The connection between IQ, EQ & SQ

Published on November 17, 2015

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The connection between IQ, EQ & SQ

The above model is a combination of Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs and

Csikszentmihalyi's model of optimum flow. The Cognitive Principle Matrix shows how
IQ, EQ & SQ are used to link Maslow's Hierarchy of needs. In the chart IQ equals
Behavioral and EQ equals Personal. Where both are present the dominant IQ or EQ will
be shown on top of the other. As support and challenge rise, greater levels of flow are
achieved. At the bottom left you are in the depression phase and at the top right you are
in the joyful phase. The particular SQ, is used to take you to the next support level
across the chart. For example, forgiveness will move you from negative and personal to
negative and behavioral, because you have forgiving the person and then can deal with
their behavior.

A more straight forward link is shown below:

In the Cognitive Principle Matrix there are eight truths which support the above chart.
In the main IQ, EQ, SQ chart shown above, I look at one of those truths, namely,
Support versus Challenge

In Support versus  Challenge, the truth is:

Emotional Support: [EQ]

Emotional balance is where there is both support and challenge. Eg.

Trust-Fear: Respect-Anger: Acceptance-Critical: Commitment-Guilt

The negative principles are shown in italics. These negative principles are just as
valuable to us as our positive principles. eg. If we face a lion with all trust and no fear,
then we are dead.

If we get too much challenge then fear overrides trust and we develop negative concerns
which starts the rumination cycle of:

Concern-rumination-blame, which creates negative energy and turns fear into

paranoid fear. It becomes personal and the next cycle is:

Failure-Shame-Blame-Avoid.

If support equals challenge then the best outcome is achieved, because the cycle is:

Influence-Positive thinking-Commitment, which generates positive energy

and turns trust into commitment and you stay balanced in the same zone or on the level.
A negative trigger is not taken personally, but treated behaviorally, and the cycle is:
Mistake-Guilt-Commitment [fix the problem]

If we receive too much support then we get out of balance because it becomes about
getting my needs meet and less consideration for others. The false positive [shown in
italics] cause the following outcomes:

Trust-Fantasy: Respect-Pride: Acceptance-greed: Commitment-self-centered.

This can lead avoidance, stubbornness, and or narcissism.

Cognitive Support: [IQ]

Cognitively, the balance of support and challenge provides for sustained growth because
both growth and risk are assessed in advanced.

If cognitive challenge is developed in the planning stage of goal setting then this will
take in to account of the potential risk which may arise, which will help create and
environment for flow. Examples of cognitive support and challenge are shown in the
chart below:

It is normal practice, when developing a plan, cognitively you assess risk [challenge]
and provide a strategy to return to balance. Emotionally, you should be doing the same
and plan how to get back into balance.

Comment: We are now witnessing weakness in businesses caused by technology

disruption and digital disruption. There is support and challenge for the technical
aspects of the implementation, but too little support for the emotional needs of people
who have to deal with the disruption, which creates negative concerns and resistance
and slows the implementation process.

Spiritual support [SQ]

The purpose of spiritual intelligence is to rise above our human nature when the
challenge overwhelms us.

At the basic level we have needs and wants. This is built into our human nature and
drives our comparative thinking [IQ]. When we achieve our wants and needs, we want
more. However, if we consistently fail to get our needs and wants met then we develop
negative comparative thinking, resulting in negative feelings [EQ]
To control our human nature we have a conscience which controls how we get our
needs and wants met. Out of our conscience grows our principles of trust, respect,
acceptance, etc. Therefore, at the basic level of human behavior there are two opposing
forces at work in negative situations, namely, comparative thinking and principle
thinking.
In cognitive principle theory the two highest principles are unconditional acceptance
and unconditional giving, which are the direct opposites of comparative thinking related
to achieving goals. Goals are based on a comparison between “where I am” and “where
I want to be”. Goals are driven by fear of a bad goal and greed for a good goal.
Unconditional acceptance is self acceptance of strengths and weaknesses and there is no
goal, so we overcome our fear. Unconditional giving is where you give without wanting
anything back and there is no goal, so we overcome our greed.

By giving into negative thinking you weaken yourself. Spiritual principles are available
to us to overcome our human nature weakness.
We have spoken about two of them, namely unconditional acceptance and unconditional
giving.
If you get caught up in too much challenge through negative thinking, then switch to the
spiritual principle of suffering:

Suffer and grow courage, patience, self control. Don’t use negative comparative
thinking to suffer and blame yourself, others or circumstances.
If you do blame others or yourself, then use the spiritual principle of forgiveness. That
is, split the person from their behavior and forgive the person, but put the behavior aside
to be dealt with by god, karma or what ever else you believe in.

If you can't achieve your goal, then use the spiritual principle of hope. A goal requires a
pathway leading to an outcome, whereas hope requires no pathway, just trust in your
intuition that you will achieve the outcome you desire and the pathway will be shown to
you.
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The five levels in the Cognitive Principle Matrix are:

Spiritual principle to use is show in [ ]

Level 5 Spiritual principles – [Love, peace and joy.]

Level 4 - Relationship principles [Unconditional giving]
-positive and personal
Level 3 - Self-esteem using Influencing principles [Unconditional acceptance]
-positive and behavioral
Level 2 - Negative principles [Peace & Suffering]
- negative and behavioral
Level 1 - Negative concerns [Hope & Forgiveness]
- negative and personal
You won’t get to level 5 unless you master the use of the spiritual principles at levels 1-
4.

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