1.

Be Always the one who Initiates Islamic Greetings:

Our beloved prophet Muhammad (saw) said:

“In greetings, the better is he who initiates greeting the other”.

“Do not ever waste your good deeds, even by meeting your brother with a frowning face.”

“Shaking hands removes hatred and exchanging presents enhances love and ends enmity”.

2. Always Keep Smiling:

At first, we need to be friendly to all others. And for this, what we need to be is just to hold a
beautiful smile. It is also regarded as a kind of worship and alms-giving as is mentioned in a
hadith “Smiling at your brother’s face is as charity (Sadaqa)”. Abdullah ibn al Harith (ra)
tells us about the Prophet (saw) saying that, he had never seen some one smile at the other’s face
as the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) used to do.

3. Be Gentle, Humble and Noble:

Loud voice and chattering are bad merits. We need to be sweet-worded, tender in expressing
yourself. Concerning this merit, The Prophet (saw) said: “The good word is a charity
(Sadaqa).” If the good word has its own magic in winning the hearts of your enemies how
powerfully it would work then with your brothers’ hearts!!
Here the Prophet’s wife addresses the enemies saying “Damn you” and the Prophet (saw)
prevents her saying “Calm down. Allah likes for the matters to be dealt with gently”. He also
said: “Nobility of manners and taciturnity are the best of manners that people are ever
characterized by”.

4. Be a good Listener:
It is to listen patiently and never interrupt the speaker, as the Prophet (saw) never interrupted a
speaker till he ended his speech. And he who maintains it, gains others love and admiration,
whilst on the contrary is the one who chatters and interrupts the others.

5. Good Appearance and Dressing:

We have to be careful with our appearance so as to be neat, well –dressed and sweet smelling as
well. The Prophet (saw) said that, “Allah loves beauty to be in everything.”

6. Being with Others for the sake of Allah (swt):

We need to stay along our brothers whenever they need us. Surely Allah will give us a great
return for our each good deed. Muhammad (saw) said: “The more you are in favor of others,
the more you are beloved by Allah”.

7. Being Generous:
Most of we behave stingily as if we see the ghost of poverty waiting to attack us once we think
about being generous in offering money. Now I will tell you a story about the magic of the merit
of generosity.

In the conquest of Makkah, there was a man called “Safwan Ibn Umia”. That man ran away after
making all possible means in keeping the people of Islam and after making conspiracies to kill
the Prophet (saw). Later on, the Prophet (saw) forgave him and he came back asking the Prophet
(saw) to give him the time of two months to think about Islam and the Prophet (saw) said: “You
can take four months, not just two”. In spite of being an atheist, he accompanied the Prophet
(saw) in the Hunain and Al Ta’if conquests. In Al Ta`if, While the Prophet (saw) was dividing
the booties of the war, he noticed: that man looking longingly to a vast land in which a large
number of cattle were flocking. The Prophet (saw) asked him: “Do you like it?” The man
eagerly answered “Yes". The Prophet (saw) said: “It is for you then”. Safwan said “Only a
prophet could behave as generously as you have to me. I believe that there is no God but Allah
and that Muhammad is His prophet.”

Notice, how the Prophet (saw) found the missing key and succeeded in moving his heart.
May Allah Bless all of us the Guidance to be a Perfect Muslim.
Ameen