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Procedimiento: se les pidi a las personas que imaginaran una situacin en la que tendan a
sentirse excesivamente afligidos de una forma u otra, y se los inst a que se sintieran menos
molestos mientras continuaban imaginando la escena.
La mayora de las veces, sucedieron dos cosas: primero, los pacientes informaban que haban
cambiado sus sentimientos de la manera deseada; segundo, explicaran su xito refirindose a un
cambio cognitivo activo, como "supongo que me di cuenta de que no sera el fin del mundo" o
"pens que probablemente podra superar de alguna manera si empeoraba lo peor".
Despus de eso, fue un asunto sencillo el sealar que las actitudes intiles podan discutirse
directamente por medio de los procedimientos de RET, y que las autodeclaraciones de
afrontamiento podan ensayarse activamente.
El componente cognitivo implica dar al cliente un marco sistemtico para comprender, disputar o
ensayar ciertas actitudes o auto declaraciones (siguiendo un formato RET tradicional o utilizando
los mtodos de ensayo cognitivo de Meichenbaum (1977), etc.).
El componente emotivo implica pedir al cliente que imagine la situacin problemtica y que
intente atenuar activamente la reaccin emocional excesiva durante la fantasa. Tomados en
conjunto, estos componentes cognitivos y emotivos forman el procedimiento IER habitual. Debido
a que el aspecto de las imgenes emotivas haba demostrado ser til incluso de forma aislada al
introducir conceptos cognitivos a los pacientes hospitalizados, diseamos estudios para examinar
la efectividad relativa de estos componentes.
EL ENTRENAMIENTO EN AUTOINSTRUCCIONES
Romantic, passionate love, or intense in-lovedness has existed from time immemorial but received
an enormous boost in the Middle Ages and has become a near-requisite of mating or marriage in
the twentieth century (Burgess & Locke, 1953; de Rougemont, 1956; Ellis, 1954; Ellis & Harper,
1961a, Finck, 1887; Folsom, 1935; Hunt, 1959; Lucka, 1915; Murstein, 1974). It has enormous
advantages, in that romantic lovers often experience extremely pleasurable feelings and are
motivated to great efforts and outstanding performances.
Romantic love generally is acknowledged to include several strong factors, especially idealization
of the beloved; a high degree of exclusivity; intense feelings of attachment, usually with a strong
sexual component; the powerful conviction that the love will last forever; obsession with thoughts
of the beloved; a strong desire to mate with the beloved; an urge to do and to sacrifice almost
anything to win the beloved; the conviction that romantic love is the most important thing in the
world; and the belief that one can practically merge with one's beloved and become one with him
or her (Christie, 1969; Ellis, 1949a, 1949b, 1949c, 1950, 1951, 1954; Hunt, 1959; Katz, 1976;
Kremen & Kremen, 1971; Stendhal, 1947; Tennov, 1979).
Devotees of romance tend to create and maintain a number of irrational Beliefs (iBs) or myths that
interfere with their intimate relationships and with their happiness. Here, for example, are some
of the cornmon romantic myths of our culture:
1. You can passionately love one, and only one, person at a time (Ellis, 1954).
4. Sex without romantic love is unethical and unsatisfying. Sex and love always go together (Bach
& Wyden, 1969; Ellis, 1954).
5. Romantic love can easily be made to develop and grow in marital relationships.
6. Romantic love is far superior to conjugal love, friendship love, nonsexual love, and other kinds
of love, and you hardly exist if you do not experience it intensely.
7. If you lose the person you love romantically you must feel deeply grieved or depressed for a
long period of time and cannot legitimately fall in love again until this long mourning period is
over.
8. It is necessary to perceive love all the time to know someone loves you (Katz, 1976).