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meaning, Mama, lets just have trust and faith in our Lord. I Joel Starts His Family___________________________________________ 43
Knowing Your Roots ____________________________________________ 43
repeatedly mentioned the words trust and faith in my journal. In Ching and Her Family __________________________________________ 43
terms of money, he would share as long as he had. Anyway, if Unforgettable Times with My Lifelong Partner _______________________ 45
Roming is Spared ______________________________________________ 47
one borrowed and was willing to pay later (this is funny) he Humble Accomplishments________________________________________ 48
would make them write a promissory note! Hehehe! Hindi ka My Filipino Friends ____________________________________________ 49
Pista Sa Ngayon _______________________________________________ 51
makalusot, meaning, You cant escape. He used to say, Mama, Helping Our Kids and Grandkids __________________________________ 53
iccamun, at addan tu manen, meaning, Mama, give because we Romeos Seat in His Mansion _____________________________________ 55
More About Romeo and the Things He Loved ______________________ 59
will have some again. We had our disagreements and Romeos Famous Donts ______________________________________ 60
imperfections, but helping someone who was in need was Romeos Bad Habits ____________________________________________ 61
Never Alone___________________________________________________ 61
indeed a constant perfect act of kindness for us. This is another A Helping Hand _______________________________________________ 61
Inspired To Write ______________________________________________ 63
legacy from my dearest one and only irreplaceable Romeo, your
Birthday Bash in My Hometown ___________________________________ 63
dad, your grandpa. Should it not be for you too? I still do this More Memorable Moments_______________________________________ 64
Mediterranean Cruise___________________________________________ 66
when I can. I like to share the grace and blessings that Jesus has
A Voice in the Night ____________________________________________ 67
given me. I want to use the strength and the life that God gives Bittersweet May _______________________________________________ 69
Home Is Where the Heart Is ______________________________________ 70
me day to day.
Following the Foot Steps of Jesus _________________________________ 71
The Living Word _______________________________________________ 75
You Are All In My Prayers Faith Moves Mountains _________________________________________ 76
Giving Of Yourself _____________________________________________ 77
Before closing Id like to share a short poem:
You Are All In My Prayers _______________________________________ 78
God didnt promise days without pain, Acknowledgements _____________________________________________ 80
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Gods Message from My Roses remember what Jesus said, Give me your burden for my yoke is
The roses in my backyard keep me company as I admire their light. And you know what? Jesus was always there to help. Just
beauty, especially when their believe. I recall my great-grandma Emilia who never failed to
flowers are in full bloom. I
take good care of them, for the pray every eveningon bended knees. It was a must for me, a
roses were planted by the six year old, to pray with her. Yes, it was boring for me, but now
hands of my beloved
husband, Romeo, who loved I realize that great-grandma Emilia must have been imploring
them so dearly as well. I talk for Gods help to her and her family like I do now. I am deeply
to them as I smell their sweet
scent and I thank God for relieved for praying is not boring to me now.
creating them for they
Praying fervently, my dear ones, is the best legacy I have
manifest that there is a loving
God. Suddenly, I am aware that God created me too. received from my dearest great grandma. Should it not be for
Im 86 years old now and my mind flashes back to my you too? If you can watch T.V. for three hours straight or play
childhood days when my parents and grandparents took care of
me. I grew up with their tender, loving care similar to the way I Xbox many times during the day or night, would it be too much
care for my roses. I am about to embark on a journey through for you to talk to God for just 10 or 15 minutes at a time? To
my past and I pray the Blessed Trinity will bless my memory to
enable me to recall clearly. Let me begin with this beautiful present to Him your problems and ask for His help? Just talk to
passage: Jesus in private. He will always listen to you. And you should
My beautiful roses inspired me and hastened me to write the My most beloved Romeo, oh yes, he must be smiling now
memoirs of my life. Gods message from my roses:
from up above. He was very supportive when we had endeavors
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pilgrimage to the Holy Land. So, live righteously for Jesus is our
Early Years
Shepherd, what else do we need?
I was born in the Philippines, Tuguegarao, Cagayan, now
Note: There were places I was not able to go to as advised by
Tuguegarao City, on February 10, 1924. My parents were
our tourist guide, Claudia, due to my physical condition and the
Doroteo Calonia Pattawi and Petra Decapia Rugayan. I was
weather. Claudia was very knowledgeable about the history of
Christened Tomasa Rugayan Pattawi and nicknamed Nena. I
Jesus and the Bible as whole.
was the first born of 10 children. The next two siblings born after
Faith Moves Mountains me, Benedicta and Eugenio, died in their infancy. I remember
Trinity by Gods infinite loving care and I gained courage and I was 5 years old when I went to school at the Sacred Heart
full trust and faith in the Lord. I developed a very heartfelt of Jesus Institution, now St. Paul University. I graduated high
confidence that Jesus will always help me to overcome hardships School in 1939. I started my college education in 1940 at the
or problems that would befall me day by day. University of the Philippines, located in Manila, the capital of the
provided us more than enough. In 1943, the Japanese soldiers along the beautiful Sea of Galilee. We visited The Holy
were rough and abusive. Parents with teenage daughters were Sepulcher where we paid reverence to the Star of David.
especially frightened. Magnificent Churches are erected on hill tops and could only be
Our daughter Cleopatra, nicknamed Ching, was born One must have a vivid knowledge of Jesus history in order
December 15, 1944. Leon saw his very robust baby and stayed to feel and understand His life and experiences. Read the Holy
with us for a week. Being a guerilla was extremely dangerous. Bible. Cherish, understand and love the scriptures and you will
They were always sought after by the Japanese soldiers. instantly feel what our Heavenly Brother did for us to guide us
Unfortunately, Leon was killed in action in May 1945. Our union to his Heavenly Kingdom. This is what I experienced on my
together was short lived. It was a horrible and terrible tragedy in
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I did not join the group who went around the Masada hills my life. I vowed that I would not re-marry until Ching was
so I just browsed around the gift store of the Masada Museum. I seven years old.
copied some passages from the frames hanging on the walls that The war ended in 1946 and in 1947, war widows were given
are worth remembering: compensation. I was awarded a Purple Heart Medal in honor of
1. Faith is the foundation of all spiritual quest, the root of my late husband who was killed in action. His name was
all teachings and practice, the channel for every benefit
engraved behind the medal. It was awarded to me with Military
and blessings.
2. Truth is the light by which to find your way out of the honors by none other than Leons commanding officer of the
darkness. Turn it on. Guerilla forces, 1st Lieutenant Eliseo Capili, who was the
3. Make it a daily habit to schedule yourself in
husband of Rebecca Abaya Capili, parents of Myrna Capili who
meditation. Express your innermost thoughts and
feelings before God each day in the language you are is married to Steve Rosales Simangan, the nephew of Romeo
most comfortable.
Estrada Rosales. I know now that everything was in Gods plan.
4. Dont be frustrated by obstacles you encounter in your
spiritual journey. They are there by design to increase (The Purple Heart Medal is kept by Ching in loving memory of
your desire for the goal you seek. Because the greater her father.)
your goal, the greater the yearning youll need to
achieve it. While waiting for orders to go back home, we went to
5. Get into the habit of dancing. It will displace Bawan, Solana, which is very close to Tuguegarao. While
depression and dispel hardship.
walking along the meadows I met an old lady picking some
6. As often as you can, take a trip out to the fields and
pray. They will enter your prayers and give you green leafy vegetables. As customary, I took her hand to my
strength to sing praises to the LORD.
forehead for a blessing. She asked my name and my parents
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had a caretaker. It was time to go home and I was happy to have Andrew, and James and said, Come follow me and I will make
met a very loving and caring mother. The woman I met you fishers of man. Other apostles followed also.
resembled Cabalay Maring Simangan Mamauag, Rollies We went to Cesarea when Pontius Pilate condemned Jesus
mother. She was, in fact, Cabalay Marings mother, Maria or to the cross. Then we travelled to Jericho, the oldest city in the
Lola Iya. Coincidence? No! It was all in Gods plan and I respect world. We passed by the sycamore trees where Zacheus, a tax
the relationship. collector, climbed a tree so he could see Jesus pass by. Jesus said
Note: My Moms Mother, Tomasa Decapia Rugayan passed away to him, Zacheus, get down for now, for today I will dine with
when my Mom was 2 mos. old. Thus, Lola Maria Simangan, a
you in your house.
neighbor, used to breast feed my Mom as customary during their
time. The Jordan River, where Jesus was baptized by John the
Passing of the Torch Baptist, was beautiful. This was where the Heavens opened and
mom was not feeling very well. There were good doctors but no The Church of the Holy Sepulcher was a very gorgeous and
available medicine for her sickness. She would bleed profusely magnificent church. As I entered, I felt the sacredness and the
which was very scary. If she were strong enough she would go blessings I have as a Christian, a child of God. My eyes were
to church to attend Mass and receive Holy Communion. Then focused on the Christ crucified, who died for us to save us from
one day, my dad and I went to visit the Miraculous Virgin Mary sin. How could I be so ungrateful not to fulfill his
of Piat. I took a dress of mama to wipe at the feet of our Lady of commandment: Love God with all your heart and soul and love
Piat. We prayed and after we finished our mission, my dad one another as I have loved you.
safely took hold of my moms dress neatly folded in an We came across the Dead Sea, so called because there are no
envelope. When we were close to home my dad asked me about living creatures in its waters. It is saturated with salt and
the envelope. I told him that he had it. My dad became frantic contains concentrated chemicals. Roxy, Ching, Biling and I
because the envelope was nowhere to be found. I cried and I told enjoyed washing ourselves in its sacred waters.
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scribes. It is in Jerusalem where Jesus performed many miracles: Papa that our Lady of Piat is very miraculous. Maybe she
making a man rise from the dead, curing the blind, the mute, the wanted us to know that Mama will soon be separated from us. I
deaf and lepers. Because of these signs many people joined and always stayed close to Mama. Two weeks later, she called me
followed him wherever he went. This scared the Pharisees who and I laid her head on my lap. I held her close to me and she
finally condemned him to death. said, Nena, take care of your sisters and your brother. I said,
We visited Bethlehem, the town where Jesus was born. Yes, mama, with tears in my eyes. I prayed to God to give me
Nazareth was where Jesus spent his childhood days with Joseph more strength and courage as I was holding my dying mother in
and his mother, the Blessed Virgin Mary. Cana is where Jesus my arms. I felt her lifeless body stretched out as her heart was
performed his first miracle, changing water into wine at the not pumping blood anymore. My mom died in my arms. I
Cana wedding. We also visited the Mount of Olives - the place prayed, Jesus, help me and take my mom with you to heaven.
where Christ ascended into Heaven and the Garden of My sisters were around crying but my Papa was not. I knew he
Gethsemane, which lies at its foot. This was where Jesus often could not bear to see my mom go, for they loved each other so
went to pray alone to God the Father and where He was finally much and so dearly. There was sadness in the family and I felt
arrested. I had the privilege to stay and pray alone at the Garden the pangs of moms departure more than any of my sisters did.
of Gethsemane since I was not able to go with the group for the My dearest Mama died on November 22, 1947. I was 23 years old
long walk to the hills of Mt. Olive. In the garden there are olive to be a mother of our family my six sisters, my brother and my
It was incredible experiencing Via Dolorosa - Way of School was about to start. Those who had one year of college
Sorrows, the traditional pathway Jesus followed carrying the education had been compensated with one year more, which
cross from Pontius Pilates judgment hall to Calvary where He qualified me to teach. My salary as an elementary school teacher
was later crucified. We saw the Sea of Galilee, a very beautiful was 170.00 pesos. My meager monthly salary was only enough
lake where Jesus performed many miracles and spent his public for dresses, shoes and some school needs. My father was a truck
life teaching. It was here where Jesus called fishermen, Peter, driver for a big company and aside from his salary, he would
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laundry soap, biscuits and candy from Manila. My grandparents rock of her family. With her integrity and patience, the Lord
were very industrious. My grandfather had a piggery which heard her prayers and rewarded her family with a new home.
would supply us with meat and my grandmother had a poultry Myrna, Steve Simangans wife, helped a lot as a real estate agent
which supplied us table eggs and poultry meat. They had a with the acquisition of their house.
garden of vegetables and grandpa planted some fruit trees. Thanks a lot, Steve and Myn. Eugene and Eden and their
Things were getting back to normal. We were not very wealthy, children, Ivan, David, and Genevieve, including Ivans
but what we had was adequate enough to get along with society girlfriend, Meuy Saepharn, moved to their new residence in
and with the community. My family was peaceful, responsible, Sacramento, CA. Edens third son, Erich and his wife, Angelica
God- fearing and we were never far from the Lord, our Greatest with their children, Jace and Madeline, presently reside in Las
Provider, who so loves us. Vegas. They recently purchased their first home.
We really have to thank the Lord everyday for our life. Lets count Mother Theresa once said, Where there is love, there is
our blessings indeed, for without HIM, we are nothing.
peace. What a powerful message indeed. On August 4, 2010
~Nena P. Rosales
Ivan and Meuy finally got married. God bless and
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This trying event helped me gather the courage to go to the Home Economics with a minor in Social Sciences at the Far
Philippines to be with Eugene for spiritual and moral support. Eastern University. Estrella graduated from the Philippine
My most heartfelt thanks to Easter, Nilo, and Mary Ann, Janet Normal College as a teacher but in later years, got her Masters
and Marlon Canillas for all the kind help they extended to Degree at the University of the Philippines. She then got her
Eugene. Remember what Jesus said, Whatever you do to the Ph.D. at Saint Paul University and became a college professor at
least of thy brethren, this you do unto me. God works miracles the Cagayan Colleges of Tuguegarao. Florfina finished a two
in many different ways. I repeat, just have FULL trust and faith year course at the Far Eastern University and later became a
in Him. My heartfelt thanks also to my sisters and brothers in teacher in our town. Leonora finished as a Nurse from the
law, Manang Noring, Ben, and Daling, my nieces and nephews University of Santo Tomas and later became a District Nurse
who shared prayers over Gene and my cousin, Rody who gave Supervisor. Our dad was very proud of us and again I would
Holy Communion to Gene on Sundays. Also, I thank the Aunties say God works miracles in many different ways. The Holy Spirit
of Eden who came to pray over Gene. Your good deeds are guided us unceasingly.
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Estrada Rosales, whom we called Nana Paning. Their children of the family took turns to go to the funeral parlor. Lita had a
were Eleonor, Lourdes, Romeo, Benjamin and Mario. When Christian burial. May she rest in peace and enjoy Gods
World War II broke out, we evacuated to different places and everlasting love.
never saw each other until the war ended. During the war,
Bittersweet May
Romeo joined the guerilla forces where he earned the G.I. Bill of
May of 2008 was a month filled with joy and sorrow. On the
rights. This enabled him to obtain a B.S.E. at the Philippine
16th, by Gods grace, my grandson Erich Rosales and his wife
Christian College in Manila where he majored in Math with a
Angelica brought their beautiful daughter Madeline into this
minor in English. He was also in Manila when my sisters and I
world. The following day my son Eugene, Erichs father suffered
were in college. Romeo used to visit me with all his love and
a severe life-threatening stroke.
admiration. He was a humble young man. Guapo naman. Simple,
and always in Khaki shirt and pants, he was very thrifty and I It started when Eugene (Gene for short) went to visit his
admired him for his traits. To calm him down for his aspirations, friend who was suffering from cancer. On his way back home he
I told him that Id fully accept his love when he would finish a was found by a police officer in the car with his head slumped
course and would have a job. I kept this promise heartily and over on the steering wheel column. The police made the
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sisters wedding anniversary someone will die. I immediately A Time to Weep and a Time to Laugh
got up and took hold of the Santo Nino statue, which was close I hate to mention this event, but I really would like my
to my bed. All I could say was, Lord, whatever, but thy will be children and grandchildren to know what Ive experienced in
done. I cried. my life. My dearest Papa did not show up on our wedding day.
Early the next morning, I phoned my sister to inform her He didnt like Romeo to be my partner in life because he was a
what had transpired that night. I told her that whatever will Protestant and Romings Mother did not like me because I was a
happen today, just pray, but go on with your wedding widow with a child. Religious warfare? Who were at the
celebration. We both cried and she said, Yes, manang, wedding as my parents? It was none other than my parents in
especially everything is ready now. I imagined how confused law, Domingo Cristobal and Carmen Sillacos. They were my
she must have been, holding back her tears for fear that the god-parents. I cried on my wedding day, but I was consoled by
children would wonder. the scripture in Ecclesiastes 3:4 a time to weep and a time to
The night before the anniversary date, my sister Lita who laugh. Tomasa P. Cristobal became Tomasa P. Rosales in
came from Manila to attend the wedding was not feeling very August 26, 1951.
well. She was the one who had a heart valve operated on. Her
The Sweet Scent of Heaven
husband Isidro was with her. Since Lita needed medical
Oh yes, just an insert in memory of Tata Domingo. On his
assistance, my niece, Edna, took her to the hospital.
deathbed, one of his sons came to inform me that his father was
At 12:30 a.m., May 2nd 2007, my sister Lita was taken by the
dying. My sister Le and I went to see him immediately. We were
Lord. I was sure the voice I heard was Jesus. When she stayed
neighbors then. We prayed and in just a few seconds, Tata
with us, Romeo and I always paid attention to her needs. But
breathed his last. In that instance, I smelled a very sweet flowery
now she was resting in peace with our Creator.
fragrance. We continued praying and I became aware that what
On the wedding anniversary, Leonora tried very hard to act
transpired was a manifestation. When one dies, only the body is
as if nothing tragic happened. Not one of our family members
dead but our spirit goes to heaven to meet our Creator. The
disclosed that Lita had passed away. The guests never knew
angels with all their heavenly fragrance accompanied Tata
what had happened. After the party was over, all the members
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Domingo and carried his spirit to heaven. God gave me the watch gladiatorial contests and other sports. It was constructed
grace and shared with me momentarily the sweet scent of by Emperor Constantine the Great, who was the first pagan
heaven. emperor of Rome, who became a Christian in 339 A.D. The Edict
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may God bless each and every one of you. The sound of music daughter? He said, Why are you the one to invite me, this is
filled the room and there was dancing and singing. The surprise not your house? I told him that Roming is with the baby and is
party made me feel young again and it was a very candid embarrassed to see you but he is okay. Finally Papa came up to
experience to be felt in my eighties. the house and Pa Berong met him very cordially. They were
Ching and Roxy and the rest of my family together with my good friends for a long, long time. Then Papa came to our room.
other children and grand children took care of the entire Roming took Papas hand for a blessing then gave baby Roxy to
program to my hearts desire. God bless you all and I love you him for a blessing too. I held back my tears and said that I would
all so very dearly. get some coffee, as an excuse. I prayed, Thank you Lord for a
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stay long enough together. The older mom will always run the 2006. My phone kept ringing with happy birthday wishes. At
household and the younger mom will always concede. I only noon Roxy told me that we were going to a party at 6:00 p.m. to
had to crysad moments. I vowed that if someday Ill become a attend the anniversary date of the Mabuhay Lions Club. So the
mother-in-law, I will always treat them as my own daughter or family party, which we used to have on my birthday, was
son. And with Gods help, I tried my very best. cancelled. She suggested that I wear the long dress she and
To: James Gabriel, Rollie, Wally, Kendee, Eden, and Jessy: Ching had bought for me as a birthday present. Rollie drove us
to the Red Lion Inn. He made us enter through the back door. I
If I had ever hurt your feelings, please, forgive me, and
asked him why and he said it was a short cut. We went up the
perhaps offer them to God.
steps and Roxy opened the door, then I stood awhile because
~ Mama Nena
several guests were already seated. I did not see a sign or a
Ask and You Shall Receive
decoration for the Clubs anniversary. I looked further and saw
My advice for you is to keep an open communication to
my cousin, Edmund Pattawi and his wife Flor, and then asked
sustain understanding within the family circle at times. I want
myself, Why are they here?, because they came a long way
all my children and grandchildren, and my great grandchildren
from Tennessee. I also saw my nephew, Benji Rosales and wife
to remember that in any relationship with co-workers, friends,
Josie from Daly City. Then came Ching, who took me down the
family, husband, wife, and more importantly with God
steps to join the guests, who immediately stood up and began
communicate sincerely and lovingly. Since our family was
singing Happy Birthday. I was astounded and I took a deep
getting bigger in numbers, Roming and I decided to be
breath. Many came to hug me and some came yelling, Surprise!
independent. We rented the ground floor of Romings house. O,
Surprise! I gained my composure and walked around table to
yes, you guys, Roming and I had a very hilarious feeling of
table to say my thank you to everyone.
independence. I had a helper to help me with the household
After the sumptuous dinner, I thanked everyone for taking
chores and to take care of the kids. Soon Papa prepared a big
their precious time to be with me and my family on the
room for us to stay and he finally asked us to move and stay
celebration of my 82nd birthday. It would not be as happy and
with them. We agreed - another family reunion. In 1955, the next
memorable without their presence. I said, I love you all and
baby came. Eugene was born in August 18, 1955. Years went by
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know how much we work hard here. I was quiet and I took a so fast and in 1956, Roming was laid off as a teacher. Our
nap, tired from the trip. While I was sleeping, my sisters pitched finances went low but Roming worked as a clerk at the town
in their suggestion. I woke up and the plan was presented to me. municipality. However on vacation, he went to Manila and
Edna, my niece, will organize the whole thing. The party on applied at the Philippine Police Academy. Remember my dear
February10, 2004 will take place in a well known restaurant in ones, that in instances like these, always cling to the Lord. Jesus
Tuguegarao, which can accommodate 150 people. Six favorite is always there to help us. Again, I say what Jesus said, Ask and
dishes were to be served, plus a birthday cake. The expenses Ill give it to you and the saying goes, If a door is closed,
were summed up, and my sisters said, Manang, kayang kaya mu another door will open. Just believe!
More Memorable Moments to Mrs. Baluyot, the office secretary, who I believed was in
Many exciting things have been happening as I grow older charge to hire teachers. My message was for her to give me her
day by day. I came home from church on the 10th of February address so I can talk to her personally regarding my case. I
handed her the note and while waiting I implored the Holy
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Spirit to enlighten her mind, and soon enough she handed me Inspired To Write
her address. I experienced that efficacy of prayer if said heartily Writing this journal was a very tough job for me. I had to dig
and fervently is awesome. Remember this: into my subconscious mind to remember dates and events and
Cast your cares upon the Lord, who will give you support. God put them into words that are easy to understand. My dear ones,
will never allow the righteous to stumble Psalm 55:23 if you plan to make a journal, do it now while you are young.
In the evening, Roming, in full uniform, and I went to see Get a blank journal book from the store and just write.
Mrs. Baluyot. Chat, chat, chatand finally she said, Mrs. Dont wait until you are eighty-five years old. Writing your
Rosales, come to the office tomorrow. Ill give you your memoirs as you tread your lifes way is something anyone can
assignment and you can start as soon as classes will open in accomplish. And it is nice to read it once in a while with your
Still on vacation time I went home to fetch Ching and Roxy. In February 9, 2004, some members of the Mabuhay Lions
Jim and Eugene stayed with Papa and my sisters for the Club went to Zambales, in the Philippines for a medical mission.
meantime. Fate was favorable enough and soon my family was Rollie was the founder and charter President of the Sacramento
together. My sisters, Sofia (Ming) and Lolita (Lita) and my Mabuhay Lions Club International in 1979. Since Rollie and
youngest brother, Doroteo Pattawi, Jr. (Jun) came along with Roxy joined the medical mission, I decided to go with them so I
Papa and 3 young helpers, relatives in fact. With an adequate can visit Tuguegarao, my hometown. My sisters and all the
income, we were able to rent a three-story house at 1071 members of the family were very excited upon my unnoticed
Conception Aguila, Quiapo Manila. arrival. To my surprise, my sisters said, Manang, en grande nga
There were eleven members of my family, twelve with Papa celebration sangao y birthday mu sonu umma, meaning, Manang
who was transient. The school age children went to school. (sis), you will have a grand celebration on your birthday
Ching and Roxy went to St. Rita College. My sister Ming tomorrow. You know, everyone expects that if one comes home
finished as a midwife. In June 1957, she got married to John from the U.S. that person has much money. They dont only
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Garcia Mamauag Rosales. From me she learned the three Rs and Ballesteros and they had three children, Elizabeth, Edwin and
all the physical skills and academic requirements for a pre- Edna. They later moved to a nearby apartment.
schooler. I have done this for seventeen years, and so I say that
Blood is Thicker than Water
Nylah is my masterpiece. Yes, indeed, and I am proud of it. She
My sister Lita stayed with us for some time and soon
can read and print her name. She can pray and say grace before
finished school as a cosmetologist. She was sickly. A valve in her
meals. Ronaviv had her tested to see if Nylah was qualified for
heart did not function normally. Once she needed a blood
Kindergarten at St. Roberts School. She passed the test with all
transfusion and I donated my blood, which saved her life. Later
straight As and is now doing very well as a second grader.
she got married to Isidro Paez. Their children are: Ma. Amelia,
To all my grand and great-grandchildren, I still extend my
Elmer, Emmanuel and Felix Mario.
help whenever I can. Sometimes my telephone rings and the
caller says, Mama, or Lola I need How much? I can hear Family Tree Continues to Grow
Dad saying, Iccamun ta masapul da. Addan tu manen,
As for my youngest sister Florentina (Oyen), she finished her
meaning, Give now because they need it. You will have some
B.S. in Agricultural Education in 1962, taught in our province for
again. So I always respond, This is all I can share.
two years then came to stay with us and was hired as an
Payments sometimes came back and I thank the Lord. But elementary grade teacher in Quezon City. She later married
remember my dear ones to share anything you have to anyone in Ernesto Cruz from Hagonoy, Bulacan on December 22, 1971 and
need. The Lord will always repay you one way or another. And was blessed with two children, Jessamyn Allan and Christian
always count your blessings. It should be a joy for you to make Joy. Sad to say, Oyen was widowed in 1994. Soon after, she
someone happy or enlightened at the time they need it most. plunged into business where she earned free trips abroad as a
Ask yourself, Did I make someone happy today? - maybe a Tupperware Distributor. She then met Rolando Abad, a WWII
hug, a kind word, a smile, a helping hand - anything. The Lord veteran. They had a civil marriage in November 10, 2003, which
likes this and will be happy that you did it. It would be a sin of was ratified by the Roman Catholic Church in March 20, 2004.
omission if you did not. Oyen and Rudy live happily here in the States.
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Give Me Your Burden Romeos Bad Habits
But I still want to recount about my brother Jun who also 1. Coming home late and not telling anyone about his
whereabouts.
stayed with us. Roming used to call him Nyoy. He finished
2. Being stubborn.
Criminology and was supposed to graduate in March 1965. But 3. Liked to eat foods contrary to his ailments.
4. He used to repeat and remind people of their errors
he had a civil marriage with Saniata Miguel, a B.S.E. graduate in
every now and then, until they grew tired of hearing of
1963. They later had a son Joseph and a daughter Jocelyn. it.
Jun was pronounced dead when we arrived at the hospital. I Since I have a lifetime teaching credential issued to me by
was dumbfounded and I didnt know what to do. Roming was the Sacramento City Unified School District, I had a one on one
pre-schooler none other than our one and only Nylah Sierra
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Prayer. He led the prayers and sang the songs of praise on night duty so I informed him what happened with Jun. Very,
especially thanking God for His blessings. He also let
very sad moments.
the children read scriptures aloud from the Bible.
9. He extended his immediate assistance, if he was I immediately wired Papa about the tragedy and I assured
financially able, to his children and grandchildren and him that Roming and I would do our very best to bring Juns
gave a monthly allowance of $50 until they finished high
school. He loved to dine out with them. body home. I prayed and it came to my mind what Jesus said,
10. While in bed, he drilled his grandchildren in math and Give me your burden for my yolk is light. I did just this and
geography, and checked their homework at times. Roming was very supportive. The Lord took my brother Jun on
11. He was very tolerant and understanding and used to Jan. 11, 1965. May he enjoy eternal peace and happiness with our
remind me to SAVE!
Lord.
12. We never argued in the presence of our children. If we
ever argued, it was always appeased and forgiven by 12- The following morning we looked for a funeral parlor. We
midnight. Why? You should know the answer. passed by La Funeraria Paz. I asked for the manager and a man
13. He made his three children, Roxy, Jimmy and Eugene, named Andres Penetrante came. I told him that I was Tomasa
marry in the Philippines, which in turn, made it possible
for their in-laws to petition their parents which enabled Pattawi Rosales. To my surprise, he came to hug me and said,
them to petition their children. This allowed our family You are Nena and your father is Teo, one of my best friends.
and extended families, through in-laws, to grow in
numbers. What can I do for you? Holding back my tears, I recounted to
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Papa was always ready to extend his help to anyone who needed 1997 Romeo had a stroke which forced him to spend
most of his time at home. He never lost his senses
most.
and could still drive, play billiards with his
The next day, Roming said we have to see the Secretary of grandchildren, play mahjong, and go to Cache
Creek to play Black Jack or Poker.
National Defense who is Colonel Eulogio Balao, a West Point 2001 On August 26, 1991, Romeo and Nena were able to
graduate and a pride of our town. Papa was a friend of his celebrate their 50th Golden Wedding Anniversary.
2003 Romeos health eventually withered, and the Lord
brother. Roming wore his police uniform and it didnt take
took him to His Heavenly Kindom on January 11,
much time for us to meet the secretary. He received us cordially 2003.
We miss you very much Dad!
since we spoke the same dialect. I told him the tragedy that took
place with my brother and the need for his body to be More About Romeo and the Things He Loved
transported to our hometown Tuguegarao. The Secretarys 1. Biking, fishing, reading, playing pool, going to the
movies, going to Tahoe or Reno to gamble.
empathy was superb. He telephoned the company in charge
2. Going camping with family and relatives for 2-3 days.
requesting them to prepare an army truck to transport Doroteo
3. Going to the market and cooking for his family. He
Pattawi Jr. in a casket to their hometown in Tuguegarao,
loved barbeque pork or beef ribs and dinengdeng and
Cagayan. Our two cousins in the army, Rosito and Francisco papaitan (tripe with bile for an accented taste Illocano-
style).
Tagal asked permission from the Secretary to accompany the
driver and also help take turns driving. Roming and I thanked 4. Going to church religiously. First to the Roman Catholic
church, then to the Methodist Church, but as years went
Colonel Balao for his big heart and concern. Now we were ready by, he embraced the Roman Catholic faith.
to take my brother home. My family and some close friends 5. He was also interested in horse racing, especially when
came along with us and oh yes, a four-month old baby named we were in the Philippines.
Joel, born on August 28. The big trip took a day and a half. With 6. He was a die-hard Republican.
Gods guidance, we arrived home safely. The next day, my 7. He loved to dance and took lessons at the Arthur
Murray Dancing School. He used to go dancing at the
brother was brought to church and a solemn mass was Masonic Temple on J Street and on Filipino community
celebrated by my cousin. Rev. Father Cesar Tagal. A big number occasions.
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Mair, late husband of Romeos cousin, Jean of friends and relatives attended the funeral ceremony. May my
Estrada, Romeo, James and Eugene became
brother rest in peace.
oriented and labored in the farms.
1972 With Nena being employed by the Sacramento
Unified School District as a teacher in addition The Rosales Family
to Romeos income from farming, they were
We moved to Manila in 1956 and finally my whole family
able to buy their first home.
With the help of dear friend, Mrs. Leonie Pena, stayed together as one. Years went by so fast. Ching graduated
Romeo was able to work at Kaiser Permanente
from High School at St Rita in 1960. Roxy finished high school at
Hospital for the next 25 years and retired as a
clerk in the chart room in 1992. the Philippine Christian College in 1968. Jim went to public
1974 The Rosales became naturalized U.S. citizens.
school and Eugene was taken home by Manang Noring to study
1975 Romeo petitioned my daughter, Cleopatra
Gabriel, along with her husband and their 5 at the Tuguegarao Central School in lieu of Steve Simangan, son
children. The arrived in 1980.
Cleopatra is Nenas first daughter from my first of Manang Noring who stayed with us in Manila. After Ching
nuptial with Leon Cristobal, a Purple Heart graduated, we advised her to take up Nursing. Much to our
recipient, who was K.I.A. in WWII.
1985 Romeo and Nena enjoyed a cruise in Alaska. desire, something came up. She had fallen in-love with James
1990 Romeo had a heart attack. Gabriel, which led to their marriage in November 22, 1961. They
H was hospitalized at Mercy General Hospital
went home to Tuguegarao to solemnize their wedding at St.
where he received a by-pass and a pace-maker. As
a retired Kaiser employee, his 10-day Peter's Cathedral. Principal sponsors were Dr. and Mrs. Benito
hospitalization, doctors fees, and medications were
Valdepenas. They came back home and stayed with us for some
free of charge!
1991 Romeo and Nena went on a Caribbean cruise. time. Soon Leon, nicknamed Tofy was born. He is my first
It was a frightful experience for Nena because
grandson from my first nuptial. Then came Rey and Hazel James
Romeo had his second heart attack while on the
ship. Gabriel Jr. They moved to an apartment close to us. Anyway
Nena says, Thank God at that moment, an
Ching took up Cosmetology and was a good beautician and
angel, a paramedic, introduced himself as John
and kindly helped Romeo until he was manicurist. James was also a good mechanic. Later on their
hospitalized in Cozumel, Mexico. They flew
family grew up fast in number as Salma came to light. Then they
back to Sacramento as soon as Romeo was
strong enough, where he was confined a
hospital bed for 5 days at Kaiser.
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moved to Baguio, the summer capital of the Philippines, where Our family misses our beloved Dad, Romeo. But I believe
James' mother and sisters lived. that only his body is dead and his spirit went to our Creator for
My youngest son Joel, born August 28, 1965, ten years apart him to stay in His heavenly kingdom.
from Eugene was another God-given grace to me as I was forty Dad, we pray for the repose of your soul.
one years old. This is something I cannot skip. In 1965, my sister Highlights of Romeo Estrada Rosales Life
Lita and I went to a well known Palmist. This was just out of 1926 Born on February 27, 1926
Rizal, Cagayan, Philippines.
curiosity. In fact her name was Nena too. These are the things He was a very handsome Methodist boy. The 3rd of
she told me: five children.
1936 Age 10: Romeo employed himself as a shoe-shine
1. You and your family are going to a very far place and boy on the weekends and was delighted to bring
will sail across the ocean. home a kilo of pork (25 cents) for his mother who
2. Your brother will be hurt or he will hurt someone. was found of tinunu barbeque, or bring home 3
3. When you will be in another country, you will have the pieces of fish for sinigang.
same job, but your husband will have a different one. 1943 Age 17: Romeo joined the guerilla forces in World
War II.
4. You will have 3 or 4 cars.
1945 Romeo was honorably discharged from the military.
5. You will have good business with jewelry. 1946 Romeo enrolled in college to make use of his G.I.
Bill of Rights and graduated with a B.A. degree in
She said finally, Come back to see me when you will be out Mathematics with a minor in English.
1951 On August 26, 1951 Romeo married Nena R.
of the country. I said, Yes, and I thanked her for her service. I
Pattawi. The marriage was solemnized at the
went to church immediately to say, Sorry Lord I sinned. Only Roman Catholic Church in the Philippines.
Romeo started teaching Math and English at the
you can tell the future. I tried to forget what the palmist said
Cagayan High School in Tuguegarao, Cagayan
but my brother passed in 1966. Call it the way you want but I and continued for five years.
1956 Romeo moved to Manila and joined the Police
still believe only God is in full dominion of our lifes destiny.
Force, Mobile Patrol Unit.
Lesson learned: leave the palmist alone. Trust in Gods grace and 1969 Immigrated to the United States with wife
Nena, daughter Roxy, and sons James, Eugene
divine mercy.
and Joel.
In 1967 while Roming was patrolling, he stopped by the Arrived and settled in Sacramento in March.
Thanks to the kindness of Manong Gavino
residence of his cousin, Fresnaida Estrada Pangilinan. She told
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members of the family were around praying and singing church Roming that they were leaving for the U.S.A., and she convinced
One moment during that last night with Romeo, one of his Roming did not hesitate to get the application which we
great grandsons, Michael Romeo, came to see him. He pulled immediately filled up. I again remembered what the palmist
together the strength to smile and say Big Boy Michael, said. Anyway Roming said, The Lord is the one who planned
combining Michaels name with his other grandfathers all of these things. Then he said, God is so good that He guides
nickname. us in our plans. Our application was filed in June 1967. Roming
communicated with Fresning all the time and said that as soon
Soon after he said, "Mama, saan kayo nga agsangit,
as our application was approved she was willing to provide for
meaning, Mama, and all of you, please don't cry. Then I
us an affidavit of support, which was a very important
whispered in his ear, Dad, you may go now and fill up the seat
document. Her younger sister Virgie, or Jean as we call her now,
that Jesus prepared for you in His mansion," and he said "Yes".
was petitioned by her fianc Gavino Mair. A year and a half
Finally the Lord took our most beloved Romeo, my most loving
would pass and we had to be ready with good health and
and endearing companion in my life.
enough money.
Nylah was the last great-grand baby who used to sleep
Roming intently followed up our application. Psalms 55:23
beside him. He passed away in January 11, 2003. He had a
says, Cast your cares to the Lord who will support you. God
Christian burial and during his funeral rites, the farewell taps for
does not allow the righteous to stumble. In 1968 Roxy
soldiers was aired by Judy Mamauag and 21 gun salutes were
graduated from high school and enrolled at the University of
fired by six soldiers. Romeo Estrada Rosales, a World War II
Santo Tomas to take up bio-chemistry. However, in December
veteran currently lies in peace at the Chapel of the Chimes
cemetery in Marysville, CA. After his death, Romeos first 1968, we passed the interview and we were supposed to leave
grandson, Rogeniv, wrote a special song for his grandfather that for California in 1969. Fresning and Wilfred sent our affidavit of
he sang at the funeral services. support, which was approved by the U.S. Embassy. We were
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and Mama Paning. I resigned from my teaching job and so did their marriage and the wedding took place at St. Rose Church in
Roming as a Patrolman. We decided to leave in March 19, 1969 May 11, 1996. Being married at such a young age did not prevent
feast of St. Joseph. Then we had a despedida party. Papa, my both of them to pursue their education. Danniel graduated with
sisters, Papa Berong and Mama Paning came together with close a Bachelors degree in Exercise Science and Ronaviv with a
relatives and friends. Ching and family could not come with us bachelors degree in Nursing from Sacramento State University.
to U.S. because she got married. Oh! Yes what about Rollie, She currently enjoys her career, mostly from the comfort of her
Roxys high school sweetheart? He was there too with his home, as a very successful Case Manager. So now we have
cousins Steve and Aris. But somehow things will come out right. Joseph, Nylah and Kaylan, their children. (Ronaviv, remember to
We boarded the Cathay Airlines at 10:00 P.M. Our trip was recite Psalm 23, The Lord is My Shepherd, and to sing your
peaceful and we finally arrived at Sacramento, CA on March 21, Lolos favorite song, Somewhere Over the Rainbow.)
1969. It was very early Spring and the trees were still leafless.
Romeos Seat in His Mansion
Fresning and Willy welcomed us and we experienced what they
Around the time our great-grandchildrens generation
call jet lag.
began, Romeo's health began to fail because after his heart
Working the on the Farms attack, he suffered a stroke. He did not like to be confined in a
Our trip to the U.S was like a dream. But the dream was real. care home or a convalescent hospital, so he requested Roxy and I
It was daytime in the Philippines nighttime in the U.S. We to take care of him, given her professional capacity as a nurse. I
used to wake up at 11:00 A.M. Fresning did not mind because am grateful to the vision of Roming along this line as I speak. I
they experienced the same. After two weeks, Jean and Manong now enjoy the peace and harmony of a home that he desired for
Gavino, nicknamed Big Boy, invited us to stay with them in their me under Rollie and Roxys care through all these years. Praise
house. Big Boy was a farm worker who worked as a contractor the Lord.
of Mr. Sausa, a Portuguese who owned acres of asparagus fields, Anyway, Roming's health never improved. While he was
tomatoes and also an orchard of apples, pears and plums. Big strong enough, he received the last Sacrament, had Confession
Boy put Roming to work together with Jim and Eugene. and Holy Communion. During his dying moments all the
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to Salma, Hazel and Heintje for their school needs. After Salma Farming Pays Off
finished High School, she joined the Army and is now a staff Roming bought a brand new Volkswagen. A car was more
Sergeant. She is nearing retirement. We bought a car for Heintje of a need rather than a luxury. Working in the fields was big
for him to use to go to his job. Unfortunately, he became sick money for us. Jean, Roxy, and I used to pick tomatoes. Soon Jean
with valley fever, which ails him up to now. Hazel prefers to live got pregnant and gave birth to a baby girl. Then we were able to
alone away from home. Today I sincerely thank Wally for his rent the house of Fresning because they moved to the East Coast.
fatherly concern for Ching's children especially for Heintje. They
Looking for Work as a Seamstress
live together happily as Wally is a good provider which is a
great relief for Ching. I applied to JC Penny to sew drapes and curtains. I was
Presidential Inauguration in Washington D.C. in 1997, sharing Then we met Resty and Linda Fernandez who were our
the stage with Stevie Wonder. Rodge is married to Debbie neighbors at 600 Wilson Avenue, the first house that we owned.
Estrada Mair. They have three sons, Michael, Matthew and She introduced me to a manager of the Red Star Agency where
Darius, and one daughter, Stephanie, as well as a grandson, she also worked. This company attached insignias of the City of
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in English. I said, Yes, sir, and Bingo! I was employed right members and officers of the Fraternity and the nuns were very
away. My salary was $1.75 an hour. much impressed at the grandeur of the occasion.
A New Sacramento Teacher & Kaiser Employee Emperador Constantino; Erich Rosales - Emperador
During this time, I continued to follow-up on my application Constantino; Khamil Gabriel - 1st Royal Page; Andrea Gabriel-
with the Sacramento City Unified School District. I filed my Emperatriz Sta. Elena; Jesselyn Nilo Rosales- Emperatriz Sta.
Philippines.
Helping Our Kids and Grandkids
At that time from 1965 to mid 70s school teachers were still
Romeo and I had the obsession of helping our children and
in great demand in the U.S. By June, I knew school would be
grandchildren and to see them in a more secured future. With
starting soon in September. In mid-July, I received a call from
Ching's children I took Tofi and Rey to and from school on
the school district asking me to report to work. Fortunately, I
Saturdays to finish GED, which made them High School
graduates. This helped them find jobs. Help was also extended
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Values in the Sacramento area. Signed: Deborah Ortiz-Senator- was given a substitute assignment as a classroom teacher, on-
Then I was elected President of the Filipino Family With the help and loving care of the Lord, things were going
Fraternity, a religious organization. The Filipino Nuns, Religious fine. We met Mr. Ben Pena and his spouse, Leonie, who was a
of the Virgin Mary R.V.M. worked with us officers and members Social Worker Supervisor at Kaiser Permanente Hospital. She
of the F.F.F. in all our activities. Outstanding activity is the helped Roming apply for a job at Kaiser. Soon afterwards,
celebration of the Sta. Cruz de Mayo, May Festival for short. This Roming was hired as a Filing Clerk of the hospital's chart room.
was the main fundraiser of the F.F.F. It is the enactment of Our health insurance was established and we became financially
and Emperador was done by selling raffle tickets. Obviously the God gave America its bounteous natural resources and in
contestants who garnered the most sales would represent the return America is always ready to give a hand to other nations in
Empress and also the Emperor. The Emperatriz, Sta. Elena and time of disaster. Anything that one needs in life is here in
the Emperador Constantino were the most significant attributes abundance. Just work for it. One day I drove Papa in my
in the celebration of the May festival. The coronation and ball in Volkswagen to see historical places and landmarks here in
their honor was held in a prestigious hotel with dinner and Sacramento. Sightseeing for him was splendid for what he saw
dance. Parents, relatives, friends and guests from out of town, was indeed awesome. We went to a department store and he
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expensive for him. Anyway I bought him a nice jacket because trophies. It was a big inspiration to our students not to be behind
we were going to San Francisco the next day. their American counterparts. Many if not all of our recipients are
When we went back home, Papa sat down right away and professionals now ... doctors, lawyers, engineers, nurses, you
said he was very tired. I asked him why and he told me that as a name it. In 2004, I was one of the honorees of the F.C.S.V. thank
truck driver in the Philippines, he had to brake often because God for a nice commendation.
My Teaching Career and delicacies. There was always lechon, of course. Filipino
In 1971, after two and a half years as a substitute teacher, the dances and songs were sung and performed to entertain our
Sacramento City Unified School District called me for an beauty queen. I remember one particular Miss Beauty queen for
interview. There was an opening for a regular teaching position. the Pista sa Nayon, Miss Debbie Mair, now Mrs. Mamauag. Our
They handed all the papers required for my application. Mrs. officers and members, parents, relatives and friends enjoyed the
diploma, teaching credentials in the Philippines and my 2 years Recognition and Activities
teaching experience here as a substitute teacher. Out of 12 Sometime in 2004, I received a Certificate of Recognition
applicants, I was the only Filipino. Then Mrs. Lerma told me to from the California State Senate. The inscription: Presented to
see her in her office. I felt shy and my heart was beating fast. She Nena Rosales in honor of your participation in the 2004 Filipino
told me to report to Sierra Children's Center the next day. She Fiesta and in Recognition of your invaluable service to the
asked me if I can handle sixteen students. I told her, Yes ma'am, Filipino Women and for promoting Filipino American Cultural
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(F.C.S.V.). The following weekend, we went together to a I'll do my best. I thought to myself: what is it compared to fifty
Filipino Organizations meeting where I was introduced very students in the Philippines? I thanked her very much. On
cordially. This made me an active member of several Filipino Monday I reported to school and Mrs. Lerma oriented me to the
organizations. Thanks to Manang Loling as I fondly call her. building and to the class assigned to me. I had two teacher aides
Sorry to mention that my dear Manang Loling finished her and two volunteer grandparents. I observed the activities of the
pilgrimage here on earth in the early 80s. May she rest in peace. day and sure enough I was able to handle the class. I imparted
With regards to the Filipino Community of Sacramento and knowledge to these innocent 4- year olds, some Mexicans and
Vicinity [FCSV], Romeo and I became members since 1970. Most Asians who hardly could speak English. Most were well
significant accomplishment was the success to buy a Iot for the behaved and maybe two or three had behavioral problems. They
community, a long, long dream of the Filipinos in Sacramento learned the three Rs while we played. We sang and danced,
since the FCSV was organized. After having served the dined together, studied nature outside and went to field trips. A
organization as a secretary of four consecutive presidents, I was formal lesson only last for forty minutes, which I called the
elected assistant treasurer. I assumed full responsibility of a magic circle. Every day was a busy and a happy one. My yearly
treasurer upon resignation of our elected treasurer, Mrs. Benitez. evaluation by our Principal was very encouraging. Parents
Mrs. Dolores Pizarro, the president at the time, and I patiently appreciated their children's good behavior, the lessons imparted
looked around for a lot to buy, rain or shine. Thanks to Romeo to them and their being ready for kindergarten. I taught for
for driving us around. Finally we were able to buy one which is seventeen years and finally retired in August 8, 1988.
located at the South-gate Dr., Sacramento, California. The long Filipino American Citizens!
time dream was realized. The F.C.S.V. is still working on the In 1974, Roming, Roxy, Eugene, Joel and I became
construction of a cultural center on the lot. Hope it will be naturalized Filipino American citizens. This was a chance for me
realized soon. to change my name Tomasa to Nena. Now, I am officially named
I was also assigned as chairman of the scholarship Nena P. Rosales, as recorded in my Naturalization Certificate.
and High school level. Money was given to them and also
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Rol & Rox (aka Rock & Roll) of the parish. We also donated a small amount to the rebuilding
In the early 70s, Roxy was employed in an agency office run of the Cathedral of the Blessed Sacrament. Bishop Weigand sent
by Filipinos, thanks to Father Romeo Pimentel, brother of Leonie us a letter of thanks. [See album]. Up to this year, Im still a
Pena. Roxy was also enrolled in Sacramento City College to faithful parishioner of St. Joseph Parish participating in its yearly
celebrated the Holy Eucharist asked, "Manong Romy, how did servicing businesses, non-profits and corporate entities.
you will know the relationship our big family has for one The Mamauag/Rosales Family
another.
Roxy & Rollies children are Rogeniv and Ronaviv.
Humble Accomplishments Rogeniv is married to Debbie Estrada Mair, the daughter of Jean
was one ofthe first Eucharistic Ministers blessed by Rev. Bob My Rosales Boys
Copsey. I only quit recently because my arthritis curtailed my
James (Jimmy) graduated from Rio del Norte High School in
going up and down the steps of the altar. I really miss the benefit
1971. We advised Jim to study Graphic Arts, however, he
of giving the Sacred Host to the communicants. Romeo and I
decided instead went to Florida to work. Eugene (Gene) also
contributed to the availability of the Carillon, the big church bell
graduated from Rio del Norte in 1973. Gene took courses in
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Cosmetology which was a good paying job. He worked at a Yes my dear ones---more woofs to be woven to the warp:
nearby Beauty Salon. Joel our youngest son graduated from Roming and I enjoyed our retirement years taking care of
Christian Brothers High School in 1983. Joel couldnt decide if our grandchildren and great grandchildren. We always tried to
he wanted to attend college. But during this time came our give them a hand, especially with their school needs. We enjoyed
many cars! Each one of us had our own. their company as we baby sat them and helped them with school
exciting. Only Roming, Joel and I went home to the Philippines. Roming is Spared
Upon arriving at the airport, it was very warm of course. I The ups and downs are part of life. Roming had a heart
remember Joel was so scared after seeing a big cockroach that he attack. I laid everything in God's hands as I had full trust and
started to made him sweat all over. faith in Him, Our Divine Physician and Divine Provider. I
We were anxious to meet all members of our family and prayed to Jesus to lend His heart to Romeo, or to take him home
looking forward to a wonderful family reunion. We went home to heaven. This was my prayer when they were operating him.
to Tuguegarao and Joel wanted to take a shower right away. My Then, the doctor came and told me and my children that Romeo
sister took him to the bathroom and showed him a tub full of was doing well.
water and an enamel cup to scoop the water while bathing. I Within two weeks, Roming This is where full trust and
fidelity for each other is practiced.
explained that there was no shower and no hot water. could walk and we took
And remember my advice always.
He changed his clothes and came to me in the kitchen him home. In Aug. 26, Economy and understanding are the
two basic foundations of a happy and
yelling, Mama, Mama, the house is burning! My sister calmed 2001, we celebrated our
successful married life. Always
him down and explained to him that they use firewood and an 50th wedding anniversary implore the Lord to guide and guard
you as you tread life's way.
earthen stove to cook our food. It was such a big experience for while Roming was in a
~Nena Rosales
wheelchair. It was a very
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As one awakes, thank the Lord for your life and ask Him to guide my nine year old Joel who had not been back since he was three
you and be with you all day.
and a half years old.
Mama Mary is always there to pray for us.
An Extraordinary Proposal
We also loved to travel. We went on a cruise to Alaska and
The next day we went to visit a friend. We met Easter de los
then to the Caribbean. Happy and sad moments ... Roming had a
Santos, Thelma's sister. Thelma and Romeo were Sunday school
slight heart attack on our Caribbean cruise which was very
teachers at the Methodist Church. Amazingly, Romeo was
frightening. I prayed, and as I laid Roming's head on my lap, a
drawn to a charming young lady, Eden, daughter of Easter and a
miracle occurred. A man named John, a paramedic, came to
nurse by profession. Roming told me that we would ask Gene to
rescue Roming and took him to the nearest hospital in a Jeep.
marry Eden so Eden can come to the U.S. I agreed. Nurses were
Yes, Jesus is always there to help with his unceasing love and
in demand at that time.
care. Believe me- Jesus said "Lay me your burdens for my yolk is
To make a long story short, I made a proposal to Eden for
light." Roming felt better after being hospitalized in Cozumel,
her to marry Eugene. Proposal accepted. I still have Eden's letter.
Mexico for three days. Up to now, I always pray for John
Want to read it? Just ask me. I'm serious. Again, this brings to
because of his unconditional help for Roming when he needed
mind, Psalm 55:23 Cast your cares to the Lord who will give you
help most. We did not
support. God will never allow the righteous to stumble."
continue the cruise. We My dear ones, I advise you to
do away from fatty foods. Fruits and When we went home to Sacramento we explained our plans
flew back home as vegetables, fish or chicken, eggs and
to Gene. He was about twenty years old. Shortly thereafter, I
soon as Roming's milk are very much better for us to
stay healthy. Remember your sent an engagement ring to Eden through our nephew Dodds
doctor confirmed that vitamins and your exercise.
Simangan, Manang Noring's son. The ring was accepted and we
he was fully recovered. ~ Lola Nena
were all very happy. Gene was convinced to go home to marry
Thank God.
Eden. A formal wedding proposal was fulfilled by my Papa
With God's help Roming resumed his job at Kaiser
addressed to Eden's grandpa, Mr. Lope Reyes. Gene and Eden's
Permanente Hospital until he retired after 25 years of service.
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wedding was on August 14, 1977. Coincidently, August 14 is artifacts. Thanks so much for the love and admiration Wally has
Eden's birthday and August 18 is Gene's birthday. for Ching and her family, especially for Heintje.
Hey! Remember how Eugene stayed with Manang Noring James Gabriel on the other hand is nicely taken care of by a
when he was younger and that he studied at the Tuguegarao very kind Filipino lady named Mercy. Good to mention though,
Elementary School? Eugene and Eden were classmates and also the Cristobal family is up to the fourth generation:
in the school band together where Eden was a majorette and Nena Cleopatra Leon Andrea
Eugene was in the bugle corps. I still have their class picture.
Unforgettable Times with My Lifelong Partner
Who knows what God planned for these two kids?
Now to more of my dearest, one and only, lover, and my
Joyful Moments
soul partner in life, Romeo Roming Estrada Rosales. Roming
Thank God for His blessings. Eden finally came to was fond of taking out his children and grandchildren to enjoy
Sacramento in December 1979. They stayed with us for a while outdoor life on weekends. Parents and grandparents and some
until Eden was able to land a job as a nurse at the Sutter General friends joined the family and sometimes we stayed overnight
Hospital. Gene was busy with hair styling and barbering. In and had a two day vacation.
September 1, 1980, their 1st baby, Ivan Rosales, was born. Then,
For spiritual moments we had family prayer meetings at
David was born on August 24, 1981. Erich followed in October
home, especially in the celebration of birthdays, wedding
24, 1987, then Genevieve on July 12, 1991. With a large family of
anniversaries and holidays. Roming prepared the program and
six, Gene and Eden managed to have a house of their own.
scriptures were read by the children. Roming used to have all
Eden's parents are Mariano de los Santos and Easter Reyes the grandkids recite Psalm 23 - The Lord is My Shepherd. I
de los Santos. Eden petitioned her mother Easter and in due time specifically remember Ronaviv reciting it as a very young girl.
she came to Sacramento in 1985. Church songs were sung. Dinner sometimes included a crispy
Coming or migrating to the U.S. is a big desire of many lechon (pig), Filipino style. Holding family prayer meetings at
Filipinos. The easiest way is to get petitioned by a relative who is home was a very beautiful legacy from our beloved Romeo.
already here. Many nurse graduates wanted to come here. A family that prays together stays together.
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Salma, and Heintje except for one daughter, Lea who was left Parents sell their property so their children could go abroad.
behind under the care of my sister, Leonora. As destiny takes its Unluckily, these aspirants are oftentimes cheated by travel
course in ones life journey, James and Ching unfortunately agents. Some went to Mexico, but all in vain. Eventually, they
decided to go their separate ways. Ching took her five children return to the Philippines.
on awhile until Romeo accepted the proposal. Cleopatra Gabriel Erich finished high school in 2005. After graduation he
married Wallace Enkoji in March 8, 1991. joined the United States Air Force, the best Air Force in the
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Fernandico Didi and Ellen Mamauag. Didi is Rollies younger Joel Starts His Family
brother. They now have a baby named Madeline born in May 16, Joel, my youngest son, married Jesselyn Nilo, daughter of
2008. Angelica also has a son named Jace. Erich is now a Ponciano and Josefina Nilo, a long-time friend of ours on August
reserved soldier with the Air Force and currently enrolled in 27, 1988 at St. Anthony's Church in Sacramento, California. They
electrical/computer engineering making use of his G.I. Bill of stayed with us for a while and then later moved into Jessy's
Rights. parents house. When her parents moved to Los Angeles, Joel
Genevieve is a demure Filipina, the only daughter of Gene and Jessy purchased the same home. They now have two sons,
and Eden and is currently enrolled at American River College Andrew Nilo Rosales born in June 13, 1996 and Jeremy Nilo
taking Nursing, after declining on the acceptance to Sacramento Rosales born in April 3, 2004. Joel is a licensed and certified x-ray
State University. After attending class, she is also teaches piano technician who loves his job. Jesse works with the State as an
lessons to high school students and some ecstatic younger Accountant. At this time Jeremy is a pre-schooler at St. Roberts
cousins. I pray that the Lord will always shepherd Genevieve School and Andrew is a sophomore at Christian Brothers High
for He said in Psalms 55:23- Cast your cares upon the Lord, who School, which his father graduated from.
will give you support. God will never allow the righteous one to
Knowing Your Roots
stumble. With this Genevieve will be a full fledged nurse
someday like her mother. It must be an outstanding joy for each one of you to know
your roots from original six members of the Rosales family who
On weekends, Eden and the children tend to their father and
came to the U.S.A. in 1969 and up to date at the writing of these
take him out. Gene suffered an aneurysm recently and the
memoirs in 2009, which covers four generations.
family shares in the added responsibilities.
To all of you my dear ones - Theres nothing impossible with the Ching and Her Family
Lord. Think POSITIVE always.
We petitioned Ching and her family in 1975 and in 1981,
U.S.A. with their children Leon (Tofi), Rey, James jr. (Hazel),
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When REC began in Sacramento, I would help prepare tuna Another Trip Back Home
sandwiches along with Ching for the Friday dinner of the In December 12, 1980 to January 12, 1981, we went home
retreat. All throughout the years, Roxy was the ultimate REC again to the Philippines-Balikbayan trip. We were very glad to
Mom with her selfless and quiet demeanor, a missionary in her see our love ones once again. We spent two weeks with James,
own right. Praise the Lord! Ching and their family in Baguio where they took us to beautiful
I always pray that the youth and young adults know deeply spots like the Rice terraces, Burnham Park and the Baguio
the importance of a strong personal relationship with the Lord Cathedral with more than two hundred steps up. We enjoyed all
and one another. And that they are constantly aware and the sightseeing.
thankful for all the Lords blessings. Thank God. Joel and Rogeniv, nicknamed Gen-Gen, came with us. We
During the summer of 2009, the retiring Bishop Weigand of went back to our hometown Tuguegarao and had a reunion with
the Diocese of Sacramento gave Rollie a special award for Papa and my sisters and their families. We spent Christmas and
starting REC in Sacramento and for sustaining the movement to the New Year Holidays with them. We went home to
this day. Roxy was equally acknowledged by the good Bishop Sacramento having enjoyed our month vacation with our
for her services behind the scenes as a REC mother. families, the Rosales/Pattawi clan.
by profession, so that she can also go to the U.S. Since Jim was
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self-sufficient, employed by the Dept. of Parks and Recreation, the healing of the family tree. They experienced inner
City of Sacramento and owned a house, he agreed to Naomi's conversion and were touched by the Holy Spirit. The most
suggestions. Jim and Kendee became engaged. Jim didn't stay profound effect of this retreat was in Rogenivs letter to his
long in Tuguegarao. He went back to U.S. to petition Kendee as mother, Roxy, and father, Rollie, pleading with them to start a
his fianc. The petition was approved and in 1985, Kendee came REC chapter in Sacramento.
to the U.S. After a week they had a civil marriage in Reno. Their And so, Roxy and Rollie attended an adult REC cursillo
church wedding was solemnized at St. Joseph Church in August (retreat), which then grounded their own faith in the process.
24, 1985. They stayed with us for some time. Then Charissa Jane Consequently, they were inspired to respond to their sons
Rosales was born in August 1, 1986. Jim sold his house in Folsom request.
and bought a house at 2601 Dorine St. close to our place. After
Recollections In Christianity was started in Sacramento in
some years, Kendee petitioned her parents and they came to
the spring of 1986 by Rollie and Roxy with the leadership of John
America to live with them in 1994. Jim still works with the citys
Havey as director and the cousins as they were called. Salma
Park and Recreation Dept. which he loves to do while Kendee
became director of REC #7; Heintje REC #12, Rogeniv REC #20;
currently works overseas. She comes home to her family every
and some of the other cousins, Jonalee, Mylene, and Maricar,
three months. Charissa has been on her own since she was
also became REC directors.
eighteen and by Gods grace she and her better half, Frank
By Gods grace, the REC movement is often called the best
Ramirez has received a special gift, Mikayla Rosales Ramirez on
kept secret of the Diocese of Sacramento by having touched the
November 17, 2009.
lives of over 8,000 young people from REC #1 in 1986 to REC #99
Recollections in Christianity in 2010. Rollie serves as the lay minister and facilitator and
Roxy, often called the REC Mom, serves by managing the food
A youth leader, John Havey from St. Rose Parish invited
services and coordinating parents and other volunteers behind
Rogeniv, Heintje, Salma, Hazel, Mel, Jonalee, Maricar, and
the scenes. For each REC, Roxy shops for and prepares 5-6 full
Mylene to attend a weekend retreat in Vallejo. The objective of
meals, serving from 75-200+ candidates, staff members,
the retreat, called Recollections in Christianity (aka REC), was
organizers and other volunteers.
the inner transformation of teens, for the salvation of souls and
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