Discussion questions

Instructions: Read the following questions and discuss them with a partner. Justify your answers.

1. Why do you think modern relationships last less time than relationships before?
I think that modern relationships are based in feelings that usually are confused with love, also I think that
people are not prepared for the relation or maybe they are busy looking for material goods.
2. How has sexual liberation made an impact in the way relationships work?
I think that sexual liberation has influenced relationships in a way that people are now more able to decide who
they want to be with and what they like and that has created a new environment for relationships which are
now very different to the relationships before.
3. What changes need to be done before long-term relationships start disappearing?
I think we cant do anything for others but we can think two times before we start a relationship.

4. What does a relationship need to last long?

I think a long relationship need that the persons of the relation have a good communication and they have to
understand each other.

Vocabulary

Instructions: Match the words with their meaning.

1. Inept __I___ A. -excessively or overly desiring wealth, possessions, etc.; avaricious

2. Quitter __L___ B. -collapse; lose strength
3. Greedy __A___ C. -to exist without being seen, suspected, or detected
4. Guarded ___C__ D. -a person who gives up easily, especially when faced with difficulty
5. Hurdle___F_ E. -to leave; to go away from a place
6. Crumble __B___ F. -a difficulty to be overcome; obstacle
7. Thrill _J____ G. -to have sex with someone
8. Scope __M___ H. -clumsy, inept, or heavy-handed:
9. Step out __E___ I. -lacking skill or ability; incompetent
10. Hook up (Get laid) __G___ J. -to (cause to) feel a sudden wave of emotion or excitement
11. Lurk __K___ K. being put to the test and resulting in failure
12. Cant handle __D___ L. -cautious; careful; prudent
13. Ham-fisted __H___ M. opportunity for activity

Why Modern Relationships Are Falling Apart So Easily Today by Ankush Bahuguna

Why are relationships so hard today? Why do we fail at love every time, despite trying so hard? Why have humans
suddenly become so inept at making relationships last? Have we forgotten how to love?

We're not prepared for the sacrifices, for the compromises, for the unconditional love. We're not ready to invest all that
it takes to make a relationship work. We want everything easy. We're quitters. All it takes is a single hurdle to make us
crumble to our feet. We don't let our love grow, we let go before time.

It's not love we're looking for, only excitement and thrill in life. We want someone to watch movies and party with, not
someone who understands us even in our deepest silences. We spend time together, we don't make memories. We don't
want a partner for life, just someone who can make us feel alive right now, this very instant.

We don't have time to love, we don't have the patience to deal with relationships. We're busy people chasing materialistic
dreams and there's no scope to love. Relationships are nothing more than convenience. We look for instant gratification
in everything we do. Apparently, nothing's worth our time and patience not even love.
We'd rather spend an hour each with a hundred people than spending a day with one. We believe in having options'.
We're social' people. We believe more in meeting people than getting to know them. We're greedy. We want to have
everything. We get into relationships at the slightest attraction and step out, the moment we find someone better. We
don't want to bring out the best in that one person. We want them to be perfect. We date a lot of people but rarely give
any of them a real chance. We're disappointed in everyone.

Technology has brought us closer, so close that it's impossible to breathe. Our physical presence has been replaced by
texts, voice messages, snapchats and video calls. We don't feel the need of spending time together anymore. We have
too much of each other already. There's nothing left to talk about.

We're a generation that calls itself sexually liberated'. We can tell sex apart from love, or so we think. We're the hook-up-
break-up generation. We have sex first and then decide if we want to love someone. Getting laid has become the new
getting drunk. You do it not because you love the other person, but because you want to feel good. It's all the temporary
fulfillment we need. Sex outside relationships isn't a taboo anymore.

We're a scared generation scared to fall in love, scared to commit, scared to fall, scared to get hurt, scared to get our
hearts broken. We don't allow anyone in, nor do we step out and love anyone unconditionally. We lurk from behind walls
we've created ourselves, looking for love and running away the moment we really find it. We suddenly cannot handle it'.
We don't want to be vulnerable. We don't want to share our soul with anyone. We're too guarded.

There's nothing we couldn't conquer in this world, and yet, here we are ham-fisted at the game of love the most basic
of human instincts. Evolution, they call it.
Adapted from: http://www.mensxp.com/relationships/relationship-problems/29380-why-modern-relationships-are-falling-apart-so-easily-today.html

Comparative chart

Instructions: based on your own beliefs, describe how relationships were before, now and attitudes people are taking
regarding love.

Relationships before Relationships now Attitudes/behaviors that are

affecting/improving relationships
Ex. Many years ago, men were the Ex. Women also take the lead and ask Ex. Women are growing with the
first to ask a girl out. men out. belief that they can pay for things in
the first date.

Many years ago, there were no long Nowadays people can have With new technologies people could
distance relationships. relationships with someone that they meet someone good for them or fall
couldnt know. into a hoax.

People used to spend more time with Nowadays they are very busy with Dont having time for their partner
their partners. their works, also even the women could have problems between them.
has a work and dont have time to be
in house.

Before while more children better Couples prefer not to have children It looks like modern partners thinks
that have children is just a load.

Before the same sex relationships Currently, same-sex relationships are With sexual freedom people can
were seen as something bad more common choose without feeling discriminated