Mattea Osborne

COMM 1010

Myself as a Communicator

As a communicator, I could definitely use some improvement. I found that myself

awareness was a 26, (average) my adaptability was a 35, (average as well) my listening

was a 34, meaning I listen “well”( so also, average.) In the big scheme of things, I was

an average communicator, which is what I believed from the beginning.

I have always known that I struggle to communicate and articulate my needs.

Most of the time this struggle comes from an inward battle. This battle stems from my

lack of allowing people into my life. I prefer to be quiet, and keep to myself. This,

inturn means I don’t voice my opinions, my views, my concerns or my needs like I

should. This has become very apparent in my relationship with my boyfriend, who does

NOT struggle with communicating his needs opinions, views, or concerns. He is a great

communicator, and is constantly helping me to improve in this manner.

I have always believed that I was a great listener. I have always tried extra hard

in this department, because I talk so little, so the score for my listening came as a tiny

bit of a shock to me. I am hoping this semester, I will be able to reach my goals of

becoming an overall better communicator, but especially as a listener. I truly do love

being involved in conversation, and learning more about everyone, and I want that to be

apparent when I am communicating with people.

 In way of body language, I have a nasty RBF (resting b*tch face,) so typically

people tend to think I am rude. I have tried to work on this, and have tried to help

people realize I am not as bad as I may seem, but honestly, it just keeps coming back.

I know that is probably where I struggle most in my body language. I was a rodeo

queen, and for our competition to become a rodeo queen you have to be able to speak

to a crowd, and use a lot of exaggerated body language, so sometimes I do have a bit

of exaggerated body language when I am speaking with people.

I found in the quizzes that I scored the absolute highest in empathy. This did not

surprise me to the slightest. I feel everything, and take everything of everyone else to

my heart. I don’t believe that there is a single person in this world that I could not

find some way to empathize with them. That is why empathy is definitely my strong

suit. I also believe that empathy is the only subject of the quizzes we took, that cannot

be taught after a certain age. So, I am grateful that I already was raised with lots of

empathy, and can feel for other people.

I asked some friends what it was like to have a conversation with me, and

everyone of them came back with an answer about me being a very detailed person. I

take details from the people I am speaking to, and make sure to reedurate it throughout

the conversation, and make them feel heard and understood. A lot of times I will even

go as far as to look up more information on the topic as we are talking just so I can

add to the conversation. That is probably my strongest attribute in communication.