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Listening is hard!
You must choose to
participate in the process
of listening.
Listening…. the psychological process
of receiving, attending to, constructing
meaning from, and responding to
spoken or nonverbal messages
Hearing = physiological
Listening = psychological
We listen at 125-250 wpm, think at
1000-3000 wpm
75% of the time we are distracted,
preoccupied or forgetful
20% of the time, we remember what
we hear
More than 35% of businesses think
listening is a top skill for success
Less than 2% of people have had
formal education with listening
85% of what we know is from listening
45%of our time is spent on listening
A person recalls 50%of what they just heard
….only 20%of it is remembered long term
Mode of Formal Years Percentage of
Communication of Training Time Used
Writing 12 years 9%
need
Listening is the most powerful
form of acknowledgment
Verbal Encouragers
Hmm! ,ok , really?, ha ha
… Allows you to make sure you hear the
words and understand the meaning behind
the words
Goal: go beyond listening to understanding
Definite Intent to Listen
Focus on the Speaker
Verbal and Non-Verbal Encouragers
Feedback Loop to Insure Accuracy
1. Listen
2. Question
3. Reflect-
Paraphrase
4. Acknowledge
To Feelings As Well As Words
◦ Words – Emotions -- Implications
Focus on Speaker
◦ Don’t plan, speak, or get distracted
What Is Speaker Talking About?
◦ Topic? Speaker? Listener? Others?
Look At Speaker
Use Verbal & Non-Verbal Encouragers
3 Purposes
◦ Demonstrates you are listening
◦ Gather information
◦ Clarification
Open-ended
◦ Tell me more?
◦ How did you feel?
◦ Then what happened?
Reflect What Is Said (In your words)
Reflect Feelings
Reframe
the application of
the skills and take
notes
Why is learning about listening important?
Personal development
Physical
#2 For Public Speaking
◦ Helps speaker to understand
audience
◦ Length
◦ Lingo
◦ Examples
◦ Jokes/ Attention getters
◦ Mood
Selective Listening –
◦ Pay attention to interests
◦ Sort info on basis of what already know
-schemata
External Obstacles
◦ Overload, complexity, noise
Internal Obstacles
◦ Preoccupation, prejudgment, lack of effort,
not recognizing diverse listening styles
Non- listening
Active Listening
◦ Making a commitment to listening using
effective listening habits in all kinds of
communication settings.
Tools for active listening
◦ Set goals
◦ Focus effort
◦ Listen for thesis/essence
◦ Watch for non-verbal
◦ Evaluate evidence
Cut them some slack
Support first, critique second
Adjust to style
Be open minded and honest
Focus on what is being said