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By
S.Y. Z. Qaadiree
The same way as there are rights on the children regarding the
parents similarly there are also immense rights on the parents
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regarding the children. Brief translation of eighty Ahaadees
describes these rights.
1) The first right is even before the birth of the children which
is this that a person would not conduct his Nikaah [marriage]
with a degraded race, surely, bad gene shows its true colors
meaning exhibits its effects.
6) Should not talk during mating a lot or absurd since the child
may be a stutter or dumb.
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8) At the instance of the birth of a child (without delay) should
say Azaan in the right ear and Takbeer in the left ear so that
the child would remain protected from Shaitaan [Satan]
and illness. [It is better to continue this practice daily for at
least seven days. And for more blessing before Azaan and
Takbeer also read Durood Shareef].
11) You should give one leg [of the sacrificed animal] to the
midwife as a thankful gesture from the child.
13) By weighing the hair of the baby, you give the equal quantity
of silver [or money] for the charity.
15) Keep the name of the child, even also of the premature child
which was born early [meaning if it got aborted] otherwise
he can complain in front of Almighty Allaah.
16) Do not keep bad names of the child which does not have
good meaning since bad omen is bad.
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17) Keep names like Abdul Laah, Abdulr Rahmaan, Ahmad,
Haamid etc., the names of worship and praise. To keep
the name (Muhammad (Sallal Laahu ‘Alaiehi Wa Sallam) is
the cause of blessing, mercy and salvation in the world and
hereafter).
20) Should be very careful in beating the child and calling names.
23) For two years get the child breast feed by the mother or a
pious woman (one who says Salaah and is virtuous).
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what is left from it give it to the relatives, close family and
the needy.
28) Do not have the habit of forcing only your own choices
regarding eating on the children rather keep your own
desires submissive to their desires, which ever good thing
[food, clothes etc.] they desire give it to them. And due to
them also eat yourself. If it is not sufficient then only give
them.
30) All the time keep pleasing their hearts, consoling their
hearts and do keep an eye on them to this extend that at
the time of Khutbah and Salaah also do keep an eye and
be attentive and protective towards them.
31) Give the new [fresh] fruit first to the children as they are
also fresh fruits, the new is appropriate for the new.
33) Just for diverting do not make false promises, only that
promise is allowed with the child which is intended to fulfill.
34) If you have more than one child then whichever thing is given,
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give it the same and equal, do not give any child importance
over the other child except in religious superiority. [It means
that the would be more pious and more learned religiously].
35) When you come back from the tours do surely bring gift for
the children even if it is small or less in quantity.
39) When a child starts getting awareness teach him etiquettes of,
eating drinking, laughing and speaking, standing and sitting,
walking and going around, shamefulness, consideration,
respect of the elders, parents and the teachers. And the
Islaamic ways and the moral of both the sides to the daughter
with husband and the son with the wife.
42) After finishing the Holy Qur’aan always insist them for
doing the recitation [daily].
43) Teach them correct beliefs and teach at young age since
they will be very firm [a line drawn on the rock].
44) Imprint the love and honor of the Beloved Holy Prophet
(Sallal Laahu ‘Alaiehi Wa Sallam) in their hearts. [Since this is
the real Ieemaan and basis of Ieemaan].
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45) Teach them the love and respect of the Progeny of the Holy
Prophet (Sallal Laahu ‘Alaiehi Wa Sallam), the Companions of
the Prophet, the Friends of Allaah and the true Scholars.
46) From the age of seven years instruct them for reading
Salaah.
49) At the time of need do warn them but do not curse them.
50) If you beat them sometimes then do it lightly and do not hit
them on the face.
51) Keep something for hitting so that there would be fear and
awe.
55) At the age of ten if the child does not read Salaah then
strictly make them read it if does not listen then hit. [So,
from a tender age a child would be punctual in reading
Salaah].
56) At the age of ten do not let the child sleep with yourself or
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anyone else, separate the beds.
60) Also, do think about them even after your own departing
and do leave enough inheritance so that they would be able
to survive and live, it means definitely do leave at least 2/3
portion for them.
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67) Teach them stitching, cutting, cooking (Taking care of all
household affairs).
70) Should please their hearts more than the sons and do treat
them with kindness, the daughters and their hearts are very
small and sensitive.
71) If you give them food or gift then by firmly measuring give
them equal.
72) When you give anything (from outside or from home) then
do give the daughters first then give to the sons.
73) After the age of nine years do not let them sleep with the
father or the brothers.
77) Keep them in the house with good clothes and jewelry so
they may get good proposals.
78) Marry them in match able and decent families (in regards
to family, religion, conduct and features). [Some people do
give excuses saying the girl is very small and so on].
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79) As they reach their youth do marry them without delay. [And
do ask the girl and keep consideration of her happiness. Do
not support her wrong desires.]
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Mostly the parents say to the children that do take care of our
rights and fulfill them, but they do not know that over them too
there are the rights of the children. The parents should also be
aware of the rights of the children over them and they should also
fulfill them.
*Note: Before writing this article, I have consulted the Holy Qur’aan,
Books of Ahaadees and some books of Fiqh [Jurisprudence] and
specially the book, “Mash’altul Irshaad of A’laa Hazrat Maulana
Shaah Ahmad Rizaa Khan Barelvi (Allaah have mercy on him). All
these are Ahaadees which have been written briefly by him that
I am quoting here.
By
S.Y. Z. Qaadiree
Maulanaokarviacademy@gmail.com
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