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Listening skills
Content
Effective Communication
Effective Listening
Remembering Names
The Three Basic Listening Modes
Levels of Communication
Crossed Wires
Wrong Wavelength
Hearing the Words vs Listening for the Message
Possible Benefits Occur with Active Listening
Listening Tips
Conclusion
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EFFECTIVE
COMMUNICATION
LISTENING WRITING
SPEAKING
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EFFECTIVE
COMMUNICATION
“The ability to communicate is
a precious attribute. It is a skill
which merits cultivation.”
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EFFECTIVE LISTENING
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EFFECTIVE LISTENING
“Listening” is what is:
HEARD (or Seen)
UNDERSTOOD
REMEMBERED
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REMEMBERING NAMES
THE MOST IMPORTANT THING YOU CAN EVER
DO
Ask for Name
Repeat Name in a Sentence
“Hi Siti, It’s nice to meet you.
Repeat Name Again
“So Siti, where are you from?”
Use again in conversation
Always say name when you are starting a
conversation.
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The Three Basic Listening Modes
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Levels of Communication
Listening effectively - difficult - people vary in :
their communication skills
how clearly they express themselves
needs, wants and purposes for interacting
different types of interaction or levels of communication
The four different types or levels are.
1. Situation
2. Facts.
3. Thoughts and beliefs.
4. Feelings and emotions.
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Crossed Wires
Listener - we attend to the level that we think is most
important.
Crossed wires - the two people are not on the
same wavelength - failure to recognise the level
most relevant and important to the speaker
Purpose of the contact and the nature of our
relationship with the person - will determine what
level or levels are appropriate and important for the
particular interaction.
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Wrong Wavelength
If we do not address the appropriate elements
we will not be very effective, and can actually
make the situation worse.
For example:
If your friend is telling you about his/her hurt
feelings and you focus on the facts of the
situation and do not acknowledge his/her
feelings, he/she will likely become even more
upset.
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Hearing the words vs Listening for
the message
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Possible Benefits Occur With Active
Listening
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Listening Tips
It is important to paraphrase and use your own words
in verbalizing your understanding of the message.
Parroting back the words verbatim is annoying and
does not ensure accurate understanding of the
message.
Depending on the purpose of the interaction and your
understanding of what is relevant, you could reflect
back the other person’s
1. Account of the facts.
2. Thoughts and beliefs.
3. Feelings and emotions.
4. Wants, needs or motivation.
5. Hopes and expectations.
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Listening Tips
Do not respond to just the meaning of the words - look
for the feelings or intent beyond the words.
The dictionary or surface meaning of the words or code
used by the sender is not the message.
Once you accurately understand the sender’s message
- respond with your own message.
If you are confused and know you do not understand, -
either tell the person you do not understand and ask
him/her to say it another way, or use your best guess.
If you are incorrect, the person will realize it and will
likely attempt to correct your misunderstanding.
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Listening Tips
Avoid looking at your watch or at other
people or activities around the room.
Face and lean toward the speaker and nod
your head, as it is appropriate.
Be careful about crossing your arms and
appearing closed or critical.
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Conclusion
Become a more effective listener.
Practice the active listening technique.
Make it one of your communication skills.
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Reference
Larry, A., Guidelines on Effective Communication,
Healthy Relationships & Successful Living.
http://www.drnadig.com/index.htm.
John, S., INTERPERSONAL SKILLS.
http://www.asme.org/committees/slt/SLT10/10-%20interpersonal-
skills-singleton-8-2001.doc.
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Thank You
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