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So that means if you have social anxiety, its much better to go out
and do 10 small actions rather than one big one.
This course is designed to work you through rewiring your
anxiety until you feel comfortable approaching attractive women
you dont know.
EXERCISE
Take a moment to think about what experiences previously in
your life cause you anxiety around women you dont know. What
new experiences could replace that anxiety?
EXERCISE SUBMISSIONS
EXERCISE
Write down all of your excuses for not approaching women youd
like to meet. Then go through and categorize each of the excuses
as a specific defense mechanism. What can you do to overcome
them?
EXERCISE SUBMISSIONS
DEFENSE MECHANISMS (HOLD YOU BACK FROM WHAT YOU WANT)
1. PROCRASTINATION:
I NEED TO READ MORE PICKUP STUFF BEFORE I APPROACH THAT KIND OF WOMEN.(
NEED TO LEARN ALL THEORY / TECHNIQUES.)
I FIRST NEED TIME TO WARM UP.
2. INTELLECTUALIZATION:
SHES IN A CONVERSATION.
SHE IS ON PHONE.
SHES IN A HURRY.
3. BLAME/ANGER:
SHES SUPERFICIAL. (SHELL THINK SHES TOO HOT FOR ME / IM CREEPY, STRANGE,
BORING)
SHES DUMB.
4. APATHY:
EXERCISE
Go about your normal day, except every single person you speak
to cashier, bus driver, parking attendant ask them how their
day is going.
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LESSON 4: WHAT TIME IS IT?
OK, so youve gotten comfortable having small talk with random
strangers. Maybe you even had an interesting conversation or
two. Thats great.
But still, those were people you needed to speak to anyway. Its
likely that stopping and talking to people who dont need to speak
to you will still cause you a lot of anxiety.
EXERCISE
Thats why this is your mission. Go out and ask 10 people what
time it is. At least half of them should be attractive women. You can
do this over the course of a few days, but it needs to be 10 people.
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LESSON 5: DIRECTIONS
DIRECTIONS
You should now be able to stop any stranger, at any time,
anywhere and at least open your mouth and speak to them. This
is progress. Especially since youve been able to do it with
attractive women!
Were now going to take things one step further. Were going to
get you to ask these strangers something personal.
Note: the point of this exercise is not to game or attract the
people you talk to, simply to overcome the social anxiety
associated with asking a stranger something personal about
themselves.
EXERCISE
Find 10 attractive women in a public place and ask them for
directions to a nearby landmark or restaurant. Then, once they
have given you an answer, if they seem friendly, ask them if they
are from your city/town. Ask this question to five separate
women.
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LESSON 6: DEMOGRAPHICS
DEMOGRAPHICS
Lets talk about where to meet and start hitting on women.
One big mistake a lot of men make is they simply look for single
women in the wrong places. Either they subscribe to some pickup
idea of cold approach or they gravitate to bars/clubs even
though theyre not particularly interested in those places.
Pursue your hobbies and passions and then meet women in those
places.
Some examples:
EXERCISE
This exercise can be done anywhere, although its recommended
you do it at some sort of event, social function or bar or nightclub.
EXERCISE SUBMISSIONS
LESSON 8: CURIOSITY
CURIOSITY
Most men spend all of their time wondering what a woman will
think of them. They spend all of their effort trying to impress her
and make her like them.
EXERCISE
Find things you are genuinely curious to know about five different
women. Then go and find them out. It could be as simple as,
Would she and I get along? It could be, Is she foreign? It could
be, Does she study something interesting? Whatever it is, use it
as your motivation.
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Hi, this is kind of random, but I thought you were cute and wanted
to meet you.
After you say this, she will likely blush and become very flattered.
Some will immediately tell you that they have a boyfriend. If they
DONT tell you they have a boyfriend, go ahead and assume
theyre interested until proven otherwise. Follow up with the,
You dont look like youre from here, line and go into a casual
conversation.
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LESSON 10: GET A PHONE NUMBER
GETTING THE DIGITS
Congratulations, you are now capable of approaching women just
about anywhere and in any circumstance.
Hey, I have to go, but we should grab coffee (or a drink) sometime.
If she says sure, pull out your phone and ask for the number.
Thats it! Getting phone numbers are surprisingly simple (its
getting them to show up thats the hard part.)
FINAL EXERCISE
Go out and get one phone number from approaching a woman
you dont know. Write up the experience.
EXERCISE SUBMISSIONS