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Introduction
Transactional Analysis is a social psychology and a method to improve communication. The theory outlines how we treat ourselves, how we relate and communicate with others, and offers suggestions and interventions which will enable us to change and grow. A model for explaining why and how: - People think like they do - People act like they do - People interact/communicate with others
Ego States
Eric Berne believed that when we interact with other people, our state of mind affects what happens He believed that there were three states of mind in all humans, no matter how old they were, called ego states.
The Nurturing Parent is caring and concerned and often may appear as a mother-figure (though men can play it too). They seek to keep the Child contented, offering a safe haven and unconditional love to calm the Child's troubles.
The Critical Parent, on the other hand, tries to make the Child do as the parent wants them to do, perhaps transferring values or beliefs or helping the Child to understand and live in society. They may also have negative intent, using the Child as a whipping-boy or worse.
The Adult in us is the 'grown up' rational person who talks reasonably and assertively, neither trying to control nor reacting aggressively towards others. The Adult is comfortable with themself and is, for many of us, our 'ideal self'.
The Natural Child is largely un-self-aware and is characterized by the non-speech noises they make (yahoo, whee, etc.). They like playing and are open and vulnerable.
The cutely-named Little Professor is the curious and exploring Child who is always trying out new stuff (often much to their Controlling Parent's annoyance). Together with the Natural Child they make up the Free Child.
The Adaptive Child reacts to the world around them, either changing themselves to fit in or rebelling against the forces they feel.
CHILD
5.
PARENT
TRANSACTIONS
STIMULOUS RESPONSE
Transactions
Berne said that when people are in their different ego states and they interact with other people, four main types of transaction (or interaction) can happen. To make it easy to analyse what is happening, Berne developed a little diagram like this, to represent a person with their three ego states Parent, Adult and Child.
P
Interacts with Person B on right
P
A C
TRANSACTIONS
P A C
COMPLEMENTARY
P A C
Complementary Transactions
This is a complementary transaction because the employee accepts the child ego state assigned to him by the manager and responds in child ego state.
P
A C
MANAGER
Youre three hours late, I want an explanation.
P
A C
EMPLOYEE
Im really sorry, I slept through the alarm, it wont happen again, I promise.
TRANSACTIONS
P A C
CROSSED
P A C
Crossed Transaction
P
A C
MANAGER
Youre three hours late, I want an explanation.
P
A C
EMPLOYEE
Oh, didnt you get held up by that crash on the motorway as well?
This is a crossed transaction because although the manager, parent ego state, attempted to address the employee as a child, the employee refuses this ego state and responds in adult ego state to the managers ego state.
A crossed transaction is any transaction where the person being spoken to refuses the ego state they are assigned by the first speaker.
Angular Transaction
P
A C
SALES PERSON
Thats the latest iPod and theres 50% off at the moment, if you are interested
P A
C
CUSTOMER
Wow, thats amazing Ill take one!
This is an Angular Transaction because the sales person is talking on more than one level, appearing to address the customers Adult ego state but trying to hook the customers Child ego state, because the Child is impulsive and may be seduced by the 50% off the iPod and buy it! This is what happens, and the customer answers in Child ego state and buys the iPod!
TRANSACTIONS
P A C
P A C
DUPLEX
Duplex Transaction
P
Social Level
P A
Psychological Level
A
C
BOY Do you come here often? WOW!! youre
gorgeous
C
GIRL No, not really, do you?
This is a Duplex Transaction because the whole interaction is working on two levels. Both people are pretending to address Adult ego state and be in Adult ego state but they are both in Child ego state and want to address Child ego state but cant because of social norms and manners.
Life Positions
Berne believed that a lot of people get stuck in one ego state more than the other two and that this may be due to early childhood experiences. His theory was that in childhood we have a life position assigned to us, because of the experiences we have from birth onwards. Acc. To Berne there are four possible life positions Im OK, Youre OK Im OK, Youre not OK Im not OK, Youre OK Im not OK, Youre not OK
He says this happens because of the wrong kind of experiences in childhood which result in either very low self esteem or too high self esteem.
Why dont I take you to dinner tonight? Why dont I take you to dinner tonight? Why dont I take you to dinner tonight? Why dont I take you to dinner tonight?