M-Five Ways Wives Cause Their Husbands to Sin Sexually &/or Do The Complex & Undesirable - or How Wives

Cause Their Husbands to Turn to Others for Sexual Fulfillment or Why So Many Husbands Leave Their Wives to Find Sexual Release in Others THIS POST CONTAINS SEXUALLY EXPLICIT AND ADULT BIBLE SCRIPTURES ABOUT HUMAN SEXUALITY AND IF SUCH SCRIPTURES OFFEND OR UPSET YOU, YOU SHOULD NOT READ IT COPYRIGHT 2/4/2011; Revised25 Nov 2012 This file, in its entirety, may be posted on or copied off of computer networks like Internet or WWW by anyone so inclined as long as it is not changed and the author is acknowledged. By Tyler and Tyler Posts & Publications 2/4/11 http://groups.yahoo.com/group/SexProbsAndRecoveryInJesus http://biblicalmaturity.yuku.com/forums/66 http://groups.yahoo.com/group MarriageDivorceRemarriageJesus2 http://groups.yahoo.com/group/MarriageDivorceRemarriageJesus A wife fails and can drive her husband into immorality and/or the complex and undesired, even though she disapproves, when [1] she chooses or fails to reverence, venerate, treat with deference and respect (his primary need from his wife) her own marital partner, to voluntarily submit herself to her husband and his God given authority, as she would submit to the authority of the police, a judge or a supervisor at work. The husband's reverence, veneration and deference DO NOT HAVE TO BE EARNED, for they are commanded by God Almighty. A wife should submit to Christ who lives in him, and do for him what she would do for Christ (Matt 25:31-46). Psychologist Doctor Harley in his book, "His Needs Her Needs", documents that the husband's greatest need in marriage is his wife's respect and honor. In Solomon's Song of Songs the wife shows us that reverence, respect and veneration of a husband takes the form of her regularly telling him what she appreciates and likes about him and what he does, thanking him when he does something she appreciates and respects. Reverencing, venerating and showing respect to her husband does not mean that she puts him above or before Christ. First of all she is an adopted child of God and a voluntary subject of King Jesus, to whom she owes her first and greatest loyalty. This means that when her husband asks (he has no right or authority to tell her to do anything Luke 22:24-30; John 13) her to do something contrary to the Word of God, she has to disobey her husband to obey Christ, just like when Nero told Paul and Peter to worship him they refused, like when Corrie Ten Boom disobeyed the Nazis to hide the Jews. Wives need to understand that their King and Father calls on them to obey

1Thess 5:21, Ephes 5:7-11 and 2 Tim 2:22ff; to be like the Bereans and test, try, examine everything; to hold on to that which is good, and to not do that which violates the instructions of her Father and King, no matter who asks or tells them to do so. ***Rom 13:1Every person should submit [themselves] to the governing authorities. For there is no authority except from God, and those that exist have been instituted by God. 2Therefore whoever resists the authorities resists what God has appointed, and those who resist will incur judgment. ***Eph 5:21 Submit yourselves to each other in the reverential fear and awe of Christ 22 A wife should be submitting herself to her own husband, as she does to the Lord. 23 A husband is the head of his wife, as Christ is the head and the Savior of the church, which is His own body. 24 But as the church submits itself to Christ, so also wives should submit themselves in everything to their husbands..33* Nevertheless every one of you in particular should so love his wife even as himself; and the wife [should] see [to it] that she reverence <5399> her husband. <Strong's 5399>: to fear (i.e. hesitate) to do something (for fear of harm -weighing the consequences-); to reverence, venerate, to treat with deference or reverential obedience ***1 Peter 2:16 As God's slaves, [live] as free people, but don't use your freedom as a way to conceal evil. 17 Give respectful Honor to everyone. Love those who are in Christ. Reverently fear God [for He is the Consuming Fire]. Honor the Emperor. . . . submit yourselves to those in authority over you with all respect, not only to the good and gentle but also to the cruel. . . . 21 For you were called to this, because Christ also suffered for you, leaving you an example [of godly suffering], so that you should follow in His steps. . . . 23 when [He was] verbally abused, He did not revile in return; when suffering, He did not threaten, but committed Himself to the One who judges justly. . . . . . . . . . 3: 1 Wives, IN THE SAME WAY [like Jesus did], submit yourselves to your own husbands . . . [See Strong's, WEY, NASB, ESV, HCSB, AmpB, NKJV] [2] she ignores or is ignorant of the fact that most men sexually driven by the testosterone God put in their bodies. That testosterone, besides affecting his brain and thinking by being in his blood as it circulates to his brain, also produces sperm and seminal fluid that accumulate in his prostate. The prostate is a very important male organ that must be voided regularly just like the bladder or the colon must be voided regularly. As a single man my urologists told me I had some choices to make as to how to regularly void

my prostate, to avoid prostate congestion, inflammation, infection and ultimately prostate cancer. They gave me seven ways: [1] be married and have regular sexual intimacy to orgasm often; [2] be promiscuous, sinning by having frequent heterosexual sex without marriage; [3] be a homosexual with the other's penis in my colon sinfully massaging to empty my prostate; [4] paying a nurse to enter my colon several times a week digitally massaging to empty my prostate; [5] having very large and hard bowel movements that would daily and partially empty my prostate as they passed through my colon; [6] having "wet dreams," i.e. having an orgasm in my sleep while dreaming of sexual relations; [7] self-stimulating to orgasm several times a week, each time only partially emptying the prostate. That really put me in a bind. Still in college I felt I was too young to marry and support a wife, as a faithful disciple of Jesus I didn't want to be promisucous or homosexual, I couldn't afford to pay a nurse to help me, because of colon problems I didn't have large and hard bowel movements, I stopped having wet dreams as soon as I became a teenager, so that left me with the herculean challenge of learning how to self-stimulate to orgasm without sinning. So being ignorant of or ignoring her husband's need of sexual release a wife sins by disobeying the Scriptures that follow, by failing to obey the Scripture that instructs her to regularly be sexually having her own husband, exercising her sexual authority over his body to be having it intimately; by wrongfully regularly refusing to let her husband be sexually having her; by refusing to regularly render the kindness, intimate marital duty, benevolence and good will that is due, owed and obligated unto the husband; by regularly refusing to enable her husband to regularly be satisfied/intoxicated/saturated with her breasts and affectionate loving by her making him welcome and with a good attitude by being willing; by regularly refusing to accept and acknowledge her husband's sexual authority over her body; by denying him sexually and refusing to conjugally cohabit with him without mutual consent, exposing him to Satanic temptation and sexual immorality: ***1 Cor 7:2 but because of and to avoid sexual immorality each man should be [sexually] having his own woman, and each woman should be [sexually] having her own man. 3 The husband should render unto the wife [the] kindness, intimate marital duty, benevolence and good will <Strong's 2133> [that is] due, owed and obligated <Strong's 3784> ; and likewise also the wife [should render the kindness, intimate marital duty, benevolence and good will that is due, owed and obligated] unto the husband. ***Prov. 5:18 Your [sexual] fountain should be blessed; and rejoice and be glad with the wife of your youth. 19 . . . her breasts should satisfy/intoxicate/saturate you at all times; you should be intoxicated continually with her affectionate loving

***1 Cor 7:4. The woman doesn't have [sexual] authority over her own body, but the husband [does]; in like manner also the man doesn't have [sexual] authority over his own body, but the woman [does]. 5 Do not be denying each other [sexually], unless, it may be, by consent for a time, that you may devote yourselves to fasting and prayer, and again be conjugally cohabiting [sexually reuniting], that Satan tempt you not because of your failure to control yourself. [See Strong's, WEY, NASB, ESV, HCSB, AmpB, NKJV] [3] she chooses the second best option of separating herself celibately from her husband, causing him to be tempted by Satan because of his normal and natural failure to abstain from sex sin, putting him under God's command to marry again even though he is still bound to her maritally in the Kingdom of God. Psychologist Doctor Harley in his book, "His Needs Her Needs", documents that the husband's second greatest need in marriage, no surprise, is fulfilling sexual relations. A man's most vulnerable moments in marriage are during and right after sexual climax with his wife. If respect, acceptance and welcome are not there for him, the marriage has a significant problem, especially if he can't find it at home and finds it outside of the marriage. ***1Cor 7: 5 Do not be denying each other [sexually], unless, it may be, by consent for a time, that you may devote yourselves to fasting and prayer, and again be conjugally cohabiting [sexually reuniting], that Satan tempt you not because of your failure to control yourself. . . . . . . 8 To those without a marital partner and the widows (women bereft of a husband) I say that it is good for them to remain single as I am. 9 But if they are not continuing to restrain themselves [are not abstaining from sex sin ], they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with desire. . . 10 I command the married not I, but the Lorda [believing] wife is not to leave, depart or separate from [Strong's 5563] her [believing] husband. 11a But if she does leave, depart, and/or separate [Strong's 5563], she must remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband . . ***Mat 5:32 . . . whosoever shall marry her when she is put away (sent away, left, divorced, forsaken) commits adultery. ***1 Cor 7:11band a [believing] husband/man should not forsake, lay aside, leave, put (send) away and/or divorce [Strongs 863] his wife/woman . . . 39 A [believing] wife is bound to her [believing] husband by [God's] Law as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to be married to anyone she wantsonly in the Lord. [4] she fails to follow the examples given in the Bible to prepare herself and her body for marital intimacy with her own husband: ***Esther 2:12 Before a girl's turn came to go in to King Xerxes, she had to complete twelve months of beauty treatments prescribed for the women, six months with oil of myrrh and six with perfumes and cosmetics. ***Song of Songs 2:14 My dove, in the clefts of the rock, in the crevices of

the cliff, let me see your face and form, let me hear your voice; for your voice is sweet, and your face and form are lovely. . . . [HUSBAND] 4:1Behold, you are beautiful, my love, behold, you are beautiful [to me]! . . . 5 Your two breasts are like two fawns, like twin fawns of a gazelle that browse among the lilies. 6 Until the day breaks and the shadows flee, I will go to the mountain of myrrh [one of her breasts] and to the hill of incense [her other breast ]. . . . 10How beautiful is your loving, my sister, my bride! How much better is your loving than wine, and the fragrance of your perfumes than any spice! 11Your lips drip nectar, my bride; honey and milk are under your tongue; the fragrance of your garments is like the fragrance of Lebanon. . . . 13 Your branches [arms and legs] are a paradise of pomegranates with choicest fruits, henna with nard 14 nard and saffron, calamus and cinnamon, with all the trees of frankincense, myrrh and aloes, with all the best spices [available at most supermarkets]. [WIFE]4:16 Awaken, north wind come, south wind. Blow on my garden [her body], and spread the fragrance of its spices. My love should come to his garden [HER] and eat its choicest fruits. [HUSBAND] 5:1 I have come to my gardenmy sister, my bride. I gather my myrrh with my spices. I eat my honeycomb with my honey. I drink my wine with my milk. . . . 5 I rose to open for my love. My hands dripped with myrrh, my fingers with flowing myrrh . . . 7:8 I said, "I will climb the palm tree; I will take hold of its fruit [her breasts]." May your breasts be like the clusters of the vine, the fragrance of your breath like apples, 9and your mouth like the best wine.. . . [WIFE] 8:3 His left hand is under my head, and his right hand embraces me. . . . 14 Come away, my lover, and be like a gazelle

or like a young stag on the spice-laden mountains [her breasts]. [See NASB, ESV, HCSB, AmpB, NKJV] [5] she dishonors and disrespects her husband by failing to obey the Lord's Word given through Paul in 1 Timothy 2 and 1 Corinthians 14: ***1 Cor 14:As in all the churches of the saints, 34 the women/wives [Strong's 1135] should be silent in the churches, for they are not permitted to speak, but should subject themselves and be submissive, as the [Gen 3:16; Isaiah 28:11] Law also says. 35 And if they want to learn something/anything, they should ask their own husbands at home, for it is shameful, disgraceful and improper for a woman/wife to speak in the church meeting. 36 Did the word of God originate from you, or did it come to you only? 37 If anyone thinks he is a prophet or spiritual, he should recognize that what I write to you is the Lord's command. 38 But if anyone ignores this, he will be ignored. [See HCSB, NASB, ESV, YLT, NKJV] Strong's 1135 gunh>, goo-nay;a woman; specially a wife: wife, woman. Since there is no other Scripture forbidding single women to teach men, and all comparable Scriptures forbidding wives from teaching their own husbands or speaking in the assembly (1 Cor 14), since the Greek word in the text means woman or wife, and since only wives have their own husbands at home to ask, I believe that the correct translation/interpretation here is "wife." ***1 Timothy 2:11 A woman/wife [Strong's 1135] should quietly learn from others with entire submissiveness [Strong's 5292]. 12 I do not permit a woman/wife to teach [Strong's 1321] [a man], nor have authority over[Strong's 831] a man, but she must remain silent. [See Strong's,WEY, NASB, ESV, HCSB, AmpB, NKJV] Strong's 1135 gunh>, goo-nay;a woman; specially a wife: wife, woman. Since there is no other Scripture forbidding single women to teach men, and all comparable Scriptures forbidding wives from teaching their own husbands or speaking in the assembly (1 Cor 14), and since the Greek word in the text means woman or wife, I believe that the correct translation/interpretation here is "wife." Strong's 5292 hupotage; n f 1) the act of subjecting 2) obedience, subjection Strong's 1321 didasko; v 1) to teach 1a) to hold discourse with others in order to instruct them,

deliver didactic discourses 1b) to be a teacher 1c) to discharge the office of a teacher, conduct one's self as a teacher 2) to teach one 2a) to impart instruction 2b) instill doctrine into one 2c) the thing taught or enjoined 2d) to explain or expound a thing 2f) to teach one something Strong's 831 authenteo; v 1) one who with his own hands kills another or himself 2) one who acts on his own authority, autocratic 3) an absolute master 4) to govern, exercise dominion over one I believe that gives us the following: A wife should quietly learn from others with full and entire obedience, subjection and submissiveness . I do not permit a wife to teach, instruct, enjoin, explain or expound to [a man], nor govern, exercise dominion over or have authority over a man, but she must remain silent. If a husband's wife is sinning against him as stated above, before he marries again, he should do all of Matt 18:16,6,7; Gala 6:1; 2 Tim 2;24-26; and remember what the Word says about him being maritally bound to her. THE BIBLE ON SEX AND MARRIAGE ***1 Cor 6: 9 Do you not know that unrighteous persons shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not err: neither sex sinners [those who have sexual intimacy with someone other than their own heterosexual marital partner Ezek23], . . . nor those who have sex with another's woman &/or those who leave their wives and marry another, . . nor male catamites &/or prostitutes who allow themselves to be homosexually used , nor homosexuals/pederasts , 10 nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor abusive persons, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God. . . . 13 . . . The body is not intended for sexual immorality, but [is intended] for the Lord, and the Lord [is intended] for the body [to save, sanctify, and raise it again]. . . . 15 Do you not see and know that your bodies are members (bodily parts) of Christ (the Messiah)? Am I therefore to take the parts of Christ and make [them] parts of a sexually immoral woman? Never! Never! 16 Or do you not know and realize that when a man joins himself to a a sexually immoral woman, he becomes one body with her? The two, it is written, shall become one flesh. . . . 18 Flee from having intimate sexual contact with someone who is not your own heterosexual marital partner. Any other sin which a man commits is one outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his

own body. 19 Do you not know that your body is the temple (the very sanctuary) of the Holy Spirit Who lives within you, Whom you have received [as a Gift] from God? You are not your own, 20 You were bought with a price [purchased with a preciousness and paid for, made His own]. So then, honor God and bring glory to Him in your body. 7: 1* But concerning the things of which ye have written to me: It is good for a male not to continue -keep on - touching a woman; 2 but because of and to avoid sexual immorality each man should be [sexually] having his own woman, and each woman should be [sexually] having her own man. [See note below at ^^^] 3 The husband should render unto the wife [the] kindness, intimate marital duty, benevolence and good will <Strong's 2133> [that is] due, owed and obligated <Strong's 3784> ; and likewise also the wife [should render the kindness, intimate marital duty, benevolence and good will that is due, owed and obligated] unto the husband. ***1Thes 4:3 For this is the will of God, your sanctification [separation and being set apart for God for pure and holy living]: that you abstain from sexual immorality; 4 that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, 5 not in the passion of evil desire like the Gentiles who do not know God; 6 that no one transgress and wrong his brother [or sister] in this matter, because the Lord is an avenger in all these things, as we told you beforehand and solemnly warned you. 7For God has not called us for impurity, but in holiness. ***Prov. 5:18 Your [sexual] fountain should be blessed; and rejoice and be glad with the wife of your youth. 19 . . . her breasts should satisfy/intoxicate/saturate you at all times; you should be intoxicated continually with her affectionate loving ***1 Cor 7:4. The woman doesn't have [sexual] authority over her own body, but the husband [does]; in like manner also the man doesn't have [sexual] authority over his own body, but the woman [does]. 5 Do not be denying each other [sexually], unless, it may be, by consent for a time, that you may devote yourselves to fasting and prayer, and again be conjugally cohabiting [sexually reuniting], that Satan tempt you not because of your failure to control yourself. 6and this I say by way of concurrence, concession or permission {4774} [as something "granted", a "preferential allowance, " a "right . . . granted"] -- not of or as a command, 7for I wish all men to be even as I myself [am]; but each his own gift hath of God, one indeed thus, and one thus. [YLT; Strongs; NASB, HCSB] . . . 8 To the unmarried and the widows (women bereft of a husband) I say that it is good for them to remain single as I am. 9 But if they are not continuing to restrain themselves [are not abstaining from sex sin ], they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with desire. 10 I command the married not I, but the Lorda [believing] wife is not to leave, depart or separate from [Strong's 5563] her [believing] husband. 11 But if she does leave, depart, and/or separate

[Strong's 5563], she must remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband and a [believing] husband/man should not forsake, lay aside, leave, put (send) away and/or divorce [Strongs 863] his wife/woman. 12 But to the rest I, not the Lord, say: If any brother has an unbelieving wife/woman, and she is willing [consents, would like] to continue on occupying a house, reside , cohabiting^ and/or dwelling [3611]> with him, he must not forsake, lay aside, leave, put (send) away, and/or remit [Strongs 863] her. 13 Also, if any woman has an unbelieving husband/man, and he is willing [consents, would like] to keep on occupying a house, residing , cohabiting^ and/or dwelling [3611] with her, she must not forsake, lay aside, leave, put (send) away, and/or remit [Strongs 863] her husband/man [But if she does leave, depart, and/or separate [Strong's 5563], she must remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband, v.11]. . . .15 But if the unbeliever leaves, departs and/or separates himself [Strong's 5563], he should go away/depart/separate/leave, [he should separate, make the separation]. A brother or a sister is not [legally, morally, maritally] bound in such cases [in the Kingdom of God]. God has called you to peace. . .39 A [believing] wife is bound to her [believing] husband by [God's] Law as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to be married to anyone she wantsonly in the Lord. ***Rom 7:1 Or are you all ignorant, brethren (for I speak to men who know the law), that the Law has dominion over a man for so long time as he lives? 2 For the woman that has a husband is bound by Law to the husband while he lives; but if the husband die, she is discharged from the law of the husband. 3 So then if, while the husband lives, she be joined to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if the husband die, she is free from the Law, so that she is no adulteress, though she be joined to another man. FROM ASB A believing wife is maritally bound to her unbelieving husband in the Kingdom of God {1} as long as he is willing [consents, would like] to keep on [maritally] occupying a house, residing , cohabiting and/or dwelling^ with her (7:11,13); or {2} until the unbeliever leaves, departs and/or separates himself from the believing mate (7:15). ***1Cor 7: 10 I command the married not I, but the Lorda [believing] wife is not to leave, depart or separate from [Strong's 5563] her husband. 11 But if she does leave, depart, and/or separate [Strong's 5563], she must remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. . . 13 Also, if any woman has an unbelieving husband/man, and he is willing [consents, would like] to keep on occupying a house, residing , cohabiting^ and/or dwelling [3611] with her, she must not forsake, lay aside, leave, put (send) away, and/or remit [Strongs 863] her husband/man [But if she does leave, depart, and/or separate [Strong's 5563], she must remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband, v.11]. . . 15 But if the unbeliever leaves, departs and/or separates

himself [Strong's 5563], he should go away/depart/separate/leave, [he should separate, make the separation]. A brother or a sister is not [legally, morally, maritally] bound in such cases [in the Kingdom of God]. God has called you to peace. A believing husband is maritally bound to his unbelieving wife in the Kingdom of God {1} as long as she is willing [consents, would like] to keep on [maritally] occupying a house, residing , cohabiting and/or dwelling^ with him (7:11,12); or {2} until the unbeliever leaves, departs and/or separates herself from the believing mate (7:15). ***1 Cor 7:11 . . . a [believing] husband/man should not forsake, lay aside, leave, put (send) away and/or divorce [Strongs 863] his wife/woman.12 But to the rest I, not the Lord, say: If any brother has an unbelieving wife/woman, and she is willing [consents, would like] to continue on occupying a house, reside , cohabiting^ and/or dwelling [3611]> with him, he must not forsake, lay aside, leave, put (send) away, and/or remit [Strongs 863] her. . . 15 But if the unbeliever leaves, departs and/or separates himself [Strong's 5563], he should go away/depart/separate/leave, [he should separate, make the separation]. A brother or a sister is not [legally, morally, maritally] bound in such cases [in the Kingdom of God]. God has called you to peace. ^ = To cohabit is to "live together and have a sexual relationship without being married" What does a genuinely believing husband do when his genuinely believing wife exercises her celibate separation option (1Cor 7:11,39) and he finds himself under Satanic attack (1 Cor 7:5) and coming under the 1 Cor 7:2,9 command to be married because he needs to avoid sexual immorality but he finds that once in a while a Satanic attack gets through to him and he stumbles into sexual immorality? Ask me.