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As children begin to move into toddlerhood, they leave the oral stage and enter a
period of toilet training, the anal stage, beginning at about 18 months. As Freud
(1908) noted, whereas the oral stage requires only suckling at the breast, an
inborn reflex that comes naturally to all infants, the anal stage begins a period
of anal eroticism that instead requires an inhibition of what is natural. In
particular, the anal stage requires selfcontrol, a delay of instinctual
gratification that accompanies an immediate expulsion of feces. The pleasurable
drive of the id thus runs directly into the desire of parents, so the anal stage
plays an important role in the formation of the superego and the control of
aggressive impulses.
The exact influence of the anal stage on personality development was believed to
depend on the attitude taken by parents toward toilet training. A rigid, impatient,
or demanding attitude could result in the formation of anal-retentive traits, the
characterological counterpart of the compulsive personality. Essentially, the child
reacts against the parents by holding back and refusing to perform, leading to
adult traits such as stubbornness, stinginess, and hidden anger. Anal-retentive
types were also believed to be punctual, orderly, conscientious, and preoccupied
with cleanliness, the very traits that led their parents to demand that they
perform on schedule, with everything in its place and with no mess. Alternatively,
children might react to overcontrol by becoming an anal-expulsive type. Here, the
child goes on the offensive; feces become a weapon. Whereas the anal-retentive
strategy is simple refusal, now the strategy shifts to the active destruction of
parental wishes, a desire to make others regret they had ever exerted any control
at all. Naturally, adult traits are the opposite of the anal-retentive type and
include destructiveness, disorderliness, and sadistic cruelty.
If we look at what the case studies say about Donald�s and Holden�s early
childhood, we do find elements of parental overcontrol. Donald, in fact, struggled
to do what he was told, remembering his mother and father as stern and intolerant
of the horseplay that is part of the early life of most boys. Holden had a similar
experience, being required to meet his parents� expectations and follow their
rules, with �severe consequences� for misbehavior. Parental overcontrol is
different from fixations of libidinal energy, but as these examples show, there is
indeed some wisdom encapsulated in these old analytic conceptions.
We have seen that compulsives, more than any other personality, intrinsically
require order, detail, and perfectionism as a means of coping with what is
unpredictable or unsure in the world around them. But that is not the limit of
these requirements; compulsives demand the same sense of order and security from
their internal world, as well. At any moment, a little self-examination shows that
most of us are seething with conflicting feelings that pull us one way or another
and prevent black-and-white assessments, even of simple situations. You take a
class, for example, and although the instructor is superb, the workload gets in the
way of other classes and causes you anger and regret. You take a class, and
although the workload is easy, you definitely could be getting more substance for
your tuition dollars. You love your mother, but she smothers you; then again, when
she doesn�t meddle at least a little, you wonder if she still loves you. The issues
may be different, but everyone is caught in such conundrums. Most of us just
acknowledge both sides of the coin and tolerate the complexity of life. Nothing is
all good or all bad.
For compulsives, however, such contrary feelings and dispositions create intense
feelings of anger, uncertainty, and insecurity that must be kept under tight rein.
To do so, they make use of a whole host of defensive strategies, more than any
other personality pattern. Research argues that the first, and perhaps most
distinctive, is reaction formation (Berman & McCann, 1995). Here, compulsives
reverse forbidden impulses of hostility and rebellion to conform to a highly rigid
ego ideal. For example, when faced with circumstances that would cause dismay or
irritability in most persons, compulsives pride themselves in displaying maturity
and reasonableness, just as Donald does, when noting that even when his wife is
griping and his pain is intense, he manages to keep things under control. In
effect, compulsives symbolically purge themselves of unclean and shameful feelings
by embracing what is diametrically opposite.
Second, compulsives often displace anger and insecurity by seeking out some
position of power that allows them to become a socially sanctioned superego for
others. Here, compulsives enact their anger by making others conform to precise
standards that are unworkably detailed or strict. Holden is almost the incarnation
of this pattern. Those who fall short either pay their dues by acknowledging the
compulsive�s superior authority and knowledge or fall victim to a swift judgment
that conceals a sadistic and selfrighteous joy behind a mask of maturity.
Punishment becomes a duty; humanitarianism, a failing. Fiercely moralistic fathers
and overcontrolling mothers provide examples of camouflaged hostility. Despite
their efforts at control, research shows that compulsive traits are strongly
related to impulsive aggression (Stein, Trestman, Mitropoulou, & Coccaro, 1996).
The essential conflict is between the parent�s desire to interfere and control and
the child�s growing sense of autonomy. Toilet training is then only a small part of
the total interaction between parent and child, and it is out of this total
interaction that personality grows. We don�t need to know how Donald or Holden were
toilet-trained to see the continuity between their parents� treatment of them and
their adult characteristics.
By the time they reach adolescence, future compulsives have fully incorporated the
strictures and regulations of their elders. By now, they are equipped with an inner
gauge that ruthlessly evaluates and controls them, relentlessly intruding to make
them doubt and hesitate before acting. External sources of restraint have been
supplanted with the inescapable controls of internal self-reproach. Compulsives are
now their own persecutor and judge, ready to condemn themselves not only for overt
acts but for thoughts of transgression as well. By promoting a sense of guilt, the
child acquires a self-critical inner voice ready with rebuke even when caretakers
are physically absent or even dead. Religious elements often play an important
role. Some are told the terrifying consequences of mischief and sin; others are
told how troubled or embarrassed their parents will be if they deviate from the
�righteous path.� Sometimes, they turn their sense of morality into a sense of
moral superiority and use this to fuel an indignation that excuses the expression
of anger and focuses it toward a suitable target, as Holden often did by using
bureaucracy as a weapon.