THE 7 HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE

Four Dimensions of Human Nature

Body, Mind, Heart, Spirit
Body:
Cultural tendency: maintain life style; treat health problems with surgery and medication . Principle: prevent diseases and problems by aligning lifestyle to be in harmony with established, universally accepted principles of health.

Mind:
Culture: watch TV, entertain me. Principle: read broadly and deeply, continuous education

Heart:
Culture: use relationships with others to forward your personal selfish interests. Principle : Deep respectful listening and serving others brings greatest fulfillment and joy.

Spirit:
culture: succumb to growing secularism and cynicism Principle: recognize that the source of our basic need for meaning and of the positive things we seek in life is principles-which natural laws I personally believe have their source in God.

Personality and Character Ethics

Character ethics Integrity, humility, fidelity, temperance, courage, justice, patience, industry, simplicity, modesty. Personality ethics Communication skills, power strategies, influence techniques, positive attitudes

From Thought To Destiny

Watch your thoughts, because your Thoughts become words Words Actions Actions Habits Habits Character Character Destiny
(Frank Odtlaw)

HABIT
Intersection of knowledge, skill, and desire Knowledge what to do and why Skill - how to do Desire - want to do In order to make something habit in our lives, we have to have all three. Effective habits are internalized principles and patterns of behavior.

Perceptions
Mental maps The way the things are - the realities The way things should be - the values

Paradigm Shift
Paradigm: Example, pattern, perception, theory, assumption, model, frame of reference. Paradigm Shift: Experiment

The Seven Habits

Be Proactive Begin with the End in Mind Put First Things First Think Win / Win
Seek First to Understand Then to be Understood

Synergize Sharpen the Saw

Habit-1: Be Proactive
Do not wait for things to happen, make them happen. You are responsible for your actions and reactions. It is not the situation but the response to the situation which distinguishes from proactively to reactivity.

Proactive vs. Reactive

Reactive language
- There is nothing I can do. - That is just the way I am, I cant change. - I cant. - I must.

Proactive language
Lets look at alternatives. I can choose a different approach. I choose. I prefer.

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The difference in effective between those who take initiatives and those who do not is not 25 50 percent, says Covey, but a 5000- plus% difference, particularly if they are smart, aware and sensitive to others. Circle of concern Circle of influence

Habit - 2 Begin with end in mind

To succeed, Covey suggests visualization You are the programmer and write the program. What is my personal and professional vision.

Habit 3: Put first things first

Organize & execute around priorities

Habit 4: Think win / win

Long term relationship can only last if they are mutually beneficial.

Habit 5: Seek first to understand, then to be understood

In empathetic listening, you listen with your ears, but you also, and more empathetically listen with your eyes and with your heart. You listen for feelings, for meaning, you listen.

Habit 6: Synergise
Value the differences, is the essence of synergy. The mental, the emotional, the psychological differences between people.

Habit 7: Sharpen the saw

Four dimensions of personal renewal:
Physical - exercise & stress management Mental - reading, visualizing, planning Social / emotional - integrating with others to build over own sense of well-being Spiritual - religion study & meditation.