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MARK A. YARHOUSE
Regent University, Virginia Beach, Virginia, USA
INTRODUCTION
One of the most controversial topics in clinical psychology has to do with sex-
ual orientation and whether it can be changed through professional interven-
tion. This has been the topic of a number of scholarly articles (e.g., Haldeman,
1994; Yarhouse, 1998), professional symposia (e.g., Throckmorton, 2000),
and textbooks on controversial topics in psychology (e.g., Halgin, 2004).
The debates include discussions of empirical evidence for and against claims
of change of orientation, but they also delve into ethical and professional
practice issues such as respect for autonomy and self-determination, as well
as political concerns and ideological assumptions behind the question of
change even being asked in the 21st century.
Of particular interest in these discussions is the topic of religious/spiritual
beliefs of clients who are sorting out how to live in light of their same-sex
feelings. Indeed, the potential conflict between religion and sexual identity
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has also generated a lot of discussion about how to navigate sexual identity
confusion (e.g., Yarhouse & Tan, 2005) in a way that is respectful of both
gay, lesbian, and bisexual (GLB) community interests as well as traditional
religious community interests.
In a previous discussion of professional services being offered, Yarhouse
and Burkett (2002) presented a continuum of services related to sexual iden-
tity that included gay-integrative therapy, chastity-based therapy, sexual iden-
tity management, and reorientation therapy. Gay affirmative or gay integra-
tive therapy is described an approach that affirms the inherent goodness of
identifying as GLB and seeks to assist clients as they integrate their expe-
riences of same-sex attraction into a GLB identity. On the other end of the
continuum is reorientation therapy—the controversial practice of helping a
client change sexual orientation from same-sex to opposite-sex in terms of
sexual preference. The third approach discussed is chastity-based therapy, an
approach that helps clients live celibate lives in keeping with their personal
beliefs and values. The final approach discussed by the authors is sexual
identity management or sexual identity therapy, and this approach focuses
on how people identify themselves and their sexual preferences privately
(to themselves) and publicly (to others). It has also been described as an
approach that focuses on helping clients seek congruence between their be-
liefs and their behavior, so that how clients live is consistent with what they
value (see Throckmorton & Yarhouse, 2006; Yarhouse, 2001, for a theoretical
framework). There may be other emerging approaches to therapy, but these
are four that have been presented in the literature.
The purpose of this paper is to take one of these approaches to
therapy—sexual identity therapy—and to explore one form of it that is be-
ing referred to as narrative sexual identity therapy. Presumably, a variety of
theoretical frameworks could be utilized to facilitate therapy focused on sex-
ual identity and how it develops and synthesizes over time (e.g., cognitive-
behavioral sexual identity therapy, client-centered sexual identity therapy,
psychodynamic sexual identity therapy, and so on). As its name suggests,
narrative sexual identity therapy utilizes clinical tools and assumptions in
narrative therapy and brings them to bear on the clinical practice of assisting
clients with their sexual identity concerns.
NARRATIVE THERAPY
Overview of Narrative Therapy
Narrative therapy considers how clients have come to see themselves, assert-
ing that people are constituted in language. Clients live the stories they are
told or come to tell about themselves. If they go unchallenged, the stories
tend to be written through the dominant norms in a society or subculture
(White & Epston, 1990).
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For the social constructionist, language is not a reporting device for our
experiences. . . Rather, it is a defining framework. Thus, a change in lan-
guage equals a change in the experience; for reality can only be experi-
enced, and the ‘reality’ experienced is inseparable from the prepackaged
thoughts of the society. . . . (Becvar & Becvar, 2006, pp. 91–92)
can make some behavior or activities more likely and limit others. These be-
haviors and activities may facilitate an identity and eventually consolidate it:
Assisting clients in determining how they would prefer to live and iden-
tify themselves involves facilitating a transformational sexual identity narra-
tive. The place to begin is to create interpretive space by identifying the prob-
lem story and to eventually explore ways to assist the client in developing
or recognizing a potential or emerging counter-narrative. This general pro-
cess of “transformational narrative” has been described elsewhere (Coulehan
et al., 1998) and is being adapted for this discussion centering on sexual
identity.
Conceptually, the therapist is essentially facilitating a congruence-
focused transformational sexual identity narrative. It is congruence-focused
in that therapists assist clients in living their lives in a manner that is consistent
with their beliefs and values. Again, out of respect for client autonomy and
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Case Illustrations
Here are two contrasting problem-saturated stories. The first (Jordan) rep-
resents a more traditional narrative therapy understanding as it applies to
sexual identity concerns. The second (Jess) provides an example of the flex-
ibility of narrative sexual identity therapy in addressing a range of possible
identity conflicts. Both cases are adapted from the author’s files.
In the initial session Jordan shares that he experiences same-sex attrac-
tion. He states that because of his family and religious upbringing as
Mormon, he is reluctant to identify himself as gay or participate in same-
sex relationships. As he closes the initial session, he expresses initial en-
thusiasm and a renewed effort to maintain chaste relationships with both
the same and opposite-sex. Over the course of therapy, however, Jordan
admits to increased struggles with his initial commitment to chastity. He
has begun to initiate same-sex relationships, and several of these have
increased his interest in finding someone with whom he can have a long-
term relationship. Jordan reports having tried to be celibate, but he ad-
mits that he really feels at peace when he is in a same-sex relationship. In
subsequent sessions Jordan identifies the dominant story that has become
distressing to him. That story was that same-sex behavior is immoral and
that it would be wrong to identify as gay—a story that implicated his
family upbringing and traditional religious faith community. Over time,
Jordan begins to discuss and experience a counternarrative to that domi-
nant narrative. The counternarrative is based on the belief that same-sex
attractions signal who he is as a person, and that the expression of his sex-
ual desires in sexual behavior is an extension or expression of his identity
and desires. Indeed, Jordan begins to talk about discovering who he is
as a gay person and utilizes the relevant self-defining attribution, “I am
gay.”
To the extent that Jordan further explores this counter-narrative, his work
in therapy represents what might be thought of as a more traditional narra-
tive therapy understanding because the taken-for-granted realities are tied to
traditional, religious understandings accepted and communicated through a
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community of faith. As painful and difficult as it may be, Jordan may even-
tually choose to leave his traditional faith community for a community of
like-minded believers who hold similar beliefs and values, and he may face
additional struggles related to how he maintains relationships with friends
and family members who reflect the beliefs and values of that community.
The following case (Jess) shifts the focus of the taken-for-granted reali-
ties to assumptions made by the gay community and communicated to Jess
through entertainment, the media, and her peer group:
the client brings and voices doubts and concerns about that labeled identity,
then the therapist joining them in their questions and concerns can begin
to open up space for an alternative discourse or counter-narrative. Put dif-
ferently, when messages from the GLB community conflict with the client’s
beliefs and values, then these messages too can be deconstructed insofar as
a client examines previously taken-for-granted assumptions (see Wolkomir,
2001; Wolkomir, 2006; Yarhouse & Tan, 2004).
Some clients will also ask about the role of biology in their identity,
asking whether a gay identity is predetermined genetically. But, of course,
this conflates orientation and identity, and there is no consensus as to
the etiology of sexual orientation—whether biology, environment, or a
combination of both (Jones & Kwee, 2005). And insofar as same-sex
attraction, orientation, and sexual identity are treated as synonymous, this
can be deconstructed as well.
to them as the dominant narrative that had been so problematic and led to
the initiation of therapy.
Exploration of the dominant narrative might also entail situating a gay
identity or gay self within the sociocultural and political context. Doing so
might be a relief to Jordan, who over time might speak of liberation and
authenticity in his newly discovered gay identity (see Wolkomir, 2006). Jess, in
contrast, may experience a gay identity or the “gay self” as rhetoric of sexual
self-actualization, one which she chooses to reject in favor of an emerging
counter-narrative.
Resolution/Congruence
Narrative sexual identity therapy is essentially concerned with a person’s
“preferred way of being” (Buchanan et al., 2001, p. 444). The outcome of
narrative sexual identity therapy is that clients come to a preferred way of
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being with respect to both their sexual identity and their religious or spiritual
identity—what we might think of as a place of resolution because they live in
a way that is congruent; they live in a way that is consistent with their beliefs
and values. From a sexual identity standpoint, successful outcome is helping
clients line up their beliefs and values with their behavior and identity.
Consistent with the narrative metaphor, clients live in ways that are in
keeping with their preferred story. The clinician can facilitate this by asking
questions that extend the preferred narrative into the future (adapted from
Buchanan et al., 2001, pp. 444–445). Questions such as In the course of the
next few months or so, what do you see as the relationship between your
sexual identity and your religious or spiritual identity? or Can you share a
little of the way you would like to describe your sexual identity in the year to
come?
These questions and many others like them not only cast a vision for
the preferred narrative and how it might evolve in the future, but they help
consolidate the gains made thus far in therapy. An additional way to assist in
consolidating the gains made in narrative sexual identity therapy is to provide
therapeutic audiencing. What this means is that the clinician supports the
work being done by participating as an audience member viewing their work
on “stage.” One such technique developed by David Epston is letter writing,
and therapists can write letters to their clients that support the preferred
story—either in the direction of what is experienced as an emerging gay
identity or in the act of dis-identification with a gay identity.
In closing, although space does not permit a detailed discussion of
the ethical and professional issues associated with providing therapy to ad-
dress sexual identity concerns, it can be noted and communicated to clients
that there are no well-designed outcome studies that address sexual iden-
tity concerns—whether reorientation, gay-affirmative/integrative, or sexual
identity approaches. Initial frameworks for providing such services have
been developed (see Throckmorton & Yarhouse, 2006) and can also be
reviewed.
CONCLUSION
The purpose of this paper was to offer an alternative to the two polarized po-
sitions of sexual reorientation therapy and gay-integrative therapy for clients
who present with sexual identity concerns. This alternative model focuses
on sexual identity, how it develops and synthesizes over time, and the felt
congruence of clients’ beliefs/values and behavior/identity. Narrative sexual
identity therapy is an approach that utilizes a narrative therapeutic under-
standing and techniques to facilitate exploration of dominant narratives and
counter-narratives that speak to sexual identity and a client’s “preferred way
of being” (Buchanan et al., 2001, p. 444).
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