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What is Attachment Parenting and how does the infant benefit from being
attached? Discuss both the short and long – term benefits.
How does our society regard this way of parenting? Discuss, including
recommendations.
Introduction
Attachment
Parenting
Parenting is defined by Shonkoff and Phillips (2000) as the 'focused
and differentiated relationship that the young child has with the adult who is
most emotionally invested in and consistently available to him or her'.
Attachment Parenting
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Attachment parenting is a style of parenting that develops an infant or
child's need for trust, empathy and affection in order to create a secure,
peaceful and enduring relationship. This style requires a consistent, loving
and responsive carer, ideally a parent, especially during the child's critical
first 3-5 years of life (Ezzo & Bucknam, 1995).
Attachment Theory
Development of Behaviour
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The exploratory system where the infant explores the world around him; the
affirmative system; where the infant learns to be with others; the
fear/wariness system, that gradually helps the infant learn about dangers and
to stay safe; the attachment system that assists the infant to seek proximity to
their attachment figure and develop a sense of security. He identified the
attachment system as the most important one of all the four.
Family
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One common strategy for coping with changes and challenges during
pregnancy is to attend antenatal classes and visits. Antenatal classes may
come in various forms, but all have the same aim - to help prepare parents
for both the birth, and early parenthood. Antenatal classes should not only
focus on the help to prepare the mother for labour, birth, and early
parenthood but also on the communication skills of early attachment
relationships to assist and motivate the new parents to be more connected
with their newborn infant and understand more their infants needs.
Motivated parents can usually be more able to provide a far richer and more
nurturing social and intellectual environment for their children (Garbarino,
1992).
Birth Bonding
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with him, a person to protect and be there for him. The best way to start a
relationship with their baby is for the mother and father to be informed and
be active in their baby's birth. If both parents are present at the birth, and
there is a positive birth experience, the mother and father are very likely to
fall deeply in love with their baby (Barker, 1991).
Shonkoff & Phillips (2000) stated that ‘what young children learn,
how they react to the events and people around them, and what they expect
from themselves and others, are deeply affected by their relationships with
parents, the behaviour of parents, and the environment of the homes in
which they live'. Both parents must invest in quality time to promote healthy
relationships, social and emotional development in their young children.
Failure to do so is both costly to children and society. Being loved, valued
and understood by those closest in childhood is perhaps the strongest
protection against our emotional disturbance.
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Parents not only need to foster a secure attachment with their child,
but they also require: the personal skills to interact constructively with their
children, the organizational skills to manage their lives inside and outside
the home, and the problem-solving skills to address the many challenges that
children present. Doing this requires co-operation with the child’s needs and
how the child is responding to the world. It also requires support, like child
care and social networks, and resources that come with economic security.
The infant and his parents benefit from attachment parenting in various ways both in the short and
long term.
Relationship
With good relationship the parents and their baby, will experience mutual sensitivity, mutual
giving, and mutual shaping of behaviour, mutual trust, more flexibility, and more lively interactions and
brings out the best of each other.
The baby will feel more trusted, more competent, grows better, feels
right, acts right, is better organized, learns language more easily, establishes
healthy independence, learns intimacy and to give and receive love.
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competencies and preferences and will also know what advice to take and
which to disregard for the benefit of their children (Sears, 1987).
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breastfeed, she holds and caress her baby, and gives her baby nourishment
and comfort. The baby, in turn, "gives" good things back to his mother.
Klaus and Kennell (1976) claims that mothers who have close contact
(preferably skin-to-skin) with their babies during the first hours and days
after delivery are more likely to breastfeed their young and they also show
significant long term differences in mothering behaviour compared with
those mothers who had a "routine" separation from their babies in maternity
hospital. While nutrients and antibodies pass to the baby, beneficial
hormones are released into the mother's body which further enhances her
mothering behavior. The hormones associated with breastfeeding (prolactin)
help mothers to feel calm and loving by having a more peaceful parenting.
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an active parenting role. According to Granju & Kennedy (1999), like
mothers’ sensitive care giving, fathers’ sensitivity predicts secure
attachment. It is an effect that becomes stronger through the time the father
spends with his baby. The father can give his wife or his partner a much
needed break, and re-integrates the emotional balance between the two.
During the early weeks after birth, the father can make the effective use of
his entitled parental leave. Parental leave can positively give the fathers an
opportunity to build a better relationship with his newborn baby and his
partner by mutual shaping. By being involved in the shared care of their
newborn with his partner, the father at this time can also handle any feelings
of exclusions he may encounter.
After becoming parents, both partners will never be the same – and
they want the change to be better parents through mutual shaping. An
example of mutual shaping is well illustrated by how the father and his baby
learn to talk to each other. A baby's early communication is a language of
needs. Crying and smiling are the earliest tools used by the baby to
communicate and reinforce the father’s responses to his needs. As the father
learns and responds to his baby's language, he may feel that he is regressing
to the level of his baby. The hard work of looking after the child feels much
less hard when both parents communicate effectively with each other.
The father can also help during feeding. If the mother is breastfeeding,
the father is to try to help as much as possible and provides his wife the
emotional support she needs such as preparing frequent drinks and healthy
snacks, as feeding may be difficult at first. If the mother expresses her milk
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in a jar or the baby is being bottle-fed, the father can play a more active part
during day and night. Taking turns, particularly with night feeds, which are
the most exhausting times, will make a big difference to the morale of the
mother in the future. She may easily feel overwhelmed at the enormity of
her responsibilities.
Children who receive trust and confidence through the early touch of
both parents are more likely to express confidence, security and
independence as individuals very early in their lives. The father can also
assist the mother in changing nappies, bathing the baby and soothing away
inexplicable crying fits. Being involved also means having fun. Playing with
his new baby, the father will have the opportunity to observe his child’s
rapid development. Apart from being a fascinating moment, it also helps to
build a stronger relationship.
The father can also strengthen his relationship with the new baby by
learning to spend quality time massaging the baby’s body. It gives him a
wonderful way to soothe and calm his child. Karen (1994) in her book
‘Becoming Attached’ stated that the father is a role model for his son and in
an innocent way is also the first romantic figure for his daughter.
Parents may find out that through all their love, care and affection,
make their child more mature to focus on his life in the future from a better
perspective.
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his parents when in distress; the parents, in turn, are attuned to the infant's
needs and can respond in a sensitive, responsible way most of the time.
Emotional development refers to giving a child an opportunity to love other
people, to care, to help generously and feel secure. Parents must be
responsive to their baby's needs with their physical presence (Isabella &
Belsky, 1990).
Co-Sleeping
Co-sleeping has many benefits for both parents and the baby. A good
way of understanding 'attachment parenting' is to look at the significant issue
of the family bed. Those who believe in attachment parenting consider it a
wonderful opportunity to bond with kids and to teach them good sleeping
behaviour. Parents and infants may sleep well near each other. Pursuant to
the proximity presence of the mother, babies do not have to fully wake and
cry to get a response. As a result, mothers can attend to their infant before
either of them is fully awake (McKenna 1990). Mosenkis (1998) stated that
it is both normal and healthy for a child to be dependent upon parents until
he, not his parents, feels safe enough and independent enough to separate.
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There are also disadvantages associated with co-sleeping.
Epidemiological knowledge has implicated bed-sharing as a risk factor for
Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (Mitchell & Thompson, 1995). Several
retrospective studies of sudden infant deaths have described the hazards of
bed sharing such as suffocation from overlaying and entrapment (Drago &
Dannenberg, 1999).
Separation
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Long separations can cause their child to go through the stages of
grief and can affect their child’s attachment. If separation is inevitable, the
parents must willingly help their child to work gradually and then ideally,
the carer will be one that has a consistent loving attitude and can give
continuity of care to the baby.
Discipline
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• Nurture a close connection by respecting the child's feelings and trying to
understand the needs underlying his or her outward behaviours.
• Support explorations by providing a safe environment for discovery and
remaining close with their child.
• Show interest in the child's activities and participate enthusiastically in
child - directed play.
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from massage which would bring them back into their bodies and encourage
them to feel accepted towards their body.
The family is the basic human community through which persons are
nurtured and sustained in mutual love, responsibility, respect, and fidelity.
We affirm the importance of both fathers and mothers for all children.
Between March and June 1999, Misco International organized the fourth
wave of the European Values Study. A random sample of 1000 Maltese
respondents took part. These were asked about the importance of the
involvement of both the mother and the father in their child development.
Irrespective of the changing gender roles, respondents were constantly of the
opinion that a child needs both father and mother to grow up happily (Abela
1999).
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• The mother’s stress at a time when emotional support is so important
to develop attachment to the baby in a safe environment.
• The importance of parenthood education, to reach out to school
children and teenage parents.
Recommendations
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Parenting education may reach the general public through various
ways. These include verbal information, telephone information, via e-mail,
written information, videotape, parent-held records and home visiting.
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combination of video series and verbal discussion groups appear to be most
effective in achieving such learning.
Conclusion
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their children. The fruits of good mothering and early nurture are among the
greatest blessings a person can have in life. In offering these to their infants,
mothers and fathers are setting patterns of relationships which can be
creative, mutually rewarding and lasting for the rest of their lives.
Our children need the best of our strength, our courage, our
intelligence and our fearlessness. They need our empathy, assertiveness and
self-confidence. They need the kind of support that only their fathers and
mothers can provide. What we all need as parents today are the tools, the
new know-how and new hope and happiness for our children. Therefore, it is
of the highest importance to hold the highest positive thoughts we can for
our children.
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References
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Ezzo G., & Bucknam R. (1995). “On becoming baby-wise sister”.
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Kumpfer K., Alvaredo R., Smith P. Bellamy N. (2002). Cultural
sensitivity and adaptation in family -based prevention interventions,
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Mahoney G., Wheeden A. (1997). “Parent-child interaction- the
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Shonkoff J. & Phillips D. (2000), From Neurons to Neighbourhoods:
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