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The aim of the 4 weeks is to help parents think and talk about their role in
bringing up happy children, and what children need to grow up to be well
balanced.
The facilitator’s role is to make everyone feel welcome and included, guide
the discussion, broadly keep it on track, acknowledge differences but ask
challenging questions.
Be creative. Activities and questions for each week are set out, but you could
use many different approaches and exercises to get people talking about the
subject. Find things you are comfortable with.
Know the aim. The main thing is for the facilitator to have a clear idea of what
they want to achieve overall and in each session. If they have they can almost
always bring the subject back on track e.g. asking ‘what is the child learning
from that, what message are you giving’.
Week 1 – Looks at what we want our children to be like when they are grown
up and the part we play in getting them there
Week 3 – looks at the other main thing children need to be happy: a sense of
security and predictability, and how we can provide this
KEY QUESTION:
What do you want your child to be like when they are grown up?
Write up the answers. Things you want to elicit: honest, caring, respectful,
able to make good decisions, satisfying job, good relationships, happy
Recap
Week 1 we looked at what we want children to be like when they are grown up
and how we can help them get there. Most of all we want children to be happy.
KEY QUESTION – how do your children know you love them? What do we
mean by love?
Write up suggestions:
Tell them have fun, enjoy being with them
Cuddle them
If you had a friend who kept saying that they did not want to meet you, what
would you think?
Recap on week 2
Children need love to feel valued. What else do they need?
Discuss:
Do you have a bedtime routine? Do you have mealtime routines?
Why are rules important? Picture of the sheep….
Do you have ‘rules’ about what you expect?
Examples; do you allow your child to take food from the fridge?
Do you expect them to take their shoes off when they come in?
Key Question: What happens if the child does not feel safe, if things are
not predictable?
Anxiety – and if you are anxious you can’t learn
Curious – testing things out to see if there is a pattern to expectations
Keep checking to see what is what … clarifying mixed messages
e.g. keep asking if they can have an icecream – does no really mean no?
If no means yes once, then they will keep asking.
Think about your childhood – how did you feel if your parents/family argued.
What helps the child feel safe? – arguments repaired, reassured that things OK
Week 4
Focusing on other things children need to feel happy.
Key idea: we feel happy when we are learning and achieving and making new
relationships. Mastering new skills, managing new experiences gives
confidence
Other key ideas: importance of a sense of identity/belonging/community/
Recap on what children need to be happy – love and security. What else?
Some excitement, achievement, new experiences, growing up
Key Question: How do we help children feel they are learning and
achieving?
Other concepts: IDENTITY: how we think about ourselves & who we are
Key idea is that identity is formed through communication with others ,
including subtle non verbal communication, the media
Key question: Where does your identity come from?
- from what people say about you and how you internalise this, from your
understanding of your place in the family, the cultural and religious beliefs and
practices the family pass on to you, the family’s place in the community, the
way the community treats you and portrays you
Key question: What can parents do to give their child a positive identity?
Other ideas to incorporate