she said. She is about to walk out, and then she comes
I was delivering to peoples homes, and there was back in and says to me, Your cake and challah make Shab-
no email yet, and no GPS. My biggest challenge was if I bat worth celebrating.
wanted to bill someone, I had to put the bill into the I love that, Chanalee said. I love making peoples
brown bag. Shabbeses special. Thats the reason I do it.
I sold challah to some of the richest Jews in America, Chanalee Fischer Schlissers caf is on 170 North Main
she added. Street in New City.
 Rockland

New City shul Save the date to meet Jennifer Weiner

holds honorary event The Jewish Federation & Foundation million copies of her books in print
The Nanuet Hebrew Center will honor Cantor Barry of Rockland Countys Womens Phi- in 36 countries. Books & Greetings of

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and Amy Kanarek at its April 30 Journal Brunch. NHCs lanthropy group will host Celebrate Northvale, N.J., will provide a book
annual Stanley Blumenthal Community Service award the Power of Women, a spring out- signing at the country club, and par-
will be given to Raoul Cansino, founder of Helping Hands
of Rockland, and to Michael Morenberg and Beth Raines,
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reach evening featuring bestselling
author Jennifer Weiner, at the Rock-
ticipants will be able to buy many of
Ms. Weiners books there.

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NHCs Helping Hands coordinators. The brunch begins at leigh Country Club in Rockleigh, N.J., Womens Philanthropy will raffle

Tovah!
9:30 a.m. at the Rockleigh, 26 Paris Ave., Rockleigh, N.J. on Thursday, May 18. It will kick off a Louis Vuitton Neverfull bag with
The Kanareks will be recognized for their long-time with a VIP reception at 6 p.m. par- matching pochette, valued at $1,180.
service and support to the Nanuet Hebrew Center, the ticipants get a signed copy of one of For more information, call Beth
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(Technology Building) at Rockland
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Ramah scholarship run
The Ramah Day Camp in Nyack Schol-
arship Run is set for June 11 at Rockland
Lake State Park, 299 Rockland Lake Road
in Valley Cottage. At 10:15 a.m., there
will be a 5K run/walk; at 11, there will be
a camper fun run. From noon to 3 p.m.,
participants are offered a barbecue, fam-
ily fun day, and ribbon cutting ceremony
for the new kitchen at 303 Christian Her-
ald Road, in Nyack.
A $25 registration fee includes admission
to the post-run barbecue and events for
Mothers Day in Rockland
On Mothers Day, Sunday, May 14, hun-
dreds of people will gather to celebrate
Mother Earth and to support Keep Rock-
land Beautiful at 3 p.m., at Rockland Lake
State Park. During that celebration, the
group will host a unique event the lon-
gest yoga tree pose chain.
A yoga tree pose is a simple stance
that anyone of any age and ability can
do. All they have to do is put their hands
in the air, as if they were branches. The
advanced version includes lifting one leg
Rockland
Rockland remembers the Holocaust
the participant and family, and an official Hundreds of people RJFS social worker
Scholarship Run tee shirt. There is a $100 filled the New City Carol H. King, the
minimum fundraising requirement. The Jewish Center on April class drew dozens of
first 15 runners to register will receive a cus- 24 for Rockland Coun- people to the Rock-
tom, Ramah Nyack technical training shirt. tys community-wide land Jewish Commu-
All proceeds benefit the camper schol- Yom HaShoah com- nity Campus to learn
arship fund. Last summer, Ramah Nyack memoration. Victims about the Righteous
provided more than $100,000 in camper of the Shoah were Among the Nations
tuition assistance. No camper is turned remembered and sur- who risked their lives
away from camp for financial reasons. For vivors were honored to save Jews during the
information, call (212) 678-8884 or go to at the commemora- Holocaust. Rocklands
RamahNyack.org/scholarshiprun. tion, which featured community-wide Yom
keynote speaker Dan HaShoah program-
Mc M i l l a n , au t h o r ming culminated with
of How Could This a commemoration at
Happen: Explaining
the Holocaust. The
Dan McMillan the Rockland County
Courthouse later that
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are standing on one leg. The pose helps Holocaust Museum & Center for Tol- many of whom told their stories about
improve balance and mental focus. erance and Education and the Jewish relatives who died or survived the
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schools, sports teams, and other organiza- land County. Museum and Center for Tolerance and
tions to join to create a branch to help sup- On April 25, the Jewish Federation Education joined the Justice Brandeis
port it. Adults and teens will receive a set & Foundation of Rockland partnered Law Society to organize Mondays
of gardening gloves to commemorate the with Rockland Jewish Family Service observance at the courthouse, which
event; kids will get a fun eco-inspired gift. and the Museum to offer Righteous ended by lighting six candles, symbol-
To register, go to www.keeprocklandbeau- Resisters, a free lunch-and-learn izing the six million Jews killed during
tiful.org or call (845) 708-9164. Orange & class. Led by Holocaust educator and the Holocaust.
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Cover Story
Another
on
Goldin Way
Ahavath Torah says goodbye to Shmuel and Barbara Goldin
as they prepare for aliyah and a new life in Israel
I
Joanne Palmer
t wasnt meant as any kind
of pun.
When the city of Engle-
wood recognized Rabbi
Shmuel Goldin last month,
at the dinner that marked
the beginning of his long
goodbye to his rabbinate
here and the beginning as well of
the aliyah that will take him and his
wife, Barbara, to Israel it named the
street that leads to his Congregation
Ahavath Torah Rabbi Goldin Way.
But the thing is, its accurate.
Rabbi Goldin has always looked for
the golden mean, the central way,
the path that unifies diversity while
respecting both unity and diversity.
Its a hard but essential balance,
which has marked his rabbinate and
will remain as the Goldin standard
after he leaves.
Rabbi Goldin, the Brooklyn-born,
Long-Island-reared, Yeshiva-Univer-
sity-ordained son of serious Orthodox
Jews and the grandson of Orthodox
rabbis and scholars, who was born 65
years ago today April 28 and embod-
ies the ever-changing, always-examined,
sometimes fraught, often glorious tension
between Jewish and American values,
came to Ahavath Torah in 1984.
By then, he and his wife, Barbara, a
speech pathologist and dedicated rebbit-
zen who by all accounts, including his,
has been instrumental to his success, had
lived briefly in Los Angeles and then spent to be the successor to Rabbi Swift that he and she goes, Boring. This is so boring.
six years in Potomac, Maryland, where
he headed a shul. When they were ready
to move on, he accepted an interview at
26 Jewish Standard APRIL 28, 2017
trip
Rabbi Shmuel and Barbara Goldin are honored for their 34 years at Ahavath Torah.
Ahavath Torah, then a flourishing 350-fam- nerves kicked in.
ily shul, headed by the formidable Rabbi
Isaac Swift, who had overseen its growth
and was about to retire.
When he agreed to the interview, Rabbi
Goldin recalled for a story in the Jewish
Standard in 2013, he was 30 years old,
and he knew himself to be unprepossess-
ing enough and therefore unlikely enough
began the interview relaxed, with nothing
to lose. As it went on, though, he realized
that he was being taken seriously, and his new talk and of course was hired.
Part of his interview was a presentation
on Shabbat not a dvar Torah, his inter-
viewers stressed to him, but a presentation
and he prepared diligently. He planned
to talk about the state of the modern
Orthodox community, he said. My wife
is a very honest person. She is sitting on
the bed of the room where were staying,
You cant give that talk! after I became the rabbi, about a year and
So he didnt. He revised quickly, gave a
That was 34 years ago.
Since then, Ahavath Torah has
grown to include about 750 fami-
lies, making it one of the largest and
most influential Orthodox shuls in the
country. In that growth, it has forged
a new model, which includes four
different minyanim every Shabbat,
and members from a wide diversity
of backgrounds and approaches to
practice as part of one community.
Other shuls splinter; Ahavath Torah
has remained together, showcasing
unity in diversity.
Now, as Shmuel and Barbara Goldin
are preparing to leave for Israel
although not to cut their ties to the
community, the place where their
five children grew up and so many
of their friendships and memories
are rooted and the shul prepares
to welcome its new rabbi, Chaim
Poupko, who is stepping into to the
senior position after 13 years working
his way up and who was offered the
job after a long and thoughtful pro-
cess it is looking back, in celebra-
tion and gratitude, to its Goldin years.
Its bittersweet, Rabbi Goldin
said. I feel that the relationships, the
friendships, that weve been able to estab-
lish with our community and the Bergen
County community as a whole have been
very precious to us, and I expect that they
will always be part of us.
My journey with the synagogue has
been extraordinary, he continued. I
came to a community that already was well
established, but very different. Shortly
a half after I got there, there was an influx
of young couples, and that changed and

enriched the community.
I dont know what caused it I think
that it might have been God smiling on
us, he said. People discovered Engle-
wood. They already knew about Teaneck,
but Englewood had its own character, and
a lot of people liked what it had to offer. It
is a very heterogeneous community, var-
ied in just about every way. Its varied in
age you have young families just starting
out, in their 20s, and you have people who
The longer you
stay in the
s community, the
d
-
longer you know
e the people you
are dealing with
, personally, the
y
o
more they will
trust you and
g
listen to you.
n have been here for decades. You have par-
ents who have moved in to be with their
e kids, as well as kids who have moved in to
r be with their parents.
In terms of religious background, it
s ranges from rigorously Orthodox to peo-
ple who are not necessarily Orthodox in
background but who are looking for reli-
e gious growth in a community that does
not judge them but allows them to grow at
their own rate, with no one looking over
-
-
their shoulders.
This poses a particular challenge for
. the rabbi, he went on. If you want the
e
religious level of the community to be
constantly moving up, if you want to cre-
- ate an environment that is not judgmen-
n tal but makes clear that not everything
goes, you wrestle with how to encour-
y age growth without making people feel
uncomfortable.
s How can that work? One of the most
I important pieces is to put yourself in the
mix, Rabbi Goldin said. Do not preach
y to them. Instead, preach to us. Say that we
need to grow, that we are growing, that
x this is what we need to do. Do not set your-
self apart from the collective.
And time helps. The longer you stay
in the community, the longer you know
the people you are dealing with person-
ally, the more they will trust you and
listen to you. I was able to speak to the
community after five years in ways I was
not able to the first year, and five years
after that is was different again.
Being part of peoples lives helped me
understand who I was, and people knew
that I wasnt judging them, but that we
were all trying to grow together. It wasnt
about me. It was about us. It wasnt about
what I wanted, but what we could accom-
plish together.
Being personal, being present, being
real, has been a huge part of his rabbinate,
Rabbi Goldin said. He was an avid actor in
college; his roles ranged from the father
in The Fantastics to Polonius (of course
another father) in Hamlet to the main
role, the old Jewish guy in A Canticle
for Leibowitz.
People would say to me, I guess being
onstage prepared you for being a rabbi,
Rabbi Goldin said. But its the opposite.
When you are on stage, you are playing
someone else. Its much harder being the
rabbi, because you are being you.
Of course, he did need a buffer between
himself and the raw emotion he often
faced; rabbis counsel people through trag-
edy, death, illness, fear, and other forms of
darkness. You cant survive if you dont
The city of
Englewood
has named the
stretch of Broad
Avenue that
runs alongside
Congregation
Ahavath Torah
to honor
Shmuel Goldin.
have a buffer, he said. And certainly the
role does demand a certain degree of dis-
tance, and sometimes it can be lonely.
Even in a friendship, there will always be
a certain difference because you are the
rabbi or the rebbitzin. But nevertheless, I
think that what made it successful for me
was investing myself in the process. There
might have been other rabbis who were
more successful in some areas because
they maintained a certain distance, but
that wouldnt work for me.
Rabbi Goldin is a teacher as well as a
preacher and pastor; hes also taken on
highly visible national and international
roles, as a past president of the Rabbini-
cal Council of America, which represents
modern and centrist Orthodox rabbis, and
as an active and influential member of RCA
committees, including the one looking at
the hot-button issue of conversion. But
when he looks back, its at his own com-
munity, and what it has accomplished.
Weve stayed together, he said. Weve I wasnt so excited about that, but
broken the old mold of breaking apart. In
30 years, no one broke away. There are
other Orthodox communities in Engle-
wood, but of them, Sharei Emunah was
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established before he got to Englewood,
and East Hill and Kesher, both at the north
end of town, a very long walk from Ahavath
Torah, were organized with his blessing.
Ahavath Torah, with its four minyanim,
manages to be one community, Rabbi
Goldin said. It is a great accomplishment
to have so many minyanim under one
roof, to give them space to flourish and still
hold them tight.
However, he said, while holding the
community together is a goal, it cannot
be the whole goal. The community has to
be together for the right things, without
compromising whats best for the commu-
nity or for the individuals within it. Thats
always a tension.
He points to the development of one of
Ahavath Torahs minyanim as an example
of the kind of push and pull necessary to
keep a community within boundaries but
at the same time vital. (Another way to
think about it is the what-comes-around-
goes-around principle.) We call it our aux-
iliary minyan, but I also call it the divine
justice minyan, Rabbi Goldin said. When
the influx of young new members began,
soon after he took over at the shul, some
of the more established people came to me
and said Rabbi, we feel like were being
taken over. Why dont you start a young
couples minyan? They wanted the inter-
lopers and their demands gone, housed
It is a great
accomplishment
to have so many
minyanim under
one roof, to give
them space to
flourish and still
hold them tight.
elsewhere. My response was that if the
young people want to be in the main min-
yan, they should be there. So they came
back to me, and said, What if we have our
own minyan?
my wife said, Dont fight it, Shmuel.
Let it develop. Keep them part of the
congregation.
There were certain rules. I would have
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to be able to come in and speak, as he and the not easy.

At left, a young Shmuel
Goldin with a fish he
caught in an Adirondack
lake. Below, a slightly
older Rabbi Goldin
plays guitar; his favorite
American song, he says,
is Proud Mary.
other rabbis do at each one of the other minyanim
every Shabbat and holiday. The alternative minyan
was smaller and therefore more intimate, and also
ended earlier. Eventually the next group of young
people that came wanted to go there, because it was
smaller and more intimate, he said. Now, one of
our challenges is to keep the main minyan happy.
As an aside, Rabbi Goldin added that his wife
was vital to his success. Not only did she take care
of the family, she also provided him with ideas,
inspiration, and advice. She often preferred to
remain in the background, but both her intellect
and her intuition were invaluable to him.
The weekly minyanim also include the hashka-
mah minyan, which is early and fast; the youth
minyan, and the Sephardic minyan.
The Sephardic minyan, which is housed in a
sanctuary that Rabbi Goldin said is perhaps the
most beautiful room in a building he said is full of
beauty, is growing quickly. It has its own advisory
board, and its own rabbi, Rabbi Mordy Kuessous,
who is also the shuls assistant rabbi.
Its open to anyone who chooses to go in as
is true of all the minyanim and the shuls lead-
ership works hard to integrate its members with
everyone else.
There are a lot of logistics, Rabbi Goldin said.
And beyond that, you have to make sure that it is
one shul, in the face of all that diversity, and it is
Another innovation hes overseen includes the
introduction of a yoetzet halacha, a woman who
helps other women with the aspects of Jewish
law that most affect their lives, and about which
women generally feel more comfortable consult-
ing another woman than a man.
The Goldins plan to make aliyah in September;
theyll join two of their children and their families
there. (The other three live in the United States; all
are married, and all are flourishing.)
Aliyah was Barbara Goldins lifelong dream,
Rabbi Goldin said, and its a high priority for him
as well. Theyre going now, he added, because
its far better to leave before people start to think
that you might have overstayed. There is a tip-
ping point, and once you get beyond it, there will
be those who said its time already, and then your
leaving is tainted, he said. And we are leaving in
such a positive way, and Rabbi Poupko seems to be
stepping in seamlessly.
Ms. Goldin plans on spending as much time
learning as much as she can, as often as she can,
Rabbi Goldin says; shes also planning to work as
a volunteer speech therapist. His plans are not
entirely firm yet they really cant be until he gets
there, he said. He keeps thinking about two com-
ments from friends at Ahavath Torah. One said
to me, Rabbis dont retire, they relocate, he
reported. And the other very astute friend said,

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the father of the community, and
now you will be the grandfather.
Thats beautiful. The grandfather
doesnt have to live nearby, and
I wont. But I will be keeping my
shul email. And although the
plans are not yet firm, he will
return, perhaps twice a year, to
teach. I very much do not want to
crowd Rabbi Poupko, he said. I
want to let him be his own man.
And of course the Goldins no
longer will have a house in Engle-
wood, so when they return they
will have to stay with local friends, Rabbi Goldin is a past president of the Rabbinical Council
and that in itself will be a new expe- of America. On a trip to Israel, Rabbi Goldin is at a shiva for a murdered teenager.
rience in their old community.
Rabbi Goldin does know that he wants to continue to one for each book of the Torah; hes finishing a book on Rabbi Poupko, who will move into Rabbi Goldins posi-
write. He began his first book on the Book of Genesis the Haggadah, which he plans to have out by next Febru- tion, feels that he is emotionally, intellectually, and spiritu-
a few years ago, when he was on sabbatical in Israel. His ary, in time for Pesach, and he has ideas for his next writ- ally ready for that move because he has learned so much
wife was responsible for that, he added; he never would ing project. from Rabbi Goldin. I started as an intern 13 years ago,
have had the time to write had he not had the time off; he He also plans on continuing his work for the RCA and during my last year of smicha, Rabbi Poupko said. My
would not have taken the time off had Barbara not pushed the OU, including its efforts on conversion. And he will father encouraged me to apply for the internship. Rabbi
for it, and she would not have pushed for it had she not teach, particularly in gap-year seminaries. Goldin had a strong reputation for integrity, for his strong
known that it would give him the chance to write. Now, he In other words, he will be busy. Hes right. This will be sense of modern Orthodox values. His reputation was
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for the internship.
The only reason Im still here is
because of the wonderful relationship
we have enjoyed, Rabbi Poupko contin-
ued. The history of rabbi/assistant rabbi
relationships has claimed many victims,
but thank God I have been enormously
blessed to have Rabbi Goldin as a mentor,
as a teacher, as someone to train under.
He knows how to make space for
other people. He knows how to support
you and to enable you to grow. And it is a
testament to the quality of his character
and his sensitivity as well as his integrity
that he welcomes younger rabbis to train
under him, and to grow and to be able to
flourish on our own, to foster our own
relationships in the community.
That has engendered the warmth and
respect that I feel for him. He has always
treated me like a son, and his wisdom and
guidance have shaped the rabbi that I am,
for sure.
When Rabbi Poupko looks at other rab-
bis, his vision is filtered through a great
deal of experience. Rabbi Poupko, who
grew up in Skokie, right outside Chicago, deep appreciation for Torah learning. Im
comes from a family of rabbis. Both of comfortable in a beis midrash setting I
my grandfathers were pulpit rabbis, he went to the Skokie Yeshiva and then Kerem
said. My paternal grandfather, Baruch A. BYavne, a yeshiva in Israel, and then to
Poupko, was a rabbi in Pittsburgh for more Yeshiva University, where I got smicha. And
than 60 years, and my maternal grandfa- then Ive been in Englewood ever since.
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too young, in 1975, was in Chicago. And have to go all over. I have been enormously
my father, Rabbi Yehiel Poupko, works blessed, not only to have been in the same
in the federation in Chicago thats the place all along, but to work under one of
Jewish United Fund, where his father is the best in the business.
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A
simple letter of thanks. Just an
acknowledgement of someone
who had gone a little above and
beyond.
This Chanukah, at Jeffs urging,
we decided to send out holiday cards.
Ever since Yehudas first Chanukah at 4
months old, we would gather around the
menorah, and Tina would take her art-
ful photographs, which would anchor a
card I designed. It had become an annual
tradition that ceased the year my father
died, as I was in no mood for the happy
portrait. But now that its resumed, cre-
ating the card is so much easier. Tina
still takes the picture, but having a teen-
age IT team (the kids!) takes the design
in-house.
But I still have the cards printed
outside.
This year, I took the flash drive to
Staples copy center for the finished
product. As the holiday progressed, I
wanted to make sure that the cards got
in the mail before the eighth candle, and
asked for the job to be expedited. It was,
and half of the cards were good, and
half were not. They were cut unevenly.
I returned to the store to lodge my com-
musings from the editor
plaint and get it fixed. It
was evening and the store
was very crowded. Susan,
who had not helped me
earlier, was handling the
customers. When it was
my turn, I did my dissatis-
fied customer routine, with
a bit of harrumph.
Clearly, Susan wasnt
responsible for the prob-
lem, but I found it neces-
sary to underscore my unhappiness. It
was not my proudest moment, especial-
ly when I started to observe Susan.
Susan, I saw, was a veteran here. She
held the title of manager. Unlike some of
the other employees behind the counter,
Susan came up in a time when she chat-
ted on corded telephones. She probably
remembered where she was when Presi-
dent Kennedy was shot. Even beyond
her age and experience, her care and dil-
igence became apparent. When another
customer came by to pick up his order,
she eagerly looked at him and smiled,
waiting for his approval of her work. And
he gave it to her.
So when she came to assist me, Su-
san didnt simply reshape
the cards, she printed
new ones, which were
perfect, and she gave me
a stack of envelopes, to
boot! I felt ashamed of
my initial tough girl coun-
ter encounter with her,
and after I finished up, I
asked her if I could con-
tact her supervisor to let
him or her know about
the great job she did. Touched, she gave
me a name and a number.
I took the information home and got
busy, and the business card fell under a
pile, until I found it again, and did what
I said I would. I called the number and
got an email address for the customer
service, and for Shira Goodman, Staples
president and CEO. Within minutes of
emailing a letter praising Susan, I got
a response from the customer service
line and from the presidents office.
A few days later, I went into the store
and saw Susan. I told her that I had writ-
ten the letter and asked if she was con-
tacted. She had not been, so I printed
out the letter for her. She read it and was
moved. So much so that that she wanted
to post in on the wall at work.
About two weeks later, back at Sta- S
ples, I said hello to Susan and she in-
formed that she showed the letter to a In
visiting high-level manager and he was
so pleased that he announced that the
letter would be read, and she would be A
acknowledged before her employers and E
peers at the annual meeting celebrating
a million dollars in sales. h
To say that Susan was thrilled is an
understatement. The letter had gone vi-
ral. She was so happy to get the recogni-
tion, and I was happy for her.
I dont mean to congratulate myself
with this tale.
Its just a lesson that I keep learn-
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so little, that you never know where a
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P
lant seeds for a memorable birth-
day bash or just celebrate spring!
Here are several great garden par-
ty ideas to get you started.
Bloomin Invitations
Create flowers from cardstock and in-
clude party details, along with a sugges-
tion for the children to wear outdoor
play clothes. Place in an envelope, along
with flower seed packets.
Turftop Tommy
Items needed: old pantyhose; ruler; scis-
sors; rubber bands; potting soil; grass
seed; small, flat plastic bowl with lid; per-
manent marker; straight pins.
Cut off approximately
5 inches from one foot
section of a pair of panty-
hose. Pour a little potting
soil into the toe. Gather
hose around the soil
and wrap a rubber band
around it to make a nose.
To make the head, fill the
stocking with about 1-inch
of soil (nose should be po-
sitioned to the side of the
head). Sprinkle grass seed on top of the
soil and, without shifting it, add more soil
on top of the grass seed until the head
is proportionate to the nose. Gather the
nylon opening and tie it off with another
rubber band. Carefully turn the head
over (tied off end will be at the back)
and place in a shallow plastic bowl. Cut
two small oval eyes from the lid, and use
a permanent marker to draw in pupils.
Attach the eyes to the head just above
the nose with straight pin. When guests
leave, tell them to add a little fresh water
to the bowl daily. Within days, hair will
begin to grow.
Crazy Critters
Items needed: cardboard egg cartons; tem-
pera paint; tacky glue; wiggly eyes; minia-
ture pompoms; hole punch; pipe cleaners;
pencil.
Cut and trim egg cups from the car-
ton bottom. Paint outsides of the cups
with tempera paint. Glue two wiggly
eyes and a pompom nose on one side.
Let dry. Trim pipe cleaners to 4 inches.
With a sharp pencil, punch three holes
on opposite sides of each carton cup.
Push pipe cleaners from the outside of
one hole through the inside of the oppo-
site hole, bending pipe cleaner ends to
create legs. Poke two holes on top of the
cup near the eyes and insert pipe clean-
ers to make antennae.
Other activity ideas: Have children
create a mosaic design using various
kinds of seeds, or create garden markers
for plants by painting individual vegeta-
ble designs on flat stones.
Prize Planter
Items needed: small terra cotta plant-
ers painted with bright colors; faux gem-
stones; glue guns (low setting); perma-
nent marker; aluminum foil; small stones;
potting soil; flowers.
Glue gemstones around the upper,
outer rim of the planter. Around the
lower section of the planter, write My
Garden of Delights! Place aluminum foil
around the outside of the planter to pro-
tect it from getting dirt. Place the stone
over the planters interior hole to keep
soil from leaking through
during watering. Fill plant-
er one-third full of potting
soil. Place flowers in the
center of the planter then
cover the roots with pot-
ting soil, gently pressing
around the plant to secure
in place. Remove foil.
Flourishing Games
Divide children into teams
and play one or more of these relay
games: Water Down. Use a small, plas-
tic watering can to transfer water from
one bucket to another. Budding Bou-
quet. Transport flowers one at a time
from a bucket to a vase. Can You Dig
it? Use child-sized shovels to move dirt
from a pile to fill a bucket. Another fun
idea is to give kids a magnifying glass
and paper bag and have a nature trea-
sure hunt.
Dirt Diggin Treat
Items needed: Instant chocolate pudding;
milk; whipped cream (in a tub); crushed
Oreo cookies; gummy worms; serving
cups, spoons.
You can prepare this fun treat or let
the guests help. Prepare instant pudding
according to box instructions. Let mix-
ture sit for 5 minutes until it thickens.
Add whipped cream and cookies. Trans-
fer into serving cups. Add more crushed
cookies on top of the pudding mixture.
Garnish with gummy worms. Give chil-
dren spoons and let them dig in.
Other food ideas include a veggie
tray; cucumber and cream cheese sand-
wiches; veggie or fruit pizza; chocolate-
dipped strawberries and fruit punch.
Denise Morrison Yearian is the former editor
of two parenting magazines, a mother and a
grandmother.
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 CHILDRENS Were Havin A Party
H e i d i M a e B rat t

BIRTHDAY PARTIES
dio spaces with viewing windows, said

W
here did pin the tail on the Ms. Daly. So a parent can watch what
donkey go? It is still around, is going on but can be outside the party
Im assured. The simple party room. Its very chill.

TURN YOUR PARTY game of blindfolded gaffes and attempts

at putting the hind pieces of the donkey
At the recently opened Glow Par-
ty Venue in Waldwick, there is 18,000

INTO A FIESTA AT
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GlowParty Venue is where you can expect to find the
hottest trend of awesome entertainment in Waldwick NJ for
Kids Parties, Bar/Bat Mitzvah, Sweet 16, Adult Milestones,
Corporate and Fundraiser Events and more!
togetherwhat fun!has morphed square feet of fun space for revelers to
into party games of day-glo, lightning
speed, and digital pyrotechnics. Wheth-
er simple or sensational, birthday par-
ties remain a mainstay of childhood
memories and of celebrating a young-
sters achievement into the next year. Its
a special time of revelry and attention
for the child, and there are more ways
and more places to celebrate than ever.
Brand new on the party venue land-
scape is Rain, which is located on Wa-
ter Street in Teaneck, hence, its name.
Opened in March to dovetail with Pu-
rim, event managers and owners have
a stake in creating a go-to place that is
both local in its proximity and sense of
familiarity, but state-of-the-art and cut-
ting edge in terms of its design, ameni-
ties and party planning potential. Veter-
an party planner Deena Greenstein, who
has joined the Rain team as its on-site
event specialist, said that with its 6,500
square foot of available space, including
outdoor space, Rain could be custom-
ized for any party with any theme and
any special event. Bar and bat mitzvahs
are already booked into the future and
later in the summer, Ms. Greenstein said,
there will be a toddlers 1-year-old party
there that will include a childrens story-
book theme.
We are very excited about this,
said Ms. Greenstein. We want to be that
Teaneck place where everyone knows
each other. We hope to create a warm
and inviting environment, as well as a
top party spot with the latest in audio-
visual, lighting and trend-making.
Birthday parties have been one of
the ongoing offerings at Cresskill Per-
forming Arts in Cresskill. The newest
addition to an already varied smorgas-
bord of styles in parties is a class in
silks, hammocks and lyra, the graceful
aerial aerobics that is performed with
enjoy and celebrate a party, said Glows
event manager Wendy Galfund. With two
rooms, one can hold up to 700 people;
the smaller room can hold up to 150
people, the facility, which opened in No-
vember 2016 gives people who have an
event or party there the vibe of a very,
cool New York City club or lounge with
the convenience of it being in Waldwick.
A recent party for a 1-year-old could
have easily been mistaken for a bar or
bat mitzvah because of the pizzazz fac-
tor that Glow puts into every party. We
go above and beyond, Ms. Galfund said.
This was a kids party with a bouncy
house and with all the lights and mu-
sic, the parents were like, Oh, my God.
This is amazing. It looked like you were
walking a major party. People were
blown away.
The Blue Moon Mexican Caf in
Englewood offers kids parties in its
two back party rooms. On the menu,
of course, tacos and other kid-friendly
food, such as chicken fingers and French
fries. The highlight of a party here, said
manager Terry Tiger, is the piata that
comes in an assortment of characters or
animals. The piata opening is a gentle
one. Ribbons are pulled to open up the
candy filled piata. Activities can also
include coloring miniature maracas, col-
oring t-shirts, and playing pin the tail on
the donkey.
At The Performing Arts School at
bergenPAC in Englewood young cel-
ebrants can have a birthday party that
can include a dance theme or a theater
theme or a recording theme, to name a
few, said Arlene Grunfeld, the operations
manager and Becky Hinkle, the manag-
ing director of the schools.
Very popular are the Mommy & Me
parties for toddlers celebrating a birth-
day. It consists of a 45-minute class fol-

KIDS PARTIES
Laser Tag Dance Party
Bouncy House Party Theme Party
Sports Party Digital Invitation
Party Attendants Pizza
Drinks Paper Goods
Teen/ Buffet
Adult Party Set-Up
145 Hopper Ave., Waldwick,, N. J.
www.glowpartyvenue.com 201 255 5955
ropes and hoops. This is a unique way
to push forward another year, as long as
the birthday girl or boy and the attend-
ing celebrants are old enoughat least
7 years oldto participate in the art of
aerial aerobics, said Betsy Daly, owner of
Cresskill Performing Arts.
Ms. Daly said that very popular are
all kinds of dance parties, acting, improv,
dress-up in costume parties, pajama par-
ties and gymnastics and jazz, which can
start as early at 5 years old. The sched-
Wine and ule is flexible, although most parties
take place on the weekend, Saturday or
Paint Party Sunday. Cresskill offers a birthday party
package, which includes all activities,
supervision, instruction, decoration and
foodkosher available.
Whats nice is that we have five stu-
lowed by a break for food and cake in the
lounge area.
Coming to a party here opens up
a world of classes for the youngsters,
said Ms. Grunfeld. And its really a lot of
fun, added Ms. Hinkle.
A tried and true destination for kids
birthday parties, and a top winner year
after year in the best birthday party
category, Bounce U of Paramus with its
bouncy inflatable birthday bashes offers
packages to make the day memorable,
special and fun.
And ice skating is always nice skat-
ing at The Ice Vault Arena in Wayne,
where you can slide and glide and work
up a big pizza and birthday cake appe-
tite while you have good a time to cel-
ebrate with others.

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 Were Havin A Party
H E I D I M A E B RAT T

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 Make It for Mom eek from 4 pm to 10 pm
all w Ask inside for details

And Make Her Happy

H E I D I M A E B RAT T 10. Decorate the frame by sticking on embellishments with
double-sided adhesive tape or glue gun. Reassemble frame.

F
lowers are lovely, but a homemade craft like a
photo frame is a simple yet lasting keepsake that Estimated time: 45 minutes
can help prolong the good memories. For Mothers
Drying Time: About 4 hours, divided.
Day, why not consider crafting a gift for Mom?
Here, an embellished picture frame from Craft-
ing Jewish by Rivky Koenig (Artscroll), might just fit Scrapbook Frame
the bill.
What you will need:
Embellished
Picture Frame 6 or more chip- IHOP Englewood
board lacing cards Home of the Handmade Milkshake
What you 12-inch X 12-inch
will need: scrapbook 141-147 N. Dean Street
paper in colors
and patterns of Englewood, NJ
unfinished wood
your choice
craft frame
scrapbook paper pencil 201-568-8088
sandpaper scissors and/or *Receive one free kids meal with each adult entre purchase. Free meal valid for

paper towels paper cutter Kids 12 and under on Just for Kids menu items at participating restaurants. Drinks
not included unless otherwise specified. Not valid with any other offer discounts or
2 (1-inch wide) glue stick coupons. Dine-in only, for a limited time at participating restaurants. 2014 IHOP IP, LLC
foam brushes hole puncher or Crop-a-dile
acrylic paint in sandpaper
the colors of your choice stickers and embellishments
pencil chipboard, sticker, or die-cut letters
scissors double-sided adhesive foam dots and/or 3-D self-adhesive
decoupage medium, such as Mod Podge foam dots and/or 3-D self-adhesive foam dots
1-inch wide bristle paintbrush ribbon, approximately 1 yard to connect every 2 cards Gymnastics Jazz Creative Legos

Fencing Princess Dance and more age 2-1/2 to adults

Dance Acting Musical Theater Voice Choreography
embellishments: assortment of alphabet stickers, ribbon,
trim flowers, stickers, tags How to do it: Cresskill
double-sided adhesive tape, or glue gun and glue sticks 1. Trace the chipboard cards onto the backs of the scrap-
book papers. Cut out the traced card shapes and the
Performing Arts
How to do it: paper cutter or scissors. You will need 1 card and 2 cut-out 300 Knickerbocker Rd Cresskill
1. Disassemble the frame and set the frame back and glass shapes for each letter of the word you choose.
away from the crafting area.
IMAGINE YOUR CHILD GROWING
2. Use your glue stick to glue the scrapbook paper onto the
front and back of each card. IN CONFIDENCE AND SKILLS!
2. Place the scrapbook paper facedown on the work sur-
face in front of you. Place the frame on top of it and trace 3. Use hole puncher or Crop-a-dile to reopen the lacing
the outside of the frame and the frame opening onto the holes on the edges of the chipboard cards.
back of the paper. Set paper aside. 4. Use the sandpaper to rub around the front and back
3. Take the sandpaper and sand down any rough edges edges of each of the prepared chipboard cards so that you
of the picture frame. Use a damp paper towel to brush off see the inner white part of the paper.
any dust. 5. Glue pictures to the front and back of each card, trim-
4. Using a foam brush, paint the inside and outside edges ming pictures if necessary. Glue on embellishments and
and corners fo the frame with acrylic paint. Place to the stickers with the self-adhesive foam dots, or use 3-D REGISTER NOW!
self-adhesive foam dots to make embellishments pop out. Summer Performing Arts Camp
side and let dry. June 26August 25 Age 3Teens
Attach a letter to each card to spell out the word FAMILY or
5. Meanwhile, cut the outlined frame from the scrap- another word of your choice. Circus Camp NEW!
book paper. Modern/Ballet Intensives
6. Lace one chipboard card to another with the ribbons.
6. Use a clean foam brush to apply a thin coat of Mod
Podge to the form of frame. Press on the traced paper
Knot ribbon or tie into a bow and trim the ends when you HAVE YOUR PARTY WITH US
have finished lacing. Repeat, lacing the other cards until Dancing,
frame. Use your fingers to smooth out any air bubbles. they are all attached.
Let dry. Acting/Improv,
7. Thread ribbon through the holes of either end of your Arts & Crafts,
7. Sand the edges of the paper lightly to smooth display. Tie a bow or knot and trim off excess ribbon. Fencing,
rough edges. Pajama Party,
8. Take a dry bristle paintbrush and dab a small amount Estimated time:1 hour Super Hero, 2016
of paint (in coordinating color) onto the bristles. stroke the & More.
Reproduced from Crafting Jewish by Rivky Koenig with Call to schedule. READERS
paint lightly around the framess inner and outer edges. permission from the copyright holders ArtScroll/Mesorah CHOICE

Let dry. Publications, LTD. FIRST PLACE

9. Use a clean foam brush to stroke on a second coat of

201-390-7513 201-266-8830
Mod Podge over the entire frame.
studio-info@cresskillperformingarts.com
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OurChildren
About

Biographies for Children Inspire, Give Life Lessons

H E I D I M A E B RAT T
Biographies and stories about real people who have
achieved distinction or greatness in some way, shape,
or form can be very instructive and inspirational for
youngsters. These books offer a look at real role mod-
els. Positive lessons can be gleaned from the challenges
and the achievements of their lives.
Here are a few recommended titles that offer age-ap-
propriate and reader-friendly real stories for children.
I Dissent: Ruth Bader Ginsburg
Makes Her Mark
by Debbie Levy (Author) and
Elizabeth Baddeley (Illustrator),
Simon & Schuster Books for
Young Readers
From her beginnings growing
up in the 1930s and 1940s in
Brooklyn, to her being named
the second woman and the
first Jewish woman justice of
the U.S. Supreme Court in 1993, Ruth Bader Ginsburg
spent a lifetime disagreeing. She disagreed with inequal-
ity. She argued against unfair treatment. And she stood
up for whats right for people everywhere. This first
picture book of the celebrated Ruth Bader Ginsburg
tells the justices story through the lens of her many
dissents, or disagreements, and shows that disagreeing
does not make one disagreeable.

Emmas Poem: The Voice of

the Statue of Liberty
by Linda Glaser (Author) and
Claire A. Nivola (Illustrator),
Houghton, Mifflin Books for
Children
Give me your tired, your poor
Your huddled masses yearning
to breathe free
In 1883, Emma Lazarus, a
wealthy Jewish woman who
grew up in New York City wanting for nothing, became
deeply moved by an influx of Eastern European im-

watershed
migrants. Already a woman of letters, Emma Lazarus
penned a sonnet that gave a voice to the Statue of Lib-
erty, a gift from France to celebrate the shared national
struggles for liberty. Because of her iconic poem, the

recreation
Statue of Liberty came to symbolize the United States
as a nation that welcomes immigrants. The text of that
poem, The New Colossus, appears in this free-verse

program
biography, illustrated in folk art style.

A Poem for Peter: The Story of

Ezra Jack Keats and the
Creation of The Snowy Day
by Andrea Davis Pinkney (Au-
thor), Steve Johnson (Illustrator),
Lou Fancher (Illustrator), Viking
This lyrical narrative tells the
The Watershed Recreation Program is now open from April 1 to story of a boy who pursued
November 30, 2017. a dream, and who inspired others to dream on. Born
more than a century ago in Brooklyn to struggling Pol-
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win prizes, scholarships, and jobs as an illustrator. His
New Jersey and Lake Deforest in Rockland County, New York. biggest dream was to write and illustrate his own book.
For two decades he kept a series of photographs of an
adorable African American boy pinned to his wall. The
For an online application visit: boy morphed into Peter, the boy in the red snowsuit
www.SUEZWatershed.com who goes to play in the snow in The Snowy Day, a
timeless story for the ages. It was the first mainstream
book to feature an African American child, and the
first of many books featuring Peter and the children of
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Biographies continued on page15

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Giving Gifts for Mom
The Best Things In Life Are Free
DENISE MORRISON YEARIAN
M
otherhood is a 24-hour job with no pay, no va-
cation, and few fringe benefits except for the
very obvious. It is a labor of love for a lifetime.
While each day is a day to hopefully show appreciation
to your mother, Mothers Day is the big, official day for
cards, flowers, dinners out in the restaurants and other
purchased gifts.
Time and again when asked, mothers would re-
ply that it wasnt an extravagant gift that they really
liked (although, not bad!), but rather tbe attention,
appreciation, and an I love you, that comes through
words and actions. Here are a few ideas that wont
break the bank.
1. A Family Tree
Show mom what a special part of your family she is
by creating a family tree. Find a short tree branch and
place it in a decorated can. Stabilize the branch with
sand, clay or plaster. Next cut out large leaf shapes from
construction paper. Write the names of family members
on one side of the leaves and tape or paste photographs
of them to the other side (dont forget your pets!). If you
dont have a picture of someone, draw it. Punch a hole
through the top of each leaf and thread a piece of yarn
through it. Now tie the leaves to the tree branches.
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2. At Your Service
The gift of service is something that keeps on giving.
Talk with family members about the chores your moth-
er does around the house. On small strips of paper
write down each job she does, and on the other side
write the name of one family member who will volun-
teer to do that task for her. Continue this until you have
covered all of her responsibilities. Find an old shoebox,
place the strips of paper in it, and wrap it up. Present
this to Mom and in the days to come give her service
with a smile.
3. This is Your Life
Make mom feel honored with a special presentation of
This is your Life. Stage the show as if it were a televi-
sion special. Have one person be the show host who
interviews other family members regarding what they
love about Mom. They may also want to share a story
or memory they have of her. Between interviews, pre-
pare a special song, poem or other talent in her honor.
Ask Dad to videotape the program and your mother will
have a keepsake for years to come.
4. Queen for the Day
A day of relaxation and royalty will make mom feel ex-
tra special. When she wakes up, greet her with a home-
made crown and tell her she will be queen for the day.
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Serve her favorite breakfast in bed and ask what she
would like to do today. If she needs a little prompting,
suggest a family hike in the morning, a picnic in the
park for lunch, and a nap in the afternoon. While she is
having down time, wash her car and fill it up with gas.
Make the evening special with a home-cooked dinner
and movie. During the movie, dote over her by rubbing
her feet, brushing her hair, or giving her a manicure.
Throughout the day, remind her of how much you love
and appreciate her.
5. Time Alone
Most mothers of young children have little time for
themselves. Give mom the day off to get a massage, go
shopping, or sip coffee with an old friend. While she is
gone, clean the house, do the grocery shopping, and
prepare a special Best Mom in the World banner for
her arrival home.
Still want to purchase something for Mothers Day?
Here are a few tried-and-true ideas: flowers, plants, or
a tree, perfume, jewelry, scarf, bath set, clothing, CD
or DVD, gift certificate for a massage, manicure, book,
coffee, home cleaning service, etc., tickets to a show,
gym membership.
Denise Morrison Yearian is the former editor of two parenting
magazines, a mother and grandmother.
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Fuel Em with Drink and Food

For Summer Sports Camps
DENISE MORRISON YEARIAN protein acts as an anchor to stabilize the
blood sugar.

A
ll children need nutritionally bal-
anced meals for healthy growth
and development, but for those
involved in rigorous summer sports
camps, the needs are even greater. To
ensure your athlete receives proper nu-
trition and hydration to fuel his or her
growing body and sustain him or her
during the summer heat and sun, con-
sider these suggestions.
1. Count on carbs
Carbohydrates are the macronutrient
that fuels physical activity, so make sure
your child has a consistent source of
carbs every day, said Sharon Collison,
RD specializing in youth sports nutri-
tion and spokesperson for the American
Dietetic Association. Whole grains are
a better choice [than refined grains],
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because they are rich in fiber, vitamins
and minerals and take longer to digest,
which enhances satiety and prevents a
drop in blood sugar. Carb loading isnt
necessary unless the activity lasts more
than 90 minutes. Even then it should
be done under the guidance of a sports
nutritionist.
2. Savvy with supplements
Amy Barausky, RD at A. I. duPont Hos-
pital for Children, said if your athlete
eats the recommended number of serv-
ings found in the Food Guidance System,
he or she would get the right amount
of vitamins and minerals. Vitamin and
mineral supplements are a good idea
and can be used as an insurance policy.
But parents should never single dose or
mega dose any vitamin or mineral with-
5. Food to go
Think ahead on how you can provide
healthy food options in the car. And re-
member, nutrition doesnt have to be a
hot meal, said Ms. Anding. You can do
just as well with peanut butter on whole
grain bread and dried fruit, or frozen
chocolate milk thats been thawed out
in the cooler. Sports foods marketed to-
ward athletes can fill a niche when you
need energy on the go; they should not,
however, replace other foods.
6. Before- and after-event nutrition
Although young athletes should have
carbs and a moderate amount of protein
before an event, they need to know what
their stomach can tolerate, said Ms.
Barausky. Some teens can eat right be-
fore an activity and be fine; others need
at least an hour for their food to digest.
Whats most important is that they not
exercise on an empty stomach.
Anding agrees. After an activity,
there is a 20- to 30-minute window when
the body is most readily able to replen-
ish glycogen, the stored form of carbs.
If your child cant eat right away, offer
something liquid chocolate milk, a
smoothie or a sports drink.

out consulting their doctor or sports 7. Hype up hydration

nutritionist, because it could do more The amount of fluids an athlete needs
harm than good, she said. will depend largely on the climate, his
age and size, body chemistry and the
3. Bank on a balance level of activity hes engaged in, said
An appropriate diet for young athletes Ms. Anding. I tell middle-school ath-
Open to kids from ages 6 to 16
includes getting adequate complex car- letes, When you pass by the water
We promise a 5:1 student - teacher ratio
bohydrates, a lean protein source, and fountain at school, take eight big gulps.
Prizes and trophies for tournaments and competitions
plenty of fruits and vegetables, said Thats about eight ounces. Offer fluids
Camp T-shirts
Roberta Anding, RD, director of sports with every snack and meal. And if your
Our goal is to foster an environment of learning and fun
Ilya Krasnovsky Natasha Komarov, PHD nutrition at Texas Childrens Hospital. teen isnt taking a water break during a
Princeton Graduate Full day also includes: Dartmouth University, Math Professor
St. Lawrence (11 years with ICA) During dinner, your teens plate should practice, speak up.
(16 years with ICA)
Creative art projects, Guitar, Piano and Drum lessons have 50 percent fruits and vegetables, 25 Ms. Collison said Gatorade is good for
Sample Schedule percent whole grains and 25 percent pro- activities lasting more than 90 minutes.
Lessons: 9:00 - 11:00 am Spring tein. If he wants a second plate, let him If its less than that, water is fine. Choco-
Sports: 11:00 - 12:30 pm Disc ounts have his favorite food and dont worry late milk is an excellent recovery drink
thru 5/7/17
Lunch: 12:30 - 1:00 pm about over consumption. Many very ath- since it supplies fluid, carbohydrates
Alex katz Tournament: 1:00 - 3:00 pm Mark Aksen
4th year Princeton
letic teens dont get enough calories. and sodium and tastes great, she said.
3rd year MIT
(16 years with ICA) Full Day (Music/Art): 3:00 - 5:00 pm (13 years ICA) Thirst isnt always a good indicator of
To register please visit our website:
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Growing athletes need three meals and clear straw color your teen is probably
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at least two snacks each day to keep hydrated; if its dark yellow, he needs to
For information call/email:
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growth and development needs, said
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MIT Grad; Software Engineer
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(13 years with ICA) ery three to four hours. Snacks should of two parenting magazines, a mother and
Link to on-line registration for May 7th: have a protein and a grain or a fruit. The grandmother.
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Building a Childs Confidence
Through Building Words
A D I N A S O C LO F
H counterintuitive but
ere are six of the most powerful
things you can say to raise con-
fident children. Print these state-
ments and repeat them often.
1. I love you!
There is nothing more important to a
child than knowing that his parents love
and cherish him. Say this loud and often.
2. Having a child is the best thing
in the world.
This lets kids know how important they
are to you. Adults who grew up in dif-
ficult homes often tell me that they felt
like such a burden to their parents. As
a result, they were scared to have chil-
dren themselves, and when they did
they could not believe how amazing
(tough but amazing) being a parent ac-
tually is.
Let your children know that having
them is one of the best things that can
happen to you. Help them feel confident
that they add value to your life.
3. I know you will make good deci-
sions or You know what is right
for you.
Making good decisions is an integral part
of being a grownup. We need to have the
confidence to look within ourselves and
trust our gut to make those decisions.
So often we dont believe our children
can make good choices. But we need to
let them know that they have it within
themselves to do so. We want them to
listen and trust their own intuition. The
above phrase gives them the boost they
need to access that part of themselves.
OurChildren
About
4. You should be proud of our childrens fears. We then want to
yourself! let them know that eventually they will It sounds
We often tell our children how proud be ready to try new things. (Trying new
we are of them. Thats good but we also
need to ensure that they are feeling a
things is an important life skills and in-
tegral to maintaining a vibrant life.) We to instill confidence in
sense of inner pride. This way they learn can say, When you are ready and you our kids we need to
to self-evaluate and assess themselves
and their accomplishments instead of
get comfortable, you will get into the wa-
ter. When you are ready you will learn show respect for our
relying on others. It also strengthens to ride your new bike! childrens fears.
their self-image by encouraging them
to internalize what they observe about
their own achievements. They learn that Adina Soclof is the director of Parent Outreach for A+ Solutions, facilitating How to Talk so
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Global Warmings
Impact on Seasonal Allergies
D R . M A R G A R E T L . CO
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lobal warming and climate change
are in the headlines today. For
allergy sufferers, the impact of
warmer temperatures on their daily
lives may soon become very apparent. If
you think that your spring allergies have
worsened, you may be right, and global
warming may have contributed to this.
With this years winter being warmer
than usual (temperatures this year were Dr. Margart L. Co
the second highest in history for the
month of February), the pollen season is most likely
2016
going to be early. In the Garden State, the tree pollen
count will surely be one of the highest in the nation.
READERS
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FIRST PLACE million Americans. Symptoms include sneezing, a stuffy
BICYCLE SHOP or runny nose, and itchy, watery eyes. Many also ex-
perience seasonal asthma manifested by cough, wheez-
ing and difficulty breathing. Allergies can significantly
impact quality of life by disrupting sleep and affecting
learning ability at school and productivity at work.
Although pollen can be difficult to avoid entirely,
these tips will help you to enjoy the spring:
Stay indoors as much as possible during peak pol-
len days (sunny and windy days). The best times to be
outdoors are in the early morning and on cloudy, wind-
less and rainy days. But who wants to be outside during
these times?
Better yet, monitor pollen counts so that you
know when to limit your exposure outdoors.
Pollen counts are different from pollen forecasts,
which are based on current weather conditions and
the previous years pollen counts. Pollen counts are
performed by counting stations located
throughout the United States and are
required to meet stringent certification
standards. The National Allergy Bureau
(NAB) provides the most accurate and
reliable pollen and mold levels.
Sign up for free email alerts by
visiting www.aaaai.org from your smart-
phone and adding the app to your
home screen.
Keep your windows at home
closed and use air conditioning if pos-
sible. Also keep car windows closed and
use the re-circulate option for air conditioning.
Take a shower after spending the day outside to
remove pollen from your hair and skin. When outdoors,
wear sunglasses and a wide-brim hat to reduce pollen
blowing into your eyes.
Take your medications at the start of, or even
before, the pollen season and take them regularly
throughout the season, especially if your allergies tend
to be severe.
For long-term relief of allergy symptoms, talk to
your allergist/immunologist about immunotherapy (al-
lergy shots). This is a proven treatment approach that
provides lasting benefits for many people suffering from
allergic rhinitis. Sublingual immunotherapy (allergens
in tablet form administered daily under the tongue at
home) is another form of allergy immunotherapy that
is available by prescription for patients with certain al-
lergies who do not want to get injections.
Dr. Margaret L. Co is the Director of Allergy and Immunology
at The Valley Hospital

What to Do
When the Season
Says Ah-Choo!
H E I D I M A E B RAT T
S
easonal allergies have arrived, and
with them the itchy and puffy eyes,
the runny nose, to name just a few
of the uncomfortable symptoms that are
a nuisance and more for youngsters.
About Our Children consulted with
Dr. Debora K. Geller, whose specialty
is pediatric and adult allergy, asthma,
and immunology, for her advice on the
matter.
About Our Children: Parents some-
times think that its a cold, from a change
in the weather, but how can they tell
whether a child has a cold or allergies?
Dr. Debora K. Geller: Colds and
allergies can often be difficult to differ-
entiate. Typically with allergies there is
sneezing, itching, redness, and generally
clear drainage. Colds or upper respira-
tory infections can often present with
the same symptoms. However, itching
is usually a symptom that can differenti-
ate the two. Typically with allergies one
does not have a fever or thick discolored
nasal drainage.
AOC: Have there been any break-
throughs in allergy treatment for chil-
dren and teenagers?
Dr. Geller: Treatment typically relies
on topical and oral medications like na-
sal steroid and antihistamine sprays, al-
lergy eye drops, and oral antihistamines
such as loratidine, cetirizine, or fexof-
enadine. Many of these medications can
be now found over the counter at local
pharmacies. In addition, immunothera-
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Survivors Club:
The True Story of
a Very Young
Prisoner of
Auschwitz
By Michael Born-
stein, Debbie
Bornstein Holinstat,
Farrar Strauss
Giroux Books for
Young Readers
In 1945, in a now-famous piece of World
War II archival footage, 4-year-old Mi-
chael Bornstein was filmed by Soviet sol-
diers as he was carried out of Auschwitz
in his grandmothers arms. While most
children lived for no more than two
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AOC: Can a child expect to outgrow www.bergenallergydoctor.com
the seasonal allergies such as sensitivity
to pollen and hay fever?
Dr. Geller: Some childrens symp-
toms do improve over time, but others
symptoms may worsen so it depends
on the individual and needs to be
monitored.
AOC: What is your best advice to
parents for their children when it comes
to treating allergies?
Dr. Geller: My recommendation to
parents is to first try over-the-counter
simple medications like loratidine, ceti-
rizine, or fexofenadine, but if symptoms
persist or even worsen, they should seek
medical attention. Allergies may lead to
school absences and force a child or
even an adult to miss many outdoor ac-
tivities. However, if a proper regimen is
quickly initiated much of this morbidity
due to allergies can be avoided. In addi-
tion, I recommend to parents who have
children with known moderate to severe
pollen allergies to start treatment with
certain medications before the season
begins. I often try to have families come
in for a follow-up visit for their spring al-
lergies around February to prepare for
the spring months. This is a good time
to start refilling medications and taking
certain medications.
Heidi Mae Bratt is the editor of About Our
Children.
weeks after their arrival at Auschwitz,
the extraordinary courage and ingenu-
ity of his mother and grandmother kept
him safe. The story told in Survivors
Club moves from the Nazi occupation of
Bornsteins small hometown in Poland
to Auschwitz and finally to the years af-
ter the end of the war when members of
his extended family became displaced
persons. While the violence can be
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learning, thoughtful discussion and leadership. We enjoy observing holidays felt that her husband was unduly harsher lationship with his father will suffer as he
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with him than with their daughters. He ex- grows into teen hood. The relationship be-
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verify details before you go. Deadline for June issue (published
May 26): Tuesday, May 16

DaybyDay Thursday, May 4

Sunday, April 30
Yom Hazikaron Ceremony: Join the JCC on the
Palisades to commemorate Israels fallen soldiers
and victims of terror with a special ceremony in
both English and Hebrew that will include pre-
sentations by community members and youth
movement representatives. Free. 7 p.m. JCC on
the Palisades, 411 E. Clinton Ave., Tenafly. www.
jccotp.org.
Monday, May 1
Playtime at the Library: Come and enjoy
a morning of fun amidst the many books at
Englewood Public Library. From 10 to 11 a.m.
Mackay Room. Englewood Public Library, 31
Engle St., Englewood. 201-568-2215.
Bar Bat Mitzvah Classes: Students will pre-
pare for this rite of passage from 5 to 6 p.m.
Congregation Bnai Jacob, 176 West Side Avenue,
Jersey City. Info@bnaijacobjc.org, 201-435-5725.
El Dia de los Ninos: El Dia de los Ninos/El Dia
de lost Libros (Childrens Day/Book Day) is a
celebration of children, families and reading. Join
in for a simple craft. 7 to 8:30 p.m. For 4 years
and older. Teaneck Library, 840 Teaneck Road,
Teaneck, 201-837-4171. www.teaneck.org.
Wednesday, May 3
Weekly Wednesday Story Time: The Childrens
Department becomes a special fun-filled activ-
ity and craft center with its weekly 11 a.m. story
time event. Barnes & Noble, 765 Route 17 South,
Paramus. 201-445-4589.
Author Event: Odd Birds author Ian Harding
will be on hand for a pre-signed/ photo op event
at 7 p.m. Purchase is limited to two books per
customer. Barnes & Noble, 765 Route 17 South,
Paramus. 201-445-4589.
Meet Clifford, Saturday, May 6
Teen Book Club: Calling all teens 14 to 19. If you
love reading and talking about books, this group
is for you. The first title is The Hate U Give by
Angie Thomas. Barnes & Noble, 765 Route 17
South, Paramus. 201-445-4589.
Friday, May 5
Blue Jeans & BBQ at Temple Emanu-El of
Closter: Join in for a 6 p.m. barbecue dinner
followed by Kabbalat Shabbat services at 7 p.m.
Temple Emanu-El of Closter, 180 Piermont Road,
Closter. 201-750-9997.
Friday Family Shabbat at Temple Emeth: Join
for services starting at 7:30 p.m. Temple Emeth
1666 Windsor Road, Teaneck. 201-833-1322,
www.emeth.org.
Saturday, May 6
Shabbat Beyachad: Shabbat Together for ages
3 to 7 years old at Temple Emanu-El of Closter.
10:15 a.m. Join a musical Shabbat experience.
Temple Emanu-El of Closter, 180 Piermont Road,
Closter. 201-750-9997.
Meet Clifford: Clifford the Big Red Dog comes
to the childrens event as a costumed character.
Photo op and a chance to meet a beloved char-
acter of the childrens books. 11 a.m. Barnes &
Noble, 765 Route 17 South, Paramus. 201-445-
4589.
Dragons Love Tacos 2: A special childrens
event at 11 a.m. It has been discovered that there
are no more tacos left in the world because, as
you know, dragons just love them. Join for the
hilarious reading. Barnes & Noble, 765 Route 17
South, Paramus. 201-445-4589.
Sunday, May 7
Chess Championship: International Chess
Academy is holding its Dr. David Ostfeld
Memorial ICA Championships, a daylong play-
off for players of all ages and of all levels of
experience. The event will be held at Bergen
Academies, 200 Hackensack Ave., Hackensack.
To sign up and for more information call
International Chess Academy at 201-833-1741,
or sign up online at www.icanj.net.
Open House: The Religious School of Temple
Emanuel of the Pascack Valley holds an open
house for 4 year olds entering kindergarten in
September 2017. 11 a.m. to noon. Please RSVP
to Margie@tepv.org..Temple Emanuel of the
Pascack Valley 87 Overlook Drive, Woodcliff
Lake. 201-391-0801, www.tepv.org.
Childrens Book Week Celebration: To honor
Childrens Book Week, author Carol Roth, who
wrote Hold Your Temper Tiger and other
titles will appear at Books and Greetings, 271G
Livingston St., Northvale at 12 noon. 201-784-
2665.
New and Young Family BBQ: Join Temple
Emanu-El of Closter for a 4 p.m. barbecue, face
painting, balloon art and more. For location and
information, contact Tammy Ween, 201-750-
9997 or ween@templeemanu-el.com.
On The Map: Following the celebration of
Israels independence, join the Kaplen JCC on
the Palisades for a screening of On the Map, a
documentary that recounts the story of how one
Tel Aviv Maccabi team no one thought could win
Meet Pinkalicious Author Victoria Kann,
Saturday, May 13
toppled the four-time defending European cham-
pions. 8 p.m. JCC on the Palisades, 411 E. Clinton
Ave., Tenafly.
Monday, May 8
Bar Bat Mitzvah Classes: Students will pre-
pare for this rite of passage from 5 to 6 p.m.
Congregation Bnai Jacob, 176 West Side Avenue,
Jersey City. Info@bnaijacobjc.org, 201-435-5725.
Tuesday, May 9
PJ Library Baby Meetup: Twice monthly class for
parents and babies 24 months and younger. 11 to
11:45 a.m. Also May 23. Free. USH, 115 Park Ave.,
Hoboken. kaplanprograms@gmail.com
Wednesday, May 10
Weekly Wednesday Story Time: The Childrens
Department becomes a special fun-filled activ-
ity and craft center with its weekly 11 a.m. story
time event. Barnes & Noble, 765 Route 17 South,
Paramus. 201-445-4589.
Mothers Day Craft: Welcoming youngsters
grades kindergarten to 6th grade to a craft event:
Mothers Day Make-It and Take-It. From 4 to
5 p.m. Englewood Public Library, 31 Engle St.,
Englewood. 201-568-2215.
JCC Thurnauer School of Music Annual Gift of
Music Gala: The benefit features Anthony McGill,
Mindy Kaufman and Michael McHale at Bergen
Performing Arts Center, Englewood from 7 to
8:30 p.m. For more information, www.jccotp.org/
gom or contact Nina Bachrach at nbachrach@
jccotp.org, or 201-408-1406.
Saturday, May 13
Shabbat Beyachad: Shabbat Together for ages
3 to 7 years old at Temple Emanu-El of Closter,
10:15 a.m. Join a musical Shabbat experience.
Temple Emanu-El of Closter, 180 Piermont Road,
Closter. 201-750-9997.
Shabbat Shira!: Interactive Shabbat music
program for young families with children 3 and
younger. 11 to 11:45 a.m. Led by Molly Rose Honig,
Kaplan Music Teacher. Free. USH, 115 Park Ave.,
Hoboken. 201-653-8666.
Mothers Day Story Time: Come and hear How
to Raise a Mom by Jean Reagan at a special
story time event at 11 a.m. at Barnes & Noble.
This funny, heartwarming story about raising a
happy, healthy mother is filled with charming role-
reveral humor. Activities follow. Barnes & Noble,
The Shops @ Riverside, 187 Riverside Square,
Hackesack. 201-488-8037.
Meet Pinkalicious Author Victoria Kann: Author
of the popular Pinkalicious book and other titles,
including her recent Peterrific, Victoria Kann will
appear at Books and Greetings, 271G Livingston
St., Northvale at 12 noon. 201-784-2665.
Monday, May 15
Bar Bat Mitzvah Classes: Students will pre-
pare for this rite of passage from 5 to 6 p.m.
Congregation Bnai Jacob, 176 West Side Avenue,
Jersey City. Info@bnaijacobjc.org, 201-435-5725.
Wednesday, May 17
Weekly Wednesday Story Time: The Childrens
Department becomes a special fun-filled activ-
ity and craft center with its weekly 11 a.m. story
time event. Barnes & Noble, 765 Route 17 South,
Paramus. 201-445-4589.
Friday, May 19
Story Time at Englewood Library. Welcome
to a special Friday morning story time. From
10:30 to 11 a.m. From 4 to 5 p.m. Englewood
Public Library, 31 Engle St., Englewood. 201-568-
2215.
Tot Shabbat at Temple Beth El: Temple
Beth El of the Northern Valley will host a Tot
Shabbat from 5:15 to 6:15 p.m. Join a Torah/ 10
Commandments-themed service followed by a
fun craft project for children 5 and their families.
Temple Beth El, 221 Schraalenburg Road, Closter.
201-767-5112, www.tbenv.org.
Music Services at Temple Emeth: Join in for
musical services starting at 8 p.m. Congregants
join Rabbi Steven Sirbu and Cantor Ellen Tilem by
singing and dancing. Temple Emeth 1666 Windsor
Road, Teaneck. 201-833-1322, www.emeth.org.
Saturday, May 20
Little Ree Storytime: Join a special childrens
event and meet the New York Times bestselling
author and Food Network Star, Ree Drummond,
who shares the first book in a new picture-book
series inspired by life on the ranch, Little Ree!
Activities follow. 11 a.m. Barnes & Noble, 765
Route 17 South, Paramus. 201-445-4589.
Sunday, May 21
Friendship Circle Yoga: Classes will be held at
10:30 a.m. in the lower level of The Chabad
Center, 194 Ratzer Road, Wayne. Class is $5 per
participant. Bring a mat or towel. www.fcpassaic-
county.com, 973-694-4970.
Wednesday, May 24
Weekly Wednesday Story Time: The Childrens
Department becomes a special fun-filled activ-
ity and craft center with its weekly 11 a.m. story
time event. Barnes & Noble, 765 Route 17 South,
Paramus. 201-445-4589.

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Cliffs, and sister of Evan,
celebrated becoming a bat
mitzvah on March 25 at
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in Teaneck.
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on March 4 at the Chabad
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common ground. Parents who display
favoritism for a child over a spouse cre-
ate resentment and anger in marriage. It
is the father and mother who must stand
united, not the child and parent.
Of course there are times that one
parent is coming down hard on a child
or being unreasonable in high expec-
tations. How can we resolve this type
of situation and stand together with
strength so that our children perceive
a home environment that feels safe and
secure?
Understand that this resolution is
vital. When kids see parents behaving
lovingly and respectfully with one an-
other, they feel as if they are in a stable
home that will endure. A firm foundation
gives sons and daughters the sense of
steadiness needed in a chaotic world.
Children also learn to respect parents
when parents display respect for one an-
other. Casting a spouses opinion aside
thoughtlessly, disparaging a husband
or wife and treating each other dishon-
orably only hurts us, parents. Children
pick up these disrespectful cues and
then act the very same way towards us.
Nobody wins.
Strategies for Effective Parenting
Here are some Dos and Donts to ensure
you and your spouse are united and
build better bonds in your family.
DONT:
Dont put down your spouse in front of
your child.
Dont sabotage the relationship of
the other parent by criticizing the way
your spouse is handling a situation. Say-
ing things like you always make her cry
or thats how you play ball with him? is
not productive.
Dont use your child as a pawn to get
back at your spouse.
Dont attempt to fix your loneliness
or hurts through becoming your childs
partner.
Dont argue about your child while
he is present. Besides teaching him to
be disrespectful, many children end up
feeling guilty that they have caused bad
feelings between parents.
Dont show favoritism to one child
or become that childs defense attorney.
You must be honest here. If you find
yourself constantly sticking up for that
child, take a step back and figure out
what is happening in your home.
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DO:
Do discuss differences of opinion in
private, using the respectful tones and
words that you would expect your chil-
dren to use.
Do agree that you will not put each
other down or use disparaging remarks
to get your point across especially in
front of the children.
Do agree that there must be stan-
dards of respect in your home; so that
when a child is upset or angry he may
not put down a parent.
Saying things like she drives me
crazy or he doesnt know what hes
talking about is completely unaccept-
able. A child may express frustration or
sadness, may ask for more time or un-
derstanding, but all must be expressed
with honorable words and actions. Chil-
dren should never perceive a parent as
a vessel for complaints against another
parent.
Do communicate that as parents,
you are on the same page.
Do decide to sit down together and
discuss how to handle the times that
you disagree. Are there certain situa-
tions that keep on cropping up, pitting
one parent against another? Is there one
child in particular who brings out this
unhealthy alliance?
Do be sure that children hear posi-
tive words from both parents.
Sometimes a parent falls into a nega-
tive spiral with a child. Every interaction
is about what the child did not do, or
how the child could do better. When the
other parent hears this, a defensive pos-
ture is taken. This tug of war must stop.
Children need to hear positive words,
encouragement and love from both
mom and dad.
Emotional crossfire wounds both
parents and children. Being a parent
means that we set our egos to the side,
stop indulging ourselves and start fo-
cusing on the health of our homes. Our
children need us to lead them into the
future. A future that is intact, based on
mutual respect and dignity. Children
who see parents aligning together un-
derstand that theirs is a home filled with
love and wisdom.
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where the name comes from. His fathers

working theory which, his son said,
sounds very good but has no supporting
evidence that hes ever heard of is that
its an old Ashkenazi name. The first syl-
lable, Poup, implies that the family, which,
he said, is pure Litvishe, came at some
point from Frankfort; the two Ps in it were
the Hebrew letter Peh, for P, which is the
same as the Hebrew letter Feh, for F, but
with a dot. (Are you following this?) And
the ko is a fairly common Slavic name
suffix. Clearly, its a question that hes used
to fielding.
Rabbi Poupkos wife, Dr. Shoshana
Poupko, is an educator who now also is Above, with many of his grandchildren (he has 12 now), as
working toward an MSW at Rutgers. For real life intrudes. At right, with his children and grandchildren.
16 years, she braved rush hour on two
bridges to work at the North Shore Hebrew Our relationship clicked because we really so much of what he has done as a rabbi, Beyond that, He has taken a real lead-
Academy in Great Neck it was an amaz- see eye to eye on many things. We are both as a teacher, and as a pastor, Rabbi ership role in the broader community. He
ing experience for her there, her husband moderates. We both believe very much in Poupko said. has never forgotten that he is part of the
said and now she is the dean of students being in the center, of being very open- Lee Lasher, Ahavath Torahs immedi- Bergen County community including the
at Maayanot Yeshiva High School for Girls minded about views in both directions, ate past president, admires Rabbi Goldin nonobservant community, the Reform, the
in Teaneck. This has changed our lives, of being not just opened-minded, not just immensely. He has built a large, vibrant Conservative, and the non-Jewish commu-
Rabbi Poupko said. tolerant, but embracing of Jews who take community; in terms of the modern Ortho- nities. You can see by the response of the
Returning to Rabbi Goldin, Rabbi many different approaches. dox community, it is very diverse, he said, mayor Englewoods Mayor Frank Huttle
Poupko said that one of the many reasons I know him to be a welcoming, sup- echoing the often-stated theme. That is III praised Rabbi Goldin at the dinner in
I have enjoyed so much success here is porting, dynamic rabbi. It is his moder- very rare. Keeping four shuls in one, and his honor, in real and personal terms. You
that we share so many of the same values. ate, sensitive approach that has defined never splintering that is very rare. can see it by the city of Englewood naming

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the street Rabbi Goldin Way.
He has built relationships with the whole community,
and across the American Jewish community. Hes been
involved with the RCA and with Norpac, the huge Engle-
wood-based Israel lobby. Hes met President Obama at the
White House a couple of times.
And all the missions to Israel hes led! Rabbi Goldin
organized and led many trips to Israel, including during
very tense times, when many other people and organiza-
tions stayed away. Sometimes he led groups from his own
Commemorate Yom HaZikaron (Day of Remembrance for Israels Fallen Soldiers)
and Celebrate Yom HaAtzmaut (Israel Independence Day) | EVERYONE WELCOME
shul, and sometimes he drew travelers from the wider Jew-
ish community. And he took a mission to Bosnia during the
civil war in Yugoslavia.
He has been very focused on GPS, Mr. Lasher contin-
ued. (The initials stand for geirus policies and standards
the Orthodox Unions work with people choosing to become
Jewish.) He realizes the important of the issue.
Mr. Lasher stresses Rabbi Goldins pastoral skills and
sensitivity to peoples needs. We all say that he has been
a friend to everybody, Mr. Lasher said, and then he moved
from the general to the specific.
Last summer, I was in Spain celebrating my 30th
wedding anniversary, and I fell down a flight of stairs
and broke my patella, he said. It was a very painful
and slow-healing injury; Mr. Lasher, who is athletic,
has been injured often, but this one was different.
Nine months later, Im still in physical therapy.
I was home for a month, and Rabbi Goldin came
almost every day. And he does that for everybody. My
father once had some heart issues, and Rabbi Goldin
went to the hospital not once, not twice, but four or
five times. He will make the rounds and visit everyone.
Thats really something.
He also does a lot of quiet chesed in family issues,
helping with subjects too delicate and private for con-
versation. And I know, serving as president, that he
always was very respectful. He believed in collabora-
tive leadership. His approach wasnt Im the rabbi!
but in the partnership between lay and professional
leadership. That is very important to me.
Mr. Lasher looks to the future with anticipation and
some slight feelings of being unsettled. Its exciting,
but its a little unknown, he said. We are very excited

SUNDAY Shalom Baby Yom HaAtzmaut Playgroup

Temple Avodat Shalom
about Rabbi Poupko and Shoshana becoming senior
rabbi and rebbitzin. You look at everything going on in
APRIL 30 385 Howland Ave, River Edge | 9:30am the world in terms of transitions he was not talking
RSVP not required | Contact: SarahD@jfnnj.org here only about rabbinical transitions, of course, but
about more public ones as well. I was co-chair of the
transition committee. It was a very strong committee.
SUNDAY Yom Hazikaron Ceremony
Fair Lawn Jewish Center
We had numerous meetings, hired consultants, did a
survey, did focus groups, spent tens of hours to insure
APRIL 30 10-10 Norma Ave, Fair Lawn | 6pm the smoothest possible transition.
We think that Rabbi Poupko has some similar
qualities to Rabbi Goldin, and certainly some differ-
ent ones, Mr. Lasher continued. He is younger. He
MONDAY A Tribute to Israel - Community Concert can engage some of the millennials who are not as
Temple Beth Rishon involved we want to get them more involved. He has
MAY 1 585 Russell Ave, Wyckoff | 7:30pm a different teaching style.
Free of Charge | In recognition of Yom HaZikaron and Yom HaAtzmaut There was some controversy over not doing a full-
blown search for a new rabbi, but Mr. Lasher thought
that much of it was unrealistic. Some people said
MONDAY Yom HaAtzmaut Celebration and Yom HaZikaron Remembrance
Congregation Keter Torah
Lets approach Lord Sacks to be our rabbi. Rabbi

MAY 1 600 Roemer Ave, Teaneck | 7pm

Jonathan Sacks, Baron Sacks, is the retired chief rabbi
of the United Hebrew Congregations of the Common-
wealth, who now is teaching at NYU, YU, and Kings
College London. He is unlikely to be interested in
TUESDAY Israel Flag Raising Ceremony
Bergen County Administration Building
assuming the pulpit of a synagogue, no matter how
MAY 2 1 Bergen County Plaza, Hackensack | 12:30pm
prestigious and influential. And Rabbi Poupko is
a respected member of the community, and his

WEDNESDAY Stories of Service in the IDF

Jewish Federation
MAY 3 50 Eisenhower Dr, Paramus | 6:30pm
Hear from American and Israeli veterans of the IDF
Free of Charge l RSVP required: Shirbenda@gmail.com

SUNDAY Celebrate Israel in New Jersey

Kaplen JCC on the Palisades
MAY 7 411 E Clinton Ave, Tenafly | 4-7pm
A celebration of Israels independence. Live music, arts and crafts,
kids activities, Israeli mini-market. $18 per family.
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Rabbi Chaim Poupko, who worked with Rabbi

Goldin for 13 years, will take over as senior rabbi.

transition so far has been smooth.

One of Mr. Lashers many powerful memories of
Rabbi Goldin does involve Rabbi Sacks, who spoke
at Ahavath Torah a few years ago. It was a power-
ful weekend, he said. It was interesting to see
Rabbi Goldin and Rabbi Sacks share the spotlight. I
will always remember that at the end of the seudah
shlishit, where there were probably 700 people the
most wed ever had, standing room only and Rabbi
Sacks was asked for a speech, but instead he said that
we needed more singing. More joy. We needed more
joy and less oy in Judaism.
So he and Rabbi Goldin got up on little folding
chairs I was thinking please dont let them fall off
the chairs and then everybody started singing. The
two of them were leading it, you have these two prom-
inent rabbis standing on chairs, and it was really great.
Really powerful.
Mr. Lasher also remembers traveling to Israel with
Rabbi Goldin. Rabbi Goldins mother, who died a few
years ago, lived in Israel, and she joined us for some
of the early missions, he said. Pearl Poplack Goldin
was a tiny woman, and we went on a walking tour of
Jerusalem, and then somebody suggested that we walk
on the rooftops.
Rabbi Goldin was a little apprehensive. He wasnt
sure he knew where he was going. And then his
mother looked over at him and said, Shmuel, lets go.
And he said, I guess were going.
And we went. And it was fine.
Ive been in leadership positions in a lot of Jewish
organizations, Mr. Lasher concluded. Serving with
Rabbi Goldin was one of the highlights of my Jewish
volunteer work, because I was working with someone
who was so sensitive, insightful, and understands peo-
ple so well.
The weekend of May 5 through 7 will be a celebra-
tion of the Goldins. Itll be called Englewood Shel
Zahav: The Goldin Years. (Zahav is gold in Hebrew; the
names a play on the famous Israeli song Yerushalayim
shel Zahav.) It will feature, among many other high-
lights, teaching by Rabbi Leonard Matanky, who heads
Chicagos Ida Crowne Academy and followed Rabbi
Goldin as president of the RCA. It also will include the
dedication of a sefer Torah that was rescued from the
Holocaust and restored; the final letters will be inked
on Sunday.
For more information about the celebration, and to
read more tributes to Rabbi Goldin, go to the shuls
website, www.ahavathtorah.org.

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millions for binary fraud victims
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TEL AVIV They were part of the problem. Now they are
spearheading a solution.
A Tel Aviv-based startup run by young American Jewish
immigrants to Israel has taken on the
largely fraudulent binary options indus-
try, centered in this country, which has
been estimated to generate as much as
$10 billion a year.
Owned and staffed in part by for-
mer binary options employees, Wealth
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Because I worked in the indus-
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founder Austin Smith, 33, who calls
himself a one-time fraudster, said in
an interview at the companys office.
I feel a responsibility to go ahead and
help people.
In the absence of serious action
against binary options fraud by Israel
authorities, Wealth Recovery has
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victims reclaim a total of more than $4 Austin Smith, a co-founder of Wealth Recovery International,
million. The company has grown rap- speaking at the companys office in Tel Aviv in February.
idly since it was founded in early 2016,  ANDREW TOBIN

in some cases by helping victims of its

own employees.
The binary options industry has emerged in Israel
over the past decade. According to the Times of Israel,
which has been investigating the industry for nearly
a year, more than 100 Israel-based companies have
defrauded hundreds of thousands of people worldwide
of billions of dollars, and it has been blamed for at least
one suicide.
Binary options websites have allowed clients to place
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or decrease in value. In most cases, though, the compa-
nies behind the websites have been suspected of rigging
the game to take all or nearly all of their clients money.
Posing as investment houses based in financial capitals
like London, they have used aggressive sales tactics to
maximize deposits and various ploys to avoid withdraw-
als. Their identities have been obscured by complex cor-
porate structures that span multiple international juris-
dictions, including tax havens.
Thousands of immigrants olim from the United
States and around the world have played a role in help-
ing the binary options companies target foreigners in
their native languages. Former employees of several of
the companies said that more than half their co-workers
were olim, and most of them were Americans. Money
has been a major draw; the olim often earn several times
what they otherwise could hope to get in Tel Aviv, one of
the most expensive cities in the world.
David Roth, a 24-year-old from Southern California,
asked to go by the pseudonym he has used as a Wealth
Recovery salesman to protect himself from retaliation by
binary options companies. After making aliyah several
years ago and serving as a combat soldier in the Israeli
army, Roth worked briefly at a fast food restaurant in Tel
Aviv, making about $1,000 a month, before finding work
in binary options. In a good month as a salesman, Roth
brought in more than $30,000, mostly on commission.
Its a hard country, and Im here alone, he said. I
was trying to build myself something to fall back on.
Working my ass off at a burger place for 4 to 5,000 shek-
els a month, max, wasnt getting me anywhere. The
problem is that working in binary made me a terrible
person, and it eventually broke me.
Former binary options employees have described the
industrys culture as depraved. Trained to lie and apply
maximum pressure, salespeople have worked late into
the night to hard-sell clients in foreign time zones. Man-
agers have encouraged them to have no mercy, whether
the target was a pensioner or a cancer patient.
At the central Tel Aviv office of Numaris Communi-
cation, a one-time provider of sales and other services
for the BinaryBook brand, Smith and another former
employee described a vulgar and hard-partying culture
straight out of The Wolf of Wall Street. After winning
a big deposit, salespeople played the video of a song
adapted from an episode of the animated TV comedy
South Park. Together the office would sing the chorus:
And, its gone, referring to the clients deposit.
BinaryBook, which has faced legal action in Britain,
did not respond to many interview requests. Wealth
Recovery and the St. Louis-based Hamm Law Firm have
begun preparing a class action lawsuit against another
service provider for the brand, Ukom, on behalf of 120
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In February, weeks after law enforcement officials
from North America and Europe held an emergency
meeting on binary options fraud in the Hague, the FBI
said it was investigating the industry around the world.
The United States had outlawed the marketing of binary
options to its citizens, except on a handful of regulated
exchanges, in 2013.
Last spring, Israel allowed binary options companies
to operate in the country as long as they refrained from
targeting its citizens. In August, Jewish Agency head
Natan Sharansky urged the government to shutter the
repugnant, immoral industry. And in October, Prime
Minister Benjamin Netanyahus office called for a world-
wide ban on its unscrupulous practices.
Earlier this year, the Knessets State Control Com-
mittee held two hearings on the governments failure
to deal with binary options fraud. Despite arguments
by binary options advocates that entirely shutting down
the industry could hurt Israels economy and encourage
terrorism, the hearings resulted in draft legislation that
would do just that.
Michael Oren, a former Israeli ambassador to the
United States who now is deputy minister, called binary
options a threat to the Jewish states international stand-
ing, and he urged olim to steer clear of the industry for
their own sake and that of their adopted country. He
said the Knesset should launch an investigation into
the industry.
The binary options scheme could be ruinous for Isra-
els foreign relations, he said. I would tell olim: Your
moral standards and Israels interests should deter you
from engaging in this type of activity. Theres enough
work in other fields. fleischman
Wealth Recovery has provided alternative employ-
ment for a small but growing number of American olim,
most of them in their 20s and 30s. Smith and his two
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most of the people who work for them. Nearly half the
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at Wealth Recovery rather than enter the industry. climate and humidity
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to Wealth Recoverys success. Their fluency in English
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and familiarity with the scams have prepared them to
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humidity, moths and
the same marketing and sales tactics for Wealth Recov-
other crawling insects.
ery as they did at their previous jobs, including going
by pseudonyms. But they said the motive for that has
changed from deceiving the client to hiding from the
binary options industry, which has threatened those Free Pick Up
who cross it.
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said. Im helping them here. But its really easy for peo-
ple from binary to call us, and a lot of the managers of
these companies are serious criminals. You dont want
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position himself as a public opponent of the binary options
industry. He said he hopes this move will offer him another
kind of protection.
I want to distinguish myself from all the fraud around
me, he said. I want people to know what they should look
for in a legitimate recovery company. Hopefully, binary
companies will think twice about coming after me once my
name is in the newspaper.
Smith also has begun investing more heavily in adver-
tising and public outreach. He will speak at an anti-fraud
conference in Miami later this month, and he will spon-
sor minor league NASCAR driver Stephen Young during a
series of races in August. Young gave Wealth Recovery a dis-
counted rate because he was scammed by binary options
companies in the past.
Former binary options employees, whom Smith said
often require some deprogramming when he hires them,
also have been an asset to Wealth Recovery when it comes
to gathering information, which is the companys stock in
trade. Wealth Recovery has gathered intelligence by devel-
oping sources within the binary options industry and by
searching public records. But in order to have one of its
cases tried in court, the company has relied on what Smith
called a shock and awe approach, to pressure more than
$4 million in settlements.
The key is to go after little people the ones who are
working the phones and actually taking the money, he
said. Theyll freak out and pressure their bosses to settle,
or theyll turn against the company they work for.
Israeli attorney Nimrod Assif, who has represented vic-
tims of binary options fraud and advocated for immediate
government action against the suspected perpetrators, said
the recovery industry has fraudulent elements, though
he could not comment on specific companies. Assif
recommended that victims come to experienced law-
yers like him, asserting that they know how to build
a court case using admissible and legally obtained
information. Still, he said, what is most important
are results.
This recovery industry is a bit problematic, Assif
said. First, this is legal work, and people need to be
licensed lawyers in order to represent victims in this
country. Second, I know for a fact that there are fraud-
sters also in this industry.
I will say if you put aside ethical issues, the No. 1
priority is to get recovery for victims. So if companies
are able to do that, its good.
Last month, the U.S.-based Financial Industry
Regulatory Authority, the securities industrys own
watchdog group, issued a warning about what it
called binary options follow-up schemes and recov-
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that ends Shabbat, with the hitchhiker and his large,
impoverished family.
At the end of the night, the hitchhiker blessed
Smith, predicting that he would do something unprec-
edented for the Jewish people. The experience had a
profound effect, and when Smith arrived back in Tel
Aviv that evening during a fierce windstorm, the idea
for Wealth Recovery came to him with the slam of the
gate of his apartment building.
Like a ton of bricks, the idea hit me, he recalled.
ALWAYS I thought: What happens if I get the money back
for the people it was taken from? Is there anybody
FREE doing this?
PARKING Days after his epiphanic trip, Smith quit Numaris,
and in February 2016 he flew home to start Wealth
Recovery in his parents basement. His first recruit
was co-owner Lee Eller, 26, with whom he had
worked at Numaris. Having bounced between
binary options companies for years, while pursuing
a career as a musician in Israel, Eller recently had
returned home after her mother sustained a brain
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more of what you ask for, and I was inadvertently
asking for that.
Smith and Ellers big break came quickly, in
the form of Steve Koel, 52, a Northern Californian
businessman whose BinaryBook account they had
helped manage at Numaris, starting in November
2015. Within weeks of Wealth Recoverys founding,
a source inside Numaris told them managers were
about to close out Koels account, in which he had
deposited nearly $1.5 million the vast majority of
his life savings.
Koel was separated from his money by a rotating
cast of characters who posed as London-based bro-
kers. He initially saw large returns, some of which
even were paid out to him, but then his account man-
agers began making seemingly senseless losing trades.
Koel, a divorced father, said he missed warning signs
that he was being defrauded, like the lack of docu-
mentation of his transactions, in part because he was
intent on earning money to pay for treatment for his
youngest son, who had recently been debilitated by a
brain aneurysm.
You have to understand, it was a perfect storm in
my life. The climate around me was very sad, and the
scammers fed on that, he said. To be honest, there
was some greed on my part as well. But then things
started to go awry.
When Smith called in March 2016, Koel said, I
didnt feel I had much choice but to say yes.
With the help of Haggai Carmon, an Israeli litiga-
tor and investigator who worked for the U.S. Justice
Department for decades, Wealth Recovery pressured
Ukom, which is based in the north-central Israeli
city of Caesarea, into returning all of Koels money
in April 2016. Carmon, also the author of best-selling
espionage novels, took about 10 percent up front, and
Wealth Recovery collected 20 percent on the back-
end, which has remained its standard rate.
Koel was overjoyed and still vouches for Wealth
Recovery to potential clients.
These guys were white knights, coming in with a
weighing on me every day.
When her account tanked again last month, the woman
said her supposed brokers began pressuring her to deposit
even more money, but she had run out of resources. Now
living on help from her family, she said, the woman began
looking for lawyers to help her negotiate with Options XO.
Only after Wealth Recovery showed her a presentation
allegedly outlining Options XOs business structure and
exposing the identities of its employees did she under-
stand that she had been victimized by an alleged scam,
the woman said.
My major downfall was I didnt realize the people at
Options XO were bad people and it was all fake, she said. It
was hard to find someone who understands binary options.
Lawyers would say just pay this amount and well figure it
out. Wealth Recovery and Birman Law understood my situ-
ation right away and were very responsive.
Tomer Levi, the CEO of Toro Media the service provider
for Options XO answered a phone call from JTA and said,
I dont know what is Options XO, and I dont know what
youre talking about. Then he hung up.
About an hour later, Levis lawyer called, but said he could
not comment on Options XO because he does not represent
the company. The attorney, Alon Mizrahi of the Tel Aviv firm
FWMK, said he had been hired by Toro Media.
Options XO is not our client, he said. Options XO is a
broker in a different country, and we represent a different
client. Its a different legal entity.
Mizrahi declined to answer whether Toro Media had
a relationship with Options XO. But he said he suspected
Wealth Recovery and Birman Law were part of a single
group that was illicitly accessing information about binary
options companies and using it to threaten and slander
Toro Media and others. He asked to be emailed further ques-
tions so he could check on the answers, but did not respond
when sent the email.
Various opponents of the binary options industry agreed
that Wealth Recovery is on the right side of the fight. Car-
mon said Smith and Eller introduced him to the industry
when they worked together on Koels case.
As former insiders, they knew how to explain it to me
and provide me with pertinent information, he said. They
were not amateurish. They gave me an introduction that
lasted more than four months.
In February, Israeli lawyers Carmon and Assif started
StopScams.com to represent alleged victims of binary
options fraud. Carmon said the group follows Wealth Recov-
erys model in targeting individuals rather than companies,
which can disappear, and thus far has settled out of court to
get quick results for clients.
Yossy Haezrachy, a partner at Friedman-Haezrachy, a law
firm in Tel Aviv, said the investigative chops of companies
like Wealth Recovery make them an asset both to victims of
binary options fraud and to lawyers like him, who represent
such people. His law firm has filed several cases on behalf
of alleged victims with Israeli courts, which Haezrachy said
never have ruled on such a case, as far he knows.
These [recovery] companies are really a blessing, he
said. Sure, they take a cut like any business, but they give
an address to victims who have nowhere else to turn, and
they dig up information that lawyers cant.
Haezrachy said his law firm has been the target of vivid
threats and badmouthing by binary options companies, so
he understands Wealth Recovery employees desire for ano-
nymity. But echoing many others, he said only state action
ultimately would shut down the industry.
At the end of the day, the government is going to have
to clean up this mess. And Im sure it will, he said. Within
two years, there wont be any binary options companies
in Israel.
As someone with intimate knowledge of how fraud works,
Smith said he sees things differently. He predicted binary
options companies would survive by moving to different
countries and industries, as they have already started doing
in anticipation of a crackdown in Israel.
Wealth Recovery has made plans to follow them. Last
week, Smith visited Cyprus to look into setting up an office
there, and he has been building relationships with lawyers
around the world. At the same time, Wealth Recovery has
begun investigating alleged fraud in Israels multibillion-dol-
lar diamond industry.
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work of information, he said. Mitch was a source
of total therapy for me as I worked through this.
Mitch is a great guy. Mitch can stay at my house
any time.
Asked about his impression of Israel, which he has
never visited, given his experience, Koel said, Its not
an Israeli or a Jewish thing, its a people thing. Plus, it
was Jews who helped me in the end.
Smith and Eller used the windfall from Koels case
to pay off business loans and move back to Tel Aviv
in July 2016. They brought aboard a third co-owner,
Smiths Orthodox Jewish cousin from California, who
asked not to be identified, and started hiring other
employees. In March 2016, Wealth Recovery moved
into its current office, and several months later
teamed with a local firm, Birman Law, which moved
into an adjoining office.
This month, Wealth Recovery and Birman Law
took the case of a Hong Kong woman who invested
about $10 million with a binary options brand called
Options XO starting in February 2015. In one month
last summer, the woman, who asked not to be identi-
fied, deposited $2.75 million through a wire service
in near-daily installments of $125,000. Over a cycle of
escalating losses, she said family and friends had lent
her about $8 million in an effort to help her earn back
her initial deposit.
The cost is not just money, she said. I lost my
peace of mind. Im very jumpy. My health has dete-
riorated. The burden of having to repay my family is

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Editorial
Yom HaShoah, a week later
W living in the valley
hen holidays are over, they
are over until the next
year. When Rosh HaSha-
nah is done, the next 10
days bring us to Yom Kippur; even before
that solemn day is fully done we will begin
preparing for Sukkot, which leads directly
into Simchat Torah, and when that ends
we collapse in exhaustion.
Pesach has been over for maybe what?
A week? But its as far gone as the last fugi-
tive matzah crumbs. Once Shavuot is over,
it too will be done, that nights study fin-
ished, that holidays dairy all eaten up.
Thats true for minor holidays, and also
for American ones; nothings as over as
the Thanksgiving turkey the day after
Thanksgiving. (Or maybe, to be more
accurate, you long for nothing to be over
as much as you long for those leftovers to
be, vanishing down the throat of someone
who is not you.)
Yom HaShoah, though, is different.
First, of course, it is not a holiday, but a
day of commemoration, of memory and
disbelief and pain, lacking Tisha Bavs
haunting music and theatricality because
the horror is far too fresh.
The stories we hear linger in our mem-
ories. They are terrible, toxic, inhuman,
and they happened to people who were
just like us. Had we been there, they
would have happened to us too.
It seems that the stories of Yom HaShoah
are lingering now even longer than they
used to, that every year the days power
over our imaginations gets a bit stronger.
Thats most likely because the survivors
are vanishing. Even the youngest of them
hasnt been young for some time by now,
and every year there are fewer of them.
They are vanishing into history, and our
imaginations hold onto them, trying to
keep them here just a bit longer.
This year, the power of the generation
of those survivors children seems to have
intensified.
To be personal, I, the descendant of
immigrants who came to this country
early in the 20th century, have no sto-
ries to share, but more and more of my
friends, who were not so lucky, are tell-
ing theirs. Many children of survivors
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have grappled publicly with their legacy
throughout their lives, but many others
are going public with it only now, as time
runs out.
The images that Dr. Irin Felsen talked
about and I reported in last weeks Jew-
ish Standard stick with me. She talks
about the children of survivors as living
on a glass floor, with the horrors going
on beneath their feet. They can see their
parents suffer but they cannot help. They
slip on the glass. They know that the glass
almost never breaks but then some-
times it does.
Those of my friends who are the chil-
dren of survivors find that metaphor par-
ticularly compelling, and even I, with my
safe, protected life, cannot get it out of my
head. Glass is slippery, and it does break,
and we do all have to be careful.
Meanwhile, that brings us to this weeks
march for science. In this weeks paper,
Dr. Miryam Wahrman ably describes sci-
ences importance for us as people, as
Americans, and as Jews.
She was not able to march, but because
I live in Manhattan, some friends and I
were able to slip away from shul this Shab-
bat and join the science march.
It was raining, but we wore hats and
hoods and raincoats. Many people
held up signs. It was all good-natured
and oddly apolitical. Science is under
threat right now, from the administra-
tion that has said it will defund it, and
that denies climate science and has
flirted with anti-vaxxers, but science
itself knows no politics.
It is horrifying to realize that the Nazis
used science to kill people efficiently
and cost-effectively. It is important to
remember, though, that their science,
their rational, evidence-based thinking,
was based on irrational hatred, supersti-
tion, and evil. In the end, therefore, it
wasnt science. Science cant be built on
sand. It needs bedrock.
As Dr. Wahrman points out, we need
science to be able to understand what
happened in the Holocaust, to decode
the information left behind, to fight
denial and ensure that it never ever
happens again. JP
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Marching with the
of the shadow of death
A
uschwitz, Poland Leaving the six million martyrs of the Holocaust
the March of the Living and were brave beyond description, bearing suf-
the Auschwitz death camp is fering and brutality with dignity and perse-
a conflicted experience, as it verance, perhaps more than any who had
should be. preceded them. The most moving photos
On the one hand, youre in hell on earth, of the Holocaust are of parents with their
veritably the foremost place of death in the children on the train platform at Auschwitz.
world. On the other hand, watching 12,000 Parents holding their childrens hands,
youth march, youre uplifted and inspired. never letting go of their families even under
The youth gathered from every corner of the most challenging circumstances.
the globe. Together, we walked the route But should there have been all-out armed
between Auschwitz and Birkenau. In both resistance?
the physical and the metaphorical sense, I traveled to Auschwitz for the March of
it was a tear-incurring, awe- the Living with my friend Eli-
inspiring parade of Jewish sha Wiesel, who will serve as
pride and perseverance. keynote speaker at our Cham-
But as soon as we arrived pions of Jewish Values gala
in Birkenau, all feelings of dinner honoring the memory
awe and pride quickly faded of his father Elie Wiesel on
amid an all-enveloping cloak May 21 at Cipriani in Manhat-
of darkness and perplexity. At tan. Elisha told me that he dis-
once, the participants, who cussed this question with his
just moments before were father many times and the
marching in a unified force of Rabbi answer he was given was that
grit and animation, all began Shmuley the Jews of Romania and Hun-
to wander into smaller groups, Boteach gary were convinced, beyond
alone into the shadowy abyss the shadow of a doubt, that
of the death-camp. My mind they were being deported to
felt as though it had been hollowed out, work camps where their families would be
and I could barely materialize so much as a kept intact.
thought. I was numb. Nazi propagandists had told the Jews that
It is only now that I can begin to digest the they would survive so long as they behaved.
experience and attempt somehow to make They were conditioned to believe, through
sense of the things that happened there just massive propaganda efforts, that the gas
70 years ago. chambers were only showers, and the death
And now, like many times before, I am camps were centers of labor. Thus, unlike
struck with that most burning question: the Jews of Masada, Mainz, and Warsaw,
Why didnt we Jews fight back? the Jews of the death camps did not know
To be sure, there were hundreds of cases that they faced a certain death. And cogni-
of resistance, the most famous of which tive dissonance would have made it nearly
was Mordechai Anielewicz and the Warsaw impossible for anyone to believe that the
Ghetto. But many of the camps that mur- Nazis had used all the German engineer-
dered upward of half a million Jews had ing and ingenuity to create the worlds most
perhaps 200 SS guards. advanced factories of death.
In asking this question lets be clear that However, it is also possible that some
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believed that martyrdom was itself a form of fighting back.
Things had changed since the Jewish rebellion against
the Romans two millennia earlier. The devastation at the
Second Temples destruction was so complete that many
believed that further resistance was futile. Two millen-
nia of relentless persecution and degradation led many
of our people to embrace martyrdom as the highest form
of resistance. Courage was defined as being prepared to
offer up ones soul to the Creator. Bravery lay in embrac-
ing the will of the Creator, which often meant dying al
Kiddush Hashem.
They may have thought back to the story of Rabbi
Yochanan Ben Zakai, who, rather than join forces with the
zealots fighting an uphill battle against the worlds foremost
superpower, whose forces were besieging Jerusalem, chose
to beseech the Roman General Vespasian for the survival of
Torah study at Yavneh instead. Perhaps they, like the holy
sages then, felt that energy best be channeled into a spiri-
tual rather than a physical fight.
Many a holy Jew also placed faith in God and were
counting upon Him to save the remnants of Israel. After
all, many thought, would the creator of heaven and earth,
our all-powerful father in heaven, not step in to save inno-
cent children from the bloodthirsty hands of historys
most heinous killers?
Let us be clear. All those Jews who died for their God
and people are called Kedoshim, the Holy Ones, and they
died for the sanctification of Gods name. They marched to
their deaths believing that dying for His sake they would live
more than a mere man ever otherwise could.
However, while such a choice deserves our deepest awe
and reverence, the State of Israel has challenged earlier
notions of Jewish spiritual resistance. The Torah teaches us
to choose life. Even if there seemingly is no choice but death,
we learned from the bestiality of the Germans that we have
to fight and never surrender.
When I was last in Poland I visited the Mila 18 bunker
in Warsaw, the site of the sacred last stand of the uprising
in 1943. Almost all of those who took part in the Warsaw
Ghetto Uprising died, just like their brothers in the death
camps. However, they died at their own hands, with the
blast of a grenade in an underground bunker a grenade
from which they pulled the pin. They refused to indulge the
Germans by giving them the possibility of killing them. They
would prove defiant in their very final act.
In the same way, when marauding crusaders chased the
Jews of Mainz into a tower in 1099, the Jews chose to end
their own lives with swords rather than find death at the
spears of evil men. Most famously, of course, is the story of
Masada, where 900 Jewish rebels under the command of
Elazar Ben Yair took their own lives rather than fall victim
to the Roman legions who besieged them. As Elazar Ben
Yair said in his final speech to his followers: We long ago
resolved never to be servants to the Romans, nor to any
other than to God Himself. Thus, he went on, they would
die bravely, in a state of freedom.
None of us can ever judge the holy martyrs of the Holo-
caust. It is for us to bequeath their memory to eternity. We
do not know what we would have done in similar circum-
stances. We do not know what choices we would have made
if it were our childrens lives at stake. But even as we cher-
ish the memory of the six million, the holiest of Jews, we
must return to that oldest of Jewish traditions: resistance
and fighting back. After all, thats what Israel represents.
That after 2,000 years of Jewish blood flowing like rivers,
we have shouted never again.
Jewish blood can never again be spilled without a price
to pay. Jewish life must have value. Jewish rights and free-
doms can no longer be trampled on but will be guaranteed
by a state dedicated entirely to the premise that the Jewish
people, like every nation, have a God given right to freedom,
security, and prosperity, all in their own land.
Opinion
Yizkor reflections
I
t was possibly a religious genius who thought of put- on you, are not forgotten. And if they spoke words of
ting Yizkor at the end of an 8-day holiday. wisdom or love during their lives, they continue to speak
Not that the seders werent meaningful, or that to us, from one side of the bridge to the other.
we object so strongly to matzah but heck, even the I say the prayers for some relatives in English, and for
Torah speaks of a 7-day observance. Were others in Hebrew. (I think the latter would
ready for this celebration to end. But put Yiz- be insulted if I said them in English.) Time
kor on the eighth day, and were back at shul. permitting, I recite every name; theres
Scheduling Yizkor at the end of the holiday something so impersonal about saying et
period also is a sure way to draw in crowds. al under these circumstances. Still, we
After all, isnt that when we miss our family cant be expected to give equal attention to
members the most? Remember when Uncle all those weve lost. After all, we didnt do
Hymie sang Cockeyed Joe instead of Chad that when they were still alive.
Gadya, year after year, to the continuing con- As it happens, I was so close, and in such
sternation of Uncle Sender? Remember when deep conversation, with my late husband
Aunt Celia let us nibble the gribbenes before Lois Goldrich on the bridge this morning that I didnt
dinner? The melodies will never sound as want Yizkor to end. And when the service
good, nor the chicken-fat substitutes taste as resumed, I was a bit disappointed, blocking
good. So, in truth, those relatives who populated the sed- out prayers with mournful melodies and craving upbeat
ers of our past have lodged in our heads even before the and life-affirming renderings of the liturgy. Perhaps the
memorial service begins. synagogue should set aside a special area for those who
Actually, I found a strange parallel this year between wish to continue the conversation.
saying goodbye to Pesach and praying hello to those on Of course, we dont have to reserve such communi-
the other side of my imaginary bridge. (I dont know cation for the sanctuary. Theres nothing wrong with
when this image took hold in my mind, or if I borrowed hearing voices. If we didnt hear, and revisit, the teach-
it from someone else, but I take comfort in the thought ings of those we loved or respected like the kind aunt
that my deceased family and friends live together in a vil- who always told you not to worry, or the grandmother
lage, across a bridge, accessible just by thinking about it.) who said you should appreciate being busy when youre
The folks on both sides of my bridge can meet halfway young, or the teacher who insisted that words be pro-
on occasions such as Yizkor. On my side, I am flanked by nounced properly wed be much the poorer.
my children and grandchildren; on the other are those Yes, we say to ourselves, and to them, we remember.
who no longer are physically present but who neverthe- Thanks.
less hold a place in our hearts and who have a good deal
left to teach us. Even their accessibility is a lesson. Lois Goldrich of Fair Lawn is a writer for the
People you love, or who have made a deep impression Jewish Standard.
Days of significance
L
ast month, our 17-year-old son, Zalman, par- incredible trip. The pictures and descriptions Zalman
ticipated in a trip to Poland that has changed shared provided new meaning in our collective redemp-
the way he and our entire family under- tion from slavery to freedom. We experienced the deep
stands these days of significance during the connection between Yom HaShoah, observed this week,
post-Pesach period. and Yom HaZikaron and Yom Haatzmaut, to
Zalman joined 15 other Englewood high be celebrated this coming week.
school seniors in the culminating trip of the In just one day, the group experienced the
year-long Asher Strobel Leadership Pro- theological duality of this season. They vis-
gram. Together, they traveled and observed ited Auschwitz-Birkenau, the most famous
not only the devastation of the Shoah but symbol of Nazi Germanys attempt to exter-
also the rebirth of post-Holocaust Eastern minate the Jewish people more than 70 years
Europe and founding of the State of Israel. ago. And later that day, they welcomed and
Our son was the first in our family to have observed an inspirational Shabbat in Krakow.
the chance to participate in such a trip. By We can only contemplate what this contrast
being present in Poland with a group his Jeremy J. must have felt like in their minds and their
peers, he was given a chance to bear wit- Fingerman hearts. We can just imagine the powerful
ness to what happened, to commit himself reflections on what they had seen of the Jew-
to never forget, and to demonstrate his ish past, even as they enjoyed a truly joyous
ability to live freely and proudly as an observant Jew. We Shabbat signifying the Jewish present and future.
hope each of these teen leaders will take up the respon- In the weeks following Passover, we count the omer,
sibility to help share their experiences with the many marking the 49 days between Passover and Shavuot. We
people they will encounter throughout their lives. come together as a community to count each day and to
With daily Whats App messages and phone calls, make each day count.
we were able to experience the highs and lows of this See Days page 41
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Opinion

On being weary and wary of awareness

A
pril is Autism Awareness
Month. As we are close to the
end of the month, chances are
that youve already seen or
heard that statement.
So let me ask you: Are you more aware
of autism now than you were at the begin-
ning of the month? And what do we mean
by this vague thing we call awareness
anyway?
I looked online and found a Cause/
Awareness Monthly Calendar, which con-
firmed my suspicions that almost every
month of the year has multiple causes
assigned to it. April has six listings, includ-
ing Parkinsons Disease Awareness Month
and Sexual Assault Awareness Month.
If theres a cause out there that does not
emphasize the goal of awareness, I have
yet to come across it.
And yet I dont see much in the way of
assessment of this goal. How is awareness
measured? Who measures it? How are the
results distributed? I believe that aware-
ness actually refers to attention, which is
the basic currency of our electronically
mediated environment. The primary ques-
tion is: Is the cause in question getting
enough attention from the news media,
the entertainment media, and our social
media? And secondarily, are the audiences
and participants paying enough attention
to these messages?
My daughter turned 21 this winter.
When she was 2 years old, she was diag-
nosed with autism. Looking back some 18
years ago, I know that what we call autism
awareness was not very widespread, not
even here in northern New Jersey, where
there are the largest numbers and the
greatest concentration of children with
autism in the United States.
Back then, most estimates ranged from
1 in 1,000 to 1 in 500 children with autism
nationwide. Increased awareness coin-
cided with increased incidence, and now
the estimates range between 1 in 45 and
1 in 68. And given the higher numbers in
our region, this means that chances are
you know someone with autism, or some-
one with a family member who has autism.
As the numbers grew, autism advocates
began to call it an epidemic. Specifically,
they referred to the epidemic of child-
hood autism. And it was an epidemic that
affected families from all walks of life, from
every income bracket and socioeconomic
status, as well as every race, ethnicity, and
religion.
A major turning point
in autism awareness came
when a grandson of Bob
Wright was diagnosed with
autism. Wright was the CEO
of NBC at the time, and he
and his wife, the late Suzanne
Wright, founded Autism
Speaks in 2005. Through his Dr. Lance
influence, autism suddenly Strate
received much more atten-
tion in the news and enter-
tainment media than it ever
had before.
It is worth asking ourselves why social care for them, and eventually will become
problems only receive attention when the
rich, the famous, and the powerful are
touched by them, when the problem is
experienced by someone close to a media
professional or politician. Of course we
are grateful when someone with a public
platform finally speaks out. But why do
awareness and attention have to depend
on a contemporary variation on noblesse
oblige?
And again, what is awareness all
about? It is certainly a far cry from
understanding.
I recently spoke with a w
friend and colleague whose n
son, about 10 years older
than my daughter, also has l
autism. And we talked about u
the fact that our children will m
never really grow up, be able b
to live independently, have t
their own place, hold a nor- b
mal job, marry, or raise chil- e
dren. About how much they
depend on us and continue e
to depend on us. And about c
how uncertain their future is s
as we grow older, grow less and less able to o
u
unable to provide them with a home and u
necessary supervision. s
We talked about what will happen to
them when were gone. p
It is so very hard for us to watch the par- t
ents of typical children celebrate the usual a
rites of passage and talk with mixed feel- i
ings about becoming empty nesters, know- a
ing that fate has something else in store for i
us. Our special needs children require so l
much more of their parents than typical b
children as theyre growing up, and their t
special needs do not magically disappear

A Holocaust survivor once removed

I
often have pondered what makes a
second generation speaker worthy
of participating in a commemora-
tive service along with Holocaust
survivors.
Surely it is not the mere accident of
birth. Nor is it any special insight into suf-
fering that we may have, or the emotional
baggage carried by children of survivors
that some psychologists like to analyze.
Rather, I believe that the proper role of
Second Generation speakers is to declare
ourselves as witnesses-in-waiting: to
become survivors once removed, who will
carry on the mission of testimony exempli-
fied by the noble people we learn about at
such services.
We are all very grateful that the personal
stories of so many survivors are being
recorded and videographed for poster-
ity, and it is important that the historical
facts of the Holocaust still are being metic-
ulously documented. But while such tes-
timony and documentation are crucial in
many ways and for very many people, we
Jews need more than accurate Holocaust
information. We need more than barriers
against Holocaust denial. What we need
are ways to cultivate the memory of the
Holocaust, and the means to integrate
this memory into our Judaism. Just as our
tradition has many forms of zeicher litziat
Mitzrayim (memorials to the Exodus from
Egypt), we need to build up enduring ave-
nues toward a zeicher la-Shoah (memori-
als to the Holocaust). And we survivors
once removed have a vital role to play in
this endeavor.
I do not have any numbers tattooed on
my arm, but I do have engraved in my
mind the moment of first seeing my moth-
ers tattoo, and asking her what the letter
A stood for. My mother passed away 12
years ago, or 60 years after she was lib-
erated from Auschwitz. My father, thank
God, is still alive, still feeling the urgency
at age 93 to rehearse the intricate stories
of how he avoided Auschwitz, thus avoid-
ing the tragic fate met by his parents and
his 10 siblings.
My mother did not talk much about
her wartime experiences, or even about
life before the war. Maybe this was due to
the number of siblings, cousins, and some
townspeople who survived along with her,
and helped ease the burden of survival.
Although she appeared strong, stoical,
and cheerful, with a touch of cynicism, I
believe that her interior pain and struggles
ultimately contributed to her relatively
early death.
In contrast, my father truly is a lone
survivor who perhaps to fill
a cosmic loneliness cannot
stop talking about life in the
old country and about the
war. He does not talk of the
Holocaust, just about his per-
sonal adventures surround-
ing the war. But one day he
will no longer talk, and it may
be my turn to speak up, or at Cantor
least become a more active Sam Weiss
link in a zeicher la-Shoah.
I was born and raised in the
Brooklyn neighborhood of Williamsburg,
which in the 1950s was a community of
Holocaust survivors. Not only were my rela-
tives all survivors or children of survivors, today. I now think that the variegated
but so were all of my acquaintances from
school and shul. Among other characteris-
tics of growing up in such an environment
was my distorted view of Europe, remi-
niscent of the famous New Yorker cover
by Saul Steinberg, which shows the View
of the World from Ninth Avenue. In my
case it was a View of the World from the
Holocaust. So-and-so did not come to the
United States from Hungary, from Rumania,
or from Poland; they simply came from the
Holocaust. When learning of a survivors
age (even back in the days when they were
not all elderly), I instinctively translated from a nearby barracks, as if from some
that number into how old
they must have been when
my 16-year-old mother was
in Auschwitz.
As an adult, I used to down-
play such anomalies in the
perceptions of the so-called
Second Generation. I even
rejected that label altogether
and recoiled at the thought
of my children being a Third
Generationuntil I realized
that such secondary Holo-
caust-related peculiarities one day will con-
stitute primary testimony, in the absence
of the kind of living testimony we still hear
g
impressions and memories of children of
survivors are a vital part of a new link in the o
chain of Jewish memory and tradition. a
In 2009 I participated in the Cantors a
Assembly mission to Poland that was doc- o
umented in a DVD called 100 Voices: A v
Journey Home. Auschwitz-Birkenau State t
Museum authorities granted us special per- h
mission to hold a full prayer service, com- s
plete with Torah reading, on the grounds w
of Auschwitz. As I led the shacharit that s
Thursday morning I felt the presence of w
my teen-aged mother looking down at us i
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a when they become adults. The pressure
e never lets up, and it never goes away.
r Awareness? Feh! Lets face it, if you dont
s live it, you just dont understand, just cant
t
l
understand, not really. Not fully. So forgive
me if I find all this talk about awareness to
e be awfully shallow, promoting the illusion
e
-
that something real is happening merely
by calling attention to causes on our news,
- entertainment, and social media.
y
e
I remember when Ronald Reagan was
elected president, budgets were cut, poli-
t cies were changed, and all of a sudden we
s
o
saw schizophrenic individuals who previ-
ously had been institutionalized winding
e up on the streets, homeless and helpless,
d unable to take care of themselves. It was a
shonda, a national disgrace.
o Now think this through with me. For the
past two decades, weve been made aware
- that there is an epidemic of childhood
l autism, with numbers steadily increas-
- ing. And be aware that there is no cure for
- autism. So now, be aware that we are fac-
r ing an epidemic of adults with autism. And
o let me ask you, are you aware of what is
l being done to deal with this ticking social
r time bomb?
r Nothing.
d is a hereditary Jewish class.
n Many Holocaust survivors including
s those in my own familys community
What we need are
- of a zeicher la-Shoah. This especially is the
e ways to cultivate
d the memory of
n caust memorial services. A shul like the
the Holocaust,
t and the means
d kor services. How redundant that would
d to integrate this
- memory into
- Holocaust victims.
e our Judaism.
r yeshivas themselves what is their very
d ghostly shuls womens balcony.
f As in many minyanim across the world,
e ours had some Kohanim, some Leviim,
and of course many Israelites. But we
s also had among us another special class
- of Jews: survivors of the Holocaust from
A various American synagogues who joined
e the trip. Before the Torah was lifted for
- hagbah and gelilah we experienced a very
- special ceremony in which the Torah scroll
s was unwound and wrapped around all the
t survivors and the children of survivors
f who were there. At that liturgical moment
s it became clear to me that like being a
e Kohen or a Levi Holocaust survivorship
Local school districts are required to pro-
vide people with autism with an appropriate
education until they age out after their 21st
birthdays. After that, services are limited,
if any exist at all. And for all but the most
severe and violent individuals, we parents
will try our best to take care of our children
for as long as we are physically and psychi-
cally able.
How much longer do you think that will
be?
We could have begun to prepare for the
problem when Barack Obama was elected
president. He had the right outlook. But the
economy had just crashed under George W.
Bush, Obama understandably was preoccu-
pied with recovery from recession and with
affordable healthcare, and he was faced with
an obstructionist Congress for most of his
tenure. Now that we have a Republican presi-
dent, House and Senate, our government is
back to cutting social services, so I doubt we
can expect any proactive measures in the
near future.
No, in all probability nothing will happen
until the time when the parents of adults
with autism no longer are able to provide
them with a home, and the streets again are
flooded with homeless people helpless to
will disagree in principle with the notion
case among the many Orthodox communi-
ties that still do not hold dedicated Holo-
one I grew up in would make no special
mention of Holocaust victims during Yiz-
have been, considering that practically
all the relatives being memorialized were
And these many Orthodox shuls and
existence, if not a living memorial to that
entire generation that perished? Although
each year more and more elements of
Shoah commemoration are being incorpo-
rated into the observance of Tisha Bav in
some of these communities, I hope that in
time all Jews will come to grapple with the
significance of the Shoah and recognize its
proper place in Jewish memory.
Sam Weiss is the cantor of the JCC of
Paramus/ Congregation Beth Tikvah. He
delivered this speech at this years Yom
HaShoah congregation presented by the
Jewish Federation of Northern New Jersey.
Are you more
aware of autism
now than you were
at the beginning
of the month?
And what do
we mean by this
vague thing we
call awareness
anyway?
take care of themselves. When that happens,
in the not too distant future, awareness will
become more than a matter of news reports,
feel-good films and TV programs, and social
media memes. Awareness will become a
face-to-face reality, an embarrassment, a
source of guilt for the more enlightened, a
source of fear for others. And only then will
the public demand action, and public officials
respond in kind. Thats what happened with
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The days this week and next are par-
ticularly meaningful. If Yom HaShoah
reminds us never to forget our past,
Yom HaZikaron honors the actions
taken by our brethren to defend our
nation, and Yom Haatzmaut allows us
to celebrate the miracle of our vibrant
Jewish state and of our strong, lasting
Jewish future. We feel so fortunate that
our teens collectively could experience
this incredible connection between
redemption and freedom.
Now completing its fourth cohort,
the ASLP program of East Hill Syna-
gogue was created in memory of a
remarkable young man, Asher zl, who
died suddenly six years ago during a ski
trip to Jackson Hole, Wyoming. Diane
and Ron Strobel supported Rabbi Zev
Reichmans vision to create this tribute
to their son by empowering more teens
to form their identities and to find
their voices each year. What a remark-
able and fitting homage it is to Ashers
memory.
Each of these teens is capable, smart,
strong, sensitive, and compassion-
ate. The ASLP provides them with the
Opinion
the schizophrenics on the streets back in the
1980s.
So what does awareness mean to you?
I guess it means that youre aware that
its Autism Awareness Month. I guess that
amounts to awareness of awareness. And
maybe, maybe, if youre really made aware,
that can lead to being informed. Maybe. My
guess is that how well informed you are about
autism depends on how close you are to an
actual person with autism. And even then,
after all, being informed is a far cry from
actual action.
So please forgive me for being weary and
wary of awareness. But please be aware of
whats coming down the pike, and when it
happens, be aware that you were warned
about it. And be aware that it was a failure of
understanding, compassion, and foresight,
and above all political will, that caused the
problem.
That is the kind of awareness that we need
to get across right now, in this month of April.
Dr. Lance Strate of Palisades Park is a
professor of communication and media
studies at Fordham University in the
Bronx, and the president of his synagogue,
Congregation Adas Emuno in Leonia.
chance to learn, to achieve, and to soar.
As parents, we try so hard to facilitate
the kind of incredible experiences that
will serve as a positive catalyst for our
teens as they prepare to graduate high
school and embark on their next adven-
tures. And we also learn so much from
the powerful experiences provided to
our kids.
Even though my wife and I did not
travel physically to Poland, by doing
so in our minds and through our sons
eyes we have remembered our past
and have connected to our future. Our
observance of Yom HaShoah this year
challenges all of us not only to remem-
ber but also to take action to ensure we
defend the right of Israel to exist as an
independent, secure, vibrant Jewish
state.
I hope that these days of significance
will remain a part of us as we observe
and appreciate our transition from
redemption to freedom.
Jeremy J. Fingerman is the CEO of the
Foundation for Jewish Camp. He lives
in Englewood with his family; he is vice
president of Congregation Ahavath
Torah there. Write to him at Jeremy@
jewishcamp.org.
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Opinion
Why Yom HaShoah means never again
S
unday evening marked the begin-
ning of Yom HaShoah, officially
known as Yom Hazikaron laShoah
ve-laGvurah (Holocaust and Hero-
ism Remembrance Day), our annual com-
memoration of the Holocaust.
This memorial day was added to our
Jewish calendar in 1953 by Israels prime
minister, David Ben Gurion. There was
a great deal of care taken to determine
exactly when during the year we should
commemorate the systematic attempt to
eliminate the Jews of Europe by Hitler and
the Nazis. There were many who felt the
Jews already had enough days dedicated to
all the efforts to destroy us, and we could
just add the Holocaust to the list of disas-
ters that have befallen us that are marked
on existing memorial days. There is Tisha
BAv, the ninth day of the Jewish month
of Av, which falls in the summer and has
become the traditional day of mourning for
all the disasters that have befallen the Jews,
including the destruction of both the First
and Second Temples. Many felt that remem-
bering the Holocaust on that day would be
appropriate. Some suggested that the tenth
of Tevet, in the winter. That day marks the
siege of Jerusalem by Nebuchadnezzar of
Dr. Mark Gold of Teaneck holds a Ph.D. in economics from NYU. He is on the executive board
of Partners for Progressive Israel, a member organization of the American Zionist Movement
and an affiliate of the World Union of Meretz.
Hiam Simon of Englewood is the past chief operating officer of Ameinu, the leading
progressive Zionist membership organization in the United States. He lived in Israel for many
years, where he was the dean of students at what is now the Alexander Muss High School, and
he served in the IDF as a noncommissioned officer in the artillery.
We demand that Trump
stop threatening our drinking water
P
resident Trump has now
threatened our nations drink-
ing water.
On March 28th, four days
after he received a petition to do so from
a fossil fuel energy consortium, the Util-
ity Water Act Group, Trump signed an
executive order to weaken President
Obamas Clean Power Plan.
Included in that Obama plan was a reg-
ulation concerning the monitoring, safe
storage and disposal of coal ash, which
was to become effective in 2018.
According to the New York Times,
more than 100 million tons of coal
ash, filling more than a thousand land-
fills and bodies of water in nearly every
state, is produced every year, one of the
nations largest and most vexing streams
of toxic waste.
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Babylonia, which ended in the fall of the
first Jewish state. Many suggested the anni-
versary of the Warsaw Ghetto revolt as the
day to remember both the victims and the
heroes of the Holocaust. In 2005, the United
Nations declared January 27, the date of the
liberation of Auschwitz, as International
Holocaust Remembrance Day, to remem-
ber the Holocaust and to honor the victims
and survivors. Perhaps we could now take
Yom Hashoah off the calendar, and simply
remember the victims at the same time as
the rest of the world.
But in the end it was decided that the Jews
would reserve the date of Yom HaShoah as
the 27th of Nissan. The careful choice of
that date perhaps illustrates how unique
this Jewish memorial day is, and how cru-
cial. It is not the anniversary of any particu-
lar action. It is larger than that, as was the
Holocaust itself. Yom HaShoah is carefully
tucked in between Passover, the holiday
that celebrates our first national indepen-
dence, and Yom Haazmaut, which cele-
brates our most recent one. Yom HaShoah
quietly contrasts the condition of stateless
vulnerability with the security, freedom,
and freedom of action that comes with an
independent Jewish state; a state that can
As the Washington Post recently
pointed out, according to the consensus
of environmental groups, more than a
third of coal plants discharge wastewater
within five miles of a downstream com-
munitys drinking water intake.
The Sierra Club, as reported in the
Washington Post, has described the
Obama Clean Power Plan Rule as hav-
ing been developed after years of study;
before that, the pre-existing rules had
been in place unchanged for decades.
Scott Pruitt, Trumps Environmental
Protection Agency administrator, just
released a statement defending Trumps
executive order. It said, in part:
This action is another example of the
[Trump Administrations] EPA imple-
menting President Trumps vision of
being good stewards of our natural
be a bulwark and provide the at best, or even worse, as igno-
hope that never again will rant and foolish.
the Jewish people experience On January 27 the U.N.-
such victimization. created International Day in
In Israel, the day is marked Commemoration of Victims of
publicly with flags flying at the Holocaust our adminis-
half-mast. At sirens wail, all tration issued a statement that
traffic stops, and people stand did not mention Jews or anti-
in silence all over the country. Semitism. Many hoped that it
For two minutes, the State of Dr. Mark was simply a mistake, made
Israel stands in silent reflec- Gold by a young and inexperienced
tion. This silent act helps staff. But no, when asked to
unify the Jewish state. Those explain the poor choice of
two minutes help erase the wording, the White House
many divisions that so often explained that Jews had
fragment Israeli society. been omitted from the state-
For those two minutes, it ment on purpose, because
is clear that our very survival other victims also suffered
depends on our finding com- and died in the Holocaust. At
mon ground. Each passing a time that has seen the most
year, our civic actions in Israel dramatic rise in anti-Semitic
and around the world become threats and acts of violence in
more entrenched in practiced Hiam Simon generations, our administra-
rituals, assuring that we will tion failed to go on record.
mark the day and yet run- Even before that misguided
ning the risk of making the day less remark- statement, Trump had raised the hair on
able. But when our civic events stir our the backs of our necks with a campaign that
memories, thoughts, and commitments, flirted with anti-Semitic tropes. The cam-
the rituals are not empty. Commemoration paign tweeted an image of a Magen David
achieves its purpose. with Hillary Clintons face superimposed on
It appears that the American administra- a pile of money. His closing ad warned of a
tion struggles with understanding the enor- shadowy cabal of bankers and international
mity of the Holocaust, with comprehending elites. His son casually used the phrase
what it means for the Jews specifically as warming up the gas chambers to refer to
well as for humanity in general. An adminis- vociferous criticism. Neither Trump nor his
tration that in less than its first 100 days has campaign staff were prepared to walk away
tripped and fallen over the Holocaust sev- from their America First slogan, even after
eral times comes off as callous and uncaring the phrases devilish connotations, which
resources, while not devel- trajectory since 2012.
oping regulations that hurt According to the Solar
our economy and kill jobs. Foundation, in 2016 there
Firstly, as The Washington were more than 260,000
Post recently pointed out, solar energy workers alone
the Obama rule requires in the United States. The
only that the coal industry Americ an Wind Energy
show that they were using Association says that there
the most up-to-date technol- were 88,000 wind energy
ogy to remove heavy metals Steven R. jobs in 2016, a 20 percent
including lead, arsenic Rothman jump in one year.
and other pollutants from The Center for Media and
their wastewater. Democracy reports that
Secondly, coal jobs and U.S. reliance in 2016 there were only 142,000 work-
on coal have fallen below clean energy ers in the coal industry, including min-
jobs for the past three years. ers, transportation providers, and coal
Bloomberg News reported that by 2015, power plant operators. Those jobs have
solar energy jobs alone had overtaken oil, been on the decline for almost a decade.
natural gas extraction, and coal jobs. Jobs Others, like environmental activist and
in solar energy have been on an upward venture capitalist Tom Steyer, of NextGen

echoed the rhetoric of the anti-Semitic
underbelly of American society in the run-
up to World War II, were pointed out.
Then we have the latest miscue of Sean
Spicer, President Trumps press secretary.
Mr. Spicer, in his explanation of our mis-
sile attack on Syria, proclaimed, Even
Hitler never used chemical weapons.
An audible gasp could be heard from the
reporters assembled in the pressroom. In
his attempt at an apology, Spicer explained
that he meant that Hitler never used chemi-
cal weapons on his own people. This only
hints at Spicers lack of understanding or
perhaps his implicit understanding that the
Nazi regime divided the population into two
parts good Germans and bad Germans. It
is clear into which camp the Jews of Ger-
many had been placed.
This Yom HaShoah, the need for Holo-
caust education is clear. It was a teachable
moment not only for Mr. Spicer but for us
Jews as well. Educational work is never
finished.
What is it, though, that we want to teach?
Surely we want both our children and our
non-Jewish neighbors to know the horrors
that befell European Jewry. We want all to
understand what it meant for our people
to be marked for annihilation and to know
about the virulent, state-sponsored anti-
Semitism that led to their deaths. We want
all to understand the horrors of the round-
ups, the shootings, the ghettos, the trans-
ports, the death camps, and the gas cham-
bers. And we want the world to know this as
a crime against Jews.
These years are particularly impor-
tant as the number of living eyewitnesses
dwindle. We want this history docu-
mented, so that no one can deny it. We
Americans finding themselves
at the mercy of their modern
presidents executive orders
and rule-making powers is not
new, but the loud voice of an
enraged American people is
still very powerful.
Climate, puts the number of coal workers
today at only 75,000.
In a recent Sierra Club analysis of the
Department of Energy jobs data, as cited
in its recent article, 41 states and Wash-
ington, D.C., have more jobs in the clean
energy sector than in the fossil fuel indus-
try. Trumps executive order therefore
Sirens sound and traffic stops as Israelis stand in silence to mark Yom HaShoah.
want a public revulsion against these
facts, not only to honor those who suf-
fered and perished but also to promote
awareness as a shield against anti-Semi-
tism. Without real Holocaust education,
the cry of never again will become
nothing more than an empty echo.
While we desire all to understand this
Jewish particularity, however, we Jews must
not lose sight of its generality. Never again
must not mean only never again to the Jews,
but never again ever. From our historical
memory, we must bear a consciousness
amounts to a possible job killer for a fast-
growing green energy sector that has
become a viable alternative to replace the
nations reliance on dirty fossil fuels.
Thirdly, Pruitt offers no evidence sup-
porting his view that killing the Clean
Power Plan will result in more jobs in the
coal industry. Coal usage is on the decline,
and a compassion for those experienc-
ing similar, if not the same, suffering. The
awareness of our own history must make
us understand how easy it is for others to
be labeled the other. It should sensitize us
to the dangers of chauvinism and racism, of
ethnic and religious hatreds.
We must make sure that no one ever
divides America into good and bad Ameri-
cans. As we live through the period between
Passover and Yom Haatzmaut, between
our memory of slavery and our celebra-
tion of modern freedom, we must stand as
as a result of increasingly cheaper clean
energy, as well as the popularity of less
polluting oil and natural gas.
Fourthly, in balancing the publics
health versus retaining a relatively small
number of jobs in an already naturally
declining, 19th century polluting tech-
nology, Trump and Pruitt wrongly come
down on the side of the latter. They are
hugely out of step with the vast majority
of Americans on this issue.
Americans finding themselves at the
mercy of their modern presidents exec-
utive orders and rule-making powers is
not new, but the loud voice of an enraged
American people is still very powerful.
We approximately 325 million Ameri-
cans can let our president and congres-
sional representatives know that we,
our children, our grandchildren, and
Opinion
defenders of liberty and freedom. As we
recall our own terrible experiences as a peo-
ple, we must not turn away from those who
suffer today from the refugees from Syria
or Africa as they flee ethnic cleansing, tor-
ture, and murder. We must stand for Ameri-
cans of every ethnicity and religion. Then
we truly can mean never again.
If we are not for ourselves, who will be for
us? But if we are for ourselves alone, who
are we?
If these thoughts dont touch us on Yom
HaShoah, when will they?
all our neighbors do not want to drink
poisoned water.
It will require citizen involvement
again, just like in the way moderate
Republicans and Democrats banded
together to stop the Trump/Ryancare
bill, which would have caused terrible
damage to our nations social safety net
programs of Medicare, Medicaid and
Obamacare.
Now we need to tell our elected federal
officials that in case they werent sure, we
demand our drinking water not contain
poison.
Steven R. Rothman of Englewood, a
Democrat, represented New Jerseys 9th
Congressional District from 1997 to 2013.
This op ed is reprinted with permission
from the Record.
Jewish Standard APRIL 28, 2017 43
Opinion

The American pastor at Erdogans mercy

A
s Turkish President
Recep Tayyip Erdo-
gan assumed near-
dictatorial powers
following his dubious victory
in a constitutional referendum
on April 16, Andrew Brunson,
a Christian pastor from North
Carolina, was marking his sixth
month of incarceration inside a Ben Cohen
Turkish prison.
Brunson, who has lived in Turkey with his family for
the last 23 years, was the head of the Resurrection Church
in the coastal city of Izmiror he was, that is, until he
was detained last October on the vague and unsubstan-
tiated charge of membership in an armed terrorist
organization.
In a recent interview with North Carolina-based WTDV,
Brunsons daughter, Jacqueline, expressed what many
Americans were thinking when she exclaimed, I mean,
hes an American citizen. Its kind of outrageous to think
that this is happening to an American citizen.
While American citizens living or working in the Mid-
dle East are no strangers to assassinations, hostage-tak-
ing, and terrorist acts, what makes Brunsons case dou-
bly outrageous is that his imprisonment is taking place in
Turkeya country that traditionally is an ally of the United
States, a member of NATO, and widely seen in the years Turkish President recep Tayyip erdogan listens to the general debate at the united nations general
before Erdogans rise as the ideal model for a secular state assembly on sept. 20, 2016. UN PHOTO/CIA PAK

with a Muslim majority.

Turkish officials have remained unmoved by outside
pleas for Brunsons release. Binali Yildirimthe prime
minister whose position has been abolished as a direct
result of Erdogans constitutional overhaultold reporters
in March that there was a possibility of putting Brunson on
trial sooner rather than later, but he added, As you will
appreciate, judiciary matters are not directly controlled
by us.
The only thing we should appreciate is the irony of a
Turkish leader talking about his countrys independent
judiciary, less than a year after thousands of judges, uni-
versity teachers, military officers, and others were purged
after the murky coup attempt against Erdogan. Sadly,
Brunsons continued imprisonment has become a card for
the Turks to play in negotiations, as Erdogan continues to
pressure the United States into extraditing the Pennsylva-
nia-based exiled Muslim cleric Fethullah Gulen, whom he
insists orchestrated the failed coup of 2016. But its easier
for Yildirim to pretend that Turkish justice follows similar
principles to American justice than to admit that Brunson
is the hostage of a populist tyrant.
As for Erdogan, he does not appear to feel obliged to
let up on his program of political repression in the wake
of the referendum. If anything, the repression is esca-
lating, with hundreds of arrests already reported within
three days of the referendum result. Given the slim major-
ity in favor of Erdogans campaign for an executive presi-
dency 48.6 percent of Turks voted against it, and there
were many reports of electoral violationsthis was to be
expected.
Erdogan has the right to feel confident. Yes, he will con-
tinue to face widespread internal resistance. Yes, he will
be the target of Western, and especially European, con-
If anything, the
repression is
escalating, with
hundreds of arrests
already reported
within three days of the
referendum result.
extensive business relations with Iran, and both countries
share the common goal of crushing Kurdish aspirations for
independence. As far as Islamic State is concerned, Erdo-
gan sees the group as a subsidiary concern in his brutal
war against the Kurds in eastern Turkey and Syria.
Yet if any Muslim leader can be considered a bridge,
Erdogan can stake a claim to the status. He may be a popu-
list Islamist who delights in crude anti-Semitic and anti-
Western rhetoriche has wondered aloud whether Israels
government is worse than Hitler, and he has described
the current Dutch and German governments as Nazis imprisonment, Erdogan needs to understand there is
but he also is the custodian of a long and complex dip-
lomatic, security, and political relationship with Western
countries, including the United States and Israel.
So is Erdoganin words commonly attributed to FDR,
talking about Nicaraguan dictator Anastasio Somozaa
son of a bch...but our son of a bch? Its certainly gan, he should make it very clear that America wants
tempting to understand the current Western view of
Erdogan in those terms, particularly as President Donald
undermining him is hardly a priority when you con-
sider what else is going on in the region. As for Israel
and the American Jewish leadership, both appear to
have unlimited tolerance for Erdogans anti-Semitic
outburstscondemning them, certainly, but never sev-
ering ties because of them. Again, their reasoning is
pretty much the same: Erdogan is a foul character run-
ning a nasty regime, but he has been and can continue
to be a rare regional partner for Israel.
Since Erdogan now can remain Turkeys president until
2029assuming that neither his health nor his iron-fisted
rule wavers between now and thenthere will be plenty of
time to determine whether this realist approach towards
him can hold up.
Part of the answer will depend on what Erdogan does
for the West. I doubt he will moderate his wild rhetoric.
Im skeptical of any claim that he can be as reliable an ally
of the West as Israel is. I dont see him abandoning the
Palestinian terrorists of Hamaswho, incidentally, were
delighted by the referendum result. Going forward, Erdo-
gan will be more enemy than friend.
For this reason, its an ideal time to test Erdogans will-
ingness to compromise. As Rep. Peter Roskam (R-Ill.)
recently observed, when discussing Pastor Brunsons
a limit to what he can do. Detaining an American cleric
on fatuous charges, and then dangling him as bait in an
attempt to secure the extradition of a Turkish citizen who
lives legally in the United States, exceeds that limit glar-
ingly. Next time President Trump speaks to Sultan Erdo-
Brunson safely reunited with his familyand that this
demand is unconditional. JNS.ORG

demnation for his actions and statements. But when such
challenges arise, he can point to the rest of the Middle
East, presenting himself as a bulwark against both the ris-
ing Iranian-led Shia crescent as well as Sunni terrorism in
the form of Islamic State and other jihadi groups.
Of course, the situation is far more complex. Turkey has
Trump called him with congratulations after the referen-
dum, apparently without raising the questionable circum-
stances of the Turkish leaders victory.
There is some merit to this judgment. Ameri-
can foreign policy conservatives often have told me
that as deeply unpleasant as Erdogans regime is,
Ben Cohen, senior editor of TheTower.org and the Tower
magazine, writes a weekly column on Jewish affairs and
Middle Eastern politics. His work has been published in
Commentary, the New York Post, Haaretz, the Wall Street
Journal, and many other publications.

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 Dvar Torah
Gods hand in the establishment of the State of Israel

M
any have pointed to the
political and military mir-
acles involved in the estab-
lishment of the State of
Israel. We must ask why God specifically
chose this time to perform these miracles
for our nation.
An analogy from the time of the prophet
Haggai is instructive. Haggai prophesied
in the year 520 BCE, a very difficult time
for our nation. Nineteen years earlier the
Persian emperor Cyrus had permitted the
Jews to return to Jerusalem to rebuild the
Temple. But relatively few Jews had taken
advantage of Cyrus offer, and those who
returned struggled with a poor economy
while remaining under Persian rule. More-
over, opposition from the local non-Jewish
residents had quickly halted the construc-
tion of the Temple after the Jews had
erected an altar.
After an absence of prophecy since
570 BCE, Haggai emerged with a simple
but encouraging message from God: Ani
itekhem I am with you. The Jewish
people were in desperate need of hear-
ing this message sixty-six years after the
destruction of the Temple with its accom-
panying suffering and exile. The widely-
anticipated glorious return to Israel was
deeply disappointing. Many Jews might
have erroneously concluded that God
had abandoned us. Along came Hag-
gai with a message from God to counter
such a terrible consideration. Perish that
negative thought, teaches Haggai! Gods
commitment to the Jewish People is eter-
nal! Haggais message was supported
and authenticated by the fulfillment of
his prophecy with the completion of the
building of the Second Temple in 516
BCE, against great odds.
Similarly, the years immediately fol-
lowing World War II were a particularly
dismal time for the Jewish people. A third
of the Jewish people had been brutally
murdered by the Nazis and their many
accomplices, and hundreds of thousands
of Jews languished in displaced persons
camps with no country willing to admit
them. The doors of Palestine were almost
completely sealed to Jewish immigration
by its British rulers.
Many Jews at the time identified with
the feelings of their ances- His miracles. Study Benny Mor-
tors after their return from ris magisterial work 1948: A
exile, fearing that God had History of the First Arab-Israeli
forsaken his people. Mis- War and note the details of
sionaries actively reached how the United Nations voted to
out to Jews arguing that the establish a Jewish State against
Holocaust and its aftermath all odds. Read about how the
proved that God no longer ragtag Israeli army managed to
regarded the Jews as His withstand the first few weeks of
special people. Many Jews, Rabbi the War of Independence with
sadly, fell prey to this toxic Howard little ammunition and relatively
outreach. It could be argued Jachter few soldiers on three different
that God made the political Congregation military fronts. Let us heed the
and military miracles of 1947- Shaarei Orah, Psalmists call and point out
the Sephardic
1948 to clarify to the Jewish Congregation of Gods intimate involvement
People, Ani itekhem He Teaneck, Orthodox with the world each and every
is still very much with us. day, but especially this coming
Israels establishment week on Yom HaAtzmaut, Isra-
points to conclusion that God remains els Day of Independence.
involved in the world. Let us follow in the
footsteps of King Solomon, who in the Rabbi Jachter teaches Judaic studies at
Song of Songs declares in reference to God, Torah Academy of Bergen County, serves
Behold, He stands behind our wall, He as rabbi of Congregation Shaarei Orah,
looks in at the windows, He peers through the Sephardic Congregation of Teaneck,
the lattice. Each day in our morning and administers Gittin/Jewish Divorces
prayers we recite the exhortation sihu bek- recognized by the Israeli rabbinate,
hol nifleotav speak (i.e. identify) all of throughout the tristate region.

BRIEFS
U.N. chief vows to combat
anti-Israel bias and anti-Semitism
United Nations Secretary-General Antonio Guterres reas-
sured Jewish community leaders that he would oppose any
anti-Israel bias at the United Nations.
As secretary-general of the United Nations, I consider
that the state of Israel needs to be treated as any other
state, Guterres said at the World Jewish Congress offices
in New York.
allegedly involve the 18-year-old suspect, and includes the
charge of making bomb threats to Jewish schools and JCCs as
well as airports and sporting events.
It was also revealed Sunday the suspect had attempted to
extort a Republican U.S. senator before sending the politician
drugs in the mail and threatening his family.
The suspect is accused of many other charges, including
causing panic via publication of false information, cyber
crimes, money laundering, weapons possession, facilitat-
ing drug trafficking, disseminating pedophilic materials, and
assaulting a police officer.
The U.S. Justice Department and the Israeli Ministry of
me realize that Project GalEd has to do something to help
them get the respect they deserve.
Project GalEd focuses on honoring Holocaust survivors,
soldiers killed fighting for Israel in the 1948 War of Indepen-
dence, unidentified fallen soldiers, and soldiers with no rela-
tives living in Israel.
According to Project GalEd, Every person who wants to
honor these soldiers can order a flower or a flower arrange-
ment to be placed during Israels Memorial Day on one of
these graves, with his personal message written on a black
ribbon. Those who will join the initiative will get a picture of
their flower on the grave via email. JNS.ORG

I have already had the opportunity to show that Im
ready to abide by that principle even when that forces me
to take some decisions that create some uncomfortable
situations, he added, referring to an incident in March in
which the U.N. leader forced the retraction of a controver-
sial U.N. report that accused Israel of implementing an
apartheid regime.
In addition to clarifying that his opposition to anti-Israel
bias does not entail always being in agreement with all
the decisions made by the Israeli government, Guterres
assured he would be in the frontline in the fight against
global anti-Semitism and, if possible, eradicate the phenom-
enon from the face of the Earth. JNS.ORG
Israel charges teenage
suspect in bomb threats case
following U.S. indictment
Following last Fridays U.S. Justice Department indictment of
an Israeli-American teenager who is accused of making more
than 150 bomb threats against Jewish institutions in early 2017,
Israel also has indicted the suspect.
The indictment details more than 2,000 incidents that
Justice are in the midst of negotiations regarding the sus-
pects extradition to America, which has been put on hold
by Israels State Attorney Shai Nitzan because the majority
of the teenagers alleged crimes were perpetrated in the
Jewish state. JNS.ORG
For Israels Memorial Day,
initiative seeks to honor
last descendants
To commemorate Israels Memorial Day (Yom Hazikaron),
a new campaign seeks to honor fallen soldiers who may not
have any living relatives or friends to do so. Project GalEd,
an initiative started by Michal Serfaty to map out the graves
of deceased relatives, has launched a campaign to ensure
a flower for every fallen soldier by enabling purchases of
flower arrangements to be placed on the soldiers graves.
Israeli soldiers without living family members or friends are
known as the last descendants.
Every year, during the Memorial Day ceremonies, I
join my family and thousands of other families in Mount
Herzl Cemetery in Jerusalem, Serfaty said. Thinking
about those who have no family to pay them a visit made
Palestinian terrorist who
murdered British student to
receive monthly PA stipend
A Palestinian terrorist who murdered a 21-year-old British stu-
dent in Jerusalem in mid-April will receive a stipend of approx-
imately $1,000 per month from the Palestinian Authority.
The terrorist, 57-year-old Jamil Tamimi, murdered Hannah
Bladon, who was riding Jerusalems light rail, on April 14.
According to PA law, everyone who is imprisoned for
resisting the occupation receives a PA salary, said Itamar
Marcus, founder and director of Palestinian Media Watch, the
Daily Mail reported.
In PA practice, 100 percent of the suicide bombers, stab-
bers, shooters and car-rammers have been included in this
category and do receive PA salaries, he added.
Israeli authorities have said Tamimi, who allegedly
has a history of mental health issues, initiated the terror
attack in the hope that he would be killed by security
forces. Following a psychiatric assessment, an Israeli
court ruled Tamimi is fit to stand trial and should be
considered a terrorist. JNS.ORG

JEWISH STANDARD APRIL 28, 2017 47

The Frazzled Housewife
Wake me up
W
hen I was lit-
tle, I had a
Mickey Mouse
alarm clock.
His arms were the hour hand
and the minute hand, and there
was a teeny tiny Mickey that
was the second hand. Since I
was little, I didnt know exactly
how to work it, so it would ran- Banji
domly go off and make a really Ganchrow
loud ringing noise and shake
like it was having a seizure.
Poor clock. And then my parents took it
away from me I guess that after waking
everyone up at 3 in the morning more than
once, I lost my alarm clock privileges.
When I was older, I had my really cool
Sony alarm clock. It was also a radio (how
cool is that! a radio!), so I would wake up
to my favorite music. The snooze button
gave me seven extra minutes of sleep.
But then, of course, seven turned into 14,
which turned into 21, which turned into
my being late for school. What did I need
an alarm clock for if I wasnt going to lis-
ten to it? (Clearly this was a trend because
I didnt really listen to my parents, or my
teachers, so there was no chance I was lis-
tening to a clock.)
In the end, the most effective method
for waking me up was my dad coming into
the room and saying, If you dont get up
now, I am not driving you to school and
you will have to walk. Extremely effective.
Fast forward to 20-some-odd years ago,
when I became a mom and my babies
became my alarm clock. No snooze but-
ton on those things. They screamed their
cute little brains out, until I came to feed
them or change them or just look at them
After all, there
are no alarm
clocks you can
use on
Saturdays.
WRONG!
babies are much harder to read than
clocks. Once you run out of options and
they are still screaming, you start to resort very scenario.
to all sorts of unique techniques music,
dancing, begging, pleading, and crying.
When they start eating solid foods, you
can bribe them with treats. (Yes, I know,
bad mom ... but its survival of the fittest.) than any clock-snooze button after all!
When they are old enough to play inde-
pendently, you can give them a bunch of
toys and you have earned about 30 min-
utes of quiet time for yourself. If you get
really desperate, and really lucky, you
48 JEWISH STANDARD APRIL 28, 2017
give them a sibling close in
age, and then they have an
actual live-in playdate to
keep them occupied.
Now I know that there
are parents who give their
children the responsibility
of waking themselves up
every day. I am not one of
those parents. I have had
the pleasure of waking
my children up for school
almost every day of their
lives. And I am the snooze button as well.
I get a smile and a wave. (What parent can
resist the smile?) Sometimes they forget
that I ever woke them up at all, and we
have to start all over again. Those morn-
ings dont go so smoothly, but that is okay
because I take any and all time I can get
with my boys, even if it involves the phrase
You are so annoying! (Music to any par-
ents ears.)
However, I always look forward to the
weekend. I look forward to Shabbos,
because I dont have to wake them up.
Husband #1 is in charge. I gave him three
sons and he can take them all to shul. Had
he given me three daughters, I would be
in charge, but I am a proud boy mom and
I am also fine with my role of not having
to go to shul three times a day. (No judg-
ment, please.) He takes them to shul and
he gets to wake them up. After all, there
are no alarm clocks you can use on Satur-
days. WRONG!
As a high school graduation present, a
dear friend of mine got my boys kosher
clocks. Yes, they are what their name
implies they can be used on Shabbos
and holidays. (No, they cannot be eaten,
even with their hashgacha.) This means
that, for example, when all five of us are
in one room over a Shabbos, this handy
dandy clock can wake you up to the clas-
sic tune of Shabbat Shalom hey! At
least I think that is the tune; it went off so
early in the morning, it could have been
playing Jingle Bells for all I know. And I
also find it curious that this clock takes
away the fun of having their father wake
them up. Which means that he doesnt
get the You are so annoying, leave
me alone.
Hmm. I am assuming this clock
was invented by a dad to avoid this
But that is okay, because even with them
telling me how annoying I am, I still get to
sneak in a hug or a (shh, dont tell their
friends) kiss and that is worth a lot more
Banji Ganchrow of Teaneck used to be able
to sleep for hours and hours. But then she
had her boys, and 12 hours of sleep is all but
a pleasant memory.
Crossword
ON HIGH BY YONI GLATT
KOSHERCROSSWORDS@GMAIL.COM
DIFFICULTY LEVEL: CHALLENGING
Across
1. Ayin ___
5. Elisheva to Nadav and Itamar
8. Tech training sites
14. Ghost friend of Winona in
Beetlejuice
15. Freudian topic
16. Foe of 400 false prophets on a
7-Down
17. Fix, as a tallit
18. He defeats Jason Segals Vector in
Despicable Me
19. Mr. Peterson (at times) on Burrows
Cheers
20. Samson was bound in them
23. Like a dreidel, to a poet
24. Bearded animal (thats kosher)
27. Available (at the makolet)
29. Clothing line from the Polo Sport
designer
30. He spent a lot of time on a 7-Down
32. Myrtle branch
34. Classic King novel with Frannie
Goldsmith (with The)
35. Scott of Anthrax (born Rosenfeld)
36. Bulls and rams
39. Egyptian opera performed at
Masada in 2011
40. Wts. for those moving all they own
to Israel
41. His vessel landed on a 7-Down
42. ___ Lanka (home of Tamil Jews)
43. Apple core youd never make a
blessing on?
44. Worked on a crew
46. Like lashon hara
49. Perlman and Seehorn
50. Not 46-Across
53. Wissotzky and Fuze
55. ___ & the Women (2000 Helen
Hunt movie)
56. 66-Down nearly sacrificed him on a
7-Down
58. He directed Goldie in The Sugarland
Express
60. Successful Koufax delivery
62. Infamous Amin
63. Big furniture retailer with a store in
Kiryat Ata
67. Part of ASAP
68. Schulman of Catfish fame
69. Passover animal
70. Inge who was Arthur Millers last
wife
71. Rabbi Elijah ben Solomon Zalman
(with The)
72. Anything ___ (Allen film of 2003)
Down
1. Son of 41-Across
2. Drink in Maale Adumim?
3. (Han) Solos son
4. Major Aussie band thats never played
in Israel
5. Fox in Transformers with Shia
6. Like Shrek (Var.)
7. Location of memorable moments for
16, 30, 41, and 56- Across
8. ... my tongue is the ___ of a ready
writer (Psalms 45:1)
9. Makes Kirks vessel invisible
10. How some get to NYC from
Woodmere
11. Large city or district in India
12. Foxs Bret who interviewed
Netanyahu in 2016
13. Free Eilat souvenir
21. Talmudist who was the father-in-law
of Rava
22. Drinks that can be streamed
24. Theo Epstein (Red Sox) and Mark
Shapiro (Indians): Abbr.
25. ___ A Stranger (1955 Stanley
Kramer film with Sinatra)
26. It merged with American in Oct. of
2015
28. Container for Dagim tuna
31. The ___ near! (what many might
think during the 25th hour of Yom
Kippur)
33. 1985 Holocaust documentary
37. Dog-___ (a Uris novel, perhaps)
38. Clip, like Jacob or David (in their first
jobs)
40. Hookah puffs
41. Many a (false) Marvel god
43. Sports org. Israels a member of
(with 104 other countries)
45. Hrs. that always end after the High
Holidays
47. Find fault with (like a Jewish mother,
as a cliche)
48. One requiring tzedakah
50. Bette Midlers Divine nickname
51. Gam anachnu
52. Seder staple
54. Palindromic Jewish name
57. Her eye, in Hebrew
59. Plague locale
61. Kodesh preceder
64. ___-El, Hebrew name of Clark Kent
65. Yamim needs?
66. Near sacrificer of 56- Across, for
short
The solution to last weeks puzzle is
on page 55.
 Arts & Culture
Indecent
A play about that play

S
Miriam Rinn

holem Asch is having a

year.
The controversial Yid-
dish writers early 20th-
century play, God of
Vengeance, landed its
cast in court on charges
of obscenity when it
opened at the 42nd Street Apollo Theater
in 1923, but the zeitgeist has caught up
with it. Now, when same-sex relationships
generally are accepted, the love between
two young women shown in the play is at
the heart of Paula Vogels charming and
touching musical production about Aschs
scandalous work.
In Indecent, now at the Cort Theatre,
the Pulitzer-Prize winning Vogel (How I
Learned to Drive) and her co-creator and
director, Rebecca Taichman, bring to the
stage the story of how Aschs play, which
he wrote in Warsaw in 1906, when he was
just 26 years old, became a hit all over
Europe, attracting the leading stars of Yid-
dish theater, but ran into censorship prob-
lems when it opened uptown in Man-
hattan in an English translation. The play
marks the Broadway debut of both Vogel
and Taichman, although the two women
have long and lauded theater resumes.
Both first came across God of Vengeance Katrina Lenk and Adina Verson in Indecents re-creation of God of Vengeance. CAROL ROSEGG

when they were students, and Taichman

used the play as a basis for her senior the-
sis at Yale School of Drama.
Brilliantly staged by Taichman, Inde-
cent intersperses scenes from Aschs life
and career with musical numbers set in
European capitals and some short scenes
from the original play itself. It makes inge-
nious use of projections to indicate the
language spoken and occasional chrono-
logical time shifts. Vogels focus is on the
primacy of the love between Rifkele and
Manke, characters in Aschs play, but
also on the power and potency of art, on
its ability to entertain and ennoble. That
comes through most clearly in the charac-
ter of the stage manager Lemml, radiantly
performed by Richard Topol, who gives
up a predictable life as a tailor to devote
himself to the theater and to Aschs great
work, an experience that gives his life dig-
nity and meaning.
In God of Vengeance, which received
an excellent revival recently from the New
Yiddish Rep at La MaMa, a brothel owner
seeks to gain respectability in the commu-
nity by commissioning the writing of a sefer
Torah and making a good match for his
teenage daughter, Rifkele. The truly daring
aspects of Aschs play are its searing indict-
ment of communal and religious hypocrisy,
phenomena that are just as common today
as they ever were, and in all faith communi-
ties. (Think Ivan Boesky and Bernie Madoff,
Ted Haggard and Jimmy Swaggart.) The rain
scene in the play, where Rifkele and Manke
share a kiss, must have been a shocker, but
their relationship remains a subplot in the The forces of repression are abroad in the
play as a whole. land, and they must be confronted.
Vogel and Taichman put that relation- The Broadway cast of Indecent has
ship front and center; they imbue it with been together since the plays successful run
the sweetness of the girls love and also off-Broadway at the Vineyard Theatre, and
with the symbolic weight of the prejudice they perform as smoothly as youd expect
and small-mindedness they encounter. The from such a long-term ensemble. The plays
two women take on the mantle of Euro- composers, Lisa Gutkin and Aaron Halva,
pean Jewry, also despised and threatened play instruments onstage with some of the
by a hate-filled enemy. In Indecent, Asch actors, and sometimes dance with the cast.
is psychologically and artistically crippled Music and movement, choreographed by
by his visits to Poland and the rising anti- David Dorfman, are used so effectively in
Semitism he sees happening there. When the production that they serve to deepen
he does not participate as vigorously in the joy and pathos rather than trivialize it.
the defense of his play as Lemml believes It is a stunning achievement and a
he should, the stage manager quits in dis- reminder of the full-on theater experience
gust. That sounds a warning to the theater Jewish immigrants enjoyed in the Yiddish
troupe on stage, as well as to the audience. theater. Asch must be smiling somewhere.

Jewish Standard APRIL 28, 2017 49

Calendar
Friday Sunday
april 28 april 30
Benefit walk in
Wyckoff: the temple
Beth rishon community
hosts the annual
Mitzvah day walk to
benefit two alzheimers
organizations,
alzheimers new Jersey
and the wolff Caregiver
support Center, an
Rabbi Shai Held arm of Jewish Family
service of north Jersey.
Shabbat in Teaneck:
registration begins
rabbi shai held
at 9 a.m.; speakers at
is the rabbi Barry
9:30; walk at 10; buffet
schaeffer spring
breakfast at 10:45;
scholar-in-residence
activities at 11. 585 russell
at Congregation Beth
ave. (201) 891-4466 or
sholom; hell talk about
bethrishon.org.
Created with Love, For
Love: Judaisms Vision Water program in Glen
of human Life. dinner Rock: as part of Jewish
and lecture; shabbat Federation of northern
afternoon lecture and Jerseys One Book One
dessert. 354 Maitland Community program,
ave. (201) 833-2620 or a staff member of the
cbsteaneck.org. hackensack river Keeper
leads a discussion, Let
Saturday there Be water, and a
presentation about water
april 29 conservation and the APRIL Fair Lawn Jewish Centers Sisterhood hosts the Mill Mile
philosophical foundation walk around the Paterson Great Falls National Historic Park for
of the water advocacy
movement at the Glen
rock Jewish Center,
30 a brief Let There Be Water conversation as part of Jewish
Federation of Northern Jerseys One Book One Community
11:15 a.m. 682 harristown program. Meet at the FLJC, at 10-10 Norma Ave. in Fair Lawn, on Sunday,
road. (201) 652-6624 or
www.grjc.org.
April 30, at 10:30 a.m. to carpool. The walk is at 11, 72 McBride Ave.,
Paterson. It follows the route of the nations first hydropower system, which
Camp open house in powered the Paterson mills for more than 100 years. The tour also offers an
Haledon: Camp Veritans
will hold a spring open overview of the park. Refreshments. (201) 796-5040 or rflanzman@aol.com.
house for new families at
Ruth Messinger the camp, with activities
including arts and the program, in english independence day at through May 23. the
Shabbat in Closter: crafts and camp tours, and hebrew, is at Ben Beth rishon, 7:30 p.m. first four sessions
temple emanu-el of 225 Pompton road, Porat Yosef, e. 243 Frisch Concert of choral and will be source-based,
Closter welcomes 1- 3 p.m. refreshments. Court, Paramus, 8 p.m. israeli folk music. yeshiva-level style
scholar-in-residence ruth rain date is May 7. Program supported by study, examining the
Messinger, past president (973) 956-1220, or email Tehillim series in the Jewish Federation talmudic and halachic
of the american Jewish Carla@CampVeritans. Englewood: Kehilat of northern new process that led to
world service, during com. if you cant make Kesher/Community Jersey. 585 russell ave. the Birkat Kohanim;
services, 9 a.m., to talk the open house, call the synagogue of tenafly (201) 891-4466. and the fifth session
about whats Jewish office for a personalized & englewood continues will be a summary
about Global social tour. a three-part lecture
Justice? dessert on tehillim by rabbi
Book discussion: the
Tuesday and include practical
halachic applications.
reception. 180 Piermont Yom HaZikaron in shai held, 8:30 p.m. may 2
Fair Lawn Jewish Center/ all welcome. 389
road. (201) 750-9997 or Rockland: a program this week, welcoming
Congregation Bnai israel west englewood ave.
www.templeemanu-el. to honor the memory shabbat with... a
continues its Book and (201) 837-2795, ext. 101.
com. of israels fallen soldiers Grave warning: Lekhu
and victims of terror is Lunch program as ellen
neranena and the
at the rockland Jewish demand for religious
wertheim discusses
the sons of abraham:
Wednesday
Community Campus,
7 p.m. 450 west nyack
integrity (Psalm
a Candid Conversation may 3
95). series concludes
road. (845) 362-4200, about the issues that
May 14. 509 engle st. Talk by American
ext. 115 or jewishrockland. divide and Unite Jews
(201) 227-1117 or www. and Israeli veterans:
org. and Muslims by rabbi
keshernj.com. Jewish Federation of
Marc schneier and imam
Yom HaZikaron in shamsi ali, noon. 10-10 northern new Jersey
Bergen: Friends of the Monday norma ave. reservations, Rabbi Ozer Glickman offers a program,
soldiers stories straight
Judy McLane israel defense Forces,
may 1 (201) 796-5040 or www.
Yashar LaChayal, fljc.com. Kehunah series in from the idF, stories
Broadway in Closter: Jewish Federation of Teaneck: rabbi Ozer from american and
temple Beth el of northern new Jersey, Lunch and learn: rabbi Community Yom Glickman continues israeli veterans, at the
northern Valley One Family Fund, and aaron Katz leads a HaAtzmaut in Wyckoff: a lecture series, federations offices,
welcomes Broadways Ben Porat Yosef join for a discussion on current temple Beth rishon joins Bikdushato shel aharon: 6:30 p.m. 50 eisenhower
Mamma Mia! star Judy community program; idF topics over lunch at with temple emanuel the Practice of Birkat drive, Paramus.
McLane to perform how chaplain rabbi shalom Congregation Bnai of Pascack Valley, Kohanim, covering refreshments. Free.
Lucky Can You Get? hammer will discuss Jacob in Jersey City, woodcliff Lake; Beth concepts concerning reservations required,
hors doeuvres and israels survival and noon. 176 west side ave. haverim shir shalom, kehuna, with a focus on (201) 820-3900 or
wine bar, 6:30 p.m.; the Continuity and there (201) 435-5725 or www. Mahwah; temple Beth Or, modern-day avodah, shirbenda@gmail.com.
concert is at 7:30. 221 will be a presentation, bnaijacobjc.com. washington township, at Congregation rinat
schraalenburgh road. Gvura Vachdut and temple sholom, Fair Yisrael, 8 p.m. series
(201) 768-5112. (heroism and Unity). Lawn, to celebrate israeli continues weekly

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Women Supreme Court
justices: Trish Chambers
Productions presents
Women Justices of the
U.S. Supreme Court
for the Passaic County
Historical Society in
Lambert Castle, 7 p.m.
3 Valley Road, Paterson.
(973) 247-0085 or
lambertcastle.org.
Thursday
may 4
Movies in Closter:
Temple Beth El screens
The Nazi Officers Wife,
10:15 a.m., and again at
6:30 p.m. Refreshments.
221 Schraalenburgh
Road. (201) 768-5112 or
www.tbenv.org.
Calendar
with questions. www.
Shabbat in Closter:
Temple Beth El offers its
laurelwoodarboretum.org.
In New York Singles Friday
Guest Artist Shabbat Jews in cinema: Jewish May 12
service, featuring jazz
vibraphonist Bill Ware,
Standard correspondent
Eric Goldman of Ergo
Sunday Sunday Shabbaton: Sharon
7:30 p.m., and led Media discusses The april 30 April 30 Ganz & Friends host a
by Rabbi S. Widzer, American Jewish Story Shabbaton for Jewish
Cantor Rica Timman, Through Cinema for the OU home/job fair: The Singles meet in singles, 30s-40s, at
and musical director Distinguished Speaker Orthodox Union Jewish Caldwell: New Jersey Young Israel of Avenue
James Rensink. 221 series at Temple Beth communities holds a Jewish Singles 45+ J in Brooklyn, through
Schraalenburgh Road, Rishon in Wyckoff, relocation home/job meet at Congregation Saturday night. Fee
Closter. (201) 768-5112 or 9:30 a.m. Breakfast fair at the Metropolitan Agudath Israel for group includes three Shabbat
www.tbenv.org. buffet. 585 Russell Ave.
(201) 891-4466 or www.
Pavilion, noon to 6 p.m.
Nefesh BNefesh also will
Trivial Pursuit, dessert
buffet, prizes. 2:30 p.m.
meals, Brooklyn tour,
and Saturday night
Saturday bethrishon.org. be there to talk about
aliyah. 125 West 18th St..
20 Academy Road. Sue,
(973) 226-3600, ext. 145,
party. 1721 Avenue J.
(646) 529-8748 or
May 6 Music in Ridgewood: Register at www.ou.org/ or singles@agudath.org. (718) 575-3962.
Temple Israel and JCC fair.
Shabbat in Emerson: presents a concert of
Congregation Bnai international music,
Israel offers services 3 p.m., followed by a
for people of all ages
with a Yom HaAtzmaut
reception with the artists.
475 Grove St. (201) JHF golf/tennis/card outing May 23
theme, 10:30 a.m. 201-444-9320 or www.
Family Shabbat for synagogue.org. The Jewish Home Foundation holds p.m., there will be a tennis round robin
families with children its 23rd annual Golf, Tennis, and Card tournament. Cards and other games,
younger than 7; 8-11 Outing on Monday, May 22, at the Mon- including mah jongg, and social and
Club service; learning
service for children 12 tammy Golf Club in Alpine. A.C.B.L.-sanctioned bridge, also will be
and older beginning This years event honors Robert available. Cocktails will follow at 5:30,
at 10. Pizza, salad, ice Peckar for his many years of dedica- the reception at 6:15, and dinner and
cream. 53 Palisade Ave.
tion. Howard Chernin and Warren Feld- the auction at 7. The daylong fundraiser
(201) 265-2272 or www.
bisrael.com. man are the outing co-chairs; Howard will benefit the programs and services
Blatt and Marc Blatt are the golf co- the JHF provides to the elderly in the
Casino night in Wayne: chairs, and David Edelberg, Howard community.
Temple Beth Tikvah

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Lippman, Susan Penn, and Barry Wien Companies can sponsor the event or

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hosts a casino night

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Author in Glen Rock: are the tennis co-chairs. send participants. For more informa-
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fundraiser at the shul,

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Jewish Family &

T The day will begin with brunch and tion, call Molly Shulman at (201) 784-
7-11 p.m. Catering

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Childrens Services of

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by the Brownstone

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includes glass of wine
or beer, dessert buffet.
950 Preakness Ave.
Northern New Jersey
and the Glen Rock
Jewish Center join to
host Ann Arnold as she
a program at 9:45 a.m.; golf will begin
with a shotgun start at 11:45 a.m.; at 1
1414, ext. 5539, or email her at mshul-
man@@jewishhomefamily.org.

(973) 595-6565 or
templebethtikvahnj.org.
Dudu Fisher
Sunday
Israeli singer in
concert: Dudu Fisher in
may 7
Jerusalem, a television
concert celebrating Breakfast for Israel:
the acclaimed Israeli Jewish National Fund
singers homeland, airs hosts its inaugural
during the week of Northern New Jersey
Israel Independence Breakfast for Israel for Israel Education
Day, on NYCs PBS at the Rockleigh.
station Thirteen, 9 p.m. Registration,
Beautiful footage around 9:30 a.m.; program at
Jerusalem is interspersed 10. Joe Hyams, CEO
with performances of HonestReporting,
of songs including discusses Identification
Jerusalem of Gold, of and Effective 6:15 p.m. Jonathan S.
This is Jerusalem, and Responses to Media Tobin, contributing writer
songs from Fishers Bias Relating to
Broadway roles in Israel. Jocelyn Inglis,
Fiddler on the Roof, (973) 593-0095, ext. 823, Magazine and Jewish
and Les Miserables. or JInglis@jnf.org. Exponent editor, and J.
thirteen.org.
Walk in Wayne: Join
Temple Beth Tikvah
Friday congregants for its
monthly dog-friendly
may 5 walk through Laurelwood
Arboretum in Pines
Shabbat in Jersey
Lake, 9:30 a.m., weather
City: Bnai Jacob hosts permitting. Walk on
its monthly Millennial
unpaved, well-maintained
Shabbat for Jewish trails with several modest
millennials (professionals,
hills. Children welcome.
singles, couples, and Walks will continue the
friends, 20s-40s), with first Sunday into the
a short service followed
cooler months. Sturdy
by a cocktail party, led shoes and baggies for
by Rabbi Aaron Katz,
dogs required. Meet
7-9 p.m. 176 West Side at the Sensory Garden
Ave. (201) 435-5725 or
located between the
www.bnaijacobjc.com. two parking lots. 725
Pines Lake Drive West,
Wayne. Email Mitchell.
borger@gmail.com
discusses her first book,
Together: A Journey for
Survival, 4 p.m. It tells
her grandmothers story
of saving her family from
the Nazis. 682 Harristown
Road. (201) 837-9090 or
www.jfcsnnj.org.
Vying for Israels soul:
The Harold Lerman Fund
and Engagement at
the JCC of Paramus/
Congregation Beth
Tikvah presents Left
vs. Right: The Battle
For Israels Soul,
to National Review and
former Commentary
J. Goldberg, Forward
editor-at-large/senior
Clarinet quartet Michael Lemma and Annette Lieb
commentator, are
Afternoon concert in Ridgewood
the speakers. East
304 Midland Ave.
(201) 262-7691 or
JCCParamus.org. Temple Israel & Jewish Community Cen- pieces composer), Mark Perry, Marci
ter of Ridgewood holds Music from Phelan, and Jean Roughgarden and flut-
Marking the 1967
Israel war: Dan Kurtzer Around the World, featuring classics ist Annette Lieb will play Quintet for
discusses Six Days in and favorites from Spain, Brazil, Ireland, Flutes and Clarinets.
June, Fifty Years Later:
The 1967 War and its
Romania, and America, on Sunday, May Doors open at 2:45 p.m.; a reception
7, at 3 p.m. Flutist Annette Lieb and gui- with the artists will follow the concert.
Legacy, at Congregation
Beth Sholom in Teaneck, tarist Michael Lemma will perform. For information, call (201) 444-9320 or
7 p.m. Kurtzer, a Clarinetists John Centenaro (the email music@synagogue.org.
Princeton University
professor, is a former
U.S. ambassador to
Israel and Egypt. Dessert
reception. 354 Maitland
Ave. (201) 833-2620 or
cbsteaneck.org.

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Jewish World/Obituaries
Anti-Semitic incidents in US
surging in 2017, rose by a third in 2016
Marcy Oster
and Ben Sales
Anti-Semitic incidents in the United
States soared 86 percent in the first three
months of 2017, after rising by more than
one-third in 2016, according to the Anti-
Defamation League.
There has been a massive increase in
harassment of American Jews, largely
since November, and at least 34 inci-
dents linked to the presidential election
that month, the ADL said in its newly
released annual audit of anti-Semitic
incidents.
This year has seen preliminary
reports of 541 anti-Semitic incidents
through March. One reason for the
jump appeared to be the bomb threats
called in to Jewish community centers
and other Jewish institutions across the
country. An Israeli-American teenager is
accused of calling in most of them, and
he has been charged in Israel and the
United States. He is in custody in Israel.
The 2017 incidents include 380 for
harassment, including the 161 bomb
threats, an increase of 127 percent over
the first quarter of 2016; 155 for vandal-
ism, including three cemetery desecra-
tions, an increase of 36 percent; and
six physical assaults, a decrease of 40
percent.
The increase in anti-Semitic acts
comes despite a low level of anti-Semitic
attitudes among Americans. While there
was a 34 percent rise in anti-Semitic
incidents in 2016, an ADL survey earlier
this month found that only 14 percent of
Americans hold anti-Semitic views.
Jonathan Greenblatt, the ADLs
national director, told reporters Mon-
day that the numbers reflect growing
assertiveness among a hard core of
anti-Semites.
What appears to be happening is
the extremists feel emboldened and are
spreading their virus, he said, adding
that prominent white supremacists like
Richard Spencer and David Duke find
themselves in the headlines, and their
noxious ideas started to spread.
Greenblatt and Moshe Kantor, the
president of the European Jewish Con-
gress, said that a global wave of popu-
lism and corresponding backlash against
elites is fueling anti-Semitism. Kantor
added that resentment of globaliza-
tion coupled with continuing economic
struggles born of the 2008 recession are
also contributing factors.
Greenblatt said populist demagogues
have been a boon to the extreme right,
as much of their rhetoric has been nor-
malized in the past 12 to 18 months.
The social contract that worked well
for the past 50 years is no longer in
52 Jewish Standard APRIL 28, 2017
place, Kantor said at the press briefing
on Monday. We as citizens of the devel-
oped world believed every new genera-
tion would live better than the previous
one, so it is not surprising that well-to-
do European societies are dominated by
fear rather than values fear of poverty,
fear of migrants, fear for their lives amid
terror attacks.
A study from the European Jewish
Congress this month found that violent
anti-Semitic incidents worldwide fell to
361 in 2016 from 410 in 2015, a decrease
of 12 percent. Kantor attributed the
decrease, which was most dramatic in
Europe, to ramped-up security at Jewish
institutions and more government fund-
ing for Jewish communal safety.
In 2016, the ADL report showed a
total of 1,266 acts targeting Jews and
Jewish institutions, with a 34 percent A gravestone was vandalized at the Waad Hakolel Cemetery in Rochester, N.Y.,
increase of incidents of assaults, vandal- in March. Gretchen Stumme/AFP/Getty Images
ism and harassment over the previous
year. Nearly 30 percent of those inci- Separately, Tel Aviv Universitys watchdog decreased by 12 percent in 2016 despite the
dents, or 369, occurred in November on anti-Semitism reported that the number spike in the United Kingdom and the United
and December. of anti-Semitic incidents worldwide has States. JTA Wire Service
The states with the highest number
of incidents were those with large Jew-
ish populations, including California,
New York, New Jersey, Florida, and
Massachusetts.
The acts included 720 harassment and
threat incidents, an increase of 41 per-
cent over 2015; 510 vandalism incidents,
Enid S.
an increase of 35 percent; and 36 physi-
cal assaults, a decrease of 35 percent.
Incidents on college campuses stayed
RuzinSky
mostly static after nearly doubling in
2015, but more than doubled in non-Jew-
Enid S. Ruzinsky of Saddle River died at home on April 17, 2017.
ish elementary, middle and high schools.
The rise to 235 incidents in 2016 from 114 She was a 1955 Brooklyn College cum laude graduate where she
the previous year represented a 106 per- earned a Bachelor of Science in Home Economics. She taught
cent increase. There have been 95 inci- in the NYC school system and was a homemaker extraordinaire.
dents reported in the first quarter of this
year. She is survived by her husband, Ed, their two children,
The ADL numbers do not include Bruce (Linda) of Houston, TX, and Ellen (Joe) of Yorktown
online anti-Semitism, including a wave
Heights, NY; and four grandchildren, Aaron, Jason, Miranda,
of anti-Semitic harassment on Twitter.
and Adam.
A 2016 ADL report tallied 2.6 million
tweets containing anti-Semitic language
between August 2015 and July 2016. Enid had an active community life. She served as President
Greenblatt said that the anti-Semitism of the Sisterhood of Temple Emanuel of the Pascack Valley;
statistics would be off the charts if a founder of a local chapter of ORT; a life member of Hadassah;
cyber hate were included. and a tutor for Bergen Reads. Enid, along with her husband, was
Clearly, we have work to do and need honored by Israel Bonds and together conceived and implemented
to bring more urgency to the fight. At a significant stained glass project for the sanctuary of Temple
ADL, we will use every resource available Emanuel, which will serve as a living memorial to who she was.
to put a stop to anti-Semitism, Green-
blatt said in a statement. But we also
Donations can be made to Villa Marie Claire, 12 W. Saddle River
need more leaders to speak out against
this cancer of hate and more action at all
Road, Saddle River, NJ 07458, or to Temple Emanuel of the
levels to counter anti-Semitism. Pascack Valley, 87 Overlook Drive, Woodcliff Lake, NJ 07677.
The ADL has been tracking anti-
Semitic incidents since 1979. In the last A private graveside funeral was arranged by Robert Schoems
10 years, the number of reported anti- Menorah Chapel in Paramus.
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Theodore Friedman
Theodore Ted Friedman,
94, of Pompton Plains,
formerly of Demarest, died
April 21.
An Army World War II
veteran, he was a member
of Sherlock Holmes Baker
Street Irregulars.
Predeceased by his wife,
Anne, ne Galloway, he is
survived by children, Gail
Schoenbach (Robert), Bar-
bara Feldman (Chuck), and
Laura Ascolese ( Jeff ); and
five grandchildren.
Arrangements were by
Louis Suburban Chapel,
Fair Lawn.
Jerome Goldberg
Jerome Goldberg, 80, of
Cliffside Park, died April 22.
He was a CPA in New
York and New Jersey and
a member of Goldfaden
Lodge Knights of Pythias.
He is survived by his wife,
Florence, ne Brenner, to Audrey Flack, Hannah
children, Dr. Karyn of West
Orange, Jeffrey of Brooklyn,
and Adam of North Caro-
lina; and five grandchildren.
Arrangements were by
Eden Memorial Chapels,
Fort Lee.
Elaine Levy
Elaine Levy, 86, of Brook-
lyn, died April 20.
Predeceased by her
husband, Herman, she is
survived by a daughter,
Diane Nachbaur ( Jerry);
a brother, Gerald Katz
Robert Schoems Menorah
Chapel, Paramus.
Frank Levy
Frank Ezra Levy, 86, of Fort
Lee, died April 23.
Born in Paris, he was
a Juilliard graduate and
earned a masters from the
University of Chicago. He
taught at the New School
and Brooklyn College, was
a composer-in-residence
at Kean University, played
cello for the Feldman
Chamber Music Society, the
St. Louis and Halifax sym-
phonies, the Brooklyn and
New York philharmonics,
and many Broadway show
orchestras, and was prin-
cipal cellist at Radio City
Music Hall for 45 years. He
was a prolific composer and
has 239 published works.
He is survived by his wife,
Barbara Pogul Rivlin; daugh-
ters from his first marriage
Marie Marcus and Melissa;
a brother, Matthys ( Julie);
step-children, Ken Rivlin
(Renee) and Claire Rivlin
(Patrick Speissegger); three
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step-grandchildren; nieces
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Donations can be sent
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Sclerosis Society chapter.
Arrangements were by Gut-
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Directors, Hackensack.
Ruth Meissner
Ruth I. Meissner of Bergen-
field, 87, died April 21.
She was a teacher for
over 60 years, retiring
from the Bergenfield Board
of Education, taught ESL
classes at the Bergenfield
Library, and was a long-time
member of Temple Emeth
in Teaneck.
Predeceased by her
husband, Werner, she is
survived by children, Debby
(the late Steve Saloway)
and Jeffrey ( Jodi); three
grandchildren; and one
great-grandchild.
Arrangements were
by Gutterman Musi-
cant Funeral Directors,
Hackensack.
Helen Mitnick
Helen Mitnick, 98, of
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Teaneck, died April 19.
Predeceased by her hus- Dr. Samuel Slipp of Engle-
band, Arthur, and a daugh-
ter, Susan; she is survived
by sons, Larry (Diane), Joel
(Karen), and Bruce (Kathy);
seven grandchildren, and
seven great-grandchildren.
Donations can be sent to
Jewish Family and Chil-
drens Services of North- tion, was president of the
ern New Jersey, Teaneck.
Arrangements were by Gut-
terman Musicant Funeral
Directors, Hackensack.
Paul Singman
Paul Singman of Teaneck
died April 21.
He was a U.S. Army
veteran and had a military
Honor Guard at his burial.
He is survived by his
wife of 58 years, Ruth; his
children, Charles (Alicia),
Robert (Cindy), and Randi;
and grandchildren, Sammi
and Alexa.
Donations can be made
to Jewish Family Service,
Somerset County. Arrange-
ments were by Gutterman
Musicant Funeral Directors,
Hackensack.
Dr. Samuel Slipp Academy of Psychoanalysis
and Dynamic Psychiatry,
wood and Sag Harbor, N.Y., and was a Distinguished
92, died April 24. Life Fellow of the American
He was a U.S. Army Psychiatric Association.
World War II veteran and He is survived by his
a psychiatrist in New York wife, Sandy, ne Rodetsky;
and New Jersey. He was a a daughter, Elena Zweifler
founder of the American of Connecticut; and two
Family Therapy Associa- grandchildren.
Arrangements were by
Society of Medical Psycho- Eden Memorial Chapels,
analysts and the American Fort Lee.
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326 STARLING ROAD $600,000 493 WHITEWOOD ROAD $968,000 234 CEDAR STREET $1,740,000 160 LINCOLN STREET $2,985,000
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THE ROOSEVELT TUDOR TERRACE 132 LYDECKER STREET $999,999 140 LYDECKER STREET $988,000
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164 GLENWOOD ROAD 286 BOOTH AVENUE 212 MAPLE STREET 161 BRAYTON STREET
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184 SHERWOOD PLACE 185 MAPLE STREET 401 DOUGLAS STREET 32 SUTTON PLACE
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35 KING STREET 440 ELKWOOD TERRACE 113 EAST HUDSON AVENUE 341 MOUNTAIN ROAD
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400 JONES ROAD 285 MORROW ROAD 215 EAST LINDEN AVENUE 248 CHESTNUT STREET

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