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Goals
✔ To understand the Husband's Role as Christ's Wife
✔ To Implement Christ-likeness in life and marriage.
I. Introduction
A. Marriage is not a game
B. Review of Trinity
C. Developing a heart attitude, habit, and mindset that is Christ-like
D. Put off/Put on review
E. Reading review
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i. Loved sacrificially (v.25)
ii. Being sanctified in order to be presented to Christ holy and blameless (v.26-27)
C. We must learn to do for our wives what Christ does for us.
D. Since our wives are Christ's Bride as well, Christ is loving them in the same way.
• If you are married to a non-believer, then your goal is her salvation, through a
gentle witness.
ii. Being a good steward of the home and all the functions within it
iii. Vigilant to protect the wife from harm that may come through
• bad habits
• bad decisions
• bad teaching
• friends
• family
• media
• etc.
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iv. Gently, kindly, compassionately
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v. Understandingly 1Peter 3:7
Culturally:
Textually:
• Likes/dislikes
• Capabilities and limitations (physical, mental, skill)
• Her joys
• He challenges
• Her sorrows
• Her fears
• Her temptations
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• Her physical and spiritual needs
• What communicates love to her
• What communicates indifference or dislike to her
• What encourages her/discourages her
(from The Exemplary Husband, by Stuart Scott, pg. 203)
• honor- _____________________________
• Tell her what she means to you and how thankful to God you are for her.
• Tell her specific things you appreciate about her or what she does. Focus on
her character.
• Speak kindly to her-the way in which you want to be spoken.
• Do not speak to her or treat her in a condescending way.
• Only say things to her that will build her up to others and when the two of
you are with others.
• Do not say things that will belittle her to others or when the two of you are
with others. Derogatory jokes and sarcasm are almost always dishonoring.
• Do not treat her as a lowly servant, but serve her instead.
(from The Exemplary Husband, Stuart Scott, pg. 204)
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D. Provides for his wife (emulates God the Father) (1 Timothy 5:8)
ii. Spiritually
iii. Emotionally
iv. Practically
iii. Doing the dreaded (plunging toilets, cleaning hair out of drains, removing the dead
iv. Being focused on our wives' sanctification, rather than living as enjoyment-deprived.
“Thou hast seen the measure of obedience; now hear also the
measure of love. Do you wish your wife to obey you, as the Church is to
obey Christ? Then have a solicitude for her as Christ had for the Church
(Eph 5:23, “Himself the Saviour of the body”); and “if it be necessary to
give thy life for her, or to be cut in ten thousand pieces, or to endure any
other suffering whatever, do not refuse it; and if you suffer thus, not even
so do you do what Christ has done; for you indeed do so being already
united to her, but He did so for one that treated Him with aversion and
hatred.
As, therefore, He brought to His feet one that so treated Him, and
that even wantonly spurned Him, by much tenderness of regard, not by
threats, insults, and terror: so also do you act towards your wife, and
though you see her disdainful and wantonly wayward, you will be able to
bring her to your feet by much thoughtfulness for her, by love, by
kindness. For no bound is more sovereign in binding than such bonds,
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especially in the case of husband and wife.
For one may constrain a servant by fear, though not even he is so
to be bound to you; for he may readily run away. But the companion of
your life, the mother of your children, the basis of all your joy, you ought
to bind to you, not by fear and threats, but by love and attachment”
[CHRYSOSTOM]i
G. Daily sanctifies his wife (emulates God the Son, God the Holy Spirit) (Eph 5:26)
iii. Listening to her hurts, burdens, trials, etc. and applying the truth of scripture gently
H. Daily is affectionate and intimate (emulates God the Father, God the Son) (1 Cor 7:1-8)
a) builds intimacy
I. Submission to God (Emulates God the Son, God the Holy Spirit)
J. Glorifies God (Emulates God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit)
i. Jamieson, R., Fausset, A. R., Fausset, A. R., Brown, D., & Brown, D. (1997). A commentary, critical
and explanatory, on the Old and New Testaments. On spine: Critical and explanatory commentary.
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(Eph 5:25). Oak Harbor, WA: Logos Research Systems, Inc.
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