My Advi ce t o t he Women, Par t 1

- Umm Abdi l l aah al -Waadi eeyyah

My Advi ce t o t he Women, Part 1
By Umm Abdi l l aah al -Waadi eeyah



Int roduct i on by t he Shaykh, t he Al l aamah, Schol ar of Hadeet h, Muqbi l Ibn Haadee Al -
Waadi ee f ol l owed by an i nt roduct i on by t he Aut hor: Umm Abdi l l aah al -Waadi eeyah

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Shaykh s Int roduct i on

Al l pr ai se i s due t o Al l aah, Lor d of al l cr eat i on and may t he peace and bl essi ngs of
Al l aah be upon our t r ust wor t hy Pr ophet Muhammad, hi s f ami l y and hi s
compani ons. I t est i f y t hat none has t he r i ght t o be wor shi pped i n t r ut h except
Al l aah and I t est i f y t hat Muhammad i s Hi s Sl ave and Messenger .

To pr oceed:

Thi s i s a pi ece of advi ce (di r ect ed) t o t he women. It i s f ol l owed by a set of
quest i ons and answer s t hat wer e pr esent ed t o t he women, and t hey under t ook t he
t ask of answer i ng t hem. I chose, f r om t hat , one of t hei r r esponses so t hat i t coul d
be added t o (t he book) My advi ce t o t he women .

As f or t he book My advi ce t o t he women , t hen i t i s r el evant and i t i s especi al l y
appl i cabl e t o t he women of our l and, f or ver i l y t hei r l evel of under st andi ng and
knowl edge i s ext r emel y l ow.

The peopl e are t o be di vi ded i nt o t hree cat egori es when i t comes t o (deal i ng)
wi t h t he women:

1) Those who gi ve t hem f r ee r ei gn and al l ow t hem t o do as t hey pl ease. They al l ow
t hem t o t r avel wi t hout a mahr am, f r ee mi x i n t he school s, uni ver si t i es and t hei r
pl aces of wor k, whet her i t i s i n t he hospi t al s, of f i ces or ot her pl aces of wor l dl y
wor k; wher e t he af f ai r s of t he Musl i ms have t ur ned i nt o a st at e of chaos and
(bl at ant ) i mi t at i on of t he Eur opeans. And t o Al l aah we bel ong and t o Hi m we wi l l
r et ur n.

2) They ar e t hose who negl ect t he women and l eave t hem wi t hout any Isl ami c
educat i on. So he l eaves t hese women l i ke cat t l e, not knowi ng anyt hi ng t hat Al l aah
made obl i gat or y upon her . Consequent l y, she i s suscept i bl e and wi de- open t o t r i al s
and t r i bul at i on, t o opposi ng t he commands of Al l aah and even t o cor r upt i ng her
own f ami l y, and she wi l l (easi l y) r espond t o ever yone and anyone who scr eams t he
l oudest !

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3) The bal anced gr oup - Those who t ake t he r esponsi bi l i t y of educat i ng t he
women, wi t hi n t he boundar i es of t he Book and t he Sunnah, f ol l owi ng t he sayi ng of
Al l aah, The Mi ght y and Maj est i c:

O you who bel i eve! War d of f your sel ves and your f ami l i es f r om t he hel l f i r e
whose f uel i s men and st ones . At -Tahr eem (66): 6

It i s aut hent i cal l y r epor t ed i n t he Saheehayn
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upon t he aut hor i t y of Ibn Umar
(Radi ya Al l aahu anhu) t hat t he Messenger of Al l aah (Sal l a Al l aahu Al ayhi wa
sal l am) sai d:

Al l of you are Shepherds and you wi l l al l be quest i oned about your f l ock

The enemi es of Isl aam have a gr eat desi r e t o mi sgui de t he women wi t h t hei r f al se
pr opaganda. Tr ul y t o Al l aah we bel ong and t o Hi m we r et ur n. Based upon t hat , i t
i s a gr eat obl i gat i on upon t he woman t o advi se her si st er s, cal l t hem t o Al l aah and
war n t hem agai nst t hose mal e and f emal es who ar e t he cause of t hese t r i al s and
t r i bul at i ons, and l i kewi se who have been af f l i ct ed by t hem t oo. Hopef ul l y, she wi l l
f i l l t hi s r ol e wher e t her e i s a voi d.

However , as f or her ar r angi ng l ect ur es, wher e bot h men and women at t end
t oget her wi t h one anot her , t hen t hi s never occur r ed at t he t i me of t he Pr ophet
(Sal l a Al l aahu Al ayhi wa sal l am). Si mi l ar l y, she her sel f woul d not be saf e f r om t hi s
f i t nah. So t he har ms of t hese l ect ur es ar e gr eat er t han t hei r benef i t .

Wor se t han t hat , i s t o (choose) t o be a f emal e announcer . I don t know one f emal e
cal l er t o Al l aah f r om amongst t hi s t ype of peopl e. Rat her t hey ar e known t o be
cor r upt and spr ead cor r upt i on, f r eel y mi x wi t h t he si nf ul mal e announcer s and t o
beaut i f y t hei r f l i r t at i ous voi ces. May Al l aah sever t hei r t ongues and r el i eve t he
l ands and sl aves f r om t hei r l i kes.

It i s upon t he women t o st udy t he bi ogr aphy of t he Messenger of Al l aah (Sal l a
Al l aahu Al ayhi wa sal l am) and t he bi ogr aphy of t hose f emal e cal l er s who wer e
pr esent at t he t i me of t he Pr ophet (Sal l a Al l aahu Al ayhi wa sal l am). The l i kes of
Umm Sul ai m and t he ot her vi r t uous f emal e compani ons, and t hen f ol l ow t hei r
met hodol ogy; i f she t r ul y hopes f or Al l aah and t he Last Day.

We i nt ended by havi ng t he quest i ons and answer s (t owar ds t he end of t he book) t o
al l ow t he women t o gai n some exper i ence and t o r ef ut e t he peopl e of i nnovat i on.
Al so t o say t o t he i nnovat or s, "Our women, by t he Wi l l of Al l aah, wi l l soon r ef ut e
you and t hey, by t he Wi l l of Al l aah, have al r eady begun wr i t i ng a book i n quest i on
and answer f or m, cal l ed 'Iydaah Al -Maqaal f ee Ar-Radd 'al a Al -Mubt adi 'ah Ad-
Dul l aal '. May Al l aah make i t easy t o compl et e.

We say t o t he Shee ah who st r i ve t o busy us wi t h smal l pamphl et s, whi ch ar e f ul l
of i gnor ance, a war agai nst t he Sunnah and an at t empt t o chase t he peopl e away

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f r om i t , "Tr ead wi t h caut i on as by t he Wi l l of Al l aah you wi l l never obst r uct our
pat h, by t he Wi l l of Al l aah, our daught er s wi l l soon r ef ut e you.

As f or us, t hen al l pr ai se i s due t o Al l aah, we have al r eady br oken your backs
t hr ough our books: Ri yaadul Jannah f ee Ar-Radd Al a Adaa as Sunnah , Ash-
Shaf aa ah , Irshaad dhaw al -Fat n l i i b aad ghul aat Ar-Rawaaf i dh mi n al -yemen'
and 'al -i l haad al Khomei ni f ee ard al -haramayn .

Last l y, we ask Al l aah t hat He gr ant s success t o t he aut hor of t hi s advi ce and t he
quest i ons and answer s, i n al l owi ng her t o cont i nue upon t he pat h of seeki ng
benef i ci al knowl edge, enabl i ng her t o per f or m r i ght eous act i ons and cal l i ng t o
t hi s. Ver i l y He i s abl e t o do al l t hi ngs.

Af t er l ooki ng at what has been pr epar ed f or t he second pr i nt , I f ound t hat i t
cont ai ned benef i t s whi ch wer e ext r emel y val uabl e l i ke aut hent i cat i on and
weakeni ng (of ahaadeet h), pr ai se and di spar agement of nar r at or s and ot her
val uabl e (pi eces) of advi ce.
The peopl e r aced wi t h one anot her i n pur chasi ng t he f i r st edi t i on and I hope t hat
t he r ace wi l l be gr eat er f or t hi s edi t i on.

The aut hor of t he book i s Umm Abdi l l aah al -Waadi eeyyah. She i s f i r ml y gr ounded
i n many sci ences of t he r el i gi on, and she demonst r at es t he manner s of t he
Messenger of Al l aah (Sal l a Al l aahu Al ayhi wa sal l am). She i s di gni f i ed and
ext r emel y car ef ul i n pr eser vi ng her t i me. Due t o t hi s, Al l aah has bl essed her
act i vi t i es. She i s al ways keen t o benef i t her si st er s, and she wi l l t each a book unt i l
she compl et es t he whol e of i t and t hen moves on t o t he next book. She has a l ove
f or t he books of Aqeedah, Fi qh and Gr ammar .

Books she has aut hor ed:
My Advi ce t o t he women Pr i nt ed i n San aa - al l copi es have been sol d!
As-Saheeh al -musnad mi n ash-Shamaa i l al muhammadi yyah - Pr i nt ed
Al -Jaami as-Saheeh f i l i l m wa f adl i hi

At t hi s moment i n t i me, she i s wor ki ng on var i ous books. The best of t hem i s As-
Saheeh al -musnad mi n as-Seerah an-Nabawi yyah . ( In t hi s wor k), she r i gi dl y st i cks
t o t he aut hent i c ahaadeet h, unl i ke t hose who cl ai med t hat t hey onl y r el i ed upon
aut hent i c nar r at i ons when compi l i ng t he bi ogr aphy of t he Pr ophet (Sal l a Al l aahu
Al ayhi wa sal l am) and never f ul f i l l ed t hi s. We ask Al l aah t hat He makes i t easy f or
her t o f i ni sh t hi s amazi ng pr oj ect , whi ch t he peopl e f r equent l y ask about .

Al l pr ai se i s due t o Al l aah; Umm Abdi l l ah hat es hi zbi yyah and war ns agai nst i t . May
Al l aah r ewar d her wi t h good and r ect i f y her st at e and t he st at e of her chi l dr en.
Ver i l y He i s abl e t o do al l t hi ngs.





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Aut hor s Int roduct i on

Al l pr ai se i s due t o Al l aah, and t he peace and bl essi ngs be upon t he Messenger of
Al l aah. I t est i f y t hat none has t he r i ght t o be wor shi pped i n t r ut h except Al l aah
al one wi t hout any par t ner and I t est i f y t hat Muhammad i s hi s Sl ave and Messenger .

To pr oceed:

In f r ont of you i s a new pr i nt (i . e. of t he book My Advi ce t o t he Women ) whi ch I
pr esent t o my Musl i m si st er , hopi ng t hat Al l aah, The Mi ght y and Maj est i c, wi l l
al l ow you t o benef i t f r om i t .

I pr esent t o you t hi s book whi ch i s smal l i n si ze but i mpor t ant due t o t he advi ce
and gui dance i t cont ai ns, especi al l y as gi vi ng advi ce i s f r om t he way of t he
Messenger s.

Nooh ( Al ayhi sal aam) sai d t o hi s nat i on:

I convey unt o you t he Messages of my Lord and gi ve si ncere advi ce t o you.
And I know f rom Al l aah what you know not . (Al -A'raf 7: 62)

Hood ( Al ayhi sal aam) sai d:

I convey unt o you t he Messages of my Lord, and I am a t rust wort hy advi ser (or
wel l -wi sher) f or you. (Al -A'raf 7: 68)

Saal i h ( Al ayhi sal aam) sai d:

Then he [ Saal i h] t urned f rom t hem, and sai d: O my peopl e! I have i ndeed
conveyed t o you t he Message of my Lord, and have gi ven you good advi ce but
you l i ke not good advi sers. (Al -A'raf 7: 79)

Shu ayb ( Al ayhi sal aam) sai d:

Then he (Shu'ayb) t urned f rom t hem and sai d: O my peopl e! I have i ndeed
conveyed my Lord's Messages unt o you and I have gi ven you good advi ce. Then
how can I sorrow f or t he di sbel i evi ng peopl e's (dest ruct i on). (Al -A'raf 7: 93)







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Advi ce i s t he support i ng pi l l ar of t he rel i gi on

Ther e comes i n Saheeh Musl i m, wi t h a compl et el y connect ed chai n, and i n
Bukhaar i , i n Mu al aq f or m, upon t he aut hor i t y of Abu Ruqayyah Tameem ad-Daar ee
(Radi ya Al l aahu anhu) t hat t he Messenger of Al l aah (Sal l a Al l aahu Al ayhi wa
sal l am) sai d, The rel i gi on i s advi ce.
We sai d, To whom O Messenger of Al l aah?
He sai d, To Al l aah, Hi s Messenger , Hi s Book, t he l eader s of t he Musl i ms, and t he
common f ol k.

Jar eer Ibn Abdul l aah pl edged al l egi ance t o t he Pr ophet (Sal l a Al l aahu Al ayhi wa
sal l am) t hat he woul d per f or m t he pr ayer , gi ve zakaat and advi se each and ever y
Musl i m.
Thi s hadeet h i s r epor t ed by t he t wo Shaykhs (Bukhaar i and Musl i m) upon t he
aut hor i t y of Jar eer Ibn Abdul l aah.

When asked what i s consi der ed t o be t he most super i or of act i ons, Abdul l aah Ibn
Al -Mubaar ak r epl i ed, Of f er i ng advi ce f or t he sake of Al l aah. The r ef er ence f or
t hi s nar r at i on of Ibn Al - Mubaar ak i s f ound i n t he book Jaami Al - Ul oom wal
Hi kaam - page 80.

For t hi s r eason, I want ed t o put f or t h t hese pi eces of advi ce t o t hose who ar e
(consi der ed) my si st er s f or t he sake of Al l aah, especi al l y when i t was r equest ed of
me t o wr i t e about t he i ssues per t ai ni ng t o t he women and t hat whi ch i s speci f i c t o
t hem. (Whenever I was asked t hi s), my answer was al ways t hat Shaykh Must af a,
may Al l aah r ewar d hi m wi t h good, has al r eady t aken upon t hi s t ask so t her e i s no
need t o chase af t er t hat whi ch al r eady exi st s, as our mai n concer n i s t o ai d Isl aam.
My l at est wor k on t hi s book has been t o sl i ght l y expand and r evi se i t wher e
needed.

I ask Al l aah, The Mi ght y and Maj est i c, t hat He pl aces t hi s upon my scal e of good
deeds, and t hat He al l ows t hi s t o be benef i ci al . Al l pr ai se i s due t o Al l aah, Lor d of
al l t he cr eat i on.

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My Advi ce t o Women, Part 2

By Umm Abdi l l aah al -Waadi eeyah



Imaam al -Bukhaar i , may Al l aah have mer cy upon hi m, r epor t ed on t he aut hor i t y of
Umar ( Radi y Al l aahu Anhu) who sai d t hat t he Messenger of Al l aah ( Sal l a Al l aahu
Al ayhi wa sal l am) sai d,

Ver i l y, deeds ar e but by i nt ent i on and ever y per son wi l l r ecei ve what t hey
i nt ended. Thus, he whose mi gr at i on was f or Al l aah and Hi s Messenger , t hen hi s
mi gr at i on i s f or Al l aah and Hi s Messenger ; and he whose mi gr at i on was t o achi eve
some wor l dl y gai n or t o mar r y a woman, t hen hi s mi gr at i on i s f or t hat whi ch he
i nt ended.
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I advi se mysel f and you t o f ear Al l aah (At - Taqwa)
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, The Mi ght y and Maj est i c, i n
secr et and i n t he open, and t hat we per f or m act i ons pur el y seeki ng t he Gl or i ous
Face of Al l aah.

Addi t i onal l y, t hat we do not per f or m any act i on showi ng of f or boast i ng, and I
advi se t hat we hol d f i r ml y ont o our r el i gi on, f or we wi l l cer t ai nl y be hel d
account abl e bef or e Al l aah, The Mi ght y and Maj est i c.

In t he saheehayn t her e comes on t he aut hor i t y of Adee i bn Haat i m t hat he sai d
t hat t he Messenger of Al l aah (Sal l a Al l aahu Al ayhi wa sal l am) sai d,

Ther e i s not one of you except t hat hi s Lor d wi l l speak t o hi m and t her e wi l l not
be any t r ansl at or ( At - Tar j umaan)
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bet ween t hem. So he wi l l l ook t o hi s r i ght and
he wi l l not see except t hat whi ch he has pr epar ed; he wi l l l ook t o hi s l ef t and not
see except whi ch he has done and he wi l l l ook i n f r ont of hi m and he wi l l not see
except t he hel l f i r e i n f r ont of hi s f ace. Fear t he f i r e even i f i t be wi t h hal f a dat e.

And Al l aah, t he Mi ght y and Maj est i c, di d not cr eat e us i n pl ay. The Most Hi gh sai d:

Di d you t hi nk t hat We had creat ed you i n pl ay (wi t hout any purpose), and t hat
you woul d not be brought back t o Us?
(Al -Mu'mi noon 23: 115)

The Most Hi gh sai d:


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( Al - Fat h 1/ 135)
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An al l i ncl usi ve t er m t hat means t o obey Al l aah and Hi s Messenger .
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A per son t hat t r ansl at es f r om one l anguage t o anot her .
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We creat ed not t he heavens and t he eart h and al l t hat i s bet ween t hem except
wi t h t rut h, and f or an appoi nt ed t erm. But t hose who di sbel i eve t urn away
f rom t hat whereof t hey are warned.
(Al -Ahqaaf 46: 3)

Inst ead, He cr eat ed us f or a gr eat pur pose.

He, t he Most Hi gh sai d:

And I (Al l aah) creat ed not t he j i nn and manki nd except t hat t hey shoul d
worshi p Me (Al one).
(Adh-Dhaari yaat 51: 56)

Wor shi p l i ngui st i cal l y means: Submi ssi on and humi l i t y. And i t i s sai d (i n t he Ar abi c
l anguage): a pat h i s Mu abbad (l evel l ed or t r odden). Level l ed meani ng Mudhal l al
(r ender ed submi ssi ve).

Techni cal l y ( Isl ami cal l y) i t has been def i ned by Shaykhul - Isl aam i bn Taymi yyah as:
An al l i ncl usi ve word used f or everyt hi ng whi ch Al l aah l oves and i s pl eased
wi t h, f rom bot h sayi ngs and act i ons, apparent and hi dden.

It i s as i f we have been cr eat ed f or t hi s wor l dl y l i f e, t o eat , t o dr i nk and t o pl ay, as
we f ai l t o per f or m t hat whi ch Al l aah want s f r om us. Cont r ar y t o t hat , we r ush t o
t he opposi t e. So don t l et t hi s wor l dl y l i f e di ver t you, as a l i f espan i s ver y shor t .

Sur el y t he one who ut t er ed (t hese l i nes of poet r y) spoke t he t r ut h,

The l i f e span i s t oo shor t a per i od t o be wast ed i n cal cul at i on
Sei ze i t s hour s; f or i t passes wi t h t he passi ng of t he cl ouds.

Fur t her mor e, even t he wor l d i t sel f has a ver y shor t l i f espan as Al l aah, t he Most
Hi gh, sai d:

Know t hat t he l i f e of t hi s worl d i s onl y pl ay and amusement , pomp and mut ual
boast i ng among you, and ri val ry i n respect of weal t h and chi l dren, as t he
l i keness of veget at i on af t er rai n, t hereof t he growt h i s pl easi ng t o t he t i l l er;
af t erwards i t dri es up and you see i t t urni ng yel l ow; t hen i t becomes st raw. But
i n t he Hereaf t er (t here i s) a severe t orment (f or t he di sbel i evers, evi l -doers),
and (t here i s) Forgi veness f rom Al l aah and (Hi s) Good Pl easure (f or t he
bel i evers, good-doers), whereas t he l i f e of t hi s worl d i s onl y a decei vi ng
enj oyment .
(Al -Hadeed 57: 20)

He, t he Most Hi gh sai d:

And put f orward t o t hem t he exampl e of t he l i f e of t hi s worl d, i t i s l i ke t he
wat er (rai n) whi ch We send down f rom t he sky, and t he veget at i on of t he eart h
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mi ngl es wi t h i t , and becomes f resh and green. But (l at er) i t becomes dry and
broken pi eces, whi ch t he wi nds scat t er. And Al l aah i s Abl e t o do everyt hi ng.
(Al -Kahf 18: 45)

The Most Hi gh sai d:

Veri l y t he l i keness of (t hi s) worl dl y l i f e i s as t he wat er (rai n) whi ch We send
down f rom t he sky, so by i t ari ses t he i nt ermi ngl ed produce of t he eart h of
whi ch men and cat t l e eat unt i l when t he eart h i s cl ad wi t h i t s adornment s and
i s beaut i f i ed, and i t s peopl e t hi nk t hat t hey have al l t he powers of di sposal
over i t , Our Command reaches i t by ni ght or by day and We make i t l i ke a
cl ean-mown harvest , as i f i t had not f l ouri shed yest erday! Thus do We expl ai n
t he Ayt (proof s, evi dences, verses, l essons, si gns, revel at i ons, l aws, et c. ) i n
det ai l f or t he peopl e who ref l ect .
(Yunus 10: 24)

The Compani ons, may Al l aah be pl eased wi t h t hem, who had t he ut most zeal ( i n
aspi r i ng f or good), onl y asked f or par adi se and t hey di dn t desi r e anyt hi ng el se.

Imaam Al -Bukhaar i r epor t s on t he aut hor i t y of Abu Hur ai r ah (Radi y Al l aahu Anhu)
t hat he sai d,

An Ar ab Bedoui n came t o t he Pr ophet (Sal l a Al l aahu Al ayhi wa sal l am) and sai d,
Di r ect me t o somet hi ng t hat i f I per f or med i t , I woul d ent er Par adi se.
The Pr ophet ( Sal l a Al l aahu Al ayhi wa sal l am) r esponded, Wor shi p Al l aah and do
not associ at e anyt hi ng as a par t ner wi t h Hi m. Est abl i sh t he pr ayer , gi ve zakaat and
f ast Ramadhaan.
The Bedoui n sai d, By t he One Who my soul i s i n Hi s Hand I wi l l not i ncr ease upon
t hat .
So when t he Bedoui n depar t ed t he Pr ophet (Sal l a Al l aahu Al ayhi wa sal l am) sai d,
Whoever woul d be pl eased t o l ook at a man f r om t he peopl e of par adi se t hen
l ook at hi m.

Imaam Al -Bukhaar i r epor t s on t he aut hor i t y of Anas i bn Maal i k (Radi y Al l aahu
Anhu) t hat he sai d,

If t he Pr ophet ( Sal l a Al l aahu Al ayhi wa sal l am) went t o Qubaa he woul d vi si t
Umm Har am bi nt Mi l haan who used t o f eed hi m, and she was t he wi f e of Ubaadah
Ibn as- Saami t . He ent er ed upon her one day, so she f ed hi m and t hen t he
Messenger of Al l aah ( Sal l a Al l aahu Al ayhi wa sal l am) sl ept and t hen he woke up
whi l st l aughi ng. She sai d, What makes you l augh O Messenger of Al l aah?
He r esponded, A peopl e f r om my Ummah wer e shown t o me whi l st t hey wer e
upon a mi l i t ar y expedi t i on i n t he pat h of Al l aah. They wi l l r i de t he sur f ace of t he
sea l i ke ki ngs upon t hei r t hr ones.
So she sai d, Suppl i cat e t o Al l aah t hat He makes me f r om t he f i r st of t hem. He
r epl i ed, "You wi l l be f r om t he f i r st of t hem. "
She act ual l y di d t r avel t he sea and t hi s was at t he t i me of Mu'aawi yah. She f el l of f
her r i di ng beast when she was l eavi ng t he sea and di ed.
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Thi s was al so r epor t ed by Musl i m.

Regar di ng t he sayi ng of t he Pr ophet ( Sal l a Al l aahu Al ayhi wa sal l am) l i ke ki ngs
upon t hei r t hrones Al Haaf i dh i bn Haj r ( 11/ 87) sai d, Ibn Abdul Bar r sai d, He
i nt ended by t hi s, and Al l aah knows best , t hat he saw t hose who t r avel l ed t he sea
whi l st upon mi l i t ar y expedi t i ons as ki ngs upon t hr ones i n par adi se, and hi s vi si ons
ar e r evel at i on. Al l aah has sai d concer ni ng t he peopl e of par adi se: Faci ng each
ot her on t hr ones and Recl i ni ng on t hr ones
Al - Ar aa i k: Ar e t hr ones i nsi de canopi es.

Iyaad sai d, That ( expl anat i on) i s possi bl y ( cor r ect ). But anot her possi bi l i t y i s t hat
t hi s i s news about t hei r act ual st at e when t hey wer e upon a mi l i t ar y expedi t i on
due t o t hei r power , upr i ght ness, l ar ge number and gr eat qual i t y, as i f t hey wer e
ki ngs upon t hr ones.

I say ( Ibn Haj r ) : That t he l at t er expl anat i on i s f ar f et ched and t he f i r st seems
st r onger . End of quot e f r om Al -Fat h.

Abu Abdi r Rahmaan al -Waadi ee (Shaykh Muqbi l ) sai d, The expl anat i on ment i oned
by Iyaad i s cl oser ( t o t he t r ut h), as Umm Har am sai d l ast l y, Invoke Al l aah, O
Messenger of Al l aah, t hat I am f rom t hem . So he repl i ed: You wi l l be f rom t he
f i rst of t hem, and i t t ur ned out t hat she was act ual l y f r om t hem.

Imaam al -Bukhaar i r epor t ed i n (Al -Adab al Muf r ad pg. 177) upon t he aut hor i t y of
Abu Hur ai r ah t hat he sai d,

A f ever came t o t he Pr ophet ( Sal l a Al l aahu Al ayhi wa sal l am) and he sai d, Send
me t o t hose whom you choose and pr ef er f r om amongst your peopl e. So he sent i t
t o t he Ansaar and i t r emai ned wi t h t hem f or si x days and ni ght s unt i l i t became
unbear abl e upon t hem. So he vi si t ed t hei r dwel l i ng pl ace and t hey compl ai ned of
t hi s t o t he Pr ophet ( Sal l a Al l aahu Al ayhi wa sal l am) . So he vi si t ed t hei r houses one
by one, pl ace by pl ace, suppl i cat i ng f or t hem t o be cur ed. When he r et ur ned, one
of t hei r women f ol l owed hi m and sai d, 'By t he One Who sent you wi t h t he t r ut h,
ver i l y I am f r om t he Ansaar and my f at her i s f r om t he Ansaar . Suppl i cat e t o Al l aah
f or me l i ke you suppl i cat ed f or t he Ansaar . '
So t he Pr ophet (Sal l a Al l aahu Al ayhi wa sal l am) sai d, 'What woul d you l i ke bet t er ?
If you choose, I wi l l suppl i cat e t o Al l aah t hat He cur es you or i f you choose t o have
pat i ence, t hen f or you i s par adi se. '
She r esponded, I wi l l def i ni t el y have pat i ence as I do not want t o j eopar di se
par adi se. '
Thi s hadeet h i s aut hent i c as i s ment i oned i n as Saheeh al - Musnad 2/ 396.

The at t i t ude of t he compani ons was mar vel l ous. They t ol er at ed t hese si cknesses
and hunger , and t hey f aced t he di sbel i ever s wi t h t hei r swor ds, al l t hi s whi l st
covet i ng t he r ewar d, bount y and par adi se.

We compl ai n t o Al l aah about our st at e, as t he mat t er of pr epar i ng f or t he
her eaf t er and bei ng ser i ous about i t i s somet hi ng r ar e amongst many of t he men,
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never mi nd t he women, except f or t hose who My Lor d has mer cy upon. Ver i l y He i s
The Al l -Mi ght y, The Most Mer ci f ul .

Mor eover , exer t i ng ef f or t and st r i vi ng cer t ai nl y l eads t o t he st r ai ght pat h whi ch
has no cr ookedness.

The Most Hi gh sai d:

As f or t hose who st ri ve hard i n Us (Our Cause), We wi l l surel y gui de t hem t o
Our Pat hs (i . e. Al l aah's Rel i gi on - Isl ami c Monot hei sm). And veri l y, Al l aah i s wi t h
t he Muhsi nn (good doers). "
(Al -'Ankabut 29: 69)

And Al l aah, t he Most Hi gh commanded us:

And st ri ve hard i n Al l aah's Cause as you ought t o st ri ve (wi t h si nceri t y and wi t h
al l your ef f ort s t hat Hi s Name shoul d be superi or).
(Al -Haj j 22: 78)

The Pr ophet ( Sal l a Al l aahu Al ayhi wa sal l am) sai d, as i s r epor t ed i n Saheeh Musl i m
upon t he aut hor i t y of Abu Hur ai r ah,

St r i ve f or t hat whi ch benef i t s you, seek ai d f r om Al l aah and do not be weak.
Hi s sayi ng: St ri ve f or t hat whi ch benef i t s you, i . e. t hat whi ch benef i t s you i n
your wor l dl y l i f e and your her eaf t er .

Hi s sayi ng: And do not be weak i s a pr ohi bi t i on of bei ng weak, even t hough
weakness i s l esser t hen l azi ness as somet i mes weakness coul d be t he r esul t of an
i l l ness or ol d age or t hat whi ch r esembl es t hi s.
In opposi t i on t o l azi ness f or i t i s di spr ai se- wor t hy at al l t i mes.
Lazi ness i s t he opposi t e of l i vel i ness. The Pr ophet (Sal l a Al l aahu Al ayhi wa sal l am)
used t o seek r ef uge wi t h Al l aah f r om l azi ness as he used t o say,

O Al l aah, I seek r ef uge wi t h you f r om weakness and l azi ness

Ther ef or e, t he one who has l ost i n t hi s wor l d i s t he one whom Al l aah has bl essed
wi t h heal t h and spar e t i me, and he has f ai l ed t o make t he most of t hem i n t hat
whi ch woul d benef i t hi m.

Imam Al -Bukhaar i r epor t s upon t he aut hor i t y of Ibn Abbaas t hat he sai d t hat t he
Pr ophet ( Sal l a Al l aahu Al ayhi wa sal l am) sai d,

Two bl essi ngs ar e l ost by t he maj or i t y of t he peopl e, t hei r heal t h and spar e
t i me.

The soul i s i n one of t wo condi t i ons:
It i s busy obeyi ng Al l aah.
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It occupi es a per son, because i f i t i s not pr eoccupi ed i t wi l l occupy, but i f i t f i nds
someone t o at t end t o i t pr oper l y, t hen i t wi l l be upr i ght .

The poet sai d,

Yout h, f r ee t i me and madness r ui n a per son i n t he wor se way.

Thus, pr eser ve your t i me and f i l l i t wi t h al l t he good possi bl e, as i t i s t he most
pr eci ous of your weal t h; especi al l y bef or e you gi ve bi r t h because at t hat poi nt
your f r ee t i me wi l l be gr eat est . Thi s i s i n opposi t i on t o t he one who has chi l dr en,
because her t i me i s t aken up. And Al l aah s Ai d i s sought .

I br i ng t hi s t opi c t o a cl ose wi t h t he sayi ng of t he poet ,

Ti me i s t he most pr eci ous t hi ng t hat you coul d be anxi ous t o pr eser ve
And I bel i eve i t s t he easi est t hi ng t o escape you.

And anot her poet sai d,

Pur sue ( your goal s) and do not be annoyed at t he ( di f f i cul t y encount er ed al ong
t he way)
The ( hopes) of t he pur suer ar e r ui ned i f t hey happen t o l ose hear t
Haven t you seen how t he f r equent r ubbi ng of t he r ope has l ef t i t s mar k upon t he
sol i d r ock?

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Preserving The Tongue Is From The Perfection
Of Ones Islaam
My Advi ce To The Women, Part 3

By Umm Abdillaah al-Waadieeyyah


Bukhaar i r epor t s (1/ 53) and Musl i m (1/ 15), t he wor di ng i s t hat of Bukhaar i , upon
t he aut hor i t y of Abdul l aah Ibn Amr Ibn Al - Aas t hat t he Pr ophet (Sal l a Al l aahu
Al ayhi wa sal l am) sai d, The Musl i m i s t he one who t he Musl i ms ar e saf e f r om hi s
t ongue and hand.

Hi s (Sal l a Al l aahu Al ayhi wa sal l am) sayi ng: Musl i ms :
Al Haaf i dh (Ibn Haj r ) comment i ng upon t hi s i n Fat hul Baar ee , sai d,
Not e (i n t hi s sent ence) t he wor d Musl i ms has been used t o i ndi cat e t he
over whel mi ng r el evancy because t he Musl i m r ef r ai ni ng f r om har mi ng hi s Musl i m
br ot her i s t o be st r essed mor e emphat i cal l y, as t he di sbel i ever s at t hat t i me wer e
bei ng f ought , even t hough amongst t hem wer e t hose whom i t was obl i gat or y t o
hol d back f r om. Al so, i t has been ment i oned i n mascul i ne pl ur al f or m hi ghl i ght i ng
t he most pr obabl e (scenar i o); f or i ndeed t he women ar e i ncl uded i n t hi s.

The t ongue was speci f i cal l y ment i oned because i t expr esses what a per son t hi nks
i n onesel f and t he hand because i t car r i es out most act i ons.
Thi s hadeet h i s mor e gener al when i t per t ai ns t o t he t ongue wi t h t he excl usi on of
t he hand, because i t s possi bl e f or t he t ongue t o speak about t hose i n t he past ,
t he pr esent and t he f ut ur e, i n opposi t i on t o t he hand. Yes, i t s possi bl e t hat t he
hand coul d par t i ci pat e wi t h t he t ongue t hr ough wr i t i ng, and t he ef f ect of t hi s i s
def i ni t el y somet hi ng gr eat .
Del i ver i ng t he necessar y beat s wi t h t he hand, when est abl i shi ng pr escr i bed
puni shment s and di sci pl i ni ng a Musl i m who deser ves t hi s, l egi sl at i vel y, i s not
consi der ed t o be (har mi ng a Musl i m wi t h t he hand). End of quot e.

Ther ef or e, by guar di ng t he t ongue f r om sl i ppi ng (a per son can obt ai n) t he r ewar d
t hat Al l aah gi ves t o Hi s sl aves, i n t hat He wi l l di r ect t hem t o r i ght eousness and
f or gi veness of t hei r si ns.

O you who believe! Keep your duty to Allh and fear Him, and speak (always)
the truth. He will direct you to do righteous good deeds and will forgive you
your sins. And whosoever obeys Allh and His Messenger he has indeed
achieved a great achievement (i.e. he will be saved from the Hell-fire and
made to enter Paradise).
Soorah Al-Ahzaab (33):70-71

Hi s sayi ng, (The Mi ght y and The Maj est i c): speak (always) the truth, Ibn Kat heer
sai d comment i ng upon t hi s:
Meani ng: (speech) t hat i s sound, cont ai ni ng no cr ookedness and no di st or t i on.
Al l aah pr omi sed t hem i f t hey wer e t o do t hi s He woul d r ewar d t hem by r ect i f yi ng
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t hei r act i ons. Thi s means t hat He woul d f or gi ve t hei r past si ns; and i f anyt hi ng
occur s f r om t hem i n t he f ut ur e He wi l l i nspi r e t hem t o r epent .

He, t he Most Hi gh, sai d:

Not a saying (qawl) does he (or she) utter, but there is a watcher by him ready
(to record it).
Soorah Qaaf (50):18

The wor d 'Qawl ( i n t hi s ver se) i s i n t he i ndef i ni t e f or m; and when an i ndef i ni t e
wor d comes i n t he cour se of a negat i on i t conveys a gener al and al l - i ncl usi ve
meani ng. On t op of t hat , i f t he wor d mi n comes bef or e i t , i t i s even gr eat er i n
gener al i t y.

Some of t he schol ar s st at ed:
None of t he act i ons ar e r ecor ded unl ess t hey war r ant a r ewar d or a puni shment ,
and t hi s i s because t her e i s an omi ssi on of wor ds whi ch has been i mpl i ed (i n
meani ng). Ther ef or e, i t means: Not a wor d does he ut t er t hat i s wor t hy of
deser vi ng r ecompense.

The base r ul e i s t hat t her e i s no omi ssi on. So t he ver se i s t o be under st ood wi t h i t s
appar ent meani ng, i n t hat i t i s gener al and appl i es t o al l ki nds of speech.
Ref er t o Adwaa al -Bayaan (7/ 651):

Many of t he women t oday move t hei r t ongues l oosel y when speaki ng, as i f she
doesn t know t hat she wi l l be br ought t o account f or her act i ons and speech. If
t hey (act i ons and speech) wer e evi l , t hen she wi l l be r ewar ded wi t h evi l . If t hey
(act i ons and speech) wer e good, t hen she wi l l be r ewar ded wi t h good.

Al Haaki m r epor t s i n hi s book Al Must adr ak upon t he aut hor i t y of Ubaadah Ibn
As-Saami t (Radi y Al l aahu anhu) t hat t he Pr ophet (Sal l a Al l aahu Al ayhi wa sal l am)
poi nt ed t o hi s mout h and sai d:
Si l ence br i ngs not hi ng but good.
Mu aadh (Radi y Al l aahu anhu) sai d t o hi m: Wi l l we be hel d t o account f or t hat
whi ch we speak wi t h our t ongues?
The Pr ophet (Sal l a Al l aahu Al ayhi wa sal l am) (upon hear i ng t hi s) hi t Mu aadh s
t hi gh and sai d, O Mu aadh! May your mot her be ber eaved of you, or he sai d:
"Maasha Al l aah, " t hat he sai d t hi s t o hi m.
He ( Sal l a Al l aahu Al ayhi wa sal l am) sai d: Is t her e anyt hi ng t hat causes t he peopl e
t o be dr agged on t hei r nose t o t he Hel l f i r e except t hat whi ch t hei r t ongues
ut t er ed? So he who bel i eves i n Al l aah and t he Last Day t hen l et hi m speak good or
r emai n si l ent ( r ef r ai n f r om evi l speech) . Speak good - you wi l l benef i t ; r emai n
si l ent - you wi l l be saf e.

Thi s hadeet h i s aut hent i c, as ment i oned i n As Saheeh al Musnad . ( 1/ 400)

Al l aah sai d:

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So whosoever does good equal to the weight of an atom (or a small ant), shall
see it. And whosoever does evil equal to the weight of an atom (or a small ant),
shall see it.
Soorah Az-Zalzalah (99):7-8

Al so, speech i s consi der ed t o be par t one s act i ons.
Al l aah, t he Most Hi gh, sai d:

And say (O Muhammad) "Do deeds! Allh will see your deeds, and (so will) His
Messenger and the believers. And you will be brought back to the All-Knower of
the unseen and the seen. Then He will inform you of what you used to do."
Soorah At-Tawbah (9):105

Umar Ibn Abdul Azeez sai d, as i s r epor t ed i n Jaami al -Ul oom of Ibn Raj ab page
114:
Whoever r ecogni ses t hat hi s speech i s par t of hi s act i ons woul d speak l i t t l e, and
onl y i n t hat whi ch concer ns hi m.

So congr at ul at i ons ar e i n or der f or t he one who f i l l s hi s Recor d wi t h good and
r i ght eous act i ons, and mi ser y t o t he one who f i l l s hi s Book wi t h wor t hl ess speech
and evi l act i ons.

He, t he Most Hi gh, sai d:

Then as for him who will be given his Record in his right hand, he will say:
"Take, read my Record! Surely, I did believe that I shall meet my Account!" So
he shall be in a life, well-pleasing. In a lofty Paradise, the fruits in bunches
whereof will be low and near at hand. Eat and drink at ease for that which you
have sent on before you in days past!
Soorah Al-Haqqah (69):19-24

And He, t he Most Hi gh, sai d:

But as for him who will be given his Record in his left hand will say: "I wish that
I had not been given my Record! And that I had never known how my Account
is? I wish, would that it had been my end (death)! My wealth has not availed
me, my power and arguments (to defend myself) have gone from me!" (It will
be said): "Seize him and fetter him, then throw him in the blazing Fire. Then
fasten him with a chain whereof the length is seventy cubits!" Verily, He used
not to believe in Allh, the Most Great, And urged not on the feeding of
AlMiskn (the poor), So no friend has he here this Day, nor any food except
filth from the washing of wounds, none will eat except the Khti'n (sinners,
disbelievers, polytheists, etc.).
Soorah Al-Haqqah (69):25-37

(Bear i ng t hat i n mi nd) whi ch of t he t wo gr oups do you want t o be f r om?
Ther e i s no doubt t hat you wi l l r epl y, "I wi sh t o be f r om t he Peopl e of Par adi se.
Ther ef or e, don t al l ow your t ongue t o br i ng your dest r uct i on.
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The f act t hat act i ons ar e r ecor ded does not mean t hat i f t hey wer e not r ecor ded
t hat Al l aah woul d not know about t hem; f or ver i l y not hi ng i s hi dden f r om Al l aah.

As Al l aah, t he Most Hi gh, sai d:

And with Him are the keys of the Ghaib (all that is hidden), none knows them
but He. And He knows whatever there is in (or on) the earth and in the sea; not
a leaf falls, but he knows it. There is not a grain in the darkness of the earth
nor anything fresh or dry, but is written in a Clear Record.
Soorah Al-An'aam (6):59

But t he r ecor di ng of t he deeds i s mor e emphat i c i n est abl i shi ng t he pr oof upon t he
chi l dr en of Aadam.
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- Umm ' Abdi l l aah al -Waadi ' eeyyah

The Evi l s of t he Tongue
My Advi ce To The Women, Part 4


By Umm Abdi l l aah al -Waadi eeyyyah



1. Backbi t i ng

The def i ni t i on of backbi t i ng has been cl ear l y expl ai ned i n t he hadeet h r epor t ed by
Musl i m ( 4/ 2001) upon t he aut hor i t y of Aboo Hur ai r ah t hat t he Messenger of Al l aah
(Sal l a Al l aahu Al ayhi wa sal l am) sai d:
Do you know what backbi t i ng i s?
They sai d: Al l aah and Hi s Messenger know best .
He sai d: Ment i oni ng your br ot her wi t h t hat whi ch he di sl i kes.
It was sai d t o t he Pr ophet (Sal l a Al l aahu Al ayhi wa sal l am): Even i f what I
ment i on about my br ot her i s t r ue?
He (Sal l a Al l aahu Al ayhi wa sal l am) sai d: If what you have sai d concer ni ng hi m i s
t r ue, t hen sur el y you have backbi t t en hi m; and i f what you sai d i sn t t r ue, t hen
sur el y you have sl ander ed hi m.

As f or hi s st at ement : You have sl andered hi m.
An-Nawawi (comment i ng upon t hi s i n) (Shar h Musl i m 16/ 142) , sai d: The Haa i s t o
be pr onounced l i ght l y, and i t t akes a f at hah. It means: t hat whi ch you have sai d
about hi m was sl ander , and t hi s i s because i t was f al se.

Backbi t i ng i s Har aam (i mper mi ssi bl e), whet her i t i s i n smal l or gr eat
mount s:

It i s r epor t ed i n t he Sunan of Aboo Daawood upon t he aut hor i t y of Aa i shah t hat
she sai d:
O Messenger of Al l aah, i t suf f i ces you t hat Saf i yyah i s such and such.
One of t he nar r at or s sai d: She meant t hat she i s a woman of shor t st at ur e. So t he
Pr ophet (Sal l a Al l aahu Al ayhi wa sal l am) sai d: You have spoken a wor d t hat i f i t
wer e mi xed wi t h t he sea, i t woul d pol l ut e i t .

It i s r epor t ed i n t he Saheehayn ( Bukhaar i and Musl i m) on t he aut hor i t y of Aboo
Bakr ah who sai d t hat t he Pr ophet ( Sal l a Al l aahu Al ayhi wa sal l am) sai d:
Ver i l y your bl ood and weal t h i s sacr ed j ust l i ke t he sanct i t y of t hi s day, i n t hi s
mont h of your s, i n t hi s l and of your s.

Ther e comes i n t he Sunan of At - Ti r mi dhee upon t he aut hor i t y of Ibn Umar t hat he
sai d:
The Messenger of Al l aah (Sal l a Al l aahu Al ayhi wa sal l am) ascended t he pul pi t ,
and shout ed out i n a l oud voi ce: O peopl e who have bel i eved wi t h t hei r t ongue
but Eemaan has not r eached t hei r hear t s! Do not har m t he Musl i ms, do not r evi l e
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t hem and do not r eveal t hei r f aul t s. For sur el y, t he one who f ol l ows t he f aul t s of
hi s Musl i m br ot her , Al l aah wi l l f ol l ow hi s f aul t s; and i f Al l aah was t o f ol l ow hi s
f aul t s, t hen He wi l l expose hi m even i f he was hi dden i n t he deepest par t of hi s
house.
Thi s hadeet h i s f ound i n Saheeh al -Musnad 1/ 508

It i s r epor t ed i n Sunan Aboo Daawood upon t he aut hor i t y of Anas Ibn Maal i k who
sai d: The Messenger of Al l aah (Sal l a Al l aahu Al ayhi wa sal l am) sai d:
Dur i ng t he Mi ` r aaj (t he Ni ght of Ascensi on), I saw a gr oup of peopl e who wer e
scr at chi ng t hei r chest s and f aces wi t h t hei r copper nai l s. I asked, ` Who ar e t hese
peopl e, O Ji br eel ?'
Ji br eel r epl i ed: ` These ar e t he peopl e who at e t he f l esh of ot her s ( by backbi t i ng)
and t r ampl ed upon peopl e's honour .
Thi s hadeet h i s aut hent i c.

Al Haaf i dh Ibn Kat heer sai d i n hi s t af seer (4/ 215):

Backbi t i ng i s i mper mi ssi bl e by unani mous agr eement . The onl y except i on t o t hi s
i s t hat speech whi ch car r i es a gr eat er over al l benef i t , as i s t he case wi t h al -Jar h
wa Ta deel ( r ecommendat i on and di spar agement ) and si ncer e advi ce. An exampl e
of t hi s i s t he sayi ng of t he Pr ophet (Sal l a Al l aahu Al ayhi wa sal l am), at a t i me
when a si nf ul i ndi vi dual sought per mi ssi on t o ent er : Let hi m ent er , what an evi l
man i s t he br ot her of t hi s cl an.
Al so t he sayi ng of t he Pr ophet (Sal l a Al l aahu Al ayhi wa sal l am) t o Faat i mah bi nt
Qai s, when Mu aawi yah and Aboo Jahm sought her hand i n mar r i age: As f or
Mu aawi yah t hen he i s poor , and as f or Aboo Jahm t hen he i s ver y har d on t he
women.
Addi t i onal l y, t hose cases t hat ar e si mi l ar t o t hi s, but apar t f r om t hem, al l t he
ot her t ypes of backbi t i ng ar e sever el y pr ohi bi t ed. End of quot e.

I say: These cases t hat ar e not deemed t o be backbi t i ng have been col l ect ed i n t he
st at ement of t he poet :
Di sprai si ng i s not backbi t i ng i n si x cases
When voi ci ng a gri evance
Descri bi ng and warni ng
Speaki ng about t he one who openl y si ns
For t he one who seeks a rel i gi ous f at wa
And when seeki ng ai d i n removi ng an evi l
The r ef er ence poi nt f or t he t wo l i nes of poet r y i s (Subul As-Sal aam 1084)

The schol ar s have di f f er ed over whet her or not backbi t i ng i s count ed as bei ng f r om
amongst t he maj or si ns.
Al Qur t ubi has conveyed t hat t her e i s a unani mous consensus t hat i t i s f r om t he
maj or si ns.
However , t hi s cl ai m of a unani mous agr eement i s i ncor r ect , as Ibn Haj r ment i oned
t hat t he aut hor of Ar -Rawdah and Ar Raf aa ee bot h have st at ed t hat
backbi t i ng i s f r om t he mi nor si ns.

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Never t hel ess, t he evi dences suppor t t he (st ance) t hat backbi t i ng i s amongst t he
maj or si ns. It i s r epor t ed i n Sunan Aboo Daawood upon t he aut hor i t y of Sa eed Ibn
Zayd t hat t he Pr ophet (Sal l a Al l aahu Al ayhi wa sal l am) sai d:
Fr om t he wor st t ypes of usur y i s vi ol at i ng t he honour of a Musl i m wi t hout any
r i ght
Thi s hadeet h i s aut hent i c and i s ment i oned i n As Saheeh Al Musnad (1/ 313).

And i t i s r epor t ed i n Sunan Aboo Daawood upon t he aut hor i t y of Anas Ibn Maal i k
t hat t he Pr ophet (Sal l a Al l aahu Al ayhi wa sal l am) sai d:
Dur i ng t he Mi ` r aaj (t he Ni ght of Ascensi on), I saw a gr oup of peopl e who wer e
scr at chi ng t hei r chest s and f aces wi t h t hei r copper nai l s. I asked, ` Who ar e t hese
peopl e, O Ji br eel ?'
Ji br eel r epl i ed: ` These ar e t he peopl e who at e t he f l esh of ot her s ( by backbi t i ng)
and t r ampl ed upon peopl e's honour .
Thi s hadeet h has been ment i oned ear l i er .

Al l aah says:

Nei t her backbi t e one anot her. Woul d one of you l i ke t o eat t he f l esh of hi s
dead brot her? You woul d hat e i t (so hat e backbi t i ng). And f ear Al l h. Veri l y,
Al l h i s t he One Who accept s repent ance, Most Merci f ul .
Soorah Al -Huj uraat (49): 12

Ref er t o Al Fat h ( 10/ 470) and Subul as Sal aam ( no. 1073)

Is i t backbi t i ng onl y i n t he absence of t he i ndi vi dual ?

That whi ch i s appar ent f r om hi s sayi ng (Sal l a Al l aahu Al ayhi wa sal l am):
Ment i oni ng your brot her wi t h t hat whi ch he di sl i kes appl i es t o ment i oni ng hi m
i n hi s pr esence and hi s absence; but al Haaf i dh Ibn Haj r sai d:
The st r ongest posi t i on i s t hat backbi t i ng i s speci f i c t o when t he i ndi vi dual i s
absent . Thi s i s i n compl i ance wi t h t he der i vat i on of t hi s wor d f r om i t s r oot . Thi s i s
what t he schol ar s of t he Ar abi c l anguage f i r ml y st at e.

He went on t o say:
Yes, ment i oni ng t hat whi ch a per son di sl i kes i n hi s pr esence i s i mper mi ssi bl e
because t hi s i s consi der ed an i nsul t and abuse. End of hi s wor ds.

In our t i me, backbi t i ng has become t he enj oyment of many women, except f or
t hose whom Al l aah has mer cy upon.
Hence, i t i s obl i gat or y upon us t hat we submi t t o what our Lor d has l egi sl at ed.

He sai d:

It i s not f or a bel i ever, man or woman, when Al l h and Hi s Messenger have
decreed a mat t er, t hat t hey shoul d have any opt i on i n t hei r deci si on. And
whoever di sobeys Al l h and Hi s Messenger, he has i ndeed st rayed i n a pl ai n
error.
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Soorah Al -Ahzaab(33): 36

He sai d:

The onl y sayi ng of t he f ai t hf ul bel i evers, when t hey are cal l ed t o Al l h (Hi s
Words, t he Qur'n) and Hi s Messenger (Sal l al l aahu al ayhi wa sal l am), t o j udge
bet ween t hem, i s t hat t hey say: "We hear and we obey. " And such are t he
prosperous ones (who wi l l l i ve f orever i n Paradi se). And whosoever obeys Al l h
and Hi s Messenger (Sal l al l aahu al ayhi wa sal l am), f ears Al l h, and keeps hi s
dut y (t o Hi m), such are t he successf ul ones. Soorah an-Noor(24): 51-52

He sai d:

But no, by your Lord, t hey can have no Fai t h, unt i l t hey make you (O
Muhammad (Sal l al l aahu al ayhi wa sal l am)) j udge i n al l di sput es bet ween t hem,
and f i nd i n t hemsel ves no resi st ance agai nst your deci si ons, and accept (t hem)
wi t h f ul l submi ssi on. Soorah An-Ni sa(4): 65

And He Sai d:

Say (O Muhammad (Sal l al l aahu al ayhi wa sal l am)) t o t hese i dol at ers (pagan
Arabs) of your f ol k] : Fol l ow what has been sent down unt o you f rom your Lord
(t he Qur'n and Prophet Muhammad's Sunnah), and f ol l ow not any Aul i y'
(prot ect ors and hel pers, et c. who order you t o associ at e part ners i n worshi p
wi t h Al l h), besi des Hi m (Al l h). Li t t l e do you remember! Soorah Al -A raaf (7): 3

And He Sai d:

And what soever t he Messenger (Muhammad (Sal l al l aahu al ayhi wa sal l am)) gi ves
you, t ake i t , and what soever he f orbi ds you, abst ai n (f rom i t ), and f ear Al l h.
Veri l y, Al l h i s Severe i n puni shment . Soorah Al - Hashr (59): 7

Let us not r esembl e t he Peopl e of t he Book by sayi ng: We hear and we di sobey
r at her , l et us say: "We hear and we obey.
( If you want ) mor e evi dences about t he obl i gat i on of st i cki ng t o t he Isl ami c
l egi sl at i on, t hen l ook at t he book Al It i saam aut hor ed by Ash-Shaat i bee- may
Al l aah have mer cy upon hi m.

So t hi s i ssue of backbi t i ng i s a ver y danger ous subj ect i ndeed, as a per son mi ght
f al l i nt o i t wi t hout even bei ng awar e.
So be car ef ul ! And i t i s upon you t o r epent t o Al l aah f r om t hi s act .

The Way t o Repent f r om Backbi t i ng

Ibnul Qayyi m sai d i n hi s book Al - Wabi l As- Sayyi b pg. 113:
It i s ment i oned t hat t he Pr ophet ( Sal l a Al l aahu Al ayhi wa sal l am) sai d:
The expi at i on f or backbi t i ng i s t o seek f or gi veness f or t he per son you have
backbi t t en, and say: O Al l aah, f or gi ve us and hi m.
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Al Bayhaqi r el at es t hi s hadeet h i n Ad Da waat Al Kabeer , and he st at es t hat t her e
i s a weakness i n t he chai n of nar r at or s.

The schol ar s have t wo opi ni ons on t hi s i ssue (i . e. t he way t o r epent f r om
backbi t i ng); and t hese t wo opi ni ons have been nar r at ed upon Imaam Ahmad.

They ar e:
Is i t suf f i ci ent t o r epent f r om backbi t i ng by seeki ng f or gi veness f or t he one who
has been backbi t t en?
Or i s i t mandat or y t o i nf or m hi m and seek hi s par don?

The cor r ect posi t i on i s t hat t her e i s no need t o i nf or m hi m (i . e. t he one who has
been backbi t t en). It i s suf f i ci ent t o seek f or gi veness and t o ment i on hi m wi t h good
i n t he pl aces wher e you have backbi t t en hi m. Thi s i s what Shaykhul Isl aam Ibn
Taymi yyah and ot her s hel d t o be t he st r ongest opi ni on.

Those who have sai d i t i s necessar y t o i nf or m hi m, hol d backbi t i ng t o be si mi l ar t o
t he r i ght s t hat a per son has when i t r el at es t o t hei r weal t h, but t he di f f er ence
bet ween t hem i s obvi ous. As f or t he r i ght s r el at ed t o a per son s weal t h, t hen t hi s
i s because t he oppr essed benef i t s when t hat whi ch has been wr ongf ul l y t aken f r om
hi m i s r et ur ned. If he chooses he can t ake i t or i f he chooses he can gi ve i t as
char i t y.

When i t comes t o backbi t i ng t hi s i sn t possi bl e, as not hi ng r esul t s f r om i nf or mi ng
t he one who has been backbi t t en, except (an out come) t hat i s cont r ar y t o t hat
what has been i nt ended by t he l egi sl at or . For sur el y t he one who has been
backbi t t en wi l l har bour t hi s i n hi s chest . He wi l l be har med when he hear s about
what he has been accused of . Thi s coul d possi bl y i nci t e enmi t y bet ween t hem,
whi ch woul d never be r esol ved. Anyt hi ng t hat coul d l ead t o t hi s, t hen t her e i s no
doubt t hat t he wi se l egi sl at or woul d not al l ow i t or make i t per mi ssi bl e, l et al one
make i t an obl i gat i on or command i t .

The Shar ee ah r evol ves ar ound st oppi ng har ms and l i mi t i ng t hem, not causi ng and
addi ng t o t hem. And Al l aah knows best . End of hi s wor ds-may Al l aah have mer cy
upon hi m.

Ther e i s not hi ng t hat coul d be added t o t he wor ds of Ibnul Qayyi m f or he has
spoken excel l ent l y and ski l f ul l y.

(For f ur t her i nf or mat i on) r ef er back t o Taf seer Ibn Kat heer wher e he expl ai ns t he
Sayi ng of Al l aah: Do not backbi t e one anot her.

Al so, r ef er t o As Si l si l at ul Ad- Da eef ah ( 4/ 1519) f or f ur t her det ai l s about t he
chai n of nar r at i on f or t he hadeet h:
The expi at i on f or backbi t i ng i s t o seek f or gi veness f or t he one you have
backbi t t en.

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I wi l l cl ose t he subj ect of backbi t i ng wi t h t he sayi ng of Al -Qaht aanee i n hi s
Nooni yyah pg. 39:

Do not busy your sel f wi t h (f i ndi ng t he) f aul t s of ot her s
Whi l st f or get t i ng your own f aul t s
Ver i l y t hese ar e t wo def ect i ve qual i t i es

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My Advi ce To The Women, Part 5


By Umm Abdi l l aah al -Waadi eeyyah



A l i e i s t hat whi ch opposes, and i s at var i ance wi t h act ual r eal i t y.

Al l aah, t he Mi ght y and Maj est i c, sai d:

It i s onl y t hose who bel i eve not i n t he Aayt (proof s, evi dences, verses,
l essons, si gns, revel at i ons, et c. ) of Al l h, who f abri cat e f al sehood, and i t i s
t hey who are l i ars.
Soorah An-Nahl (16): 105


Lyi ng i s f r om t he si gns of t he hypocr i t e

Lyi ng i s f r om t he si gns of t he hypocr i t e as i s r epor t ed i n t he Saheehayn upon t he
aut hor i t y of Aboo Hur ai r ah (Radi ya Al l aahu Anhu) t hat t he Pr ophet (Sal l a Al l aahu
Al ayhi wa sal l am) sai d:
The si gns of t he hypocr i t e ar e t hr ee: Whenever he speaks he l i es, whenever he
pr omi ses he br eaks i t , and i f you t r ust hi m he pr oves t o be di shonest .

Lyi ng l eads t o wi ckedness

It i s r epor t ed i n t he Saheehayn upon t he aut hor i t y of Abdul l aah Ibn Mas ood sai d
t hat t he Pr ophet (Sal l a Al l aahu Al ayhi wa sal l am) sai d:
Tr ut hf ul ness l eads t o r i ght eousness and r i ght eousness l eads t o Par adi se. A man
cont i nues t o t el l t he t r ut h and st r i ves t o be t r ut hf ul unt i l he i s wr i t t en bef or e
Al l aah as a t r ust wor t hy per son. Lyi ng l eads t o wi ckedness and wi ckedness l eads t o
t he Hel l Fi r e. A man keeps t el l i ng l i es unt i l he i s wr i t t en bef or e Al l aah as a l i ar .

The per son whose di sposi t i on i s t o l i e, and i s accust omed t o l yi ng so much so t hat
i t becomes par t of hi s char act er , wi l l be wr i t t en bef or e Al l aah as a l i ar , i n t he
mi dst of t he l i ar s.
Sur el y, nobody woul d be pl eased t hat i t be sai d about t hem t hat t hey ar e a l i ar , i n
t he pr esence of t he peopl e. So i s i t not mor e deser vi ng t hat t hey pr event
t hemsel ves f r om bei ng wr i t t en as a l i ar bef or e Al l aah, and hi s Lor d i s t he One who
cr eat ed and sust ai ned hi m? We ask Al l aah f or wel l bei ng.

Consequent l y, t he peopl e wi l l not bel i eve t he one who l i es. Hi s nar r at i ons wi l l be
di scar ded and he wi l l be l oat hed and det est ed by t he peopl e.

The poet spoke t r ut hf ul l y when he sai d:
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How f oul ar e l i es! The one who l i es i s det est ed
How beaut i f ul i s t r ut hf ul ness, t o Al l aah and t he peopl e.

Lyi ng i s f r om t he maj or si ns

It i s r epor t ed i n al -Bukhaar i upon t he aut hor i t y of Samur ah bi n Jundab.
The Messenger of Al l aah (Sal l a Al l aahu Al ayhi wa sal l am) used t o r egul ar l y say t o
hi s Compani ons: Who amongst you had a dr eam l ast ni ght ? So he woul d nar r at e
t hat whi ch Al l aah had wi l l ed f or hi m t o nar r at e. One day he sai d t o us: Two men
came t o me l ast ni ght , so t hey sent me and sai d, Pr oceed, so I pr oceeded wi t h
t hem.

Ther e comes i n t he hadeet h: As f or t he one you passed, and hi s cheeks, nost r i l s
and eyes wer e bei ng t or n away, f r om f r ont t o back, he was a l i ar . He used t o l eave
hi s house i n t he mor ni ng and t el l a l i e whi ch woul d spr ead al l over t he wor l d.

The gr eat est of al l l i es i s l yi ng upon Al l aah

He, t he Most Hi gh, sai d:

Then, who does more wrong t han one who ut t ers a l i e agai nst Al l h, and deni es
t he t rut h [ t hi s Qur'n, t he Prophet (Muhammad (Sal l al l aahu Al ayhi wa sal l am)),
t he Isl mi c Monot hei sm, t he Resurrect i on and t he reward or puni shment
accordi ng t o good or evi l deeds] when i t comes t o hi m! Is t here not i n Hel l an
abode f or t he di sbel i evers?
Soorah Az-Zumar (39): 32

He, The Most Hi gh sai d:

And who does more wrong t han he who i nvent s a l i e agai nst Al l h or deni es t he
t rut h (Muhammad (sal l al l aahu al ayhi wasal l am) and hi s doct ri ne of Isl mi c
Monot hei sm and t hi s Qur'n), when i t comes t o hi m? Is t here not a dwel l i ng i n
Hel l f or di sbel i evers (i n t he Oneness of Al l h and i n Hi s Messenger Muhammad
(sal l al l aahu al ayhi wasal l am))?
Soorah Al - Ankaboot (29): 18

Di f f er ent f or ms of l yi ng

Pr omi si ng t o gi ve a chi l d somet hi ng and i n (act ual i t y) i t i s a l i e. Li ke when t he
mot her says t o her chi l d: Come her e, I wi l l gi ve you t hi s, and i f he came she
woul d not gi ve hi m anyt hi ng.

Ther e i s a hadeet h r el at i ng t o t hi s r epor t ed by Imaam Ahmad (2/ 452) by way of Ibn
Shi haab upon t he aut hor i t y of Aboo Hur ai r ah t hat t he Pr ophet (Sal l a Al l aahu
Al ayhi wassal l am) sai d:
Whosoever says t o t hei r chi l d: Come, I wi l l gi ve you t hi s, and t hey do not gi ve
t hem anyt hi ng, t hen t hi s i s a l i e.
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In t he chai n of nar r at i on t her e i s a br eakage as Az-Zuhr ee never hear d f r om Aboo
Hur ai r ah, as document ed i n Jaami At -Tahseel . Ref er t o t he book Ahadeet h
Mu'Al l aah pg. 233.

Lyi ng t o chi l dr en opens up a door t o wi despr ead evi l , as t he chi l d wi l l i nher i t t hi s
not i on. He wi l l l i e when he speaks, and he wi l l pr omi se t hen br eak i t .

Even t he peopl e i n Pr e-Isl ami c t i mes used t o det est l yi ng, because i t was vi ewed as
a di spr ai sewor t hy char act er i st i c. Ther e you had Aboo Suf yaan, when he was asked
by Hi r qi l (Her acul i s) about t he vi r t ues of t he Pr ophet (Sal l a Al l aahu Al ayhi wa
sal l am), he r epl i ed t o hi m t r ut hf ul l y and sai d: By Al l aah i f i t wer e not t hat l yi ng
woul d bl emi sh my char act er I woul d have l i ed. i . e. upon t he Pr ophet (Sal l a
Al l aahu Al ayhi wa sal l am), as at t hat t i me Aboo Suf yaan hadn t accept ed Isl aam.

Maki ng t he peopl e l augh by t el l i ng l i es i s anot her f or m of l yi ng

Imam At -Ti r mi dhee r epor t ed (4/ 557: no. 2351) upon t he aut hor i t y of t he
gr andf at her of Bahz Ibn Hakeem t hat t he Pr ophet (Sal l a Al l aahu Al ayhi wa sal l am)
sai d: Woe be t o t he one who l i es t o make t he peopl e l augh. Woe be t o hi m. Woe
be t o hi m.
At -Ti r mi dhee sai d t hi s hadeet h i s sound.
I say (Umm Abdi l l aah): i t i s j ust as he st at ed.
It was al so r epor t ed by Aboo Dawud (2/ 716), Ahmad (5/ 3, 5, 7) and Al Haki m
(1/ 46)

A per son f al sel y cl ai mi ng: I saw such and such i n my dr eam, and t hey
never saw a t hi ng, i s anot her f or m of l yi ng

Imam Al - Bukhaar i (12/ 427) r epor t ed upon t he aut hor i t y of Ibn Abbaas t hat t he
Pr ophet (Sal l a Al l aahu Al ayhi wa sal l am) sai d: He who nar r at es a dr eam, whi ch
he has not seen, wi l l be put t o t he t ask of j oi ni ng a knot t wo bar el y seeds, whi ch
he wi l l not be abl e t o do

Anot her f or m of l yi ng i s when a per son says: I saw such and such, and i n
r eal i t y t hey di dn t see i t

Imam Al -Bukhaar i r epor t s upon t he aut hor i t y of Abdul l aah Ibn Umar t hat t he
Pr ophet (Sal l a Al l aahu Al ayhi wa sal l am) sai d: The wor st of l i es i s t o pr et end t o
have seen somet hi ng whi ch he has not seen.

It i s obl i gat or y upon us al l t o be t r ut hf ul wi t h Al l aah and wi t h t he peopl e. So,
woman t o woman, we shoul d al ways aspi r e t o be t r ut hf ul ; and i n t he f ut ur e
t r ut hf ul ness wi l l become a char act er i st i c of our s, as i s ment i oned i n t he hadeet h
of Ibn Mas ood whi ch was quot ed ear l i er .

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Fur t her mor e, t he t r ut hf ul per son i s t r ust ed by t he peopl e, bot h i n hi s speech and
hi s i nt er act i ons wi t h t hem. Tr ut hf ul ness al so r ai ses t he r ank of t he one who
possesses t hi s qual i t y, wi t h t he cr eat i on and bef or e The Cr eat or .
Al l aah, t he Mi ght y and Maj est i c, sai d:

O you who bel i eve! Fear Al l aah and be amongst t he t rut hf ul .
Soorah al -Ahzaab (33): 70

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