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the pain by imagining members of the Pentagon doing this exercise. New Me wonders, did Robert Gates extend an invitation to Osama? Sometimes Im like, Thats garbage, said Natalie Cook, the Australian beach volleyball player who attended the Forum in 2007 and who is set to go to her fifth Olympic Games in 2012 in London. Indeed, its hard not to smirk at a philosophy at least one of whose main tenets (You can have any result for yourself or your life that you invent as a possibility and enroll others in your having gotten) is a copy editors nightmare. But Cook credited Landmark with helping her to complete relationships Id ignored or walked out on. One was with my volleyball coach whod taken me to two Olympic medals. The actor and singer Anthony Rapp (Rent) added in an interview that Landmark can be explosively powerful at reconciling families. The gist is that humans tend to collapse what happened in their past with the story that they tell
about what happened in the past. Forgive and forget; if you cling to your story that your father was a mean drunk who beat you, youll get trapped in that wordpicture, and never open up any possibility in your life. Though Id written in my application that my current malaise was a mostly self-imposed social brownout (I quoted the Sartre line Hell is other people), my class hours unbosomed in me the anxiety that Id abandoned my 82year-old mother in the independent-living facility she entered in North Carolina three years ago. In my Forum, class members engaged in even more mothertalk when Roger introduced a beguiling if facile concept called strong suits. He asked us to think back to early childhood, to any vivid incidents that caused us to think, Im on my own, I dont belong or Somethings wrong here. The way we dealt with these incidents is a defense mechanism, or problem-solving technique, that we use throughout our lives, but which will not
bring happiness. Since then, I have twice introduced friends at gatherings to the concept of strong suits; it is a limited vehicle for psychoanalysis, but a fabulous party game. By weekends end, many of us seemed to have struck an uneasy peace with our individual conflicts. Loretta had come to the mic to recount a heart-to-heart with the father of her children, to whom she promised fidelity; tall and commanding Rob Dennis Haysbert in a navy suit had scheduled a dinner with his daughters, had a long conversation with his boss about time management, and upped his involvement in Easter Seals. I had told my boyfriend, Greg for the fifth time in seven years that I love him, and had said I hugely admire you to a poet friend beset by his obscurity. Before our Tuesday graduation, I sent my mom an e-mail our mutually preferred form of communication and invited her on a trip to Charleston in October. She was thrilled. Three days after the Forum, I finally reached my mother by phone. I stammeringly told her that I love her (the second time Id said this to her as an adult). This excited her. I told her about the Forum; when she heard that wed spent a lot of time asking one another Whats possible now?, she enthused that she was going to start asking this at the dinner table at her retirement home; I refrained from pointing out that asking the elderly Whats possible now? might yield a frank discussion of motor skills. Two months after the Forum, Id rate my success at 84 percent. Im more prone to telling loved ones and colleagues, in person and without glibness, that I love or admire them. But I still operate from a base position that people are a lot of effort. I know in my heart that hell is other people. But now Im open to the possibility that heaven is, too. Click here to read full article.