WEEK 50 : BOUNDARY-RESISTANT

RESOLVING CONFLICT WITH A BOUNDARY-RESISTANT SPOUSE

1. What do boundaries protect and why are they important?

2. List some positive attributes that come from having boundaries as God designed them.

3. On page 202, some positive outcomes of preserving your mate’s boundaries are listed. Which of
these outcomes, if any, do you struggle with?

4. If you are boundary resistant, which of the changes do you most fear?

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5. How do you think the discipline of boundaries will eventually bear good results in your life?

6. Do you see yourself in a “mixed marriage”? Why or why not?

7. If you are boundary-resistant, which of the descriptions can you relate with?

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 8. Explain how God works with us to change us. See Revelation 2:2-5
Revelation 2:2-5 New Living Translation (NLT)
2 “I know all the things you do. I have seen your hard work and your patient endurance. I
know you don’t tolerate evil people. You have examined the claims of those who say they
are apostles but are not. You have discovered they are liars. 3 You have patiently suffered
for me without quitting.
4 “But I have this complaint against you. You don’t love me or each other as you did at first!
[a] 5 Look how far you have fallen! Turn back to me and do the works you did at first. If you
don’t repent, I will come and remove your lampstand from its place among the churches.
Footnotes:
2:4 Greek You have lost your first love.

9. What is your goal for setting boundaries? How can you make love the goal in setting boundaries
in your relationship?

10. Do you need to create appropriate consequences for your mate when a boundary is crossed?

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