INTRODUCTION

Pre-marital Sex: Sexual intimacy outside of marriage constitutes a grave sin

Premarital sex is term which refers to any sexual activity between consenting

unmarried partners. It is a voluntary sexual intercourse between persons not married to

each other. The whole are of sex and how to handle it can be a great struggle for todays

singles. Premarital sex is a huge problem in society today, there are many people who

have been married have lost their virginity before their honeymoon. Premarital sex is

mostly happened in teenagers. Teens everywhere are not waiting until they are married to

have sex. Teenagers are saying, sex is fun and everybody is doing it. Teens are less

developed, emotionally and physically before having sex, and they are not prepared for

the serious problems that come along with their decision to have sex. Teenagers view

that premarital sex is acceptable as long as two people love each other. If at age

sixteen a teenager tells a parent or someone older that they are in love, the parent will

laugh and say that no teenager at sixteen has experienced true love. Love is something

one experiences when one is mature and ready for a life-long commitment, not when one

is involved in a two-year high school crush. Premarital sex is based on selfishness, not

on love. If one has passionate feelings for someone, one may feel the need to have

intercourse with that person. Teens need to open their eyes and see the harmful effects of

premarital sex. Premarital sex hurts you, running the risk of getting diseases and it profoundly scars you emotionally
saying, Oh Ill be fine, I am on birth control and we used a condom; there are no

Nowadays, we can see there are a lot of moral issues among teenagers. As we
know, moral issues always been relate to negative behavior of someone that can
gives bad effects to themselves and also people around them. There have been
many cases involving them all over the world. They will cause many problems
to themselves, community and country. They will cause self destruction to
themselves because of their habit. Community in this country will be its
disintegration, divided and not united. As a result, bad feelings and prejudices
will exist in society. Mutual mistrust is reigning in the community. As for
country, we all know that teenagers are the leader of future. This will make
 vigorous development becomes stagnated and socio-economic condition
become weakened because of the existence of social and moral decay amongst
community.

There are several factors that caused the moral issues among teenagers
nowadays. One of them is because of the influenced from their friends. This is
because teenagers now are more comfortable with their friends compared to
their parents and siblings. There are some teenagers spend most of their time
with their friends outside. This can lead them to do things that their friends are
doing such as smoking and other unhealthy activity. Other than that, other factor
is the influenced of mass media and internet. With today technologies, teenagers
can find everything they want in the mass media such as television and also the
internet.
Though a human being gains the physical maturity of procreation at the beginning of
puberty, he/she is considered eligible for mating and reproduction much later may be
after 18 years of age or 20. And also the society insists that a sexual practice outside a
marriage is improper and illegal at times.

Premarital sexuality is any sexual activity with an opposite sex partner or with a same
sex partner before he/she has started a married life. The term is usually used to refer
the intercourse before the legal age of a marriage. Adults who presumably marry
eventually also fall under this definition.

Why premarital sex is forbidden?

Modern societies don't appreciate premarital lovemaking for various reasons.
Lovemaking is no more considered an outflow of the natural sexual instincts among
human beings. We see it as a necessary obligation to share the romance between
married couples and also as a medium to fulfill the social responsibility of giving birth to
the next generation.

Sexuality is not an instrument of enjoying lustful pleasure for human beings, at least. In
premarital sex, many a times, immature human beings explore the sexuality, jut out of
curiosity, and might be are unaware of the consequences. Society has forbid premarital
sex from the very outlook that adolescence is the time to form oneself as mature and
responsible human being and not at all a time to procreate.

After effects of premarital sex

Sex in itself, is not wrong at any age; but premarital sex may harm the mental
development of adults in several forms. Premarital sexual experiences, many a times,
leads to the misconception that sex is to be enjoyed at whatever ways possible. Forced
premarital lovemaking will lead to mental depression and dilemma. Another danger is
possible exchange of diseases; as premarital partners may not be aware of diseases that
spread through intercourses. Getting pregnant through premarital sex is another
disaster. Emotional imbalances and guilt feeling could be the result of most premarital
sexual affairs.

How to prevent premarital sex

Premarital sex is not approved by any modern society, yet, stories of adolescent fathers
and mothers come out largely, especially from the highly civilized European nations.
Modern lifestyle has opened multiple opportunities for boys and girls to interact closely
and deeply in public and private. They have ample chances to experiment the sexuality
which they witness through internet and Televisions.

Law can only threaten people, can never make them to not do something. The most effective
way of defending premarital lovemaking is spreading awareness of healthy sexuality among
children. Awareness of healthy sexuality is not at all the knowledge of safe sexuality. Train
them to mingle with opposite sex in a mature way. Inspire them with mutual respect between
man and woman. From the very childhood itself a baby should learn to accept people as men
and women, the equal partners of life on earth; not as objects to fulfill lusty wishes and
ambitions.

Premarital sex is a huge problem in society today. People everywhere are not waiting
until they get married to have sex. People having sex today are not aware of the
consequences that come with having sex. They just think it is fun and there are nothing
other than fun comes with having sex.

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Some people tend to have a lot of sex. They say they do it for the satisfaction. They
believe sex is fun. It is perceived to be a great thing from the time one is young. Going
to elementary school kids always talked about the day they were going to have sex.
They looked forward to it. Where they got the idea that sex was such a great thing is a
question that one must ask? The movies, maybe. The magazines that one sees when
digging through the drawers of an older brother, uncle or ones father. Sex is all over
society. You can not watch cable television without seeing people kissing intimately, or
even having sex. Just because cable does not show full nudity does not make it any
better to let an eight year old child watch a television show full of sex.

In todays society women are not held to that same standard as men are when it comes
to having sex.

Now that the reasons people are having sex has been somewhat discussed and is out
of the way, let us discuss the consequences that come with having sex, such as
A.I.D.S. This is a deadly virus that kills ones immune system. A person never dies from
the actual virus. They die from the diseases that they would not have otherwise
contracted if they still had a strong immune system. The immune system doesnt die
slowly either it take at least five years for the immune system to eventually give out. A
person can die from a simple cold if they have contracted the A.I.D.S virus. They cold
starts of as a normal one does but it just keeps getting worse and worse. People suffer
before they die from this disease. This disease has been responsible for killing millions
of people. The way this virus is contracted is through exchange of bodily fluids. Sex is
the number one way this virus is spread. What people are not realizing is this disease is
deadly and by having premarital sex and not being monogamous they too can contract
this disease. People are very aware that this disease is out there but they do not
understand that it can affect them.

There are lots of other diseases out there other than A.I.D.S that are caused by having
sex. Most other sexually transmitted diseases are deadly but they are curable if found
before they cause your body damage. Lets not forget how painful these diseases are.
All I can say when I think of contracting something as painful as a disease as painful as
these have been described is ouch! Why would someone even want to take the chance
of contracting one of these horrible diseases? There is a very simple solution if one
would want to avoid contracting one of these horrible diseases. Its just as easy as not
having sex.

Lets not forget how bad a reputation could be damaged if people found out that a
person had a sexually transmitted disease. They would be laughed at and ridiculed.
People would think that a person was dirty if they knew they had diseases. What kind of
feeling would a person have knowing that they have a disease that they have
contracted through sexual intercourse.

Maybe a better question is, what kind of feeling could a person walk into a church with
knowing that people know they have a disease that they have contracted while having

sex before they were married?

The major religious belief in the United States is Christianity. Christianity teaches that
having sex before getting married is wrong. Having sex is a sin and when people sin
they go to hell. Lots of people have sex with other people just to do it. They dont think
of that others feelings. Christianity teaches people to treat others as they would like to
be treated. Im sure no person likes getting his or her feelings hurt. People should think
about others before they do such things such as use others for sex.

Christianity also teaches that lust is a sin. It is one of the seven deadly sins and it
should not be taken lightly according to religious teachings. Lust leads to sex, and if sex
is taken lightly people more and more people will begin to have children out of wedlock.

Pregnancy is also a result of sex. Those who are not married and have children dont
only make their own lives harder by burdening themselves financially but they also
make it harder for their children to live without both of their parents there for them at all
times. In some cases children are left with just one parent and have to grow up the rest
of their lives feeling unwanted because their biological father did not stick around. A
child cannot comprehend the fact that his or her father just had was with his or her
mother to have sex. How could you explain this to a child? You couldnt and if you did
there would definitely be something wrong with you. An even worse case is a child who
is put up for adoption. He or she knows nothing about his or her real parents and is
never given the oppurtunity to be given the love that every child deserves from his or
her parents. I believe it would be hard not to know who your parents were. It would kill
me to think that I could have had a mother and father like most normal people but
parents didnt want me.

Sex is not entirely bad. In my opinion sex should be treated like everything else and be
done in moderation. People should learn to understand one another and understand
that sex is a big step in relationships. If it were not a big step there would be no point to
get married. Why would a person want to buy a used car when they could buy a new
car? Sorry that it has to be put that way but that is the harsh reality of it. People who
have slept around are not going to have an easy time finding a life mate. Nobody wants
somebody who had slept with all of their friends. Why would you? How could you? It
would be really awkward having all of my friends standing in my wedding knowing that
had all had sex with a person that was going to be my wife in a couple of hours.

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Hopefully people will begin to look at everything they can lose from having sex before
marriage. The same goes for those who can not be monogamous. People should hold
themselves to a higher standard. If people had more confidence I believe that they
would feel they needed to have sex to impress people or to make people happy. Sex
should be a result of love and should have more meaning than it does to some people.

The entire point is sex has before marriage has consequences. There are many and
Ive only touched based on a few. If I were to go over every reason that sex was wrong
the list would never end.

Premarital sex issexual intercoursee n g a g e d i n b y p e r s o n s w h o a r e unmarried. It

is generally used in reference to individuals who are presumednot yet of marriageable
ageor between adults who will presumably marryeventually, but who are engaging
insexual activityprior to marriage.Sex ispleasurable, but in God's view, the primary
purpose of sex is not recreation,but rather re-creation. In other words, sex is for
reproduction. God does notlimit sex to married couples to rob pleasure from
those who are unmarried.Rather, God commands against premarital sex in order to
protect unmarriedpeople from unwanted pregnancies, from children born to
parents who donot want them, and to protect children from parents who are
not
preparedf o r t h e m . I m a g i n e , f o r a m o m e n t , a w o r l d w i t h o u t p r e m a r i t a l
sex. Therew o u l d b e n o s e x u a l l y -
transmitted diseases, there would be no un-
wedmothers, there would be no unwanted pregnancies, there
w o u l d b e n o abortions, etc. According to the Bible, abstinence is God's only policy
when
itc o m e s t o p r e m a r i t a l s e x . A b s t i n e n c e s a v e s l i v e s , p r o t e c t s b a b i e s , g i
v e s sexual relations the proper value, and most importantly abstinence
honorsGod.

Thus, as defined in the dictionary, an urge or shall we say, thoughts

of m a n i f e s t i n g t h e m , i s s e x . ( T h e B i b l e c a l l s t h i s l u s t ) T o
h a v e p h y s i c a l intercourse is sex. Whether it is two unmarried partners or one
married andone not - it is sex. Participating "up to a point" of actual physical
intercourse,such as having oral sex, is sex. Societal trends don't change the
definitions.Frankly, there is no line to draw; it is strictly a decision to engage in
sexualactivity or not. There are many factors to consider in this choice. Included in

these factors are unwanted pregnancies, unwanted children, life-

longe m o t i o n a l e f f e c t s ( r e g r e t , b r o k e n h e a r t s a n d g u i l t a r e a m o n g t h e
m ) . W e cannot neglect to add sexually transmitted diseases, the
consequences of sexual immorality and in many jurisdictions - it's breaking
the law.
Nationals p e a k e r a n d a u t h o r P a m S t e n z e l s a y s a n y t y p e o f
g e n i t a l c o n t a c t i s considered sex and the boundary lines are clear. "Medically
speaking, they'revery clear, because any type of genital contact can transmit disease."
Eachfactor listed above should be a strong deterrent, but there is also a
moralissue. Therefore let's look at the standard for all morality. The Bible
containsm a n y v e r s e s d e a l i n g w i t h s e x u a l i s s u e s . O n e o f t h e T e n
Commandmentss a y s w e s h o u l d n o t c o m m i t a d u l t e r y . H o w e v e r ,
w h a t d o e s i t s a y a b o u t consensual sex between non-married individuals. The
biblical standard of sexi s p u r i t y . G o d d e s i g n e d u s t o b e s e x u a l
c r e a t u r e s a n d s a y s s e x i s t o b e enjoyed between a husband and wife within
their marriage. Within marriage,w e c a n e n j o y a n a l l - i n c l u s i v e p h y s i c a l ,
emotional, and spiritual bond thatonce lost elsewhere
c a n n o t b e f u l l y r e c l a i m e d . O f c o u r s e , s i n c e w e a r e designed to enjoy sex,
we might wonder how it could be wrong to engage
ina n y s e x u a l a c t i v i t y . A s s o c i e t i e s , w e m u s t s e t l e g a l a n d b e h a v i o u r a l
boundaries in order to function properly. God has set boundaries so that wemight
properly function according to His supreme design. Scripture is laid outto show us God's
way, which is in our best interest. God designed the path sothat we might have an
abundant life experiencing His love and the sacredlove of a marital spouse.
His word describes the perfect union of husband

and wife that is meant to be exclusive. He subsequently frowns on acts

of rebellion against his purpose and design

Historical Background

She was devastated when her doctor told her she had herpes. By passingthis infection
on, Brian has made it possible for Jennifer to join the ranks of twenty million other
Americans who have herpes, a sexually transmitteddisease. This is not the only disease
that Jennifer lives with though. Sheexperiences great emotional pain, especially guilt for
the last three years".The world is plagued with over thirty-nine sexually transmitted
diseases."Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STD) infect three million young
adultsannually, out of Americas total of twelve million sexually active youths".These
dangers should be painfully obvious to many of todays youth. "Amongfourteen to
twenty -year -olds Chlamydia is the most common STD."Chlamydia has no obvious
symptoms and can even cause infertility if leftuntreated. "Up to twenty -nine percent
of sexually active adolescent girlshave been found to be infected with
Chlamydia."Premarital sex is riddled with many emotional problems and
mentalconsequences. After premarital sex, there is a feeling of disappointment
andregret over lost of virginity. So many people say,
I wish I had waited.
Confusion is another emotional effect of premarital sex. This often comesfrom being
ignorant of the differences between lust and true love. The bestmodels who can teach
teenagers are the parents. This type of educationshould start at home. When parents
fail to do so, the risk is their child wouldask for and receive answers from people- people
whose view of sex andsexuality may not be accurate or morally compatible with their
values. Nextis at school, high school students should get adequate knowledge from
their

teachers regarding sex education. (Example, making sex education acurriculum in

school.One reason teenagers should wait to have sex is due to their moraland religious
views. In the rules of the Catholic Church, "premarital sex andany physical activity that
causes the man or woman to be sexuallystimulated, is inappropriate before marriage".
Sex should be for the purposeof reproduction and nothing else. According to the
Catholic Church,reproduction is the main purpose of sexual intercourse. First
Corinthianschapter six; verse thirteen states, "Now the body is not for fornication, butfor
the Lord, the Lord for the body. Corinthians chapter six, verse thirteenimplies,
"God wants you to be Holy and pure, and to keep clear of all sexual sin sothat each of
you will marry in holiness and honor not in lustful passion asthe heathen do, in their
ignorance of God and his ways."
In fact God sees premarital sex as an extreme sin. In Biblical times anymarried woman
who had been proven to have had premarital sex, wasstoned to death at the door of her
father. This is mans understanding of Gods view on fornication. Hebrews chapter
thirteen, verse four states, "Letmarriage be honored among all and the marriage bed be
kept undefiled, forGod will judge the immoral and adulterers" God knew many people
wouldengage in premarital sex, for this reason He imposed rules to keep us
fromconsequences. Christian religions have very strict teachings of abstinence.

Hence, it is ironic that, "Catholics are engaging in premarital sex more thanany other
group of single Americans". The Church teaches us that when onehas sex with
another, they become one with them in spirit. People who havemany sexual partners
before marriage still have "soul ties" to other peoplebesides their spouse. Soul ties
meaning, encountering true love and the feelto never let one be alone. In Genesis 2:24,
it says that
A man shall leave hisfather and his mother and shall cleave to his wife; and they shall
becomeone flesh.
Despite these teachings, "only seventeen percent of all Catholicsthink that premarital
sex is wrong," This indicates that personal beliefs arestronger than religious beliefs

and wife that is meant to be exclusive. He subsequently frowns on acts

of rebellion against his purpose and design.The reason why we chose to conduct this
study to only 3
rd
year and 4
th
year students is that we were only being exposed to formal sex
educationd u r i n g o u r 3
rd
y e a r o f h i g h s c h o o l . W e a l s o b e l i e v e t h a t t h e y a r e m a t u r e enough to
understand the questions given.
Theoretical Background
This study is the following the concept of Kristie A. Klus
a w t h a t Premarital Sex is a huge problem in the society today. Klusaw also
statesthat teenagers are not waiting to get married to have sex.Many people have
tremendous regret after sex, which leads them intodepression. They begin to feel used
and simply "unclean". "The most severeconsequence of premarital sex is
psychological; the guilt that occurs is soacute that many teens look to drugs,
alcohol, and suicide for relief" (Hjelle).According to Dr. John G. Sholl, teens who engage
in premarital sex are morel i k e l y t o s u f f e r n e g a t i v e l y f r o m l o n g -
t e r m p h y s i c a l , e m o t i o n a l , s o c i a l a n d moral effects than teens who choose to
wait.As Klusaw states it, through Premarital Sex, teens have high chance of getting
STDs or Sexually Transmitted Diseases such as AIDS, Genital
herpes,G o n o r r h e a , C h l a m y d i a e t c . A c c o r d i n g t o G e o f f r e y W e e d , S o m e

contraceptives, such as condoms, can also help to keep sexually

transmittedd i s e a s e s f r o m s p r e a d i n g . C o n t r a c e p t i v e s a r e a l s o u s e f u l t o o
l s i n m o d e r n society as a form of advancement and liberation for women. However,
therei s a l s o t h e f a c t t h a t c o n t r a c e p t i v e s a r e n o t f o o l p r o o f a n d
p r e g n a n c y c a n occur, even when they are used perfectly. Another
disadvantage is societalignorance toward their proper use and efficacy, which can
lead to the spreadof sexually transmitted diseases. It is also possible for contraceptives
to havenegative health effects on those using them, such as allergic reactions
orblood clots if using the birth control pill.According to Meenakshi Madhur, Sex is a very
strong biological need.However sex after marriage has a purpose of not only evolution
but also amedium of expressing love between couples. The Bible says God is Love,as
David and Flora Tant expound it, they say that God is the author of loveand he knows
all about it. God created sex and said it was good, but he gaverules with it. And we have
one basic rule from God with reference to sexualactivity. That is, wait until marriage.
According to Denise Witmer, there aretwo different types of sex education classes.
Comprehensive SexualityEducation is a program that starts in kindergarten and
continues throughhigh school. It brings up age appropriate sexuality topics and covers
thebroad spectrum of sex education, including safe sex, STDs,
contraceptives,masturbation, body image, and more. The other one is, Abstinence-
Only-Until-Marriage Programs emphasize abstinence from all sexual behavioursand do
not cover information on contraceptives, STDs, masturbation, etc.
As The Florida Department of Health says, being independent and self-sufficient before
getting married and starting a family increases the chancesof being financially and
emotionally ready to take on those responsibilities.And choosing abstinence
and waiting can save you from a lot of
emotional,p h y s i c a l , m o r a l c r i s i s . I t a l s o t e a c h e s y o u t h e v a
l u e o f p a t i e n c e t h a t everything will happen in their own time.
Three years ago, a survey
wastaken from the 2005 Young Adults Fertility and Sexuality Survey.
Y o u n g adults are identified as those age 15 to 24 years old. Among young
Cebuanoadults, 20 to 22 percent engage in premarital sex.Sometimes, books
addressed to teenagers trying to show whypremarital sex is undesirable will focus on all
the negative consequencesthat can result from it, such as venereal disease, unwanted
pregnancy,broken family relationships and so forth. Certainly the young person must
beaware that such dangers are very real and they may as well serve as adeterrent to
premarital sex, but they fail to build foundations on which ayoung person can build a
positive concept of sexuality. We must not baseour sexual morality not on what is wrong
in immoral sexual acts but ratherupon what is good in moral sexual acts.An adolescent
must face moral questions in light of what sex is in thefullness of married love. In
acknowledging the trials, the depth, the beautyand the fulfilment of married love, the
young person can come to see thatsex is not a toy, that to abuse the power of sex is to
abuse the deep

expression of love that gives birth to new love and to new human life. Inshort, the young
person can come to approach the problem of sexualmorality with the beginnings of
a mature Christian conscience.AARPs 2004 Sexuality Study revealed that the vast
majority of respondents deeply value their relationships. Sex, the interviewees felt,
maynot be wasted on the young but its hardly their exclusive playground; sexremain
enjoyable well into the later years and the majority of surveyrespondents would be
unhappy if they could never have it again an outlookcomedically captured by author
Patsy Stagner in the subtitle of her book,
Baby Boomer Bachelorette: How to Have Sex at Least Once More Before YouDie.
According to the Population Commission (PopCom), 23 percent or twoof 10
Filipino youths aged 15 to 24 were into premarital sex and four out
fivef e m a l e r e s p o n d e n t s i n t h e s t u d y h a d t h e i r f i r s t e x p e r i e n c e
w i t h t h e i r boyf riend while two out of five males had
t h e i r s w i t h a c o m m e r c i a l s e x worker, a friend or with a plain acquaintance. Last
years study also says thatclose to 4 million youngsters are engaging in premarital sex
with 30% of ther e s p o n d e n t s d o i n g i t i n t h e i r o w n h o m e s w h i l e 1 8 % w e r e
d o i n g i t i n s i d e motels and hotels.

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