NATURAL CONTROL {PRIVADO }

By Michael A. Parker

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Copyright 1998 Key Group ALL RIGHTS RESERVED Published by ~ Key Publication Company ~

This material is protected by copyright. No part of this publication may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means now known or which will become known without written permission from the publisher his assigns or heirs.

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~ AUTHOR NOTE ~ S
With this booklet I have tried to make it possible for people with no prior training to understand what premature ejaculation is, then be able to overcome it and enjoy much more satisfaction in their intimate lives with their partners. I have researched many sources to bring this information to you uncluttered. This booklet is power packed. You will not have to wade through unnecessary information in order to get what you need. Everything in this booklet should be read and understood. It brings me much happiness that I am able to supply this information to you. It is my most sincere hope you will benefit from it. NOTE: This research was originally done for those who have problems with premature ejaculation. The same steps that are taken to overcome that problem will also produce results for those who would simply like to be more in control of the ejaculatory process. Great sex can begin here. Whatever your category please read this entire booklet. All of this information can be beneficial in helping you to improve your sex technique.

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CONTENTS

Introduction

4 6 9 11 12 13 15

About the method Start / Stop to develop control Adding subtle changes and relaxation Visual Stimulation With your partner Summary

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4 Introduction What is premature ejaculation? It is the lack of control over the ejaculatory process. Premature ejaculation usually occurs immediately preceding intercourse to within a couple of minutes after intercourse begins and usually before the partner is satisfied. What is not premature ejaculation? Some men feel that if they can last any length of time they choose they have t a problem. Even those with the best ability to control orgasm don last as long as they like, every time. Maybe t your partner is not achieving orgasm and you feel she might if you could last that extra fifteen minutes. Many women can achieve orgasm in less than twenty minutes, some may take longer. You should realize that while your partner may enjoy intercourse very much there is a possibility she may not be able to achieve orgasm through intercourse no matter how long you last. This fact may have nothing to do with your performance. Some women are just not orgasmic through intercourse. In fact, intercourse that lasts too long may become uncomfortable for your partner. It can create a discomfort for her that you may not be aware of. She might find it difficult to bring up this issue. You could try to talk with your partner about this. You may come up with other ways for her to achieve orgasm. For the men who truly suffer with premature ejaculation or lack of control over the ejaculatory process, you can learn control. Doing so won take any of the pleasure t from sex. It will, in fact, make it more enjoyable for you and your partner. Rather than trying not to think about it you will be able to focus on what you are feeling.

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5 I had a problem with premature ejaculation until my middle twenties. This problem had always taken the potential to enjoy intimacy with my partner. It was during that time in my life I came up with an idea to remedy premature ejaculation. I have since discovered others have similar methods to my own. Thanks to research and practice I now enjoy myself completely. No longer am I apprehensive about not being able to last long enough. You will not believe the enormous sense of satisfaction you will have the first time you realize you have control with your partner, what a great feeling! Millions of men have no control over ejaculation and think there is nothing that can be done. That right this is one s of the most common sexual problems in men. Fortunately it is highly treatable with the method you will read about here. NOTE: It should be mentioned there are prescription medications that can cause premature ejaculation. And / or if you now have problems with premature ejaculation but have not always it is recommended that you seek the advice of a physician.

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6 About the method Imagine your level of arousal as a graph on a chart. As the graph reaches its peak, so does your level of arousal. Just before the peak of the graph, occurs what is called the point of inevitable orgasm. There is no stopping orgasm from there. Before the inevitable zone exists what I call the safe zone. The man who has control will experience all the levels of arousal in the safe zone before inevitable orgasm. He has learned to monitor his level of arousal in the safe zone. He can decrease stimulation when needed if he is not ready to achieve orgasm. He uses the safe zone to stay safely away from the point of inevitable orgasm. You will learn the method we use to develop the safe zone in this booklet. With premature ejaculation the level of arousal goes almost immediately to the point of inevitable orgasm. Passing quickly through the safe zone. The man has no control in the safe zone before inevitability. He is probably not even aware of the safe zone. You must develop and learn to recognize the levels of arousal to begin learning control. Perhaps the best way to do this is to practice through masturbation. You can do this with or without a partner. Read this entire booklet before beginning. You will be learning to maintain control over ejaculation during fifteen minute practice sessions. You will be focusing on how you feel (your level of arousal). You should do these exercises at least twice a week. More if you can.

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7 Make sure you have uninterrupted quiet time for your sessions. Discuss this with your partner if you like. If you have a hard time talking about it, you may give her this booklet to read. While you are into your practice sessions it is possible that interest in sexual relations with your partner may decrease. This is natural. These levels will pick up after you become successful and slow or eliminate the sessions. Practice sessions should be showing you results in three to eight weeks. You must follow all instructions closely. During any of the following sessions you may wish to have sex with your partner. That is okay as long as you don see a reversal in your progress with the practice t sessions. You may notice yourself drifting in thought during sessions, that is normal, just be sure to bring yourself back into focus as soon as you realize you have drifted. This may happen many times during a session. Bring yourself back as soon as you realize it each time. It is also possible to experience a loss of arousal during a session. You might try visual stimulation or fantasizing to raise your level of excitement. If you cannot seem to pick it up again, don worry, this is not uncommon. Try again t another time.

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8 During some sessions you will want to allow yourself to ejaculate before the fifteen minutes are up. You should not give in to this thinking as it could produce set backs in your progress. Time for the sessions. The most important thing to do is stay focused on how you feel. If you need help to become aroused you may fantasize or, use visual stimulation. Only do this if needed. It will be easier to begin learning control without added visual stimulation.

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9 Start / stop to learn control The idea is to stop temporarily to keep your level of arousal from going to the point of inevitable orgasm. In doing so you will begin to recognize the arousal zone prior to inevitable orgasm. It is possible to lose part or all of your erection during these stops. Don worry about it, t just continue. If you have problems continuing try visual stimulation or fantasy. If these don work just come back t to it another time, this is not uncommon. You will need to determine based on your experience what is the proper amount of time for you to stop. You will only be stopping long enough to get your level of arousal lowered sufficiently enough to continue stimulation. If you begin and find it was too soon just stop again. With time, you will begin to get a feel for when you need to stop and restart. There is no limit, stop as many times as necessary during a session. The time in which you have stopped counts in the fifteen minutes. Remember that all men reach the point of inevitability. Those who learn control are able to monitor their level of arousal while in the safe zone and stay away from inevitable orgasm for longer periods. Get comfortable with the start and stop method to prolong orgasm to fifteen minutes. Pay attention to your level of arousal. You will find it gets easier to recognize when you need to stop. If you try your best with the start / stop and still lose control early, don worry, it part of t s learning. Keep up with the sessions and you will see improvement.

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After you complete the fifteen minutes (with start and stop) it is okay to achieve orgasm if you like.

When you are able to complete the fifteen minutes with only one or two stops try adding lubrication such as K-Y Jelly or another non petroleum lubricant of your choice. Continue with start /stop until you can complete the fifteen minutes with only one or two stops while using lubrication. After completion of start/stop with lubrication (one or two stops only) move to subtle changes.

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11 Adding subtle changes and relaxation to start / stop Work toward fewer stops during the exercises. Try to relax the muscles in the pelvic area especially the muscle in the groin area that contracts on orgasm. Begin making subtle changes in movement instead of stopping completely. Change the way you stroke by slowing the pace or making shorter strokes, etc. You may find that the head of the penis is more sensitive and begin shorter strokes, which stay away from this area during heightened arousal, so on. When arousal levels go down you may pick up the pace or lengthen your stroke, etc. These are just some ideas, you may use these and or other types of changes that work for you. Start / stop is still okay, however, you are trying to move to subtle changes instead of stopping. Be aware of your level of arousal. Make changes far enough in advance to avoid the point of inevitable orgasm until the fifteen minutes are up. Stay focused on your level of arousal. Notice when you get more comfortable with this exercise how you control the rise and fall of excitement levels without stopping. When you can complete this exercise without stopping add lubrication. When you can complete this exercise (with lubrication) and no stops you are ready to try with visual stimulation.

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12 Visual Stimulation (optional) Video or magazine (video will be more difficult, you may try it if you wish). Just take it slow and easy, basically applying the steps you have learned. Do this with lubrication after successfully completing fifteen minutes non stop with a dry hand. You are now more in control than you once thought possible. At this time, if you haven already you are t ready to practice with a partner. All that you have learned has prepared you for this.

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13 With your partner There are many options for having sex with a partner when learning control. You may choose not to have intercourse at first. You may practice mutual masturbation or oral sex. In any case you will still be practicing control for at least fifteen minutes. You will use all the experience you have gained up until now to achieve this. Just as it was with the previous sections you will have to adjust to find out how far you can go before you stop, make adjustments, etc. Also like the previous sections, you will become more comfortable and successful the more you practice. You may develop key words or signals to let your partner know you need to stop or slow down, etc. If you decide you are ready to try intercourse remember the subtle changes you have been practicing. Subtle changes in stroke (speed and length) as well as start / stop and relaxation of the muscle in the groin area will all be used to control your level of arousal. You will find some positions easier to maintain control. Many men find the bottom position easier when trying to maintain control, still others say it is easier for them on top. You may also need to pull completely out for a few moments. You might try circular motion instead of straight in and out or deep and slow with hardly any in and out motion. Any of these techniques or others you will develop can be used. You will find that different techniques work better depending on your level of excitement. There is no rule as to which technique is best, except, slower is usually better in times of high excitement.

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14 The goal is to keep the level of arousal below that critical point where ejaculation is imminent. You must focus to stay aware of how you feel. It is through this focus that you will make adjustments far enough ahead of time. These sessions will continue to produce better results with practice just like the sessions that have preceded.

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15 Summary You have learned to focus and realize the stages of arousal. You will find now that you know how to control the safe zone you can also choose to pass quickly through it to orgasm. This can be done without penalty now that you have learned control. If you do feel the need to sharpen your newly found skill you have the knowledge. Most men practice control over the ejaculatory process the same way you do now. Many of them do it without ever realizing it. Be aware, even those with very good control over the ejaculatory process may have difficulty with a new partner or certain types of movement. Most women understand this. I would also say that while you will have more control than you ever thought possible it is not a perfect world. There will still be times when you will ejaculate more quickly than you like. There may be certain things that will always be a tough test, for example, keeping a fast pace for a long time. That is okay, mix it in if you can, but don forget, there something to be said for a nice t s slow grind! Maybe your partner is very vocal and this keeps you barely contained. As you develop more natural control with a partner you will be better equipped to handle more stimulation. Talk with your partner to try to create a mutually beneficial situation. Communication is key here!

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16 Important note: I would also like to point out that while the fifteen minute mark is useful for learning control, it is not a magic number that you should try to attain each time with your partner. This should be an individual decision that is made based on the circumstances of the moment. Your partner may be completely satisfied in seven minutes for example. You will have to evaluate based on the moment if you want to last longer for her or yourself. If she is satisfied, and it is still good for you both, enjoy it. On the other hand if she has had enough and you are ready to achieve orgasm, why go on!

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THE END Or should we say, the beginning!

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