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by Scout Wilkins
Art work by AJ Johnson
c 2009 Scout Wilkins Dream Weaver Life Coaching 610 North First Street Suite 5, PMB 197 Hamilton, MT 59840 www.scoutwilkins.com I would like to acknowledge the contribution of my friends Anfernee Chansamooth (www.mypositivechange.com ), Carmen Breakey (breakey@hotmail.com) and Kande Benson for responding to my request within our community for their favorite simple methods for identifying and dispelling limiting beliefs. 2
Contents
Are you feeling completely stuck - and completely tired of it? ................................................................... 4 Are you ready to change all this? .................................................................................................................. 4 Step One Understand the incredible power of your inner mind ................................................................................. 5 The captain and the crew - where does the true power lie? ............................................................... 5 The Hidden Programs in your life. .................................................................................................... 6 Step Two Understand the mechanics of how we each create our own reality ............................................................ 7 We filter out almost all the information that comes our way. ............................................................ 7 Think of your mind as a search engine. ............................................................................................. 8 We choose what we filter for. ............................................................................................................ 9 By choosing what we focus on or filter for, we create our own reality. ............................................ 10 Step Three Make new choices ........................................................................................................................................... 11 You can make a conscious decision to choose the reality you want to create. .................................. 11 Pay close attention what you say. ...................................................................................................... 12 Step Four Identify your limiting thoughts and beliefs .................................................................................................. 13 Examine your current results. ............................................................................................................ 13 Listen to the language you use. ......................................................................................................... 13 Imagine Your Future. ......................................................................................................................... 13 Make a list. ........................................................................................................................................ 13 Step Five Begin to release your limiting beliefs. ........................................................................................................... 14 How do we change something that is an unconscious choice? .......................................................... 14 Begin from an internal position of gratitude for your younger self. .................................................. 14 Reframe the belief. ............................................................................................................................ 15 Challenge the Belief. ............................................................................................................................ 15 Pull a visual disappearing act on the belief. ...................................................................................... 15 Ask yourself new, positive questions ................................................................................................. 16 A note about why vs. how questions. . ......................................................................................... 17 Consider using the power of Neurological Repatterning. ........................................................................... 18 Allow releasing your limiting beliefs to become a lifelong habit. ............................................................... 19 A personal note ............................................................................................................................................... 20
Are you feeling completely stuck, and completely sick and tired of it?
Do people discount you because you dont offer ideas or opinions? Do you want to find a great relationship but know that youre actually avoiding going the places you might meet interesting people? Do you know that if you could just get STARTED on that book project youve been thinking about for eleven years now, youd get it done?
Sometimes it can feel like we are our own worst enemy. We make a decision to change something, to do something differently, and have the very best intentions - but we slide back into the same old habits. Or sometimes, were just so sure we cant do something that we never even try.
Step One
As you probably know, there are two areas of the mind, the conscious and the unconscious. What you may not realize is how constantly and consistently your unconscious mind is playing the background programs that actually run your life, and how little control we generally exercise over those programs. Im talking about the pictures that pop up when you think of something, the little voice inside that tells you what you can or cannot do as well as the behaviors that happen automatically, without you even hearing the little voice directing them. The big news is that you can actually control those programs far more than has been believed in the past and making the choice to do so can fundamentally change your life.
They may even believe that theres a reef in that area because of prior experience, or because of fears instilled by others, and refuse to go there altogether - they may hold a flat out mutiny. Perhaps you can remember a time when you were altogether stopped, consciously wanting to make a new choice, and just not able to make it happen. This may have been the underlying battle that was going on inside. The true power behind turning the ship lies with the crew - that is, your unconscious mind. You are most likely to end up where the crew wants to go. The captain may be strong enough to hold them in place which you will experience as feeling completely stuck. But without the crews participation the ship is going to move very slowly, if at all. Of course, the real juice in life comes when the captain and the crew are aligned, and the sails fill, carrying you to the destinations you consciously choose, with the full, gleeful support of everyone on the ship.
The captain and the crew - where does the true power lie?
Your conscious mind accounts for about 5% of the thinking that moves you forward your unconscious makes up the rest. Its a lot like a captain and a crew on a ship. The captain, your conscious mind, has a plan for where the ship should go, and directs the crew to steer it there. The crew, your unconscious, has their own experience, and depending on how aligned they are with the captain, they may jump to follow orders willingly, or they may act begrudgingly, with dragging feet.
Step Two
Have you ever taken an art class and had the experience of the world looking different once youve mixed paints to imitate it? What experiences can you remember that have shifted your perceptions and made the world look different to you? Sometimes its a major unexpected event that makes us view things differently. There are lots of examples of this shift throughout our lives, where our unconscious beliefs and expectations have been changed. The exciting news is that we have the ability to make these changes ourselves, by conscious choice. With that ability, we can choose powerfully positive pictures and beliefs that automatically change our behaviors, and therefore our results. Read on to see how!
Whether you think you can or think you cant - you are right.
- Henry Ford
This does not mean that our model of the world is unchangeable. But unless we decide to change it, we will continue to operate under old rules and strictures. Until we make a different choice, we will continue to listen to the voices in our heads that were allowed in early, whether we like or agree with them or not. Those voices that may say things like Ill never be that good, I cant do that! or just plain, Im not enough. Often, we may not even be aware that those messages are playingthey run our lives without our even knowing it. The only way we recognize them is because we see the results we dont want, and get frustrated. Then we wonder, in deep frustration: Why cant I loose this weight? Why is it so darn hard to make myself get up and go running? Why do I keep sabotaging myself whenever I get close to being successful? 9
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Step Three
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This is emphatically NOT about beating yourself up, or blaming yourself. I am talking about taking responsibility for the problem, so that you can also give yourself the power to design a solution. Put down any thought of blame altogether and go to work looking for a solution that is within your reach.
This is about looking at the reality of where you are, wherever that is, breathing deeply, and saying, OK. Here I am. If I choose to believe that I am responsible for what happens in my life, what can I do differently? What can I change here, starting with the way I am thinking about this situation? When we make the choice to live at cause, take responsibility for our reality and what shows up in our lives, and make deliberate choices, we begin to see better and better results in all areas better relationships, better health, better career and financial conditions.
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Step Four
Make a list.
Every time you identify a limiting belief, write it down. Because you have identified these beliefs, you now can start to weed them out, making space for all the new places you can start to believe in yourself. This will immediately expand what is possible for you.
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Step Five
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Ask yourself new, positive questions opposite to the old ones you have been asking on some level.
In this process, begin by writing down your limiting belief as a statement. Then imagine the question that is probably circulating in your unconscious, to keep that belief in place. Finally, switch that question completely around, to create a positive question. You dont have to believe this positive question right now just write it down. Here are some examples: I am bad with money my finances will just always be a mess. In the past, if you carry this belief, you have almost surely been asking yourself Why cant I be better with money? Now, turn this question around, so you have a positive outcome: Why am I so good with money? Another example: I just dont have the will power to exercise like I really want to. The old question may have been some form of Why cant I exercise easily like my friend Dorothy does? Turn it completely around and ask Why do I find it so easy to exercise? Or: Im lonely but I am shy and I find it really hard to make friends. The old question: Why is it so hard to meet people? The new, empowering question: Why is it so easy for me to make new friends? Just ask the question, and let your inner mind do the rest. The reason this is so powerful is because our inner mind does NOT like to be in a state of confusion where it doesnt have an answer, so it will go find an answer to your question.
Way back when we were in the habit of asking negative, disparaging questions, (Can you remember that far back? Before you made all these great new decisions to thing differently?) our inner mind used to obligingly find answers to those. In our old way of relating to ourselves, we might have said things like: Why am I so lazy? Our inner mind would come back and say, Well! Here are some reasons, you couch potato! Why do I keep screwing things up? Well, our inner mind used to respond, Heres a bucket load of blame to shower on your self! And because we had been so well trained to treat ourselves disparagingly, we believed the negatives and reinforced the results we didnt want. That was in the past from this moment on, promise yourself to turn it around.
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Habits are safer than rules; you dont have to watch them. And you dont have to keep them either. They keep you. - Frank Crane
When you turn the questions around to be positive, your mind will work just as hard to find evidence for the positive answer. And with two million bits of information coming in every minute, you can bet that there ARE positive answers. You used to train yourself, because of your approach to the question, to find the negative ones. So your challenge now is to accept the positive ones gracefully when they are delivered to you. Give up any old idea that it was somehow noble to make yourself smallthats not a service to anyone. Let your light shine and pass it back to the world. We will all be SO thankful you did! Youll be modeling beautiful behavior in the world. Your mind wants to bolster the argument for whatever outcome it believes you desire so celebrate it, as it now finds evidence that will make your easy statement true, and bring new results into your life. Keep these questions handy, and refer to them a few times a day for 10 days, and see what happens. I believe youll be amazed.
A note about why vs. how questions. The previous example is one of the few times that I would recommend using why questions because the responses they bring are reasons and excuses. In general, when we ask why questions, they bring excuses which keep us firmly planted where we are. In the example above, they work because we actively WANT reasons and excuses for positive outcomes, and they help us find those. In other areas of your life, any time you find yourself asking why questions with a negative slant, try changing them for how questions instead. Instead of Why is this happening again? ask How can I make this better? How can I solve this? How questions generally lead to solutions and action.
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You dont need to overthink it - just start wherever you are, and choose one. Then when that feels good, choose another. You will find that some others just drop off as you begin to clear out the collection. Doing this work will open up incredible reservoirs of energy that were locked up before, opening up whole new worlds of possibility. From this point forward, commit to letting it become an easy, pleasant habit to listen for limiting beliefs, so that you can clear them out and make spacious, delicious room for the internal programs that will really serve you in your life, the ones which will cause your ship to turn readily, smoothly and powerfully in the direction you most want it to go. 19
A personal note
This work is simple, its profound, and it will shape every area of your life. I know because I have used this exact process to shape mine. If I had a way to take an interior photo of my well being before and after experiencing this work for myself, I would qualify as a poster child for the I lost 150 pounds person youve seen in weight loss ads. I also know, because of the amazing stories I have heard and the results I have seen in the people I have worked with. I fully believe that you can experience the same shift as soon as you deeply choose to. Marcus Aurelius, the great Roman emperor and philosopher, said: If a thing is humanly possible, consider it to be within your reach. That thought may feel completely beyond anything you can believe right now but if you explore your reactions to it, find the places where you have decided not to believe in yourself, and clear those thoughts out, you can draw closer and closer to that being true for you. Let it become a fun adventure Your Grandest Adventure!
Thank you for taking this trip with me. - Scout Wilkins Master Results Coach Master NLP Practitioner & Trainer www.scoutwilkins.com
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Index
A
acceptance 15 aligned 5 attention 12
H
habit 19 health 12 Henry Ford 9 hidden programs 6
Q
Quantum physics 10
R
reality 10, 11 Reframe 15 relationships 12 releasing 15 responsibility 11, 12 results 8, 12, 13, 16
B
beliefs 8, 13 Bill Gates 10 billboards 13 blame 16
I
Imagine 13 imprint period 9 Information 7 inner mind 5, 16 innermost beliefs 6 inspiration 4 intentions 4 internal programs 19
C
candidate 15 captain and the crew 5 career 12 cause 11, 12 Challenge 15 change 4, 14 conscious 5, 8, 11 creativity 10 critical faculty 9
S
search engine 8, 9 stuck 4
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language 12, 19 limitation 10 limiting beliefs 19 limiting thoughts 13
T
thankful 11
U
unconscious 5, 6, 8, 14, 16
D
despair 10 disappearing act 15
M
Marcus Aurelius 20 mechanics 7 model of the world 9 mutiny 5
V
victim 11, 12
E
empowering 12 empowering beliefs 18 energy 19 evidence 17 excuses 17 expansion 10 expect 13 exploration 4
N
Neurological Repatterning 18 NLP 18
O
onion 19 operating system 18 outcome 17 outcomes 17
F
filter 9, 10 filtering 7 focus 11 Future 13
P
perspective 15 physiology 11 pictures 8 positive 17 possibility 11 potential 10 pretend 12
G
Gates Foundation 10 gratitude 14, 15
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