10 Indian Marriage Customs That Need To Be Banned

10 Indian Marriage Customs That Need To
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INTRODUCTION
Kerala is the motherland of people belonging to varied religions, castes and communities. In fact, the
Hindu Religions belong to different cultures.Kerala weddings are celebrated with the same fervor
everywhere, though their way of conduct is different. Regional marriage ceremonies vary in
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Kanyadaan
A tradition in all Indian weddings without which the wedding is incomplete. The very name Kanyadaan is
made up of 2 words: Kanya and Daan. While if taken literally, it means giving the daughter away, according
to old Hindu traditions, it means the "gift of virginity" or "gifting a maiden". Yeah, well. It is an age-old
tradition and there are many reasons as to why it was brought into existence. One of the most popular ones is
that the scriptures stipulated that the eldest son or the 'son' of the family was supposed to light the funeral
pyre of his parents to absolve them of sins and pass on happily into the afterlife. The patriarchal Hindu
society began to thus revere boys and condemn daughters. To salvage the situation, Hindu priests then
created the concept of Kanyadaan wherein they said that giving the daughter away was one of the highest
honours as it too absolves the parents of sin. After the ritual, the "duty" of the daughter is passed on from the
parents to the groom and she is now his liability. Also, it is always a 'kanya' daan and not a 'stree' daan which
implied that only virgins were allowed to have the honour of absolving the sins of their parents
Kashiyatra
A popular tradition in South India, Kashi Yatra is today treated as more of a fun event. And yet, it
is an inseparable part of Tamil weddings. According to the ritual, the groom gets up from the
wedding and refuses to marry the bride, saying he wants to give up worldly pleasures and
complete his religious studies. He carries an umbrella, a walking stick and a towel containing
lentils (dal) and rice. As he commences this mock pilgrimage, the bride's father stops him and
pleads with them. He then tells the groom the benefits of married life versus ascetic life. He
promises his daughter to him and that she will aid him through the ups and downs of life. The
groom then returns to the wedding and the wedding continues.
Feet Washing
This is a very common tradition across different cultures in India. While some have the tradition
where the bride's parents wash the groom's feet, others make the bride herself wash his feet. While in
earlier days, the tradition made some sense as grooms generally walked barefoot from one village to
another for the wedding, in modern days with cars replacing feet and even horses, this tradition is
outdated. In Assamese tradition, it is the bride's sister who washes the groom's feet. It only seems
insulting to get two adults, as old as the groom's own parents and deserving the same amount of
respect, to wash the feet of the groom. Neither is the groom forced to walk barefoot anymore nor
does he have to travel long distances. Offering water or refreshing beverages makes sense but making
the parents wash his feet is just plain humiliating.
Haldi for the bride
The tradition of haldi is a beautiful one where a paste of turmeric and other spices is applied on the
bodies of the bride and the groom by relatives and friends to cleanse their skin and help them grow. The
entire tradition is fun and a time of great bonding for the bride with her family. It also cherishes some of
her last moments with her family as an unmarried woman. However, in certain regions, the bridal haldi
ceremony can get weird. In Bengali tradition for the pre-wedding haldi, the turmeric paste carried by the
groom's family for the bride is the same paste used by the groom or a paste that has touched the groom's
body. Leaving the sexist aspect aside, we really wonder how hygienic this tradition is. While it is not
practised in many urban areas or among literate people (the groom just touches the haldi with his hand
before it is sent to the bride), the custom is followed in rural areas.
In some Bengali traditions, the bride is made to sit under the elbow of the groom and water is then
passed from his elbow on to her. While this tradition is not exactly the haldi tradition and happens after
the wedding, turmeric paste is often applied to both to ward off the evil eye.
Name change - first name
This is a tradition peculiar to North India and parts of the West where the bride changes her first
name as well as her last name post marriage. The new first name is calculated on her and her
husband's combined astrological chart and the last name is the same as her husband's last name. Also,
the bride alters her middle name from that of her father's name to her husband's name. The practice is
common not just in rural areas but even in urban areas. While a lot of women now retain their last
names and add their husband's surname too, the tradition of making the bride change her first name is
wrong. A name is quite a person's identity and making them change it is akin to stripping the
complete identity away
Marrying a peepul tree/dog.
In a crazy Indian wedding custom, if the bride is Manglik, she is made to first marry a Peepal tree
or a dog. It is believed that marrying a Manglik woman results in the early death of the husband.
Hence, the woman is first married to a tree or an animal to ward off the evil effects of the curse
on her human husband. The husband has no such traditions to fulfill if he is Manglik. A simple
religious ceremony resolves the issue.
Most Indians believe in astrology and all Hindu rituals are based on astrological charts. Even the
wedding is held on an auspicious day according to the positions of the stars. However, while it is
acceptable to believe in parts of astrology, such traditions are plain "stupidstition" and blind
faith. It insults the woman and are demeaning to say the least.
Pot Balancing
In a strange custom in Bihar, once the bride enters the groom's house, the mother-in-law places a
pot on her head. She then continues to touch the feet of the elders and do other chores with the
pot on. After every 5 minutes, another pot is added to her head. The bride must not let the pots
fall off and must carry on with the rituals with all the pots perfectly balanced. This ritual is
supposed to help the bride achieve the perfect balance and harmony between her duties and her
family members as a wife.
While played in fun in recent years, during the earlier days, if the bride couldn't balance the pots,
she faced much ridicule and wrath from her in-laws. All this, just after she sets foot in the house!
Mother banned from the
wedding.
IAs strange as it sounds, in Bengali weddings, the bride's mother is not allowed to see the
wedding. It is believed that the mother witnessing the wedding will bring harm on her daughter.
Or the mother possesses the evil eye to harm her daughter's marriage. We have nothing to say on
just how wrong and terrible this tradition seems!
Food only for the males
In Rabha weddings in Assam, the bride is expected to cook a complete luncheon on her first day.
While in most other religions, the bride is expected to only cook sweets on the first day and then
rest till her 'mehendi' wears off, this tribe makes the bride work right from day one. While
cooking a meal is considered one of the duties of a new bride and is not surprising, what is is the
fact that the meal cannot be eaten by all family members. The meal cooked by the bride is only
for the male members of the family. For the womenfolk, food is prepared separately by the cooks
or the helpers in the house.
A pretty sexist tradition where the bride herself is not allowed to sample the feast she is expected
to cook on day one of entering the house!
Mangalsutra and bangles
While western countries have the wedding band to signify marriage, in India the bride is
expected to wear a Mangalsutra (in Western and Northern regions) or Thaali (in South India) post
marriage. In most traditions, the brides are expected to wear bangles as a sign of marriage. Some
traditions also have the bride sporting toe-rings. Each of these ornaments are to be worn and
never removed. However, the groom is not made to sport any rings or bracelets or chains. He
continues life as usual.
The wearing of ornaments is not considered a burden by most women but the unfairness in
making a woman sport these as signs of her marriage, unlike men, is galling.
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