Encouraging Cooperation

Outline created by LF-JOYfilledfamily, based on Laura Berquists talk from 2012 Northern California Catholic Homeschooling Conference

1. Right approach
a. Set short term goals i. I.e., Break down math lesson 1. Two problems at a time 2. Let the child do the work in their heard 3. Set a time limit a. Timer 4. Consistent everyday completions and correction a. Stop what youre doing right at the that time to correct work 5 min ii. I.e.; regular sustained silent reading 1. Directed reading time that is with a book selected by mom a classic a. Early readers 3 x 10 i. Increase 5 min ea. time until you get to a 1 hr period (10-15 min, 2 30 min periods, 1 hr period) ii. Start at below reading level iii. Writing 1. Models imitating is the first mode of learning a. Framework always encourages freedom b. Older children need to verbalize before writing i. 45 min essay read, talk, write for 45 min. iv. Science 1. I want my child to wonder a. What youve read and enjoy Doable, short-term goals, clearly defined, put the parent on the side of the student Show me your mind Helping them achieve the goals we set instead of seeing if they can get there on their own

2. Clear direction
Start school at regular time no matter the state of the home i. I.e.; start with 6:30 mass, home-breakfast-chores, 8:30 start school Weekly list for each child that was created at the end of the previous week Say no to outside things

3. Observing limits
Homeschooling is an important job in the home that requires most of your time Homeschooling is a job!

4. Keeping notes
Keep a list of what works i. Track what memory exercises work for a child and note the details ii. WRITE IT DOWN!

5. Formation vs. Information

Learn how to learn Education is not about moving forward as fast as possible i. I.e.; child who went through 1 year in 1 month. 1. GO DEEPER NOT FURTHER

Encouraging Cooperation
Outline created by LF-JOYfilledfamily, based on Laura Berquists talk from 2012 Northern California Catholic Homeschooling Conference

6. Keeping individuality of the child in mind

I.e.; practice reading in light of what he/she enjoys Adoration Stages of formation i. Primary Stage (K-2nd)

Grammatical Stage (3rd-5th) - memorize iii. Dialectic Stage (6th-9th) - argument iv. Rhetorical Stage (10th-12th)

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7. Training of virtues
Targeting unwanted behavior can be helpful Use their currency i. Money, computer time, reading, etc The mom should be modeling self control and self discipline Ask ourselves, What would I want to see them (my children) doing in this situation?

8. Talk to children
Talk with them instead of at them Forming character what our children to be formed internally Gain their hearts Spend quality time Lay out your heart Listen, establish interest in them, respect, and understanding

9. Respect
According them with dignity that accord anyone Humiliation is not needed Praise It is not appropriate to talk negatively about your child Clear short term goals Cheerfulness Individual interests Praise on a regular basis i. Look for a real occasion to praise 1. I LOVE YOU! ii. Completely a daily examine did I praise, and say I love you

10. Encouragement