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Change is hard
Have you ever noticed that when you think about changing your life, you feel resistant? Many people say that they not only feel resistant, but they actually do things to keep their lives familiar. They do things like start a diet and then eat a candy bar on the first day, or quit smoking and then sneak a puff. There are some things you can do to make yourself less resistant. Here are 6 effective strategies: 1. ELIMINATE CLUTTER. Clutter can be viewed as a sign of uncertainty. Accumulating stuff might be stopping you from committing to an important thing. If you keep a lot of half-started projects around, it makes it difficult to zero in on the really important things. 2. START SMALL. Thinking of your overall goal can be overwhelming. So manage your resistance by choosing one small part of it and attacking it today. What is one thing, you can do right now that will move you one step closer to your goal. Now do it. Lets say your goal is to lose 20 pounds. That can certainly seem like an impossible thing to accomplish. It will seem more doable if you tell yourself, Im going to lose one to five pounds by (date). 3. DISPROVE YOUR DISEMPOWERING BELIEFS. In Reinventing Your Life, authors Jeffery Young and Janet Klosko suggest that you identify the beliefs that keep you from succeeding. They offer a way to dispute those beliefs by asking, Is there really an evidence today that this belief is true? They suggest making a list of the evidence. Continued pg. 3
Gratitude Corner
Thoughts have the power to effect the way you feel. Notice how you feel when you think about the last time you cried; the last time you smiled. If even the simplest negative thought has the power to provoke a change in your mood, why not use a grateful thought to make a positive change. A grateful thought does not have to be elaborate. It can be as simple as, I dont have a headache today or my socks are keeping my toes warm right now. Or it can be as complex as reflecting on the myriad of events that lead you to your current joyful situation. Large or small, thoughts have power. Take a moment right now and be intentionally grateful for something. Look on the brighter side and change the way you feel by what you choose to think about right now.
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On surface, winter blues and depression can look very similar. But the ways to manage them can be as different as the causes themselves.
influenced by behavior patterns learned in the family and by cognitive distortions. When a person suffers from depression, it can affect every part of his or her life, including ones physical body, ones behavior, thought processes, mood, ability to relate to others, and general lifestyle. Symptoms of Depression People who are diagnosed with clinical depression have a combination of symptoms from the following list: Feelings of hopelessness, even when there is reason to be hopeful Fatigue or low energy Much less interest or pleasure in most regular activities Low self-esteem Feeling worthless Excessive or inappropriate guilt Lessened ability to think or concentrate Indecisiveness
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4. REMIND YOURSELF OF ALL YOUR AVAILABLE OPTIONS. You always have alternatives and the power to choose among them. 5. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR WHAT YOU WANT. Look for signs that you are blaming your situation on others or not admitting past mistakes. Acknowledge them and move on. 6. VISUALIZE THE FUTURE. Author Barbara Sher suggests one way to do this: Write an imaginary press release about yourself. The
Jean Leslie is a licensed Professional Clinical Counselor and supervisor in JEAN LESLIE, MA, LPCC-S Gahanna who specializes in helping individuals reconnect with their inner wisdom. As a trauma therapist, she helps individuals move beyond the painful experiences in their lives to reconnect with themselves and others. As infants we dont have to be taught how to feel or know what we want, we are born knowing it. Over time our interactions with others along with lifes challenges can create disconnections from ourselves, making it more difficult to know what we want, need or even feel. Counseling can assists individuals in rediscovering that inner wisdom in knowing what we already knew when we first got here.
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Goals are a lot like elephants. When we break a goal down into smaller bites it can make it easier to swallow. What do you want to accomplish? After you have defined what it is you want to change consider how would you tell someone else how to achieve it? What would be the step by step instructions to get it done? If you get stuck on a step, break it
down even more. For example, if you want to go back to school but cant decide what to study, call 3 schools in the area and find out what programs they offer. The first step can be about getting information and finding out what is available. Thinking about each step and what you need to accomplish it can help provide you with a clearer focus and more motivation to reach that elusive goal.
Many of us dont struggle coming up with what we want to change, we struggle with accomplishing it. The age old question of How do you eat an elephant? reminds us to take it one bite at a time.