"Un oraş devine o lume când te îndrăgosteşti de unul din locuitorii lui.

" (Lawrence Durrell)

"Single people want relationships, settled people wonder if they`re missing out on
something, traveling types miss stability, stable ones are restless, old friends want new
friends, and basically almost everyone my age has some dangling worry trailing around
after them everywhere that they`re somehow not doing everything, that what they`re
doing is not altogether the right thing, that they are missing out.
... Do not be ashamed. The doubt is natural, and everyone you know - yes, even that
person - carries it sometimes too. Allow yourself to be peaceful. Allow yourself satisfaction
in what you have. If you really don`t like it, allow yourself permission to make changes."
(Lillian Schneider)
"There`s that word again. Need. I need you. I need you to need me. How nauseating, to
need another human being, as if their heart is in your throat. Love isn't about need. Don't
romanticize the notion of desperation. Let me let you in on a secret: you don't need me
and I don't need you. We can get through life just fine without each other. Love is not
wanting to. We want each other, we want skin and hands and all our daily scars. We want
intoxication and art museums and intertwined limbs. We want ferocity in our lips and slow,
small circles traced on our stomachs. I don't need you in my life, but goddamn I want you
in it." (Alex Lenkei, "All the want in the world cannot fit in our hands")
"So many people glorify and romanticize 'busy'. I do not. I value purpose. I believe in
resting in reason and moving in passion. If you're always busy/moving, you will miss
important details. I like the mountain. Still, but when it moves, lands shift and earth
quakes." (Joseph Cook)
"For some reason, we are truly convinced that if we criticize ourselves, the criticism will
lead to change. If we are harsh, we believe we will end up being kind. If we shame
ourselves, we believe we end up loving ourselves. It has never been true, not for a
moment, that shame leads to love. Only love leads to love." (Geneen Roth)
"Friendly reminder that 'doing your best' does not mean working yourself to the point of a
mental breakdown." (Unknown)
"Sometimes you want things to change so badly, you can't even stand to be in the same
room with the way things actually are." (Ali Benjamin)
"I still catch myself being sad about things that don't matter anymore." (Kurt Vonnegut)
"Don't be so cool you can't cry. Don't be so smart you can't wonder. Don't be so set on
your sunny days that you can't love the roll of thunder." (Unknown)
"Maybe the moon is beautiful only because it is far." (Mahmoud Darwish)
"You sometimes think you want to disappear, but all you really want is to be found." (Kid
Cudi)
"Things that break:
flowers.
dawn.
the ocean.
our hearts.
this is how gardens grow.
this is how the sun blossoms.
this is how we make it home.
this is how we learn to love." (Pavana)
"At some point, you gotta decide for yourself who you're going to be. Can't let nobody
make that decision for you." (Moonlight, 2016)
"The more you love yourself, the less nonsense you'll tolerate." (Anonymous)
"When I get lonely these days, I think: so BE lonely. Learn your way around loneliness.
Make a map of it. Sit with it, for once in your life. Welcome to the human experience. But
never again use another person's body or emotions as a scratching post for your own
unfulfilled yearnings." (Elizabeth Gilbert)
"The single most toxic thing I was brought up believing is that being Adult and
Responsible and Good starts with doing everything completely alone and without help.
What it's really about is learning where and when you need help, how much help you
need, and knowing when to reach out and ask for the help you need to function at your
ideal level." (yoccu)
"Scared and sacred are spelled with the same letters. Awful proceeds from the same root
word as awesome. Terrify and terrific. Every negative experience holds the seed of
transformation." (Alan Cohe)
"The greatest thing in the world is to know how to belong to oneself." (Michel de
Montaigne)
"The secret of joy is the mastery of pain." (Anaïs Nin)
"...feelings like disappointment, embarrassment, irritation, resentment, anger, jealousy,
and fear, instead of being bad news, are actually very clear moments that teach us where
it is that we're holding back. They teach us to perk up and lean in when we feel we'd
rather collapse and back away. They're like messengers that show us, with terrifying
clarity, exactly where we're stuck. This very moment is the perfect teacher, and, lucky for
us, it's with us wherever we are." (Pema Chödrön)
"I think the reward for conformity is that everyone likes you except yourself." (Rita Mae
Brown)
"The way to love someone is to lightly run your finger over that person's soul until you find
a crack, and the gently pour your love into that crack." (Keith Miller)
"One of the most healing things you can do is recognize where in your life you are your
own poison." (Steve Maraboli)
"Make your heart the most beautiful thing about you." (tiredtomas)
"I like to walk at my ease, and to stop when I like. A wandering life is what I want. To walk
through a beautiful country in fine weather, without being obliged to hurry, and with a
pleasant prospect at the end, is of all kinds of life the one most suited to my taste."
(Frédéric Gros)
"The really important kind of freedom involves attention, and awareness, and discipline,
and effort, and being able truly to care about other people and to sacrifice for them, over
and over, in myriad petty little unsexy ways, every day." (David Foster Wallace)
"Education comes in many forms; in mistakes, experiences and in people." (Pien
Pouwels)
"But knowing what I don't want to do doesn't help me figure out what I do want to do. I
could do just about anything if somebody made me. But I don't really have an image of
the one thing I really want to do. That's my problem now. I can't find the image." (Haruki
Murakami)
"When the time comes for you to make a change (to grow), the universe will make you so
uncomfortable, so unhappy, you will eventually have no choice." (Iyanla Vanzant)
"I can't be shaken anymore, by anyone. I've got to the point in my life that if you're not a
good person, and you can't make me feel good with love and life, then fuck off, basically."
(FKA twings)
"Don't forget that you're human. It's ok to have a meltdown. Just don't unpack and live
there. Cry it out and then refocus on where you are headed." (Unknown)
"We need not be afraid to touch, to feel, to show emotion. The easiest thing in the world
is to be what you are, what you feel. The hardest thing to be is what other people want
you to be." (Leo Buscaglia)
"There's something beautiful about keeping certain aspects of your life hidden. Maybe
people and clouds are beautiful because you can't see everything." (Kamenashi Kazuya)
"If you feel good, take on the responsibility of sharing it. The world needs more of it."
(Gary Vaynerchuk)
"You're going to make mistakes in life. It's what you do after the mistakes that counts."
(Brandi Chastain)
"I regret that it takes a life to learn how to live." (Jonathan Safran Foer)
"I wonder how much of what weighs me down is not mine to carry." (Anonymous)
"Home is not where you are born; home is where all your attempts to escape cease."
(Naguib Mahfouz)
"I think she was afraid to love sometimes. I think it scared her. She was the type to like
things that were concrete, like the ocean. Something you could point to and know what it
was. I think that's why she always struggled... And I think that's why she also struggled
with love. She couldn't touch it. She couldn't hold on to it and make sure it never changed."
(Carrie Rya)
"When you learn something wonderful about yourself and wonder what else you've been
hiding." (Yrsa Daley-Ward)
"Someone once told me that human beings have three dimensions: how you see
yourself, how others see you, and how you want others to see you. The closer the
distance between the three dimensions, the more at peace you are and the more stable
you become." (Marwa Rakha)
natsukashii (Japanese; adj.) = of some small thing that brings you suddenly, joyously
back to fond memories - not with a wistful longing for what's past but with an appreciation
of the good times
"Art and love are the same thing: it's the process of seeing yourself in things that are not
for you." (Chuck Klosterman)
"Some days
it storms,
some days
it shines.
This is how
flo(we)rs
grow." (mazadohta)
"Children see magic because they look for it." (Christopher Moore)
"So, what if, instead of thinking about solving your whole life, you just think about adding
additional good things. One at a time. Just let your pile of good things grow." (Rainbow
Rowell)
"We're more than our mistakes. We're more than what people expect of us." (Marieke
Nijkamp)
"We are more often frightened than hurt; and we suffer more from imagination than from
reality." (Lucius Annaeus Seneca)
"Which do you want: the pain of staying where you are, or the pain of growth?" (Judith
Hanson Lasater)
"It's okay. Everyone's survival looks a little bit like death sometimes." (Andrea Gibson)
"When I was young, I used to admire intelligent people; as I grow older, I admire kind
people." (Abraham J. Heschel)
"Sometimes people walk away from love because it is so beautiful that it terrifies them.
Sometimes they leave because the connection shines a bright light on their dark places
and they are not ready to work them through. Sometimes they run away because they
are not developmentally prepared to merge with another - they have more individuation
work to do first. Sometimes they take off because love is not a priority in their lives - they
have another path and purpose to walk first. Sometimes they end it because they prefer
a relationship that is more practical than conscious, one that does not threaten the ways
that they organize reality.
Because so many of us carry shame, we have a tendency to personalize love's leavings,
triggered by the rejection and feelings of abandonment. But this is not always true.
Sometimes it has nothing to do with us. Sometimes the one who leaves is just not ready
to hold it safe. Sometimes they know something we don't - they know their limits at that
moment in time. Real love is no easy path. Readiness is everything. May we grieve loss
without personalizing it. May we learn to love ourselves in the absence of the lover." (Jeff
Brown)
"It takes a level of self love, of dedication and determination to live your greatest life. So,
look within. Look at every area of your life and ask yourself these questions: Am I on
course? Am I growing mentally, emotionally and spiritually? Anything that is blocking that,
anything that is preventing you from living your greatest life, make the tough decision to
let it go." (Unknown)
"What stops me from taking myself seriously, even though I am essentially a serious
person, is that I find myself extremely ridiculous, not in the sense of the samll-scale
ridiculousness of slap-sticky comedy, but rather in the sense of ridiculousness that seems
intrinsic to human life and that manifests itself in the simplest actions and the most
extraordinary gestures." (Gustave Flaubert)
"There is nothing wrong with wanting space. Or time. Or isolation. I don't say any of that
like it's okay to cut yourself out of the picture completely, I'm just saying -
You don't always have to live in the moment. Choose a movie marathon over a party if
that's what you need. Throw your attention to the stars if it's too distracted anywhere else.
Sleep in on the weekends and let your responsibilities realize they take you for granted.
Be honest enough to tell the people around you that life gets too heavy sometimes and
you gotta check out.
There is nothing wrong with carving out a shelter apart from this dimension and putting
everything on pause for a while. It's got nothing to do with anyone or anything else, it's
about you. Take care of yourself, even if it means you have to put life on hold for a bit.
Time goes on, but we can pretend like it doesn't. Because even though time is always
ready to take us back again, you won't always be ready to go." (Take mental health days,
take daily breathers, they don't make you fragile, they keep you strong - Amanda aka ink-
trails)
"And then one student said that happiness is what happens when you go to bed on the
hottest night of the summer, a night so hot you can't even wear a tee-shirt and you sleep
on top of the sheets instead of under them, although try to sleep is probably more
accurate. And then at some point late, late, late at night, say just a bit before dawn, the
heat finally breaks and the night turns into cool and when you briefly wake up, you notice
that you're almost chilly, and in your groggy, half-consciousness, you reach over and pull
the sheet around you and just that flimsy sheet makes it warm enough and you drift back
off into a deep sleep. And it's that reaching, that gesture, that reflex we have to pull what's
warm - whether it's something or someone - toward us, that feeling we get when we do
that, that feeling of being safe in the world and ready for sleep, that's happiness." (Paul
Schmidtberger, from Design Flaws of the Human Condition)
"I'm not the person that I used to be. None of my exes would be able to identify me. I've
grown flowers in a garden once filled with tainted soil. I think differently, I love differently,
I express myself differently. I am more courageous about taking risks with my time and
my future. I am softer to strangers and those I hold dearest. I am more optimistic even
though I know I will always be a realist at heart.
Despite all of the growth, I am not yet the person I want to be. I will plant many more
seeds in my garden of growth. I will embrace compassion. I will strive for empathy. I will
take more time to be understanding. I will allow myself moments of reflection on the ways
I have grown, but only long enough to grant myself the inspiration to become who I want
to be." (the garden of my being; classicallyfresh)
"Take wrong turns. Talk to strangers. Open unmarked doors. And if you see a group of
people in a field, go find out what they are doing. Do things without always knowing how
they'll turn out.
You're curious and smart and bored, and all you see is the choice between working hard
and slacking off. There are so many adventures that you miss because you're waiting to
think of a plan. To find them, look for tiny interesting choices. And remember that you are
always making up the future as you go." (Randall Munroe)
"It's interesting to note that the most kind and courageous souls you meet in life tend to
be those who've faced the most cruelty and conflict. This vicious world might sharpen us
like a blade, but whether we use that power to protect people or cause them pain, is
always our choice." (Beau Taplin)
"The key is this: Meet today's problems with today's strength. Don't start tackling
tomorrow's problems until tomorrow. You do not have tomorrow's strength yet. You simply
have enough for today." (Max Lucado, Traveling Light: Releasing the Burdens You Were
Never Intended to Bear)
"It's a funny thing...but people mostly have it backward. They think they live by what they
want. But really, what guides them is what they're afraid of. What they don't want." (Khaled
Hosseini, And the Mountains Echoed)
"It's like when someone says 'How are you?' Do you say, 'Well, my head hurts and I'm
lonely and depressed and I'm worried about everything and the world is collapsing and
full of evil'? Or do you say 'I'm fine'?" (Sara Shepard)
"My soul is impatient with itself, as with a bothersome child; its restlessness keeps
growing and is forever the same. Everything interests me, but nothing holds me. I attend
to everything, dreaming all the while. I'm two, and both keep their distance - siamese
twins that aren't attached." (Fernando Pessoa)
"The worst part about anger is its end. When your blood has finished boiling, when your
fists remember how to unclench, when you grow distant from the very reason why you
were angry in the first place, you realize that you have opened up a valley gorge between
what once was and what is now. We do crazy things when we're mad. Leave a trail of
ruin behind us. Spit poison like we mean to kill. Untack hate from the wall around our
hearts and push it deep into the person whom we intended to hurt. In its end, anger does
not spare you with forgiveness because even if you let your troubles go, the monster that
you felt inside of you never disappears and you might have forgiven the others but it is
harder to excuse yourself. You've got to live with your own worst enemy and the only way
to hide from it is through anger. No wonder why apologies never come easily." (Amanda
Ngo, Forgiveness never felt so damning)
"When you remember me, it means you have carried something of who I am with you,
that I have left some mark of who I am on who you are. It means that you can summon
me back to your mind even though countless years and miles may stand between us. It
means that if we meet again, you will know me. It means that even after I die, you can
still see my face and hear my voice an speak to me in your heart." (Frederick Buechne)
"When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives mean the most to us, we often
find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather
to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand. The friend who
can be silent with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing,
not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend
who cares." (Henri J.M. Nouwen, Out of Solitude)
"How many times do we pay for one mistake? The answer is thousands of times. The
human is the only animal on earth that pays a thousand times for the same mistake. The
rest of the animals pay once for every mistake they make. But not us. We have a powerful
memory. We make a mistake, we judge ourselves, we find ourselves guilty, and we punish
ourselves. If justice exists, then that was enough; we don't need to do it again. But every
time we remember, we judge ourselves again, we are guilty again, and we punish
ourselves again, and again, and again. If we have a wife or husband he or she also
reminds us of the mistake, so we can judge ourselves again, and find ourselves guilty
again. Is this fair?" (Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements)