Intellectual disability (DI) is the second highest number of disabilities in
children in Indonesia which is characterized by intellectual intelligence <70 that impacts the fulfillment of basic needs such as self-care. The child's self-care ability is determined by the parent's behavior in developing a child's self-care behavior. The ability of parent-child interpersonal relationships through a comprehensive approach will affect the child's ability in self-care. This relationship occurs in the form of parenting patterns that are complex activities to influence children's behavior. The purpose of the study was to analyze the relationship of parenting parenting with child self-care abilities in DI Special School (SLB) Bandung. The design of this research is descriptive analytic with cross sectional approach. The population of the study were the parents of DI students as much as 163. Subjects of the study amounted to 116 parents were taken with proportional stratified random sampling technique. Parenting was measured by a questionnaire based on Maccoby theory and self-care measured by the Pediatric Evaluation of Disability Inventory (PEDI) instrument. The data were analyzed by univariate (frequency distribution) and bivariate with eta correlation analysis and continued by hypothesis test using F test. Anova test was used to identify the type of parenting most related to self care. The results showed that 116 children score of self care ability was lowest reached 67.1 and highest reached 100. Parenting parenting showed 71 respondents (61.2%) had authoritative parenting pattern. There is a significant correlation between parenting pattern with self care ability (F count 4,461> F table 2,686) with strong relation strength (correlation coefficient eta 0,646). Authoritative parenting, permissif and authoritarian parenting are the most related parenting patterns of self-care versus neglectful parenting. The applicable nursing implications of this outcome are to plan for support programs for parents in helping to develop a pattern of care with high control and warmth so as to achieve good child self-care abilities. Keywords: children, intellectual disability, parenting, self care,